Sam2310:
Na weting dey cause problems for most zee world series be that.

Fistop:



That was how it started. Before i knew it, he started leaving a shirt and a boxer. Later he left his towel, later he brought his full luggage. It is well sha. In this Buhari era, having to feed an extra mouth is huge. Besides, a having an extra person with you generally increases cost. Toothpaste started finished before time, bathing soap too. Fuel for generator, gas etc.

I advocate that in-laws should just come for visits only. Respect will be given better.

IyaTola:
What is your take on your in-laws vividly living in same house with you?

Katier00:
Vividly I say unto you

babythug:
As could be expected it could and would likely swing both ways!

There would be peaceful times and surely there would be turbulent times!

If they are older in-laws ie parents in law or older siblings in law the wife would be expected to be quite accepting and tolerant of their excesses. With some younger siblings in law some bull shit may be meted out that the wife May or may not accept.

The family dynamics also play a big role. Depending on how firm or assertive the husband is the in-laws may know where to draw the lines on nonsense behaviour and so on.

The space and size of the house matters! The smaller the space the more likely wires will cross and cause chaos. Resources too could cause issues- wife may wanna serve two meals daily for eg and in-laws feel entitled to three meals .

If a couple have to move in with parents in-law the wife again has to bear the brunt of behaviour modification and adaptation to the processes and procedures of her in-laws

In summary where african/ Nigerian families age involved it’s best avoided as much as is within one’s power.

I have my brother in law here and most times I feel like slapping him. His latest misdemeanour is literally taking over my son’s slippers this is a 35year old( or thereabouts) man and my son is 9 years old .....

midnighter:


Excuse me, i noticed "Khalid" in your monicker and I thought you were a Muslim or at least had some understanding of Arabic language.

It means "God bless you"

IyaTola:
What is your take on your in-laws vividly living in same house with you?

MajorWarren:

Gender fluid

ImaIma1:
Let everybody stay in their father's and husband's house.

Let no one turn brother or sister to father and mother. Basically, don't keep "borning" plenty children that you will end up burdening your older children with.

Temporary visits are ok but permanent residence...no. let's not breed too much familiarity.

Fynchi:
exactly o, my mum say this, my mum, my mum. In everything. It's becoming too nauseating and God knows I have tried. She poisoned her daughters mind against me that in their midst I just feel like a total stranger.

Fynchi:
the worst set of men any lady would ever think of. That's what I'm battling now.
Wicked woman + a dollbaby kinda man.

eyebee01:

I no know o. Maybe (s)he meant permanently

gowonmaharajah:

Why not correct him instead of laughing at his mistake?

Felicity001:

I just tire o which one come be vividly unto the matter na For him mind now he sabi inglis

IgboSomalia:


Aunty, please temper English with mercy.

crackhaus:

Lol...
I believe I would have been the first respondent on the thread... saw it immediately it was published and my intention was to make complete fun of that word choice.

But then I rechecked the moniker & profile, then decided to be nice and just hold my peace.
Too bad you were not so sympathetic.

cococandy:
I’m ready. Where are we going?

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

CSTR2:
If it is the woman family, it can work.

But when the man brings his own family, the wife will pick serious offence.

Especially imo state women.

jakandeola:
u didnt reply me yesterday. its not fair.are we fighting now?

babythug:
As could be expected it could and would likely swing both ways!

There would be peaceful times and surely there would be turbulent times!

If they are older in-laws ie parents in law or older siblings in law the wife would be expected to be quite accepting and tolerant of their excesses. With some younger siblings in law some bull shit may be meted out that the wife May or may not accept.

The family dynamics also play a big role. Depending on how firm or assertive the husband is the in-laws may know where to draw the lines on nonsense behaviour and so on.

The space and size of the house matters! The smaller the space the more likely wires will cross and cause chaos. Resources too could cause issues- wife may wanna serve two meals daily for eg and in-laws feel entitled to three meals .

If a couple have to move in with parents in-law the wife again has to bear the brunt of behaviour modification and adaptation to the processes and procedures of her in-laws

In summary where african/ Nigerian families age involved it’s best avoided as much as is within one’s power.

I have my brother in law here and most times I feel like slapping him. His latest misdemeanour is literally taking over my son’s slippers this is a 35year old( or thereabouts) man and my son is 9 years old .....

Slawormir:

Damnnnnn
Always easy to say now
But when you get married it is a different thing.
Except you don't have young siblings


Sometimes it is easy for someone from the woman's family to stay with couples. There won't be trouble

But if any body from the man family come stay with couples ehnnnnn. Na so so quarrel

bukatyne:


Now you are making me feel bad.

I saw the overly rehashed topic and all that caught my attention was 'vividly'.

Reminded me of D'banj's "Suddenly"

"Suddenly, they are moving in..."

Hahahaha!

They started living vividly suddenly!

Akanbibabatunde:
abi you are living in your in-laws house... you wan come dey twist tori give us... better go hustle

mysteryman2014:

True, tried it and am so sorry.

Mindfulness:
The moment they need to be taken care of due to old age, I will treat them and care for them like I want my husband to treat and care for my own parents. Until then, they can move in into the same neighborhood but it is not necessary we live together in one house.

IyaTola:
They can only come for holidays