I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

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Sit her down and discuss. She may have been a victim of infidelity. Or she is naturally very jealous(this one is incureable)

Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

Learn how to be firm with decisions. When you decisive people take you for who you are. That didn't start when you got married I'm sure it started before you got married.

This is bad and not sustainable. At some point you have to put your foot down. I suggest after she gives birth you guys have a very long talk. If you have cheated on her before, and she has forgiven you enough to marry you then part of giving you a second chance is to trust you until you prove her wrong again. You guys can’t be doing this, marriage is long.

This is why I can forgive a cheating partner but I can never get back with the person, because I can never trust that person again and it makes for a toxic and draining relationship.

Are you the wife or husband because I don't get why you don't even have a common say in most issues in the house

You have really tried discovering her faults.

The next thing is to study her... Like what are the things that makes her angry? What are the things i do that piss her off? Most importantly, what does she want?

The matrimonial bedroom is not just a sleeping room... Wake her up at night, talk to her solemnly, once again i said solemnly...

As for your chat with your ex Biko, end it "its better to stay off Ex especially when you are married, to prevent Family Palava"

As for driving her to the market, antenatal and church, boss its your RESPONSIBILITY as the husband.

We men only show love to our partner before marriage, once she is in, you find it difficult to continue what you started.

Like I said, yoy have discovered her faults, next is to study her......

After that, next is to wake her up at night, say sweet and emotion capturing words to her, then when she fall for it.... Hit her with the words " Dear, i want to discuss something with you" while you caress her. Talk to her about it, and am sure she will listen.

Women aren't that DIFFICULT you just need to ADJUST a little, so that ONE TROUSER CAN FIT YOU TWO

daddytime:
Lol

Una no date before marriage? You couldn't have missed some of these traits even though some people are good at hiding their true characters while dating.

how am I supposed to know she won't want to learn how to drive on purpose, and if I decide to firm and she jumps bike, accident or miscarriage might happen, I won't forgive myself

You saw all the signs but big breats and round yansh no allow you... My brother carry your cross

she loves u so much mehn, I wish for such a loving jealous wife, she only want u for her self alone...endure it and try turning it into fun, laugh at her when she do those things and let her know u love her and won't cheat on her...u can device a fun means of cajoling her whenever she act up

Cheato64:
how am I supposed to know she won't want to learn how to drive on purpose, and if I decide to firm and she jumps bike, accident or miscarriage might happen, I won't forgive myself

I can imagine..

doitforyou:
This is bad and not sustainable. At some point you have to put your foot down. I suggest after she gives birth you guys have a very long talk. If you have cheated on her before, and she has forgiven you enough to marry you then part of giving you a second chance is to trust you until you prove her wrong again. You guys can’t be doing this, marriage is long.

This is why I can forgive a cheating partner but I can never get back with the person, because I can never trust that person again and it makes for a toxic and draining relationship.

I have never cheated on her before and after marriage, just that I still have the phone number of my ex and we watched a movie Okafor's law together. She so much believe in that movie, now back to the trust issue

LOGOBELT:
You have really tried discovering her faults.

The next thing is to study her... Like what are the things that makes her angry? What are the things i do that piss her off? Most importantly, what does she want?

The matrimonial bedroom is not just a sleeping room... Wake her up at night, talk to her solemnly, once again i said solemnly...

As for your chat with your ex Biko, end it "its better to stay off Ex especially when you are married, to prevent Family Palava"

As for driving her to the market, antenatal and church, boss its your RESPONSIBILITY as the husband.

We men only show love to our partner before marriage, once she is in, you find it difficult to continue what you started.

Like I said, yoy have discovered her faults, next is to study her......

After that, next is to wake her up at night, say sweet and emotion capturing words to her, then when she fall for it.... Hit her with the words " Dear, i want to discuss something with you" while you caress her. Talk to her about it, and am sure she will listen.

Women aren't that DIFFICULT you just need to ADJUST a little, so that ONE TROUSER CAN FIT YOU TOO

bro are you married? Women are not easy as you think oooo, how is it my responsibilities, I go to antenatal I see most women if not all coming by themselves.

Na wa for all of una fa! If its not wife wahala, it would be husband trouble! Why? No happily ever after tale? Make una let us hear word biko!

Mean while, I dont know what to type regarding your issue...apologies

You missed the part where you cheated on her probably before marriage or after hence why she’s acting this way. No woman is going to behave like this out of nowhere.

sisisioge:


Na wa for all of una fa! If its not wife wahala, it would be husband trouble! Why? No happily ever after tale? Make una let us hear word biko!

Mean while, I dont know what to type regarding your issue...apologies

when u see a guy who want to love and tresure ur heart u begin to play wit him.u ask if his fine.if his rich or can speak English den u miss it.why a girl who is more wise and despirate see d man and marry him.dey are in love and live happily forever why ur in pains.

jakandeola:
when u see a guy who want to love and tresure ur heart u begin to play wit him.u ask if his fine.if his rich or can speak English den u miss it.why a girl who is more wise and despirate see d man and marry him.dey are in love and live happily forever why ur in pains.

But Jakande, why are you so daft bayi? Why not fvcking leave me alone! Screw you assssszhole!

U get luck Say u no marry witch, by now you for no get HAND to use TYPE.

It's always better the LADY loves you more than you LOVE her.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic, she always claim she trust me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her site, I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refuse to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go. She goes through my phone every 3days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she insist we sleep with light on, Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4. I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she will might go to my parents which I wouldn't want. Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

all this whining half men sef...na wa for men of nowadays ooo.

nero2face:
she loves u so much mehn, I wish for such a loving jealous wife, she only want u for her self alone...endure it and try turning it into fun, laugh at her when she do those things and let her know u love her and won't chest on her...u can device a fun means of cajoling her whenever she act up

easier said than done...those behaviors are very annoying.

Cheato64:
how am I supposed to know she won't want to learn how to drive on purpose, and if I decide to firm and she jumps bike, accident or miscarriage might happen, I won't forgive myself

u sound like a wussy...as a man,u have got to be firm and be in control of your marriage...geez!

olabrinks:
You missed the part where you cheated on her probably before marriage or after hence why she’s acting this way. No woman is going to behave like this out of nowhere.

I have never cheated on her before and after wedding but I can see this is hard to believe but faithful men exist

olril17:

u sound like a wussy...as a man,u have got to be firm and be in control of your marriage...geez!

am firm but but don't want to be to hard and make an irreversible mistake

Cheato64:
am firm but but don't want to be to hard and make an irreversible mistake

you have to be hard when u have to be hard..women spots men weakspot and take them for granted

Cheato64:
bro are you married? Women are not easy as you think oooo, how is it my responsibilities, I go to antenatal I see most women if not all coming by themselves.

So u think that men who don't attend antenatal with their wives are doing the right thing?
Men are meant to go to antenatal with their pregnant wives!

A man that fixed my dish one time said that he alone took care of his wife and 3 kids that crucial first few months. That post pregnancy bath etc he did it.
A full blooded Nigerian man!
It is your responsibility.
Not mother inlaw or house maids.
Guess where he learnt what to do, at antenatal class.

nero2face:
she loves u so much mehn, I wish for such a loving jealous wife, she only want u for her self alone...endure it and try turning it into fun, laugh at her when she do those things and let her know u love her and won't chest on her...u can device a fun means of cajoling her whenever she act up

Jealous women are scorned women

I pray u don't make one ur partner coz I can't even describe how your life will be

Well, If your wife is a listening type, please engage in a heart to heart discussion. Let her know you aren't comfortable with the drama, if she's sensible, she will adjust with time.

If dialogue can't solve, then apply a little firmness. If she smashes your phone next time, let her replace it, if her intrusion is much, give her space. People sometimes tend to receive sense, when their excesses is challenged.

However, if you married an Instagram slay queen, well, you would have to live with it and prepare your mind for more exciting drama.

I wish you the best sir.

sassysure:

So u think that men who don't attend antenatal with their wives are doing the right thing?
Men are meant to go to antenatal with their pregnant wives!

A man that fixed my dish one time said that he alone took care of his wife and 3 kids that crucial first few months. That post pregnancy birth etc he did it.
A full blooded Nigerian man!
It is your responsibility.
Not mother inlaw or house maids.
Guess where he learnt what to do, at antenatal class.

Your hubby did same for you?

Cheato64:
The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I'm laughing but this is actually quite serious. I would be scared if a man is behaving like this. She has anger issues and she doesn't trust you. Seek therapy together, pls. Good luck.

Inasmuch as you have identified those her trait what have you on your own part to avert such scenario, her not willing to let you off her sight could have been what you have projected into her cognitive domain thus her assumption lifestyle..


NB. Hope still in sight never reason running away, on new year day take your whole family out to a cool atmosphere enjoy your day las las go home and talk with her if need be reassure her of your commitment.

Emodeee:






Your hubby did same for you?

Yes o.
Everything u can think off.
He didn't go to antenatal during my first pregnancy. I didnt go at all but all the hospital visits he was there asking questions. Subsequent, he attended.

I only talked about the pregnancy and antenatal.
But, I can as well talk about her obsession.
Either that 1, she is afraid she will lose you as she never expected somebody like u will come her way,
2, she has insecurity problem. Refer to 1. People she trusted has been disappointing her.
3, she has low self esteem, still refer to 1.
And u are making her fear come true by contacting your ex.
As for the aggression, refer to her background.
In all its about, communication, assurance and promise.

Good luck.