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I understand my critics, we are in a free world and I am one of the most tolerant beings alive. I am not a fool to be sharing my family issues here, but for very good reasons. I am learning a lot from the advices.

Now don't judge me yet, since there is a lot you still don't know about my situation.

1. I virtually sponsor the house
2. My husband has not slept with me for over a month (I am never going to cheat FYI)
3. In the past, he sleeps with me through my back, (I am suffering)

4. He has password guarding his smart phones

5. He verbally abuses me often

The above are only a few. I come here often because, apart from my dad, I don't wanna wash my dirty linen to those that know me. Those accusing me of cheating, I have never and will never ever do that, in fact I believe my husband is the one cheating on me. Which husband doesn't want to sleep with his wife through the Vag but back. Which kinda husband uses condom with his wife? Please don't judge me yet, I wish you lived with us. I am trying so hard to save my marriage.

Thanks guys for all the advices

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Alaye, gbe body e sohun.

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Nothing u go talk right now to make u justify ur actions or inactions....

Madam.. You again! Merry Christmas

And you're sending your pictures to another man because u want him to have sex with you through your bobs and vegean. You are not serious.

Photo sender, you again

Preciousgirl:
I understand my critics, we are in a free world and I am one of the most tolerant beings alive. I am not a fool to be sharing my family issues here, but for very good reasons. I am learning a lot from the advices.

Now don't judge me yet, since there is a lot you still don't know about my situation.

1. I virtually sponsor the house
2. My husband has not slept with me for over a month (I am never going to cheat FYI)
3. In the past, he sleeps with me through my back, (I am suffering)

4. He has password guarding his smart phones

5. He verbally abuses me often

The above are only a few. I come here often because, apart from my dad, I don't wanna wash my dirty linen to those that know me. Those accusing me of cheating, I have never and will never ever do that, in fact I believe my husband is the one cheating on me. Which husband doesn't want to sleep with his wife through the Vag but back. Which kinda husband uses condom with his wife? Please don't judge me yet, I wish you lived with us. I am trying so hard to save my marriage.

Thanks guys for all the advices

U have a hole in your back? Which one be back ni?

How about we that didn't bash you? Cause we don't give a flying fucck

Preciousgirl:
I understand my critics, we are in a free world and I am one of the most tolerant beings alive. I am not a fool to be sharing my family issues here, but for very good reasons. I am learning a lot from the advices.

Now don't judge me yet, since there is a lot you still don't know about my situation.

1. I virtually sponsor the house
2. My husband has not slept with me for over a month (I am never going to cheat FYI)
3. In the past, he sleeps with me through my back, (I am suffering)

4. He has password guarding his smart phones

5. He verbally abuses me often

The above are only a few. I come here often because, apart from my dad, I don't wanna wash my dirty linen to those that know me. Those accusing me of cheating, I have never and will never ever do that, in fact I believe my husband is the one cheating on me. Which husband doesn't want to sleep with his wife through the Vag but back. Which kinda husband uses condom with his wife? Please don't judge me yet, I wish you lived with us. I am trying so hard to save my marriage.

Thanks guys for all the advices

hmmm... Such a Trip... Precious Girl.
now your story is starting to look like a sad one.
First of all.
is there any proof for you to use against your husband before you jump into conclusion?

Lol... How about the nice and calm guy that wanted to date you back then??

Guess you ditched him for a 'bad guy' you can change. And besides, was he having anal with you during your courtship??

Auntie, enjoy your marriage ooo. Na wetin fit una be that. Always getting married for the wrong reasons.

I don't understand,do u mean he only does anal sex with u,or get gives u doggy style.which one is sexing from the back

Life na per head.... no body say make you die for the marriage

Madam don't you get tired?

Aunty, go get a divorce and stop disturbing the internet with the consequences of your choice of a life partner.

No random stranger cares. They have their own wahala.

DavidEsq:
U have a hole in your back? Which one be back ni?

lol. I think she meant anal. Nigerians are usually euphemistic.

[quote author=Preciousgirl post=85208318]I understand my critics, we are in a free world and I am one of the most tolerant beings alive. I am not a fool to be sharing my family issues here, but for very good reasons. I am learning a lot from the advices.

Now don't judge me yet, since there is a lot you still don't know about my situation.

1. I virtually sponsor the house
2. My husband has not slept with me for over a month (I am never going to cheat FYI)
3. In the past, he sleeps with me through my back, (I am suffering)

4. He has password guarding his smart phones

5. He verbally abuses me often

The above are only a few. I come here often because, apart from my dad, I don't wanna wash my dirty linen to those that know me. Those accusing me of cheating, I have never and will never ever do that, in fact I believe my husband is the one cheating on me. Which husband doesn't want to sleep with his wife through the Vag but back. Which kinda husband uses condom with his wife? Please don't judge me yet, I wish you lived with us. I am trying so hard to save my marriage.

Thanks guys for all the advices [/quote

Then you should have started with this post but even at that, it's not right as a married woman to be sending her pics to some guy ehn..you should know now.
If you're tired of him as a result of the cheating and abuse (cos me I don't support that back sexing o. Is he gay?) Please kindly divorce him than stay under him and be doing the pics thingy.

So with all the problems we have in Nigeria, you want to add yours to it abi. Madam, don't choke us with your family problem

For the sake of his and your sanity, peace of mind and happiness, the best option is to go your separate ways.
Btw, how long was your courtship? Didn't you notice any of this when you were still courting?

Preciousgirl:
Now don't judge me yet, since there is a lot you still don't know about my situation.
1. I virtually sponsor the house
2. My husband has not slept with me for over a month (I am never going to cheat FYI)
3. In the past, he sleeps with me through my back, (I am suffering)
4. He has password guarding his smart phones
5. He verbally abuses me often

That is where the whole problem is. You sponsor the house.

is this preciousgirl a 16 year old woman nii?

you can still try not to let anyone know abt ur marriage... I believe you are going through alot but you also have to work on ursef!

Bahddo:
lol. I think she meant anal. Nigerians are usually euphemistic.

There's nothing euphy about that

[quote author=Jewessgratitude post=85210837][/quote]She can't try divorce o! Nigerian society is harsh to divorcees! Besides, those guys she is sending pic to will evaporate the moment she becomes a divorcee.

Try counselling. I suspect there is something seriously off.
Condom with his wife?
Does only anal?
Why is he avoiding conception? Or is it that he is unemployed and does not want the burden of family yet?
Anal is supposed to be tighter, so is that she is slack?
Is he a closet gay?
Or is he planning to bail out, so wants no kids with her?
Does he have a secret family somewhere?

Too many issues need to be addressed.

Preciousgirl, you both deserve to be happy, so a calm mind will address these issues better. Keep a cool head and take everything to God in prayer, not some silly manipulating pastor.

And don't flirt around o! For a very sexually active adult,one month of no sex may make your temper a little cranky, but women have better control. Don't go tempting the devil!

Troll get lost

zomoears:
She can't try divorce o! Nigerian society is harsh to divorcees! Besides, those guys she is sending pic to will evaporate the moment she becomes a divorcee.

Try counselling. I suspect there is something seriously off.
Condom with his wife?
Does only anal?
Why is he avoiding conception? Or is it that he is unemployed and does not want the burden of family yet?
Anal is supposed to be tighter, so is that she is slack?
Is he a closet gay?
Or is he planning to bail out, so wants no kids with her?
Does he have a secret family somewhere?

Too many issues need to be addressed.

Preciousgirl, you both deserve to be happy, so a calm mind will address these issues better. Keep a cool head and take everything to God in prayer, not some silly manipulating pastor.

And don't flirt around o! For a very sexually active adult,one month of no sex may make your temper a little cranky, but women have better control. Don't go tempting the devil!

Hmm... Nice one.

Then divorce him , if you are not happy in that marriage.

Stop teaching your female kids that it is okay to be abused by a man.

Stop teaching your male kids that it is okay to abuse a woman.

Your continued stay in that house and enduring it, teaches them something. That it is good to stay.

If all you said is the truth.

I keep saying it.. marriage is for two mature people...
The husband is immature....
Any problem should be addressed amicably..not all this trashy attitude towards his wife...

Kill yourself, we no longer care

The husband is not just gay, he is not committed to the marriage.

I am not certain that the marriage will work.