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Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Emmbanny(m): 2:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
It is time to dust your war room ( prayer room) and start pray often. May God save your marriage in Jesus name. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by tonididdy(m): 2:41am On Dec 30, 2019 |
crackhaus: you be real crack head.... Imagine me burst into laughter at 2am for morning |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by tonididdy(m): 2:50am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Mrsprissy: When I read the first original post by you, I had a mild conclusion in my mind of "Your" kind of character and then reading the second post I made a conclusion which you can call an opinion tho. I think you are BOSSY for a wife. Possibly you make more money than your husband (you don't have to answer to this, just check yourself and see if I am right or not). Your husband spending an extra 1hr in the wardrobe, is unusual of any man who has little or excess of clothes to choose from, that 1hr delay is a time of shame, embarrassment or belittling for him (esp because it happened in front of your kids and possibly you have a grown up kid who is mature enough to make her own reasoning of situations) or he spotted a neighbor or someone who saw the whole "go change your shirt thing", he felt embarrassed and controlled by you again, hence the anger when you bossed him again to take a photo (of which we do not know the tone in which that command went). Do remember that some pidgin English are aggressive compared to good English. take us a photo is different from 'abeg take us picture jor. Well just me and my psychology classes reasoning here. Shalom. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by richie240: 3:34am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Angrymode:I think men are culpable in ds matter. In d process of wooing ladies most men 'devalue' themselves. They stoop so low in d process of making d woman accept them. They lay a false foundation of equality/liberality/submission right from d word 'go', thereby feeding d lady's subconscious with (false) perception of reality: actions they'll discard no sooner they succeed in putting d ring in her finger - thereby leaving the woman confused with d notion that his man has changed from what he was/he used to do prior their wedding. To d men: ** if u know u won't be holding her bags in public/opening the car door for her etc after d wedding so that ppl won't say u are a weakling, then don't fool her with such while courting. **If You know dt kneeling before/to ur wife is unmanly/unafrican then don't indulge her with such dumb acts before d wedding in any guise, be it proposal or worreva! **If u know u are d type who desires respect (every sane man should), don't let ur gf talk to u "anyhow" before she bcoms ur wife. Unfortunately, most he-diots with '3rd legs' will fuulishly condone disrespect from their gf when courting, then frown at same acts when d same lady bcoms their wife. walahi, we men sef no dey try at all! 1 Like
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Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 4:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
tonididdy: This is a good contribution. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 4:27am On Dec 30, 2019 |
SmellingAnus: I hope you wont crack on me when I tell you to go and remove your ripped jeans and faded T-shirt Na important courtship question oo |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by onoja12: 4:47am On Dec 30, 2019 |
In my experince women and the truth do not go hand in hand.women are very misleading and if you follow there mouth you go kill person.so until i hear your husbands account of events before i can comment. Mrsprissy: |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by richie240: 5:31am On Dec 30, 2019 |
: midnighter:Hantie, pls don't corrupt me biko, I'm still 'yung' o when I tell you to go and remove your ripped jeans and faded T-shirt Na important courtship question ooLolz, u may never get a honest answer if a gye digs u. No be (we) men? He wee pretend like he doesn't mind ur bs. Even insult im mama join, na so e go dey smile like imbe.cile. But let im hand touch d tn way e dey find, na dt tyme tory go change. No be man? Abeg, tah! to women: ** pls, do not be carried away by a man's 'sweetness'/liberality/submissiveness when dating o, its all a game to win ur affection. He may tolerate ur excesses and allow u step on his ego while in courtship, but that is where it ends. Know for a fact dt d average man (esp African man) doesn't joke with his ego. Always have D's at d back of ur minds, such DT when he 'changes' after ur wedding to his true 'manly' self, u don't feel something is wrong somewhere. That's his true adamic nature, its civilization that has wrecked (and still wrecking havoc) in relationships. If most ladies realise ds, dr would be less friction in marriages. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by SmellingAnus(m): 6:20am On Dec 30, 2019 |
midnighter:hahahahahha God forbid bad thing I hit any woman in my life... I don't even imagine it... |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by dmarientes(m): 6:28am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Christmas to remember then... |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Japhet31: 6:38am On Dec 30, 2019 |
crackhaus: You really beat me to it... More power to you 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Dshocker(m): 7:14am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Mrsprissy: Did you over bill him for Christmas? |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by ambient: 7:24am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Some people are suffering ooooo.... The only morning quarell i have in my house daily is about choice of cloth,is now like a game,i choose, he wears what i hate(no fashion sense at all) we quarell he wears the one i choose compliment me for the styling and go away.pls marry a sane man. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 7:27am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Even when you tried to take away lots of details in typical lady storytelling fashion, it's easy to see you like telling your husband what to do. It irritates him. It's been pent-up, and finally exploded that day. It's a terrible thing that he'd lash out at you that way, turning violent, instead of talking things out. Simply inexcusable. I'm sure you'd sort things out. When you do, make deliberate efforts to tone down on the control. We know you have opinions, but you can express them without coming across like a queen giving commands. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 7:28am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Bahddo: Please and next thing is to give a wife Christmas beating for irritating his sense of masculinity. Don't make me laff abeg. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 7:37am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:people beat others up for worse reasons, and Christmas is no different from any other day - it's 24hrs long and people still have emotions on that day. There may be right and wrong according to whatever standard, but it hasn't stopped people from committing crime. Your thinking that it's not right wouldn't stop people from doing it. My post is not meant to establish the immorality of the action but to help figure out the reason (since the wife claims not to understand why). It's basic human psychology. There are things that when done repeatedly to you, would make you snap and have your 5 mins of madness. That's his own trigger, we all have ours. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 7:48am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Bahddo: My dear you don't have substantive proof it went out as your imagination is painting an assumed portrait of what happened. Even if so, a man shouldn't beat his wife for such a lousy reason abeg 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Greatfullheart: 7:56am On Dec 30, 2019 |
richie240:that's True Bro, well Said.
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Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by LINTUNE(m): 8:39am On Dec 30, 2019 |
MariaAngeles:u can't do anything OK..hapu iye enako |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 8:44am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:dude, I'm not your dear. That said, let me repeat this tiny detail that flew over heads despite being stated in the post you quoted - I AM NOT HERE TO ARGUE THE MORALITY OF THE ACTION. That is useless small talk that does nothing to enlighten anyone. I'd leave that "It is wrong" mantra for you to chant. We know it isn't right (a man shouldn't beat his wife over something seemingly flimsy), what next? How does that help the op who claims she has no idea why her husband flipped? How does that help the world that is crime infested despite having laws and people eager to define what is reason enough to do stuff? Knowledge is power. If you can figure out why something happens, you have an advantage in your attempt to change it or avoid it. Stop clinging to shallow small talk just because you cannot understand depth. As for having substantive proof, take the matter to a professional psychologist and see if you'd get a totally different diagnosis. You underestimate people and ideas just because you post on the same forum. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 8:45am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Bahddo: Lol emotions. No psychologists make judgements without getting all the facts. Learn to always ask for full information on events before judging. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 8:57am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:Okay. Anything else you'd like to add? |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by pushups44: 8:58am On Dec 30, 2019 |
This is a tough situation because you have kids. It is just not acceptable for a husband to hit a wife like that. I hope you can find a solution to this problem. Violence is just unacceptable. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 9:01am On Dec 30, 2019 |
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Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by pushups44: 9:02am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve: Violence is never acceptable. Any man who hits a woman probably needs a psychologist or a counselor. On the other hand, any woman who is beaten by her husband may want to consider talking to a lawyer. In my view, a man should never hit a woman because there is a way to handle a disagreement without resorting to violence. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by maikalaf(m): 9:06am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Coming from someone who watched his mother maltreated as kid growing up, I'll advice give that man his space. If what you said is true and he's not feeling remorseful about his act, then he needs to be left alone. Lots of men bottle up emotions and won't want to talk about it. The result? They lash it out on their partners on the slightest opportunity. By the way, you said this is the second time he's doing this. What was the cause of the first one? Tell us. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 9:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:lol. Delusions. Someone who attributed the issue to the spiritual is talking about someone else learning. You've gotten the attention you wanted, you can now move your shallow mind to the next post. I don't really enjoy conversations with people who are unable to see patterns, who would rather rant about how something is wrong or 'not ordinary hand' while attributing the 'why' to the spiritual. A world of people like you, and we'd still be arguing about the right way to light a fire with stones. |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 9:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
pushups44: I agree 100% 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by healthserve(m): 9:09am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Bahddo: Whatever. An intelligent monfd never judges on half truths. And I don't bother myself with people who assume spirituality doesn't exist or matter. Trust me. I don't 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Wettoid123: 9:26am On Dec 30, 2019 |
midnighter: So if suppose she was injured with bruises all over her body she would have still attend the party? Abegiiiiiii you women should pick sense! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by midnighter(f): 9:31am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Wettoid123: So is it a medical issue or a self-respect issue? Youre just typing rubbish lol let me free you, this discussion is useless. I thought you were going to explain what I dont know but you succeeded in typing inanity, Bye |
Re: My Husband Beat Me On Christmas Day by Bahddo(m): 10:39am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:nice attempt at a Strawman argument. Refusing to attribute everything to the spiritual is not the same as assuming spirituality does not exist. One would think that's easy for anyone to see. Also, any discerning eye who knows a thing or two about human psychology can tell a lot from as few as two words (not just the what but the how it is said). If you have read the op's posts and are still looking for concrete evidence that the husband finds her regular 'polite' suggestions on what he should wear or do irritating (and would rather believe enemies of their marriage cast a spell on him to act without reason), you have no business mentioning me. We are on different wavelengths. Stick to your shallow waters. Bye. 1 Like |
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