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Davash222:
Your wife will be maltreating the poor girl from now henceforth.
Take the girl to her parents. Don't bring any house help again. Let your ogbanje wife be doing the house chores alone!!!
Allow your wife to suffer for her wickedness.

Strong word dude.

STENON:
The heart of human is purely more wicked than the devil ...

You can purchase xmas clothes for the girl as xmas gift. Just be monitoring her keenly as your madam is likely to frustrate your househelp.

You may not be any different. Forget talk

ikaboy:
Seems you are better off in political section

No brother, he's worse there. I think he should exit Nairaland.

TonyeBarcanista:
Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

Lol!!!
This guy...
I like the fact that you always look at an issue from a different angle at all times.

But bro this guy is confused, I think you should really tell him what you think he should do on a clearer note...

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

ssd that your wife thinks like that. You did the right thing. I just Think from now on, she would start maltreating the girl.

Wot a wicked n crocked generation of commenters

crackhaus:
You were supposed to even slap her mouth for having the audacity to accuse you of sleeping with your 15yr old help - that sort of accusation is not something you sweep under the carpet just like that, because it's only a matter of time before she tells her mother/sisters/friends about what she thinks, and then your matter will become the latest gossip.

Just yesterday I mentioned a known fact that it is a woman thing to always want to put men in the middle of issues. If it's not issue with MIL, it will be with SIL...even their own friends become enemies after a while. The female under-age helps are still not safe in their hands.
As long as the person is someone with a punaní like them, there will always be competition and a man will be in the middle.

If I were you, I would make sure she takes the girl back to the village because believe me, the life of that 15yr old girl will never remain the same in your house after this incident - her maltreatment has just begun.

I wonder what it is about an uneducated 15yr old girl that a grown woman would be so insecure about...amazing.

Maybe cos these things happen in real life??

@unique357, buying a single handkerchief by yourself for this girl right now for Christmas cloth at this period in time would be a huge mistake as it would be termed buying clothes for your girlfriend. You no fit was am off atall. If anyone, it must still be your wife.

Also, the seed has been sown. It will only grow from here and since you've scolded your wife in huge terms, the start of victimization is in play.

Send back the girl and give her a huge pay day and turn back. If your MIL asks why, just say she is a good girl but you just prefer someone else. Don't rile your wife to her. You niece might have to go as well as it seems wifey believes only good things are due to only her kids.

This leaves a plain playing ground for your wife to bring in another girl by herself but this time, she will be sure to not repeat the mistakes of the past and your family will not be broken while innocent girl is safe. Case solved.

Wishing you well - Teemy

lexxwiz:
Bros! I don't know how long you've been married for but I'll still advice you anyways..

1st. I really don't understand why a supposedly man of the house can't handle this lil issue, you go dey tell people your marital issues well well. Stop it! Be a man, control your household.

2. The money you gave to your wife, did she tell you at any point that it's not enough for everyone? Cause you be like 2 loafs of bread and 5fisn miracle man.

3. Go back to number one and handle your problems. Give her some more money to buy her clothes.

Lastly; do not in any circumstance but those clothes yourself. Apologize to your wife make peace reign. I've been married for 4years and bet you, my state of mind is worth more than any marital quarrel.

Ps: see as people don dey insult your wife anyhow.. shouldn't you be protecting her at all cost? Dude give your wife some more money to buy clothes for herself and house help. See where you go from badguy you dey report give the whole world. Please shift.

Will you shut it?


See how u dey hyperventilate everywhere.

The story is as fake as snow in the sahara,so dont kill yourself.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

The best advice is AFTER WHAT JUST HAPPENED, RETURN THE KID BACK TO HER PARENTS - you can get another; I dont see peace as long as she's in that house.....

Goodluck

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

You have a bad wife. You need to know that you have a very bad wife.

The moment she refused to make breakfast it means you are nothing in her eyes.

I thank God I married a wife.

Sorry bro but Cleary she is not a wife.

Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

What is this one talking about?

15 years old? You want them to engage an 18/19 years old Lady that will leave stories that touches the konko below?

KIDfurniture:
How did you end up with a wicked woman

Mtchewwww....wetin concern you?

Graxie:
Why are you engaging a minor as househelp? Why. Both you and your wife, you are horrible.

She is a relative of the wife nah...

Did you ask her the reason

Unique357:
Thank you for your inputs , I have no bad intentions towards that small girl , she is like my daughter I want her to be treated the same as every child in my house. I only gave my wife 2k to spend on the girl , a OK jeans and shirt and what’s 2k really ? , she bought 4 dresses for only our daughter , one for Christmas , new year , first Sunday of the year and for her 9th birthday coming on January 20th , and a pair of shoes , honestly she doesn’t need all those clothes , her wardrobes is full with beautiful dresses that she can rewear instead she should have buy something for the help and save the rest of the money. On Xmas all the children in my house will be looking good with their brand new clothes except her , do you expect me to clap for her ? I will not be happy seeing her looking like a trash . Someone who sacrifice her childhood for my children , she does takes good care of them 24 /7 i, I have hidden cameras in my house, I check it every single night to see if she does maltreat them behind our back , what I saw amaze me, she always treat them nice with so much patience. If my children have so much love for her and why can’t I and my wife treat her so well? Well for those that suggested to return her back to her parents , well I will speak with my mother in law because she brought the girl for us , so it will be better to hear her opinions. Thanks once again

Even u wicked
U and ur wife fit each other
2k in this Nigeria to buy which OK jeans
Ahhhh u will not see heaven.
And u made it sound like u dropped 10k so she can look nice like ur kids
U have hidden cam u check each night that u can see how loving she is to ur kids
Yet in all this
She deserves 2k
Smh again and again

Unique357:
Thank you for your inputs , I have no bad intentions towards that small girl , she is like my daughter I want her to be treated the same as every child in my house. I only gave my wife 2k to spend on the girl , a OK jeans and shirt and what’s 2k really ? , she bought 4 dresses for only our daughter , one for Christmas , new year , first Sunday of the year and for her 9th birthday coming on January 20th , and a pair of shoes , honestly she doesn’t need all those clothes , her wardrobes is full with beautiful dresses that she can rewear instead she should have buy something for the help and save the rest of the money. On Xmas all the children in my house will be looking good with their brand new clothes except her , do you expect me to clap for her ? I will not be happy seeing her looking like a trash . Someone who sacrifice her childhood for my children , she does takes good care of them 24 /7 i, I have hidden cameras in my house, I check it every single night to see if she does maltreat them behind our back , what I saw amaze me, she always treat them nice with so much patience. If my children have so much love for her and why can’t I and my wife treat her so well? Well for those that suggested to return her back to her parents , well I will speak with my mother in law because she brought the girl for us , so it will be better to hear her opinions. Thanks once again

you're a very good man. God bless you. In case you send the child to her parents, don't bring in any househelp. Let your wife carry on with the household chores.

You have to be wise, call your house help aside when your wife is not around and giver her money to buy christmas cloth for herself. Do not for get to tell her that her madam mist not know about it.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

This is how people incite people to do them harm. Next thing the young girl poisons the food of the entire family out of jealousy


Help me tell your wife this. That until we give ourselves to love what doesn't belong to us, we haven't loved.

@OP, my opinion- Your wife is about to turn a 15 years old 'angel' into a 'demon', later you will start hearing stories of the little girl maltreating your children just because of 'common christmas cloth'.... don't forget the girl is quietly observing.

However you want to do it, please talk sense into your wife and let her understand what the implications of her actions could be and ensure she buys that girl the cloths, don't go buying them yourself, you'll create more trouble and unleash hell in your home.

Merry Christmas in advance.

Prognose:
How did she attack the man? Read what she wrote again.

That guy is a stark illiterate

Enculer2:
You have a bad wife. You need to know that you have a very bad wife.

The moment she refused to make breakfast it means you are nothing in her eyes.

I thank God I married a wife.

Sorry bro but Cleary she is not a wife.

Humans are all prone to moments of weakness. Your wife has hers so no need to boast.

Since she is not a good wife, can you marry a good one for him?

TonyeBarcanista:
Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

what affection are u talking abt, u just telling me now that u are jealousy type just like d same woman, cos me personally will treat my house help like my own daughter. both of u should go and hang urself.

cooooooks:
That's not a househelp per se, that's a contract, you pay the person primarily with money and not with education, shelter, different growth environment as is done with househelps. I actually prefer this method although it's difficult to do this with young kids.

I also know 3 women now who grew up as househelps, in good homes, and say they would never have gotten the exposure (trips abroad, going to good schools) if not for this experience. 2 of those 3 women are abroad now.

You are right.

abbey621:
I don't know what marriage is turning into these days where men must come online before knowing the right thing to do. I believe watching too much telemundo or Western films has formatted some brains into zombies. A woman that you married, cater to and is completely loyal to has the gut to accuse you of such disgusting act. Solution is simple, send the girl away, pay her off and insist no more househelp till her brain reformats back to the right settings. No human being can force you to hire any househelp, you did so because yo ulove your wife and you want her less stressed but she has grown wings and developed a messiah complex. She has shown you her true colors, it's up to yo uto decide whether you like what you see or not!

Well said.

Dude you're wife may see stuff that men can't see yet.. Maybe the help wants to stay permanently n can resort to make you sleep with her..
Watch both of them and stay neutral in your stance with them, acting with emotions only dulls the blade

@OP, my opinion- Your wife is about to turn a 15 years old 'angel' into a 'demon', later you will start hearing stories of the little girl maltreating your children just because of 'common christmas cloth'.... don't forget the girl is quietly observing.

However you want to do it, please talk sense into your wife and let her understand what the implications of her actions could be and ensure she buys that girl the cloths, don't go buying them yourself, you'll create more trouble and unleash hell in your home.

Merry Christmas in advance.

your wife is just trying to mark her territory... Probably she's starting to get intimidated by the poor little girl..Some people need to see the way some 15yr old girl look like in recent times... Op please Return the girl to her people to avoid future problems... Your wife's trying to create unnecessary dramas so she wud have a reason to send her out..If you are capable of helping this girl away from your house please do

Make peace with your wife and let her start taking care of the home fully ASAP...No more Househelp till she Have sense

Fake stories everywhere.

She has been good to the said househelp but all of a sudden she dont want her to wear new Christmas clothes.
And as u rebuked her, she said u are sleeping with the househelp.
And u expect me to believe this?

U even have money to buy cctv and install in your house yet u gave her 2k to buy Christmas clothes for the good and loving maid who is sacrificing her childhood for your family.
He even garnished it with "my wicked wife"
She refused to buy Christmas clothes now she is a wicked wife

Seun must make money

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Bros most women reason that way,just pet her and let her see reason why she should have a broad heart,persuade her to go and buy the clothes for her NEVER BUY it yourself otherwise more fire in the house

RisenPhoenix:
I am. But I don't take any faecal matter from anyone; least of all my wife. What I advised is precisely what I would have done; assuming that my wife grew wings and actually accused me of sleeping with the househelp. She knows that replacement wives plenty full Nigeria; as well as outside it. Women are a homogenous lot once you put out the lights; and the last time I've been in love is when I was 15. So no one can pretend to tie me down.

I trust my wife sha, she would never do such a thing. We husbands just have to train them well from day one.

You seem like the typical egoistic and bossy husbands women complain about all the time.

Unique357:
This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Yes Sir you acted well, women need to understand universal love. anyone living under your roof deserves to be loved equally.

By the way you need to show her you can cook as well.
Go to Kicthen
=>Prepare Indomie
==> Make tea
===> Fried egg
====> Call the kids to table,
=====> Say Psalm 23 as the grace
======> Start singin ..... Majaye Oni o... mio meyin ola o, Majaye Oni o... mio meyin ola oo