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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 7:47am On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
After reading all this, you still want clarification from me?
Lol cheesy
This woman...

So now you agree you have been having so many issues with your husband.
Yes, that's the clarification I wanted.

Apparently, you have a tendency to want to correct and teach him which he does not like, and if you're very sure this is the only reason the issues started, then I wonder why you haven't stopped doing what he does not like.
Unless there are still things you haven't shared yet.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Graxie(f): 8:58am On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
After reading all this, you still want clarification from me?
please ignore that guy, do yourself a favor and do that. He has a female partner here, all they do is ridicule women and make light of their pain. You just ignore them.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by bukatyne(f): 12:12pm On Dec 16, 2019
crackhaus:

My assumption is if she had kept up the question & answer session with me, she will begin revealing what she has actually been saying/doing to make the husband start seeing her as the enemy within grin

Hahahaha.

Lay all cards on the table and we know where to chook mouth.
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by ebyjoyken(f): 2:26pm On Dec 16, 2019
Graxie:
please ignore that guy, do yourself a favor and do that. He has a female partner here, all they do is ridicule women and make light of their pain. You just ignore them.
Thank you.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 5:18pm On Dec 16, 2019
bukatyne:


Hahahaha.

Lay all cards on the table and we know where to chook mouth.
Exactly
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by crackhaus: 5:22pm On Dec 16, 2019
Graxie:
please ignore that guy, do yourself a favor and do that. He has a female partner here, all they do is ridicule women and make light of their pain. You just ignore them.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Isoduwa(m): 10:07pm On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
i am not i swear. I don't even have a say. I wish he is on this forum, so that you can ask him.


Send me he phone number let me call and ask him about your personal problem
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by futurism: 10:08pm On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

Lol... The kind of people that get married these days eh.
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by dairykidd(m): 10:21pm On Dec 16, 2019
The worse he can do is poison their minds now but when they grow older everything will begin to add up... keep being who u are. Kids are very sensitive toe their environment and happenings around them. What u think they don't see now is in their memory bank.. Don't get to his level.
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by OlujobaSamuel: 10:22pm On Dec 16, 2019
I know you are lying but kontinu...
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by tchidi066(f): 10:24pm On Dec 16, 2019
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by philip0906(m): 10:26pm On Dec 16, 2019
crackhaus:
First of all, not calling your family to share his condolences is very odd if everything was alright between himself and your family, very odd.

Does this mean he did not attend the burial of your late father as well?

You also stated that both of you have never had any serious issues. Well, this is a misleading claim to make considering that something serious definitely changed/happened recently to make him start threatening to get the children to challenge & be rude to you - this is not a good thing also, but context is important.

My advise is that you keep your story straight and share exactly what you know is going on.
I understand why you would feel the need to construct the story in such a way as to make yourself a victimized and guiltless bystander in the matter, but unless your goal is to get your husband bashed by the usual suspects, then I don't see what your aim here is.
Very intelligent post!!

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by greggng: 10:29pm On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

The truth is that you are not in control of your kids...children tend to support their mum more than their dad cos mum is always there for them. Check yourself properly
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by sleekone: 10:29pm On Dec 16, 2019
Question. Who has more responsibility for the children? If it's you then don't worry about it. Children tend to listen more to the person they spend more time with.
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Nobody: 10:30pm On Dec 16, 2019
Judging with your replies on this thread, I can sense that you are humble and calm. Kids are very sensitive and the best stage to win their hearts is the childhood stage.

For your husband to threaten you with that statement, it shows that he is confident and can do it. You don’t know what happens to the kids when you are not around.

This matter is beyond nairaland, I will advise you to train your children in the ways of the lord. Let them go to sunday school or ilekeu, these church/mosque section have a way of teaching children morals and instilling the fear of God into them.

If you can find a way to teach them in the way of thy lord (Do not force them) Even If the husband wants to turn them against you, the word of God will lead them right.

Plus you need to work on your husband cos I don’t understand why a man’s heart will be as hard as a stone to the extent that he finds it hard to forgive.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by DMerciful(m): 10:32pm On Dec 16, 2019
You did nothing, your husband just said it from nowhere? Women always tell stories to suit their narrative. You always respect your husband,
your parents, and yet he just preemptively say if you do something you've not done, this will be his reaction? Fear God o

Modified
You said he wanted you to stay in the village with his mum and sisters? Was it to permanently stay there or for a why until he settle? Was he traveling for work? Why did he ask you to stay in the village?
How long did you guys date?
ebyjoyken:
Hi! Good morning all.

I have been married for 10 years, and I have never had any serious issues with my husband, I have never treated his mother badly. I love his mum just like i love mine. I lost my dad last year and my husband never showed any concern towards my family, i didn't call any of my siblings or my mum till date.

But recently each time we are having a discussion he keeps saying that anytime I challenge him that he will ask my children to insult me. This breaks my heart because i was never rude to my parents as child even as an adult. I have never spoken ill of my husband before my kids, so i don't understand why he keeps saying that to me. My children mean alot to me, i have invested so much in my kids and they are lovely children. I am scared that he might start poisoning their minds towards me.

Matured advice needed please.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Lasky2000: 10:33pm On Dec 16, 2019
I think you need to find out why his behaving this way,firstly why his not concern about your family and why he could ever think of using your kids against you.His very possible one of your secret or a word u said behind him has bin revelead to him

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by GidiWoodsMan(m): 10:36pm On Dec 16, 2019
healthserve:
What is marriage becoming thesedays. Every day another sad marriage tale. We need to start looking at the bigger picture if a marriage doesn't work. It's how it is. What's the point staying under the same roof with someone we don't love. A marriage where all the loving and respect has flown out the window will also produce issues like this one. But then, there's always two sides to every tale and many times the tale bearer presents the side of the story that absolves them of any kind of wrong doing

People rush into marriages with near total strangers....because they feel time is running out on them, because the other party has money, etc.

Some ladies go so far as using juju to snare hapless men into marriage & of course in such cases the day juju expires is the day wahala starts. This is a fùcked-up society with fùcked-up values

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by luminouz(m): 10:38pm On Dec 16, 2019
Seems its women day today.

All marriages are under threat.

Will I marry like this? undecided


See how grown men and women act so goddamn immature. undecided
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by iammiracle1(f): 10:38pm On Dec 16, 2019
ebyjoyken:
Thank you ma. I have been loyal and respectful to him. He has been abusing me emotionally but i refused to break. But he found my weekness and that's my children. Every little thing he will threaten me that he will take my kids away from me. I have been good with his siblings and mum. If he sees my children around me, he gets angry and ask them to leave my side. It is beginning to really bother me. If he does something wrong and i correct him or tell him to treat people with love, he becomes very angry and starts threatening me with my kids . Telling me that i will soon run mad. So many things but i can't bear my heart on a public forum.

Madam learn to tune out, don't let his words break you instead channel your prayers to God to help protect your children's heart, a husband like urs can even go diabolical to poison their minds when grown, learn a skill and be independent, may God help you
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by luminouz(m): 10:39pm On Dec 16, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



Where does it say she doesnt respect him? Didn't you see where she said anytime she challenges the horseband he'll tell the kids to insult her? Does your definition of challenge means being rude? Did you even read to understand or you read to blurt out whatever rubbish your little brain told you to type

Jesu!


Take it easy naaaaaaa.....
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Onyeomaigbo(m): 10:40pm On Dec 16, 2019
Do you have or make out time for your kids? Are you a good mother? Ask yourself these questions
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Drakkernoir: 10:40pm On Dec 16, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



I have noticed one trend with so called males here, they usually type @emboldened when it is a female stating her issues, but when it's a male, their functioning brain goes on hibernation, SMH!!

If you want to hear the other side of the story, kindly get in touch with the horseband, and bring him here to say his version, in the meantime, this is all we have, if you are not satisfied with her version, don't even try to comment, and the next time you see a female thread stating her sad family issues, kindly jump and pass.

See, feminists minded people...what he said is totally right...there have been soo many posts like this today and it's all one sided.... There are always two sides to a story darling....always learn to read BTW the lines n don't jump to conclusions...in every relationship, there are always grey areas...the hubby may have his own reasons for saying such...we don't live with them....

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by iammiracle1(f): 10:40pm On Dec 16, 2019
DMerciful:
You did nothing, your husband just said it from nowhere? Women always tell stories to suit their narrative. You always respect your husband,
your parents, and yet he just preemptively say if you do something you've not do this will be his reaction? Fear God o

Bro trust me there are terribly wicked men in this world, if not that I have seen such men b4 I won't believe. I advice men to be good o, cos God never sleeps

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by luminouz(m): 10:41pm On Dec 16, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



You are the bigger joke dude.


You didn't even get the real joke!!!


He meant the husband can never succeed in turning her kids against her.

Your blood is hot today,wetin happen na?

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by luminouz(m): 10:43pm On Dec 16, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
You need to rephrase the emboldened to 'whenever you guys have disagreements which subsequent leads to a quarrel'.

Firstly, your marriage has lasted a decade so you should know your husband more than anyone. If you really need a solution, then you should look inward to see if there are things you do or say to him that he finds disrespecting. There lies one of your solutions.

Secondly, you're obviously bitter your husband didn't call your family when you lost your dad. Have you found out from him why he didn't? Did your family offend him in any way? And even if he was offended, nothing justifies not sharing his condolence at that time. Regardless, you have to forgive him in order to have a peaceful marriage since he's your husband.

Lastly, you don't have to be scared if you've been in your best behavior or get angry when it's demanded. Your kids are actually seeing everything and know quite a lot if you're thinking they don't. When your husband is in his best mood, you should have a talk with him to resolve these underlying issues before they'll escalate to something irreconcilable.

Naso...
Oya take one coldstone ice cream to cool off. kiss
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by vickydankal(f): 10:43pm On Dec 16, 2019
xoftcore:
Then start repecting him
Because you are rude

I believe you. I think the husband is not honoured adequately. It is like a tank. Not just respect but honour. Make him your king. In my village the best way to control a man (Husband) is to allow him to be the man, honour him, respect, and submit to him totally. Then he will unconsciously hand over the kingdom to you. Check between Vasti and Queen Esther in the bible. Honour was what dethroned one and enthroned the other. Have ever heard 'His wife is controlling him' this is one of the keys to do that.

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Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by D1zion: 10:43pm On Dec 16, 2019
If he make them disrespect you they'll not spear him too when the time comes.its going to be law of karma. I urged you to still draw them closer to you,love them more than you do before & always seat them down yo peptalk them & don't even make them to hate him but love him the instead.God will help you out if this delima you're going through now.
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Philpham: 10:46pm On Dec 16, 2019
Men will always be the devil in marriages, especially black men, they are cursed
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Goldenheart(m): 10:46pm On Dec 16, 2019
Things are getting out of hands
Re: My Husband Said He Will Raise My Kids To Challenge Me And Be Rude To Me. by Philpham: 10:46pm On Dec 16, 2019
vickydankal:


I believe you. I think the husband is not honoured adequately. It is like a tank. Not just respect but honour. Make him your king. In my village the best way to control a man (Husband) is to allow him to be the man, honour him, respect, and submit to him totally. Then he will unconsciously hand over the kingdom to you. Check between Vasti and Queen Esther in the bible. Honour was what dethroned one and enthroned the other. Have ever heard 'His wife is controlling him' this is one of the keys to do that.
Are u intelligent at all. Listen to the trash u r spewing

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