Send her back to her parents and let your wife do what is expected her to do at home. Some women self

You did well Sir. Personally I have made up my mind about anything concerning house helps...they must be treated like family. That is to say if I can't afford to Carter for them like my own kids then I can't have them.

Your wife is not a good woman!
First for treating the girl that way and accusing you of sleeping with her, you should be scared of that woman you call a wife!

Please where are you, let me come and make your breakfast, nonsense

Chai! From slapping to nagging to this, what is really happening with my sisters this month

You didn't overreact.Women,by nature,are emotionally weaker and more often than not are irrational; they act on their whims and caprices or what I'd like to call INSTINCTS.
Having said that, you need to be deft in managing the situation. You can go ahead, if you still have the means,and get some stuffs for the girl.It will be bad if she's the odd one out this period.Then, let your wife ,in a subtle ,wily way,realise that the said girl deserves commendation for her trust and industry.

STENON:
The heart of human is purely more wicked than the devil ...

You can purchase xmas clothes for the girl as xmas gift. Just be monitoring her keenly as your madam is likely to frustrate your househelp.

Precisely!

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

go to the market, but clothes for your househelp but if you have to do that then pay close attention to your wive's relationship with the househelp afterwards. Believe me bro, that househelp needs more of your attention than your wife does. Her sadness will affect your kids more than that of your wive's, be smart. Wish you luck.

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

Seems you are better off in political section

If na me,I will not say anything further.
On that Christmas day,I will burn all those clothes she bought for the children and hers...and I will leave them to travel to my village.

Next time,no be person go tell am to behave.

Deal with her

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

You married an evil selfish bitch....If you check the narrative of househelps been maltreated.. you will see women the perpetrator in almost all cases..The average 9ja woman's has a desperate wicked heart towards househelp.. it's terrible and sad. If you are a woman...never be such evil person...treat your house help very well..in doing so..they are most likely to multiply that kindness towards your kids and much more..you are sowing a seed that your children will harvest tommorow. Ensure by letting her go to same school with your kids,eat same food, wear same quality of clothes and shoes as your kids, travel with your family to the same vacation, enjoy same everything.This is how to be a good woman in all ramifications before God and man

Well..you are the man of the house you decide what obtains in that house and I fear your wife is maltreating your house help without you knowing and now blackmailing you for reacting to her wickedness.

You need to be firm in that house don't allow your yeye wife decide or give you B.S in that house..so give her ultimatum to buy the things for your househelp or else give her shit..you know why you should react its because God will judge you as complicit to her wickedness if you did see wickedness under your roof and you did not react to stop it.

I am so angry with this situation on your behalf..God knows I hate oppression with so much passion, if my future wify behave like this to domestic servants in my house if and when we choose to have such people in my house.The way I will react ehn to her..she will see another side of me that she will regret ever provoking. Nonsense women.

You did not overreact..i think you underreacted sef to her B.S..imagine refusing to buy things for your househelp as instructed, falsely accusing you and now refusing to make food for you..like is she mad sef..in my own house again..on top my own money again..You didn't react eneough to her B.S you should give her shit..

Pay attention to how your partner treats people below them. People they feel they owe nothing. Someday it might be you in that position...

Your wife is wicked. EOD

-You didn't overreact.
-Allow her cry very well.
-Please, a child shouldn't be a maid. Get an adult than can match you both in strength and wickedness

theButterfly:
1. The girl is 15. "GIRL", not woman.
2. At 15, she's a child.
3. She's a relative of the wife's.

Idk what sort of useless discomfort the wife could possibly feel over buying the clothes for the girl who also happens to be a child and her own relative. I doubt OP is having any affair w/ her b/c this sounds like an innocent, non-threatening situation and it's not everybody that sleeps with their househelp. She should be the one to apologize to her husband for her dumb accusation and she should grow up b/c someone might end up maltreating her own kids the way she's doing with the girl. It's called karma.

You dey mind this old fool

Sorry to say this but your wife is very wicked and I like the way you called her to action. What does she mean by "the house help doesn't need clothes, because you feed her and train her in school ". This is the type of woman that will take your children and the maid out, buy things for your children and nothing for her. She has forgotten that she is maltreating another man's child and should not complain when her's is also maltreated. What you have to do now is instruct her to buy the clothes for her failing which you will buy them yourself.

Since your wife has started blackmailing you, send the girl back to her parents and pay her school fees through her parents if you can afford it. Let her do all the work, dont bother replacing her except with a nanny who will come to the house to work and go back home whenever she is needed.
Your wife is a wicked woman, you have to make plan B for yourself and your kids as this is a sign that if you run into any hard time she will not pity you if the table turns

Counsel her and if no change divorce her immediately coz She is not a good wife. My humble opinion sir.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Women and emotional blackmail.

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

OLoriburku somebody you be....
You are talking as if you dont av sense in short u dont have sense.

Why are you giving such advice.....My guy u no get Joy at all

Your wife is wicked

How many househelps in Nigeria are over 18??

Also, such an adult househelp is a fully grown woman and most wives will suspect them.

Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

The woman may not be a bad woman but she surely is selfish

Your wife is an example of selfish, greedy, wicked, sadist and foolish woman.. let her know that no one can predict tomorrow.. the girl could grow to be a responsible person in future.. I hate your wife.. tufia!

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

No sense in the nonsense u spewed..

Your wife is very wicked and unnecessarily jealous over nothing. She doesn't have value for this girl that is helping her to raise her own children.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Women and their manipulating nature

Let her cry well well

You have done nothing wrong and she made you to say what you said

Tell her if she doesn't take those children to market to get their dresses, you will treat her in a manner that will correct her senses and be strick about it

She is being selfish and nothing else

It's either she brakes or she bends

Make your stand and don't shift your ground

If she doesn't cook for you, get the meals prepared yourself if you can or eat out

Am a woman but I don't like women holding men to ransom even when the man is the one spending the money

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

Indeed humans are mostly used to evil

Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

You're doing more harm than good

cooooooks:
How many househelps in Nigeria are over 18??

Also, such an adult househelp is a fully grown woman and most wives will suspect them.

For information Mr dirty, people pay adult house help to come to their house and leave after each day job. Stop using minor.

It is the man and his children that will suffer in the end.

A woman who has had a househelp cannot live without one. I know from experience.

daragrams:
Send her back to her parents and let your wife do what is expected her to do at home. Some women self

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

U have put this poor girl in a massive trouble

Ur wife will maltreat her badly now

She may not even eat again why u are fighting for cloth for her

Send the poor girl home as soon as possible