TonyeBarcanista:

Baba in your case the slap is justified but sha you for hold her hand, give her serious warning say make she no ever reason am for her life no matter what.

For where� I can't even look her straight in the eyes. That was the first time I realise how painful it was when I cheat. Make I give complete gist. Brought in another babe to come spend weekend after giving my woman series of excuses. Weekend finish and babe no ready to go and main chick wan visit. Was posting her and later agreed to meet in a public place not knowing an aproko neighbor have hinted her. I got to the bar close to a major market and was with madam when she told me straight up that there's a woman in my house and we going home together. As guy man now, I denied and tried to walk away for such insult but babe stood up followed to the main road and landed me 2 clean slaps for playing on her intelligence. I no even mind people we dey jeer, I just carry next bike and went back home to clean up my mess. Funny enough, my woman knows coming to my house will greatly embarrass me so she opted to save my face while I thought I was smart.

ctleurocollege:



You're the man bro, your self restraint shows you're a man of steel. I throwey salute Boss man

Thanks bro

Bestinstinct:

For where� I can't even look her straight in the eyes. That was the first time I realise how painful it was when I cheat. Make I give complete gist. Brought in another babe to come spend weekend after giving my woman series of excuses. Weekend finish and babe no ready to go and main chick wan visit. Was posting her and later agreed to meet in a public place not knowing an aproko neighbor have hinted her. I got to the bar close to a major market and was with madam when she told me straight up that there's a woman in my house and we going home together. As guy man now, I denied and tried to walk away for such insult but babe stood up followed to the main road and landed me 2 clean slaps for playing on her intelligence. I no even mind people we dey jeer, I just carry next bike and went back home to clean up my mess. Funny enough, my woman knows coming to my house will greatly embarrass me so she opted to save my face while I thought I was smart.

Lol very funny but it shows you aren't a man. Forget about all these audio gentleman crap!

Yes, you hurt her by cheating a lying but slapping you while you were walking away shows she doesn't see you like her boss. She didn't go to the house to save your face, instead, her refusal to confront you at home was to save HER FACE from embarrassment.

What you should have done was to hold her fist after the first slap very tight, and give her strong warning never to attempt it again! Then walk out...

NB: I said this because it is a case of betrayal and I assume she acted on impulse but for she to even have thw guts to slap you shows you no be man for her face. If she sees you as man, she will either cry or go to her home to cry, and then await you to apologise and explain yourself.

TonyeBarcanista:

Lol very funny but it shows you aren't a man. Forget about all these audio gentleman crap!

Yes, you hurt her by cheating a lying but slapping you while you were walking away shows she doesn't see you like her boss. She didn't go to the house to save your face, instead, her refusal to confront you at home was to save HER FACE from embarrassment.

What you should have done was to hold her fist after the first slap very tight, and give her strong warning never to attempt it again! Then walk out...

NB: I said this because it is a case of betrayal and I assume she acted on impulse but for she to even have thw guts to slap you shows you no be man for her face. If she sees you as man, she will either cry or go to her home to cry, and then await you to apologise and explain yourself.

I won't defend neither actions but I know that period that my gentle woman isn't in her right senses. Holding fist and showing the boss go just create unnecessary attention. We all have moment of weakness, guess that's mine but it was a life changing moment. I stopped cheating or let's say I became more tactical...lol.

Laughing at people saying the OP has done well for walking away OP what stops you from giving her friendly slap too? You think she will stop? You think she will not carry turning stick next time and break your head?

Bestinstinct:

I won't defend neither actions but I know that period that my gentle woman isn't in her right senses. Holding fist and showing the boss go just create unnecessary attention. We all have moment of weakness, guess that's mine but it was a life changing moment. I stopped cheating or let's say I became more tactical...lol.

SMH...

Na una sabi oooooo

Florblu:
Thank you for walking away. Your silence will almost kill her and push her to apologize.
Even when she apologizes, just say OKAY and continue to act normal. Trust me, guilt will make her sick and she will do everything she can to ensure you are pleased instead of you trying to please her.


May I never slap my man.

AND SO SHALL IT BE, AMEN FOR YOU!

madridguy:
Laughing at people saying the OP has done well for walking away OP what stops you from giving her friendly slap too? You think she will stop? You think she will not carry turning stick next time and break your head?

Hmmmm

madridguy:
Laughing at people saying the OP has done well for walking away OP what stops you from giving her friendly slap too? You think she will stop? You think she will not carry turning stick next time and break your head?

I agree. Whatever bad habit isn't curtailed only opens the door for greater terrible treatment. Resolve ko, resolve ni.. The day any female tries it she will see problems. One military woman almost tried that shiiit with me at Oshodi recently, what happened shocked her. I trigerred a full scale war that was beyond her imaginations. She went to call lots of touts.. that day no funny.

The bold part is a powerful quote. Meanwhile how do you later resolved with the military woman?

healthserve:


I agree. Whatever bad habit isn't curtailed only opens the door for greater terrible treatment. Resolve ko, resolve ni.. The day any female tries it she will see problems. One military woman almost tried that shiiit with me at Oshodi recently, what happened shocked her. I trigerred a full scale war that was beyond her imaginations. She went to call lots of touts.. that day no funny.

madridguy:
The bold part is a powerful quote. Meanwhile how do you later resolved with the military woman?

I have a commanding presence. Gave awesome talks both before and after the incidence, almost half of the people around rallied around me to unleash hell if anything happened to me...

thank God for you.

healthserve:


I have a commanding presence. Gave awesome talks both before and after the incidence, almost half of the people around rallied around me to unleash hell if anything happened to me...

You never get wife o

Success02:
For the first time ever in my life, my wife slapped me twice. You want to know my reaction?

Honestly I was surprised to see my wife slapped me. I thought within myself what could have warranted it.

On Saturday, we went for a party which I was reluctant to attend but I did because I wanted to please my wife. I did all I could to make her happy and to make her feel good but as much as I did, she flared up when I left to ease myself.

She complained that I went with a girl which was not so. To cut the story short I left the party without my wife and we kept distance for some days. Every instructions I gave to my wife since then she would just do it reluctantly and when I needed to get to her office after work so that we could go home together, I would just see that she was not there. when I got back home I decided to get spare key so as to return home from work without waiting for her, I asked her for the spare and she started raising voice on me. I reacted as a man and all of a sudden I got the first slap followed by the second one. Though I didn't react because I don't know what to do.

My question is what will be your reaction if you happen to be in my shoes?

. Out of respect for me, I won't beat her or slap her back but I warn her never to do it again. If she does, I apply other measures.

healthserve:



Lol. I felt the same way and wanted to communicate with the OP privately. But then. Wetin small boy like me know. Them go come here come say crash the marriage. But then, the woman went too far.

Wait first. I want to understand something. When a man hits a woman she’s advised to leave, but the man should take this off the internet because he could be advised to leave? Lol

mumumugu:
draw her close, hug her say " I love you" Is anything bothering you, my attention is yours

Success02:


When I asked her for the spare key, she asked me with frown face "why do you want the key?" I replied why are u asking me? She said she has the right to ask and I told her what right, she just grabbed my shirt and d rest is slap

You need to bang the shït out of her. She’s obviously sêx-starved. Smh

Very unstable woman.
Even if she has been suspecting you of something, that gives her no right to slap u.
Since you didn't retaliate( I applaud you. U have the right to slap her back), give her the emotional treatment.
U know how stuffs run in your family.

Make her so uncomfortable that she will break down.
Next time, she better communicate than resorting to violence.

Yes my wife has slapped me before. In response I raised my hand to beat the devil out of her but somehow the Holy Spirit overpowered me and I started laughing. She knows I could be hot tampered and I could see the fear in her. God saved the situation anyway.
Thank God you didn't beat her up. Just forget about it as if it didn't happen.

Timbuktuo:


You need to bang the shït out of her. She’s obviously sêx-starved. Smh

Sex starvation don't result in physical violence.

She is abusive and that shouldn't be tolerated.

If I'm the man, I will invite her people and give her warning in their presence.
What nonsense. She is lucky. Men like him are very rare.

ezugegere:
Yes my wife has slapped me before. In response I raised my hand to beat the devil out of her but somehow the Holy Spirit overpowered me and I started laughing. She knows I could be hot tampered and I could see the fear in her. God saved the situation anyway.
Thank God you didn't beat her up. Just forget about it as if it didn't happen.

Hmm.

If the situation is getting out of hand and it seems I'm becoming irrational, I will walk away. 30 minutes walk with music blasting on my ears makes a great difference.
What is wrong with people?

What does "reacted as a man" mean o? Biko give us the full story...

Send her to her parents' home and tell them to ask her why she was sent there; and appeal to them to complete their job of training her properly. Don't give them details of what she did; just ask them to ask her. You can tell them to call you back when they have finished with the training. After that is done, further discussions can start from there about the new regulations governing the marriage henceforth.

sassysure:


Sex starvation don't result in physical violence.

She is abusive and that shouldn't be tolerated.

If I'm the man, I will invite her people and give her warning in their presence.
What nonsense. She is lucky. Men like him are very rare.

You’d be surprised what sex starvation can make people do. The woman obviously has too much pent up frustration. The husband should rule that out first before proceeding with other solutions

Timbuktuo:


You’d be surprised what sex starvation can make people do. The woman obviously has too much pent up frustration. The husband should rule that out first before proceeding with other solutions

The lady has insecurity problem and is quick tempered.
It's not sex. I'm woman and I will authoritatively tell you her problem is insecurity. Has nothing to do with sex.
Women don't see sex with men's eyes. Low self esteem breeds insecurity and anger problem.

The husband ignited the insecurity that was buried deep inside. The slap was as a result of build up which he refused to handle. But like I said, there are so many ways to make one's voice heard. Violence is never the answer.

women always like to test power intentionally & unintentionally, if this is her second time, don't allow her to go unpunished but if this is her first time, please free her but warn her not to repeat again, incase it happen again, hmm, eye for eyesssss, slap for slapsssss

midnighter:


I can see where you're coming from anyway; you are trying to be practical.

But I still think you should give your spouse the benefit of the doubt, if they are remorseful and not an obvious manipulator. I don't see how you would slap somebody and then run to your parents unless something is wrong with you.

It's a major step to take to report to a 3rd party so I don't think it should be done on a first-time occurrence. It's a private matter

women! see all the nice advice for this thread. if na man now, he go be devil, Lucifer, women beater,demon, low self-esteem. the first time a girlfriend tried it , I gave her two very hot slap in return

TonyeBarcanista:

If woman for house see you finish, even the vijay she won't give you talkless of allowing you cum inside.

Addressing her madness should have been most appropriate to let her know who the boss is.

na to give am red face sure pass. a woman should not even think of slapping her husband in her mind

niaralandtopuser:
women! see all the nice advice for this thread. if na man now, he go be devil, Lucifer, women beater,demon, low self-esteem. the first time a girlfriend tried it , I gave her two very hot slap in return

Okay sir

I can't comment because this has not happened to me before.

The first thought in my mind was obviously a divorce.

However, I think you have minimised her concerns of you cheating. Even just before the slap, you basically said that your so-called wife did not have a say on the spare key to the house you and her live in. That, my friend, was an insult. You basically told her that she's nothing.

She was already openly suspecting you of talking to another woman and here you are trying to get the spare key to give to such a woman (in her mind).

Have you ever been physical with her? Did she come from a physically abusive home? Were there any indications of this sort of temper before the marriage??

Again, if it's me, the marriage would be more over than not. Let me not die at the hand of my wife in the name of "maturity".

Success02:
For the first time ever in my life, my wife slapped me twice. You want to know my reaction?

Honestly I was surprised to see my wife slapped me. I thought within myself what could have warranted it.

On Saturday, we went for a party which I was reluctant to attend but I did because I wanted to please my wife. I did all I could to make her happy and to make her feel good but as much as I did, she flared up when I left to ease myself.

She complained that I went with a girl which was not so. To cut the story short I left the party without my wife and we kept distance for some days. Every instructions I gave to my wife since then she would just do it reluctantly and when I needed to get to her office after work so that we could go home together, I would just see that she was not there. when I got back home I decided to get spare key so as to return home from work without waiting for her, I asked her for the spare and she started raising voice on me. I reacted as a man and all of a sudden I got the first slap followed by the second one. Though I didn't react because I don't know what to do.

My question is what will be your reaction if you happen to be in my shoes?

Some women are ready to pick knife anyhow. Many don't even believe they'd use it but you never know what could happen in the moment.

madridguy:
Laughing at people saying the OP has done well for walking away OP what stops you from giving her friendly slap too? You think she will stop? You think she will not carry turning stick next time and break your head?

She's already breaking down.

Also, the idea that such a means wouldn't affect the guy emotionally as well is crazy.

sassysure:
Very unstable woman.
Even if she has been suspecting you of something, that gives her no right to slap u.
Since you didn't retaliate( I applaud you. U have the right to slap her back), give her the emotional treatment.
U know how stuffs run in your family.

Make her so uncomfortable that she will break down.
Next time, she better communicate than resorting to violence.