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Michellekabod2:
it may be his wife,the possibility is 50%. Don't write it off as completely false so you are not guilty of prejudice displayed by bratislava and some others who have made her tale automatically true. So don't write the alleged wife tale as false

Martinez39:
Strungup79, a woman just created a moniker claiming to be your wife. Despite the fact that your account is new, you have only few posts, and your identity is unknown, a new moniker somehow recognised that you are her husband Here is her reply, please respond.



The girls on this thread have all jumped in, as expected, to support and believe your "wife" because they so much love their narrative that men are the abusive beasts while women are the angels and victims of oppression and abuse from men. I would be surprised if the account claiming to be your "wife" was cooked up by these silly bimbos.

Funny how they are projecting themselves on men saying we like crying victim and we have some male agenda.


Ilekokonit, Korllami007, uninspired07,

BRATISLAVA:
SMH. The man was lying. Accept it. It's suddenly a female narrative. The brainwashing has been completed in this one.
Continue the misogyny. Maybe when you're 50 you will change your mind and suddenly want to get married and have children in a sane relationship because, you know, sperm lives on forever.

funmisticqueen:
uncle go and read the wife's post, it's on page 30

Martinez39:
Na so. I know you are referring to me. Strungup79 has a very new account, he has few posts and his identity is unknown yet, somehow, a new moniker recognised him as her husband. I won't be surprised if that the account was created by one of the nairaland bimbos (maybe you) to give credence to the narrative that women are compassionate angels and victims who can do no wrong while men are beasts. The desperation to validate such narrative is really good intense. Nothing can spoil the red-pill seeds planted on this thread and men must begin to see women for what they are.

Strungup79, I hope you respond.

galadima77:
Are you it's page 30? Can't find it

Martinez39:
Na so. I know you are referring to me. Strungup79 has a very new account, he has few posts and his identity is unknown yet, somehow, a new moniker recognised him as her husband. I won't be surprised if that the account was created by one of the nairaland bimbos (maybe you) to give credence to the narrative that women are compassionate angels and victims who can do no wrong while men are beasts. The desperation to validate such narrative is really good intense. Nothing can spoil the red-pill seeds planted on this thread and men must begin to see women for what they are.

Strungup79, I hope you respond.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Tarela007:
It’s usually funny when it’s not happening to you, you sound like one that have never been married so it’s logical for you to say shit !!!! She ain’t loyal and lacks deep respect for her man ... this are tr reasons many men feel insecure when their wife’s are calling the shot !

BRATISLAVA:
You are doing exactly the same thing. You mentioned me but forgot to mention yourself, Phoenix and Martin. Forementioned have twisted this thread to make it that the man said the truth even when his wife gave her "own side of the story". Prejudice. From you. Not me.

Michellekabod2:
it may be his wife,the possibility is 50%. Don't write it off as completely false so you are not guilty of prejudice displayed by bratislava and some others who have made her tale automatically true. So don't write the alleged wife tale as false

BRATISLAVA:
When confronted with a situation in which the man has been proven to lie, you must fall back on the default.

MGTOW lessons. The RP brainwashing. Need I say more?

Michellekabod2:
lol...when a story is posted by a NLander,whether male or female,I respond based on the Op narration. It has never been based on popular stereotypes or peddled beliefs that all women are gold diggers or all men are rapists. I don't classify an entire gender based on such stereotypes because not all women or men are the Same. I am open minded to a swap in whoever the victim may be. If a lady tells me a man milks her financially, I will not doubt. If a man tells me a woman raped him,I will not doubt.

But you,you doubted the OP tale because he is man and involved a straw man. And when the alleged wife tale comes in its completely true to you .When I saw the wife narrative I gave both a benefit of doubt and adviced they both look inwards for the fault. So who is the guilty of prejudice here?
Phoenix reacted based on what he read,and now he has seen another perspective he takes a neutral stand but you even with what you saw then you still brought in prejudice.

When Martinez made a conclusion on all female gender,I called him out. I have also told him to not write the woman off as false in case you didn't see it.

That's the problem I have with people on this forum, when an issue is brought out instead of advicing they use that forum to start throwing woman-hating and men-,hating post that they forget the issue at hand,they use any opportunity to pin down a gender with their own conceptions or hate without facing the issue at hand

funmisticqueen:
immediately she replied, people told him to go home and settle with his wife

Martinez39:
So this proves that the account is his wife's? I have reasons to suspect that the one of you girls on this thread is behind that account. I understand that you all love the narrative that op's wife is not at fault or isn't the problem and all blame must be on the op somehow. The new account is crying victim and betrayal in typical fashion and is trying to turn the tables on the op and give girls on this thread a confirmation of their misandric bias and something to masturbate to on this thread.

Rigel95:
So, some people could go as far as creating an alternate to impersonate the wife, even write a compelling rebuttal, to what end??
People are really sick o!

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn.

My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home.

Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming.

My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.

My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible.

We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge.

She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect.

She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her.

Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

funmisticqueen:
look I never said that the wife said the gospel, I was merely happy that she has replied and PAINTS A DIFFERENT STORY. I wasn't even against op from the start. I told him very bluntly what I thought

funmisticqueen:
look ehn, let's agree to disagree. I am dehydrated and having gastroenteritis at the moment

Chikicaka:
You go girl, one piece of advice, as much as you use whatever pain he may have caused to propel your hustle, never let "peppering" him be your major driving force, because revenge is for the Lord, karma would catch up with him herself and when you finally get to the point you dream of you may have no more ginger because getting back at him was the sole purpose for your intense hustle, for example in my case my driving force was my parents esp my sweet mama, I needed her to enjoy and my future kids I needed them to know mama is no push over but a boss chick...

Rigel95:
Hello, I'm in need of knowing about this business please. I'm more or less the first born in my family now. So much responsibilities on me

funmisticqueen:
really?!

midnighter:
I know you followed it with "some ladies" to qualify your statement but the actual stance in itself was wrong.

Is it "dont marry just for wealth" or "avoid wealthy women"? Those are 2 different things.

BRATISLAVA:
I just knew my instincts were right. You see all the men that cry foul? They're usually lying. They're pushing some male agenda. Nobody asked for the woman's side, they all began to tell him to leave.

I told him that his wife was not a bad person and that he had other issues with her that he was refusing to disclose. I told him that he was hallucinating everything which he denied. He even accused me of sounding like his wife. Lol


That MGTOW red pill acolyte that goes to any thread with men to condemn women had better retrace his steps because he and all male OPs are liars. Today we had a dose of the truth behind every emasculation.

Teerach:
Op sorry bout ur marital situation. One or two Nigeria dad has always been in ur situation. My dad was no exception. My mom doesn't smile when it comes to cash n painted n still paint my dad pretty bad. Turning us against him. But we knew better. Lol. Everyone of us love my dad way more than her. We give him things more before we give her. Because the truth always reveals itself. Your kids won't turn against you. They may not listen to u now cos of fear of her. Don't fret cos they know what's going on.
My dad paid our fees n would give us the little he had without complaining. Mom would always nag n paint him bad. They are separated though. Money issue separated them. Just exactly as ur wife is doing. Lol. Mind you I'm a Lady. I've sworn never to thread that part n I've kept to my word cos I know what it feels like coming from a broken home.
My advice, just separate from her for the main time. Be responsible to your kids. Pick yourself again.
Ur even lucky. My dad retired n while he was waiting to be paid, she started treating him badly. Wouldn't give him food bla bla bla. He zoomed off when he collected his gratuity. But he kept check for monthly feeding because she refused to relocate with him. She goes about telling anyone who cares to listen that he didn't give her a dime which is a lie. Even now, she's financially better than him cos she didn't contribute a dime to anything that concerns him or we the kids. But as God would have it, we visit her Dec n other holidays, but my dad gets the cash from us while she gets our presence more. Every one sibling work with the mindset that she has cash so she doesn't need ours. We give our dad rather.

Truthwillout:
I am Strungup79's wife and I have watched the drama here unfold in silence. Here is a copy of a message I just sent my husband on WhatsApp. I hope it will put things in clearer light.

I'll try to keep this brief. I started this year on a sour note, crying bitterly. Because of you total strangers called me bitch and all sorts of unprintable names. Some even went as far as saying I was diabolical and ¹reversed your fortunes with juju, and you basked in it all, all because of the lies you told them. You have repeatedly told your siblings the same lies. I emasculate you. Really? I emaaculate you yet i led my colleagues, our neighbours and practically everyone I know to believe that you are the breadwinner and doing a marvellous job. I emasculate you, yet when the rent needs to be paid, I pay it into your account first just so no one will know. I earn good money but no one knows it because everything goes into running this family. I don't save a dime. I NEVER complained about you not working these past 4 or 5 years. You complained about me spending a lot of time at my mum's place. I do that so that I can avoid the endless streams of alterations with you, and for other reasons I'll spare everyone here.

Every single time you bring this up, I reassure you that all I want is the best for you. I encourage you, fast and pray for you, yet I'm a bad wife. You actually called our daughter and told her I am a bad wife. She cried her eyes out when she told me all the nasty things you told her. I have never in the 10 years we've been married said anything disparaging to her about you despite your many short comings. You put me through hell and I just take in stride.

You also told your fans I had nothing when you married me. I had a job and I wasn't doing badly. In fact I practically funded our wedding with the help of my family. I could go on forever. Or is it the fact that you used to leave the house for days on end without communication, leaving me to wonder if you met with some misfortune or something. How many times did i show up at your office haggard and scared early in the morning just to confirm you are alright? I actually wear my younger sister's hand me downs just to save enough to keep this family going.

Your siblings all believe I am a bad person thanks to the endless lies you've told them and I've borne it all. During your last visit, you complained about the fact that I always seemed unhappy and heckled and I explained to you the stress I am under. Our rent is due. Our daughter's fees of over a hundred thousand needs to be paid. Utility bills, feeding...these are some of the burdens I have to deal with. I explained how burdened I felt. I also explained that having to clean up after you constantly worsens my stress. While you were here, I battled insomnia for almost two weeks straight, without compassion or help. I could fill a page with all that is wrong with this marriage. It's never you. You are perfect and righteous and I am a wicked woman. We quarrel like every husband and wife and regardless of whether it's my fault or not, I apologise so that peace will reign. I have suffered humiliation at your hands but you go around damaging my character so people will pity you. Guess what? The truth cannot be hidden. It may take time, but it will come out. I take solace in that.

I will beat my chest and tell you that no woman on this earth will bear what I bore at your hands or care for you like I have. Since you are so unhappy, I think you should take out time and find yourself. I also need time to pray and to heal from this emotional trauma, so please let's give ourselves a year at least to decide what to do next. I wish you the best.

funmisticqueen:
uncle don't direct your hate at me. The wife has replied already and turns out op is lying about some things. Go to page 30

BRATISLAVA:
When confronted with a situation in which the man has been proven to lie, you must fall back on the default.

MGTOW lessons. The RP brainwashing. Need I say more?