saasala:


If their character and degree of love for you is equal, then go for the 24-26 years old lady providing she has a skill or anything that can get her an income later. The 20 year old lady will give you heart attack

Everyone keeps on saying this but I'm yet to see her manifest any sign.

The older one has this fantasy life she craves for away from reality and is way too experienced in dating even more than me.

Guess I have to leave it to VAR to decide.

67

Might not even marry,I just want kids

Well I have bought my suit.

I have my groomsmen on alert.

Pastor is on standby.

I have paid for the location

Family members are ready to go.

All I need now is to find a woman in a wedding dress.

Riele:


They won't see this one to tag him bitter .

But if it's a lady , you'll see them crawling out of their hole to tag her bitter feminist .

Dont mind nairaland men.

E dey their body.

Riele:


Who is this one ?

You little cat!!
How dare you talk to daddy like that?

No lunch money for you tomorrow

Till now

luminouz:

You little cat!! How dare you talk to daddy like that?
No lunch money for you tomorrow

Lol .
Who needs lunch money ?

bigpriik:
I don't know about you but from the llol of things and predictions I will tie the knot at age 32.it doesn't even matter if I made money now am 27 I prefer that age.

What about you at what age will you settle down.

35 years cool

Riele:


Lol .

Who needs lunch money ?

You!!!

Or because you're on NL,you feel you are all grown up and independent now?

Be a good geh,get me my dinner and maybe,just maybe I will add 100 naira to ur lunch money tomorrow.

Saintly01:

We stay in different cities, I have started to bother myself less with random suspicion that my mind creates. Sometimes ladies start to act differently when they become undergraduates, I can not totally vouch for her Loyalty.

I understand. The distance may give room for doubt but if your lady has given u her word, then you should take it wholeheartedly.

I believe these days, people don't say what they don't mean, the days of pretense have long gone.

CsRockefeller:


Everyone keeps on saying this but I'm yet to see her manifest any sign.

The older one has this fantasy life she craves for away from reality and is way too experienced in dating even more than me.

Guess I have to leave it to VAR to decide.

Any lady between 20 and 25 scares the hell out of me, they are at a point in their lives when they think life is all about play, social media, galavanting, wearing sneakers, making countless friends and alot of other crazy things. These class of ladies are a full time job. I don't need VAR to tell me who they are.

CsRockefeller:


Everyone keeps on saying this but I'm yet to see her manifest any sign.

The older one has this fantasy life she craves for away from reality and is way too experienced in dating even more than me.

Guess I have to leave it to VAR to decide.

Oya uncle come and explain this fantasy life here. Ayam interested in this discussion........

Never 😂

CsRockefeller:


Everyone keeps on saying this but I'm yet to see her manifest any sign.

The older one has this fantasy life she craves for away from reality and is way too experienced in dating even more than me.

Guess I have to leave it to VAR to decide.

I will tell you something from personal experience.

The 20 year old will never show a sign. She will play her game so perfectly that you will never suspect anything. Afterall you are not in school with her.

Mine was 20 too and didn't suspect anything until I projected her WhatsApp onto my computer via WhatsApp web. What I saw, my mouth cannot say it.

Your twnety year old shinny, beautiful young lass with standing breasts and fresh skin wants to be free, she wants to explore and enjoy life, the university life, the school life, the young girl life. While exploring, she will be fvcked and misbehave. It is normal, dont blame her.

If the 26 year old is living a life far away from reality at her age then she is immature and not fit for marriage. Life should be approached with logic. You must NEVER live in the fantasy world. This will make her frustrate your life.

My verdict: Dont marry any of them. You can continue to yansh them till things fade off if you find it difficult to let go abruptly.

ValCon888:
Marriage is not compulsory.
There's nothing better than waking up in the morning knowing you have all the house to yourself. Watch your movies and football, no woman dragging remote with you to watch BBN or Telemundo.
Go out and come back whenever you want and with whoever you want.

Marriage is a scam created by women to put real men in chains.

The question is for How long will it continue.
You can actually get married and have an understanding of what you want between you two or find a middle ground on how things can work.

Saintly01:


Any lady between 20 and 25 scares the hell out of me, they are at a point in their lives when they think life is all about play, social media, galavanting, wearing sneakers, making countless friends and alot of other crazy things. These class of ladies are a full time job. I don't need VAR to tell me who they are.

Not all Bro, not all.

I'm talking about decent ladies here, not all these marlians.

CsRockefeller:


I understand. The distance may give room for doubt but if your lady has given u her word, then you should take it wholeheartedly.

I believe these days, people don't say what they don't mean, the days of pretense have long gone.

You are right, this makes more sense. Thanks.

healthserve:
Yawns. How much you get wey dem wan scam for marriage. Muron. No go find money to raise family dey there dey dance naked dey yarn okpata. Yeye boy

how sad it is that you are only focusing on money money money, thats the only thing you are bursting a vein about, as if it has anything to do with marriage. i guess in your world you need money to get married, not in mine... and if you actually read anything i wrote on this thread, you would have understood that not being married does NOT mean i dont have a family, duh!

bakescos01:
Common sense will not kill you finish guy. I also do feel this marriage thing is over hype. We all should be able to follow and choose the kind of life that makes us happy. Happiness .is KEY. A happy man is a productive man. A productive man ends up being a successful man. Gbam

thats exactly the issue here,... many people see marriage as a "do or die" issue (to each their own) and are pissed off if someone does not abide by their way of life. see how my views on the subject is making some people lose their mind, as if i am dating their sister, lol!

as you rightly said, happiness is the key and i certainly dont believe that i need a piece of paper to prove to anyone that i love them...far from it. you should always do what YOU feel is right by you, and nobody else. in this world we live today, its easier to be pretending to be someone else than to be yourself.... but you can never lie to the person you see in the mirror every morning.

saasala:


I will tell you something from personal experience.

The 20 year old will never show a sign. She will play her game so perfectly that you will never suspect anything. Afterall you are not in school with her.

Mine was 20 too and didn't suspect anything until I projected her WhatsApp onto my computer via WhatsApp web. What I saw, my mouth cannot say it.

Your twnety year old shinny, beautiful young lass with standing breasts and fresh skin wants to be free, she wants to explore and enjoy life, the university life, the school life, the young girl life. While exploring, she will be fvcked and misbehave. It is normal, dont blame her.

If the 26 year old is living a life far away from reality at her age then she is immature and not fit for marriage. Life should be approached with logic. You must NEVER live in the fantasy world. This will make her frustrate your life.

My verdict: Dont marry any of them. You can continue to yansh them till things fade off if you find it difficult to let go abruptly.

Men!! You have just casted serious doubts in my mind on the young lady so much that I feel like having a discussion with her tomorrow.

By the way, I'm not ynashing anyone. Maybe, I will just cease fire for now.

Can't afford to make a mistake, I mean, I should be married by next year.

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

I understand this....my girlfriend currently is a Pastor’s daughter we both love each other but I keep letting her know her religion is scam....she treats it as secondary.
The main ish is that we love each other and understand and respect boundaries.
We also have disagreements about white wedding, I intend to do only a court wedding and traditional marriage not interest in a White man’s traditional marriage (White/church wedding) while I have my own traditions.

Though she dreams of changing me one day. Lmao.

MrBrownJay1:


how sad it is that you are only focusing on money money money, thats the only thing you are bursting a vein about, as if it has anything to do with marriage. i guess in your world you need money to get married, not in mine... and if you actually read anything i wrote on this thread, you would have understood that not being married does NOT mean i dont have a family, duh!



thats exactly the issue here,... many people see marriage as a "do or die" issue (to each their own) and are pissed off if someone does not abide by their way of life. see how my views on the subject is making some people lose their mind, as if i am dating their sister, lol!

as you rightly said, happiness is the key and i certainly dont believe that i need a piece of paper to prove to anyone that i love them...far from it. you should always do what YOU feel is right by you, and nobody else. in this world we live today, its easier to be pretending to be someone else than to be yourself.... but you can never lie to the person you see in the mirror every morning.

Your sick view of life turned the focus on money not me. When you kept shouting marriage is a scam is a scam. So I asked simple, how much you get wey dem want scam you. Cause I know say that Argentina abi na Brazil you dey infact the entire South America get massive unemployment issues. So how much you get. Leave tori talk d talk yeye boy

Victorex001:


I understand this....my girlfriend currently is a Pastor’s daughter we both love each other but I keep letting her know her religion is scam....she treats it as secondary.
The main ish is that we love each other and understand and respect boundaries.
We also have disagreements about white wedding, I intend to do only a court wedding and traditional marriage not interest in a White man’s traditional marriage.

Though she dreams of changing me one day. Lmao.

I dont even mind doing a white wedding if it makes my woman happy.

You can just allow her the white wedding if it makes her happy. It doesnt make you tied to their religion. Sometimes you just have to compromise when you love someone

saasala:


I dont even mind doing a white wedding if it makes my woman happy.

You can just allow her the white wedding if it makes her happy. It doesnt make you tied to their religion. Sometimes you just have to compromise when you love someone

Trueee. I don’t mind doing the white wedding to make her happy, but I don’t see myself doing the cult following in the name of Christianity ever again.

We also disagree about the number of kids, she wants 4kids ��, while I want just 2 biological kids and 1 adopted kid for me.

CsRockefeller:


Men!! You have just casted serious doubts in my mind on the young lady so much that I feel like having a discussion with her tomorrow.

By the way, I'm not ynashing anyone. Maybe, I will just cease fire for now.

Can't afford to make a mistake, I mean, I should be married by next year.

She will promise heaven and earth she wont misbehave. Las las she go misbehave. There is 99% chance she will.

Okay, even if the 1% chance allows her not to misbehave, she still isnt ideal for you. She is freaking 20 year old. She will spend 4 years in school, serve for one year and wait like one more year to find a job bla bla bla. She wont be ready for marriage in like 5 years. Do you think your distant relationship of 5 years with her will stand the test of time?

healthserve:
Your sick view of life turned the focus on money not me. When you kept shouting marriage is a scam is a scam. So I asked simple, how much you get wey dem want scam you. Cause I know say that Argentina abi na Brazil you dey infact the entire South America get massive unemployment issues. So how much you get. Leave tori talk d talk yeye boy

you have such a simple mindset that you believe that me saying that "marriage is a scam" means that this has anything to do with money.... lol!

here let me post again what i wrote, and make sure you educate yourself on the subject so you dont mistakenly rant about money (as if it was relevant to this issue):

MrBrownJay1:
imagine a couple that met one another and did all these fun things together, cared for one another and cherish one another, had interest for each other and wanted to always get involved in doing things together.... til they fell in love and decided to get married... then they say "i do" and suddenly everything changes.... even 419 cant compare with such a scam. lol!

MrBrownJay1:
if this woman is indeed good, and we have a great r/ship. why would you think that marriage is gonna improve anything?! in the contrary, marriage would RUIN more than it would improve. both of you need to be on the edge and understand that you need to woo, care, love and cherish one another for the rest of your natural life.... aka water that flower. sadly, marriage tend to make people become emotionally LAZY, sexually REDUNDANT... aka disregard that flower because you now own it.

there is only ONE way to keep a flame alive, and thats to never marry that person. marriage is like chains that would have people who dont love/like you (any longer) stay with your sorry aaass because of that bondage called marriage. if love fades away then you guys need to part ways....sadly married people would stay together because of that piece of paper. i certainly do NOT want anyone to stay with me out of pity (aka marriage) as i certainly wouldnt.

if you still believe that any of the above i wrote has anything to do with money, then i cant help you bro.

I prefer not to say. Time will take care of itself.

chukzyfcbb:
I want Kids, but I don't want to get married.
There is no other benefit i can get from marriage besides Kids.

Sex, Food, Domestic chores I can always source for with money.

All those talk about Mental Support and all that trash , I don't need from a woman coz I am my own motivator exactly my reasons!

I can't deal with these Female Drama, nags and all, I want my sanity in check...

The problem is how to get my family people to accept this reality. Besides Kids, I don't see anything to gain...

exactly my reasons....I concur sir!

Puregold3:

I wish you best of lucks.
Can I ask what delayed you precisely ?

Money
Though I have built house
Just need money to live comfortable life

Victorex001:


Trueee. I don’t mind doing the white wedding to make her happy, but I don’t see myself doing the cult following in the name of Christianity ever again.

We also disagree about the number of kids, she wants 4kids ��, while I want just 2 biological kids and 1 adopted kid for me.

but I don’t see myself doing the cult following in the name of Christianity ever again.

It doesn't matter. It is a one day thing. There will never be another one. She is a pastor's daughter and the wishes of her parents is that they do a white wedding for their sweet daughter. It is you against so many people. It doesnt cost you anything. That wedding day could be the last day you will set your feet in a church.

We also disagree about the number of kids, she wants 4kids ��, while I want just 2 biological kids and 1 adopted kid for me.

Bla bla bla bla. These are just normal disagreements between intending couples na. You two will come to a compromise las las.

You have no problems bro. Goan marry.

MrBrownJay1:


if this woman is indeed good, and we have a great r/ship. why would you think that marriage is gonna improve anything?! in the contrary, marriage would RUIN more than it would improve. both of you need to be on the edge and understand that you need to woo, care, love and cherish one another for the rest of your natural life.... aka water that flower. sadly, marriage tend to make people become emotionally LAZY, sexually REDUNDANT... aka disregard that flower because you now own it.

there is only ONE way to keep a flame alive, and thats to never marry that person. marriage is like chains that would have people who dont love/like you (any longer) stay with your sorry aaass because of that bondage called marriage. if love fades away then you guys need to part ways....sadly married people would stay together because of that piece of paper. i certainly do NOT want anyone to stay with me out of pity (aka marriage) as i certainly wouldnt.

Na wa o.
Wahala dey.


Ma 2cents, you should probably lean towards open marriage... if all the above listed are your fears.

Darkseid:
Probably before I'm 30, I don't want my child's friend calling me his grandpa. I've set the date already, wetin remain na to find good wife.

What if u find am reach 40 years You no still see am?