Why is that anti marriage advise plenty for here? It is the same people that say do not marry dey marry pass and dey marry early. Marry a good spouse and let God be in your marriage. If you marry the right person, then you are good . Before you marry, court and the study the person well. Make sure the person understand you very well and you understand the person very well. Do not listen the advise of those talking marriage is not for happiness. Have you seen a happy married couple who are just entering 25 years anniversary or 30 years anniversary? Life is stressful and two are better than one if you marry the right person. You do not want to be that 50 year bachelor or 45 year splinter still looking for love, it is not funny at all. Find someone who loves , understand you and can support you through good and difficult times.Then you will be okay

MrBrownJay1:


heaven and hell is a fantasy that NOBODY can confirm, while marriage and its consequences are VERY real...



you mean my kids are missing because i am not married to their mother?! HOW EXACTLY?!!?!?!?!?
you mean babymamas are missing because i am not married to them?! HOW EXACTLY?!!?!?!?!?

who else should a man think of, if not himself 1st and foremost... if i aint happy, there is NO WAY i can make any woman happy, let alone my kids.

Guy ! I go slap you oooo
Stop the fantasies and face reality.
You think you're brave but in the actual sense you're a coward and a lazy dude who don't want to be bug by responsibilities.
The more you get older, the more you loose your friends. Also the more you get older the less you can make new friends. Your wife and children are your number one friends for life.
Mr Guy, I bet you're yet to meet a good girl.
Lower your class, your taste and pick a nice girl for yourself then work the journey of happiness together.
Marriage is very interesting and sweet if you choose the right partner. Marry a pretty girl cos the more you see your cute looking children, the more you will love their mom.
Lastly money matters a lot in marriage so stop wasting it away on olosho or babymama and plan for a happy family.

Modified; Before I forget, Religion, Heaven and Hell are real so stop been ITK.
Try reading books about Islam and I believe you would be interested.

I once said 25 when I reached the age I changed my mind seeing all that it was not just of wishing but being able to have a full capacity as a man to do so

I married at 27

MrBrownJay1:


if this woman is indeed good, and we have a great r/ship. why would you think that marriage is gonna improve anything?! in the contrary, marriage would RUIN more than it would improve. both of you need to be on the edge and understand that you need to woo, care, love and cherish one another for the rest of your natural life.... aka water that flower. sadly, marriage tend to make people become emotionally LAZY, sexually REDUNDANT... aka disregard that flower because you now own it.

there is only ONE way to keep a flame alive, and thats to never marry that person. marriage is like chains that would have people who dont love/like you (any longer) stay with your sorry aaass because of that bondage called marriage. if love fades away then you guys need to part ways....sadly married people would stay together because of that piece of paper. i certainly do NOT want anyone to stay with me out of pity (aka marriage) as i certainly wouldnt.

i hope you are not a baby daddy sha. marriage is indeed not for everyone,it takes alot of work at every turn ,it takes alot of persistence ,it takes alot of adaptation heck its not easy living with someone else with a different upbringing ,beliefs from yours, It takes alot of maturity to put up with the flaws of another person , it takes alot of strength to keep going when the fire in that marriage has burned out and all that is left is just chaff feelings and lastly it take alot of determination to rekindle that dead flame and rejuvenate dead feelings towards your partner.


You are not wrong with your opinion like they say "perception is key" ,however what i don't like is when they decide to pollute the earth with their bastard seeds.litering the earth with their seeds and unsettling the flow of the family system.Please dont bring a child into this world with this mentality of yours,just live alone and die alone so other individuals don't get affected with your anti-marriage decision.

MrBrownJay1:
NEVER WILL.... there is nothing valuable that marriage can bring to my life. you certainly dont need to be married to "live happily ever after".

When you grow old , you are goin to need someone that will love and take care of you.

Most preferably 30-35.

Some of us have been trying to do that for years but the thing ain't working out. Just pray God gives you grace to find the right person worth doing all that with. When I was young, I said it would not exceed 27 years but I am heading towards 40 in a few years time and still haven't done shit. Just ask for grace.

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

be real ooo. Looking for non religious woman means you will be single for life. Even the oloshos are so damn religious. I am an atheist, my girl just thinks I don't go to church because I am lazy, unserious and don't like the fact that pastors are exploiting people.

She knows she is with a good man, but unserious in term of religion. It is okay to let her live with Thought of praying for you or changing you. You are likely to see a lot of closed door in relationship, employment etc if you are claiming to be anything other than a Christian or a Muslim. Wisdom is profitable o.

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

Definitely we have. Deism ain't so bad

ValCon888:
Marriage is not compulsory.
There's nothing better than waking up in the morning knowing you have all the house to yourself. Watch your movies and football, no woman dragging remote with you to watch BBN or Telemundo.
Go out and come back whenever you want and with whoever you want.

Marriage is a scam created by women to put real men in chains.

Lonely life. You know that's not true.

I'm emotionally and mentally ready but I'm working on the financial aspect...
Sometimes, I wish I could get married right now if not for the financial constraint.

I planned to marry @ 30 but I realized man propose and God dispose when I clocked 30.
So I made a new plan. I pray it works out, my new plan is 35.

P.S: If I achieve my goals/plans before that set age, I may get married

27 now and wish i already did but not with an empty pocket

pocohantas:


Definitely not by him, he is a very rational male. I am just impressed at how the thread is moving peacefully, you don't see ladies occupying the whole thread to insult guys. Turn the table, someone like Tosyne2much and his cohorts will land to insult ladies.

my observation too

I married age 26, in the year 2015.

healthserve:



So heaven and hell is not real. Okay o. Continue the slide into fire. Wetin Consign me sef

see talk, shey you don slide in before or you know anyone having vacation there.

Kirinwa:


He knows why he said that. Majority of those that married at 40 years did it because of finance.

If you doubt me, send #5 million to his account and see what will happen.

Even if you send 5m he will need 10m.
When I got married I was not financially buoyant. I was put 30 as a focus that it must happen before then. I actually cut my "coat to my size".
One can understand the financial part though the country is harder now.

OoniOfIfe:
I married at d age of 22, in 1959

If I understand you right, you are now 82 years ?
You really try. You are still able of contributing in the NAIRALAND.

lollybizzu:


Are you the lady in question

Not realy sir, just trolling

Fairview1:



Even in your own family?


Leadership isn't until you are elected into any key political position or pastoral/Imam position. Leadership entails you spearheading even a small group of people/friends.

When you aren't married, people will never take you serious and can never entrust you with anything serious. Reason why our constitution made it clear that before anyone could handle any key political position, you will ensure you married. So leadership is a sign of responsibility, and to he responsible, you must be stay married.

Which part of our Constitution is this ooo

I'm planning to get married at age 31 but only if i get to meet someone i love o. No be all these celebrity marriage dem o

ValCon888:
Marriage is not compulsory.
There's nothing better than waking up in the morning knowing you have all the house to yourself. Watch your movies and football, no woman dragging remote with you to watch BBN or Telemundo.
Go out and come back whenever you want and with whoever you want.

Marriage is a scam created by women to put real men in chains.

Wrong statement... Marriage was instituted by God. "For a man shall leave his mother, and be joined with his wife."

kunkelhanspeter:


Money
Though I have built house
Just need money to live comfortable life

Wow, as long as you've gathered enough to build a home, then you should have good source of income. Like someon had mentioned earlier, " you dont have to wait till you have tens of millions before you get married..

tohyorsih2:


Haba!! take it easy now!

noCAP:
35, probably

...

35 is too far Na. At 50 ur kids are 15. I am 36 and I have a son who is 14. I started early.

CsRockefeller:


Lol. My Queen.

You're too special to be drawn into all these issues, a special seat has been set for you.

All I ask for is the list and we shall be at your gate in no time.

Lol..... Stylishly avoiding the question right?
Well, keep it up.

ValCon888:
Marriage is not compulsory.
There's nothing better than waking up in the morning knowing you have all the house to yourself. Watch your movies and football, no woman dragging remote with you to watch BBN or Telemundo.
Go out and come back whenever you want and with whoever you want.

Marriage is a scam created by women to put real men in chains.

You're somehow right as regards staying single and having your total freedom as a nigga.

But in essence, marriage was created by men to control women.

prizlezzlalasky:


Not realy sir, just trolling

Alright dear.
Have a nice day.

eni4real:
People are very disrespectful here ooooo.. Is that how you talk to your grandpa?? Old cargo

u had better chunk your respect into your tiny a$$hole.. My grandpa is dead and BTW I doubt if he is older than my dad sef... See ehn this is social media not outside where we bow down to people. Same baby boomers who have destroyed our country and corrupted the minds of our generations and ones before me.. mschew

DMerciful:
You are thinking of yourself only. By the time you start considering the feelings of the woman and the love children then you'll learn. Your perspective will change with time...na you go tire

Tell am

bigpriik:
I don't know about you but from the llol of things and predictions I will tie the knot at age 32.it doesn't even matter if I made money now am 27 I prefer that age.

What about you at what age will you settle down.

U need to edit ur posts before uploading first before we talk about marriage abeg....there's nothing wrong with taking 30 seconds to proof read what u have written before clicking d submit button