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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by GeneralPula: 11:58am On Jan 02, 2020
Asaro
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Rityonyi(f): 11:59am On Jan 02, 2020
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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by bimgo: 11:59am On Jan 02, 2020
Capital yes
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by pansophist(m): 11:59am On Jan 02, 2020
Audio prophet.

You'll bring more problem to yourself engaging those prophet, because for them to be relevance, they need to find a problem to solve so you can engage in their services to extort money from you.

If you and your girlfriend have been together for years, them it is a statistical probability that you'll be with her for years more to come, especially when you both have familiarity and willing to work for your marriage. Think for yourself, you do not need any external validation, especially from prophets, pastors, alfas, soothsayer, to dictate your marriage.

I'm sure you paid them as well, and will pay more with any further interactions with them. Bros, use your head, everybody na hustler, pastors and prophet included.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by 9jamag(m): 11:59am On Jan 02, 2020
Lol
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by linqzs: 12:00pm On Jan 02, 2020
No
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Ishilove: 12:00pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...
When you pray and heaven is silent, pause. Keep praying because silence in the spirit is itself an answer.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Rogersmith(m): 12:01pm On Jan 02, 2020
There is. Op, don’t mind people telling you there’s nothing like that. However, I don’t do prophecy from prophets. I will advise you to pray about it fervently. Avoid sexual activities. The Holy Spirit will reveal it to you. Don’t allow emotions to cloud your judgement. Not all that glitters is gold. There are cases of couples after dating for several years got married and divorced within five years of marriage. Forget the qualities you are seeing now people change after marriage neither positive or negative change.
Op, God will see you through. Please pray! I repeat pray!

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by bimgo: 12:02pm On Jan 02, 2020
There is ,who no know no go know
Opinedecandid:
NO.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by obowunmi(m): 12:03pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks

There is NO such thing. We have FREEWILL. You decide, you choose.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by atimadesign(m): 12:03pm On Jan 02, 2020
My dear,Pray for God's direction in getting a life's partner... If you marry the wrong spouse, you will lack peace and fulfilment, You will drain from HERO to ZERO. grin cool tongue

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Stanzar7: 12:04pm On Jan 02, 2020
Amanee:
Op just do your due diligence, don't allow a prophet or some family members do it for you. You are the one that would be married to her not them

I can't believe people will ask a prophet or prophetess before getting married.. Like WTF is her to tel me who to marry. Can't the op pray, fast and seek the face of God. ..
People shaa

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Drhighchief11: 12:04pm On Jan 02, 2020
Ask spiff...
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Stanzar7: 12:05pm On Jan 02, 2020
obowunmi:


There is NO such thing. We have FREEWILL. You decide, you choose.

Bro if u find peace in her. Just go ahead. Humans r controversial being. They will always look for one ting to say just to make themselves higher being than u..

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by odogwu9(m): 12:05pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks

You love her - Yes. She loves you- Yes.. Does she have the fear of God. Does she make you happy. Does she or has she added value to your life. If your answer is yes to all these questions. Pls marry her as soon as possible. Do court wedding. No one is perfect. No perfect man or woman. God didn't choose eve for Adam. God presented Eve to Adam and Adam accepted. God doesn't choose our spouses. He can only show us potentials. We choose. My brother choose your headache by yourself.. Don't choose another person's headache because na u go dey take the panadol . Marry her.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by kachistone: 12:06pm On Jan 02, 2020
OP, there is no scriptural evidence for a destined wife or husband.
It is one of the erroneous doctrines that have crept into Christianity and many people magnify it.

I hope you are born again and you and the lady in question are not into any sexual relationship yet?

Now, I will address you as a Christian which I am and these are what I will advice

1. Is she a genuine born again
2. Is she godly
3. Does she have good characters
4. Do you love her
5. Are you at peace being around her
6. Is she someone you will want to spend the rest of your life with

Do not allow anybody prophesy your wife to you.
I believe in prophecy and I am a son of a Prophet but there is no place in the Bible that someone's wife or husband was prophesied to him or her.

Mind you, both of you must be compatible in belief and spirituality

And pray to God

Once you have peace with her, my brother proceed.

As for those that say only one person is destined for you ask them this question

What if the destined person dies before you marry her?

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Stanzar7: 12:06pm On Jan 02, 2020
pansophist:
Audio prophet.

You'll bring more problem to yourself engaging those prophet, because for them to be relevance, they need to find a problem to solve so you can engage in their services to extort money from you.

If you and your girlfriend have been together for years, them it is a statistical possibility that you'll be with her for years more to come, especially when you both have familiarity and willing to work for your marriage. Think for yourself, you do not need any external validation, especially from prophets, pastors, alfas, soothsayer, to dictate your marriage.

I'm sure you paid them as well, and will pay more with any interactions with them. Bros, use your head, everybody na hustler, pastors and prophet included.

Will he hear
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by lucky4west: 12:08pm On Jan 02, 2020
you must first of all know your stand in Christ, i hope you are dating without committing sin because that alone has jeopardized your personal relationship with Jesus...secondly once u are sure you are born again, spirit-filled ask God for direction he created you and "help meet" for you if she is the right choice you will know and if the people you consulted are genuine you will know as well...but if it is muddled up in sin and physical desires you may get it wrong and again if you are not genuinely tuned to God any one with a familiar spirit can manipulate you and eventually torment you to make you believe the hardship is as a result of your insistence on marrying the lady despite warnings...no genuine man of God will encourage you to continue to date a lady without first telling you the consequences of sin and leading you to Christ...it is seek first the kingdom of God...

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by zuto4u(m): 12:12pm On Jan 02, 2020
Well spoken my dear. Op, go to God in prayers and he will show you the special woman specially created for you, just as he did for me.
Tab4kids:
If everyone starts listening to every Tom dick and Harry that come as prophets or whatever seeing "vision" of only bad thing, then we might just not live out gods plan and purpose for our lives.

That was how a former uni friend, who was coincidentally pregnant with two of her sisters at the same time, told me how one prophetess said one of them would die during childbirth. Can u imagine... Well the three sisters are alive today with their bundlea of joy.

Op u have mouth and I I want to believe you also have the fear of God in you. Go on your knees yourself and ask God to show you if the lady is the right person to u. Don't let anybody do the communication with God for you

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by DidiLove1: 12:13pm On Jan 02, 2020
Religion - messing up Nigerians since 1600

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Khalidase83(m): 12:14pm On Jan 02, 2020
Boss pls if u truly love her, then go ahead and marry her now. If u leave her and perhaps find another lady, how sure the same "prophets/prophetess" won't also say u ain't destined for each other?? And the circle continues. Besides, y can't the same God speak to u directly or do the prophets have monopoly of hearing from God!

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by 400billionman: 12:14pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks


TELL THEM TO GO AND BRING YOUR DESTINED WIFE.

When you see her and like her, then you will leave this one.

Use a higher wisdom on them.

WITCHES and WIZARDS.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by eteforlor(m): 12:17pm On Jan 02, 2020
Marry someone that gives you joy. Forget about fake professes

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Ramanto(m): 12:17pm On Jan 02, 2020
Priceyk:
Walahi all na wash,there is nothing like destined partner my brother.Most of those prophets and prophetess are agents of Satan.They are not seeing any nada.
That was how one of my bro wife went to pray about the person she was dating before she got married to my bro and the prophets told her the guy was going to die soon.10 years now the bobor is still alive and very successful.She wished she never listen to the man and left the guy cos she is not really enjoying her marriage with my brother.Just go on your knees and ask God for directions.
You don't seem to get the prophet's logic. The guy would only die soon if he married the lady who is now your brother's wife.

BTW, I don't believe in anybody telling me about the future. It's a major sin seeking to know what the future holds. The knowledge of the future belongs to God alone.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by CzarChris(m): 12:17pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks
Well, proverbs 19:14(KJV) says that "Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the LORD."
So just pray and ask for God's guidance, the quest for a wife is not a joke, I know exactly what it's like. Ask yourself a question, if the romance between the two of you dies(which will always happen), can or better still, will you still be comfortable having her around you as a partner for life?

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by victorian(f): 12:18pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks







Don't take it lightly.
If both parties say she's not your wife? Then please be patient, cut off from her and pray God makes the path of you and your real wife to meet and marry.

Although I don't believe in destined wife or destined husband. I believe in if I marry this man, are we growing old together? Would our marriage last forever? Will he stand by me till we grow old and die? And are we going to be fruitful,as in be able to have children together?
These are things I pray and seek answers for.

Lemme give u a short true life story.
There was a guy a banker last 6years ago, who wanted to marry me. We were best of friends. He supports me in everything and we love each other. Within 6months, he proposed.. I was so happy!
He wanted to see my mom, my dad was late then.
Quickly I told my mom, my mom said Vicky u guys cannot marry.
I cried and said mom but why. She said he's not your husband. You can't marry him.
I told him, he came to see my mom, he pleaded and all, but mom said sorry you can't marry my daughter, and that's the end.

I know my mom, she's spiritual. And for her to say no, means no.

We stopped dating, I cut off from him, then in few months he called me to his office and introduce me to a lady who looks like me. He said that's his wife, as I don't want him. He truly loves me, he has to look for someone similar to my looks. I and the babe greeted each other, I said no problem, he can go ahead and marry her. They got married
After two years my mom died. Then after 4 years I remembered him, I said lemme check on my friend and how they are doing

His wife picked his call ,I Introduce myself and guess what she said.

She said he's dead!

I was like what? Dead how? Where are u staying? Lemme come. See u. She said she's squatting with her friend and it's better we talk on phone. Her husband family threw her out of their matrimonial home .

She was crying on the phone and she explained how they got married. He was promoted immediately they got married, he became very rich! He completed his first house in ikorodu, then was about rounding up his duplex home in Lekki, when he was attacked with stroke.

She battled with his illness for one year with his family members , before he gave up.

His family quickly accused her and said she killed him. She wants to inherit his properties. That's how they threw her out with her kid.
She really suffered
She vowed she will never evermarry again.

Very beautiful lady, up till today she still insist in-laws and people are wicked. She will never marry and men are always wooing her on facebook. But she says no.


I then realise why mom said no , we cannot marry


So Op, it's possible she may not live long. But they won't tell you. Or maybe if u guys marry, u won't be as successful as u are meant to be. It's either of the two.

So please pray about it and let God also reveal to you. Marriage is no child's play

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by PointZerom: 12:19pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

If a prophet tells you that you need deliverance and he can't deliver you, such prophet is fake.
Why didn't she show you your so called destined wife?

I want to give you an assignment...

Take a picture of dead person to that prophetess, tell her that this person was arrested by the police and charged to court on the allegation that he's an armed robber. Tell her to to tell you more about the person in the picture... you will see how fake that prophetess is.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Dayoara: 12:19pm On Jan 02, 2020
Sincerely, when it comes to choosing a life partner,it's a two ways to this issue .
1. Instructive way
2. Permissive way

Instructive way is a method of getting divine instruction from God directly or through a real servant of God..and the instruction and guide in making a rightful choice of life partner...to be contnd

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by kachistone: 12:20pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

OP
I wish I could see you and talk to you

The thing is this, God leads everyone in different ways. Some see visions, others hear audible voices, some get Angelic visitations while others are led by impressions and a still small voice.

The truth is man naturally wants something dramatic like hearing an audible voice accompanied with thunder or getting an angelic visitation.

However, none supercedes the other.

God spoke to Elijah (a mighty prophet in the Bible through a still small voice. That's after earthquake and fire). See the excerpt below from 1Kings 19:11-13

1 Kings 19:11-13 (KJV) And he said, Go forth, and stand upon the mount before the LORD. And, behold, the LORD passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the LORD; but the LORD was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the LORD was not in the earthquake:
And after the earthquake a fire; but the LORD was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.
And it was so, when Elijah heard it, that he wrapped his face in his mantle, and went out, and stood in the entering in of the cave. And, behold, there came a voice unto him, and said, What doest thou here, Elijah?

OP my advice to you is this go on a retreat and just pray to God.

Do you even read the Bible self?

OP by now, you are supposed to know how God relates with you. This is the reason you are having issues concerning this and you are tossed by the words of people.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by PointZerom: 12:22pm On Jan 02, 2020
Dayoara:
Sincerely, when it comes to choosing a life partner,it's a two ways to this issue .
1. Instructive way
2. Permissive way

Instructive way is a method of getting divine instruction from God directly or through a real servant of God..and the instruction and guide in making a rightful choice of life partner...to be contnd


There's nothing like instructive way.

We only have PERFECT WILL and PERMISSIVE WILL of God.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by ScotMisile: 12:27pm On Jan 02, 2020
Yes ooo, if you miss her, you miss 50 percent of your destiny.

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