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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Ewedegubbler: 4:29pm On Dec 20, 2019
The black woman is the worst creature on this planet.. timid, evil, malicious and stupidly jealous..


TUFIAKWA

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by PuZZyNegro: 4:29pm On Dec 20, 2019
SEGLIZ:

thank you.
the age difference between her their first child and the girl is just four years...... meaning this could as well be their first child.

Read well. Niece is 11 years not their biological child(ren)
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Xisnin(m): 4:30pm On Dec 20, 2019
Send that girl back to the village ad fund her education from there.
It is the most humane thing you can do.
Her life will never remain the same again after this incident because your
wife will be plotting an act of big revenge and you won't be around that much.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Nobody: 4:30pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

That is what women do, they want househelp but are utterly insecure when the househelp arrives. Terrible specie, when it comes to jealousy. We have changed more than 10 house-help this year alone here and she went for house boy here, I fired him instantly, now we are 'helpless'. ?

And it gives me joy seeing her doing all crazy chores. Always accusing us of sleeping with house help. It's all controlled insecurity.

I need my Bachelorhood back.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by remzytimer: 4:30pm On Dec 20, 2019
I don't know why women are naturally wicked causing problems every where.... Ah
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by itsme01: 4:30pm On Dec 20, 2019
reminds me of my uncle and his wife.. the lazy woman was also maltreating the house help untill my uncle insisted on no more house help.. the woman became miserable immediately , looking rough and combining three kids with federal goverment job and cooking.. las las na she humble

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by 001spice: 4:31pm On Dec 20, 2019
Oga u didn't nutin wrong ur wife knws that wat she deed was wrong. Nw she's only given u audio crx
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by ajl: 4:32pm On Dec 20, 2019
cococandy:
I can’t understand living with someone and treating them like an outsider. You did well by including the girl in your Christmas family plans. Your wife could learn a thing or two from you.

But both of you need to employ an adult. I don’t feel confident that children can stand up for themselves when one in another person’s house. I’m usually scared for them. Human beings are not nice. I don’t know why parents feel okay sending their children to go live outside their homes.

But this is a relative. Even if it's a stranger, you treat them as yours. The problem is some people are just wicked. It boils down to upbringing. I remember we had a male household from Benin Rep. He was like a brother in the house. We ate on same dinner table and was also enrolled in school. Sad part was that his parents came to take him saying he wasn't sent to Lagos to get education. God knows where he is now.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Carlmax(m): 4:32pm On Dec 20, 2019
Send the house help home and let you and your wife do the chores yourself, having seen the way women maltreat their wards, I have made a decision that when I get married, we only take paid workers, to avoid quarrel.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by HappyCanadian: 4:33pm On Dec 20, 2019
God forbid if this was my wife and she tries this wicked and greedy act, that means she is done for

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by cooooooks(m): 4:33pm On Dec 20, 2019
That's not a househelp per se, that's a contract, you pay the person primarily with money and not with education, shelter, different growth environment as is done with househelps. I actually prefer this method although it's difficult to do this with young kids.

I also know 3 women now who grew up as househelps, in good homes, and say they would never have gotten the exposure (trips abroad, going to good schools) if not for this experience. 2 of those 3 women are abroad now.




Graxie:
For information Mr dirty, people pay adult house help to come to their house and leave after each day job. Stop using minor.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by EricBloodAxe: 4:33pm On Dec 20, 2019
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TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother. tongue

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.
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Stick to politics. This advice of yours is a product of poverty mentality and a local background. Life must have been definitely hard for you while growing up.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Kiezodumah(m): 4:34pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted


Op don't allow her mind games get to u @ all. You never can tell what that gal would become tomorrow. U might be sowing a great seed not just for urself but ur children in the future. Train that girl as though she' s ur child.
God will never forget u.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Blindersoff: 4:34pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Op i will tell you straight up and it is up to you to take it or leave it. You are the man of the house and should lead by example.

There is a reason you are the groom and your wife is the Bride. You are to groom the bride. Teach her all that is right and learn from her mistakes those areas you need to GROOM her on.

Right now she has shown you a side of her which i agree is not nice because the girl is her relation and i would not classify such a person as just a house help. SHE IS FAMILY.

Call your wife and apologize to her for your outburst and then calmly teach her or tell her where she went wrong and why the girl needs to be treated right. Let her know that the girl is more or less family since she is related to your wife. This is a very simple matter.

You can then take your wife out and while both of you are out you suggest buying a few clothes for the girl and let her choose what she feels is appropriate to buy for her. Some women grow up with a certain mindset that never changes overnight and i see your wife as one of those. Do not go out and buy stuff for the girl by yourself otherwise you would cause more problems for yourself and for her in the home. Encourage and pet your wife to do that.


I am sure she is a nice woman but maybe in this area in particular she is yet to embrace some truths. Apologize to her.

Ignore all those children here who are saying she needs to come and apologize to you. As the head of your home you are to lead by example. yes she was wrong but you show her the right way by initiating peace. As the head of a home which i also am we take a lot of shit deliberately just so there would be peace at home. It does not make us stupid but after taking this shit, quickly correct the impression calmly then the woman would become aware and she would respect you more.

Merry Christmas to your household

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by aimuan(m): 4:35pm On Dec 20, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother. tongue

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.
you sound more wicked than his wife.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by DAramis: 4:35pm On Dec 20, 2019
sunnychibs:
angry

hustle hard ooo,so that your children will not become house helps.
True bro.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by cassyrooy(m): 4:35pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted
Take that girl to the mall and buy her something good to feel among too and loved.

Na like this to poison family dey take start, alienation is one dangerous thing in human life.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by cooooooks(m): 4:35pm On Dec 20, 2019
You didn't overreact. However, I don't think you can continue with this girl because of the accusation your wife made. I suggest asking her to move out but committing to paying her tuition in secondary school and uni.




Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by golddare: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
Pray for wisdom and explain to her why she needs to get the girl Christmas clothe eg, God can bless you beyond understanding just for showing love to a maid, remember Potipher was blessed because of Joseph, Naman would have died a leper if not for the maid. So Mr Man na with humility u go explain all these to her and make sure you stop showing your concerns too much.
If she doesnt change you can return the girl so that she wont do what God or gods will be angry with you. That doesnt mean you cant be paying the girl school fees.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by CasNova: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
You have to be careful. Of course you over reacted when you said your wife did not deserve to be a mother.
My advice is don't be too nice to the girl. If she doesn't have Christmas clothes, try Easter clothes next year. Maybe by then your wife will be convinced that the girl deserves it, and that there is nothing 'sensual' between you and the girl.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Nobody: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Overreacted ke. You did what a real man should do. It's quite unfortunate the way women treat other kids not theirs. Maybe you didn't start early enough to persuade your wife to be nice to others irrespective of their status.

It is very common to see men treating others with love, but most women even Pastor's wives dont do same. I don't know if it is just wickedness or mixed with insecurity

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by decub: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Well, I don't think you should have said any harsh words to her since she is your wife.

A simple order restraining herself and the children from wearing those clothes until she gets the house help hers would have been just fine.

Depending on how you run your family, she dare not disobeys. I am one of those that don't believe a woman needs physical or verbal assault to be tamed, especially your own wife; unless she doesn't respect you.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Lexusgs430: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted


Your wife is inconsiderate.....


Let her cry till her face turns blue....... For your sanity, buy the girl clothes, give her Xmas money and send her back to her parents...........

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Ralph147(m): 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
[quote author=TonyeBarcanista post=85075329]
I am sure you saw the apostrophe symbol in the "woman"? Or is it that you don't know what it means?

2. A 15 year old is a teenager, an adolescent and not a child. And 15 year old get pregnant in case you don't know. Also do know that at age 15 some people are already done with secondary school, including some of my siblings.

3. Being a relative of madam is one reason the wife may be suspicious. It would have been different if she was his own relative.

Like I said earlier, a 15 year old is not a CHILD! Yes, OP may not be having affair with her but Madam isn't comfortable with her around anymore. Get the message!

I am a guy but I understand madam's angle.

What stupid angle do you understand. It's very wrong when the family goes out and only the househelp is not dressed nice. Please reason with your head and not you Anus
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by stagger: 4:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Sorry to say this but your wife seriously lacks wisdom.

Does she not know that the seeds she sows today will come back to germinate in her children's lives? By the way you did not overreact. She needed to be told some sense.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by shege45: 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted
bro you are no overreacting. I experienced little of this shit too but mine was if her kids liked what she got for me, she gives them or something she gives me d ones her kids reject. I only forgave that lady after my father adviced me to.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Doctordogood(m): 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.
I don't really get you by saying they are engaging a minor. Do you really want the man to engage an adult as a helper so that he can be bleeping the person alongside the wife? The last time I checked, it is usually minors that are taken as house help so that you can train them in school as well to the benefit of their parent.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Femeto: 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
U did nothing wrong.Wicked woman.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by NaijaOlosho(f): 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
Your wife is wicked, very wicked. undecided


You should call her to order.
Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by Nobody: 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother. tongue

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.
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Nonsense! If you don't have principles others still do. Like the holy book said "when i was a child, i talk like a child" guess you are one. Try and grow up.

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Re: My Wicked Wife Didn't Buy Christmas Clothes For Our House Help by themanderon: 4:37pm On Dec 20, 2019
Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

I know some people that became somebody today by living with others as helps. Because some people are deliberately wicked to house helps does not remove that fact that some people have been given the best lives they can lead by living with others as helps.
would you rather allow them to perish with no future with their poor parents

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