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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by zyzxx(m): 2:16pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...
bro dont get your self confused at all, when it comes to marriage physical is also as much important as spiritual.
If you are OK with your fiance, that you guiz are compatible...
Tell the prophets to tell you what is wrong and what can be done, if not they should hold their peace
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by deeva1: 2:16pm On Jan 02, 2020
Priceyk:
Walahi all na wash,there is nothing like destined partner my brother.Most of those prophets and prophetess are agents of Satan.They are not seeing any nada.
That was how one of my bro wife went to pray about the person she was dating before she got married to my bro and the prophets told her the guy was going to die soon.10 years now the bobor is still alive and very successful.She wished she never listen to the man and left the guy cos she is not really enjoying her marriage with my brother.Just go on your knees and ask God for directions.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by sosospence(m): 2:17pm On Jan 02, 2020
aoshea18:


Have you considered that perhaps you marrying him would have changed his destiny and he'd still be alive today? He probably rushed into that marriage and who knows what signs he ignored because he wanted someone like you.
May God bless you for this comment.My Ex told me a similar story and I replied it was just a coincidence.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by CosmicJames(m): 2:18pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...
Don't be afraid. Don't allow anybody to destroy your life and happiness via prophecies and visions you didn't ask for?

Do the right thing and you will be fine.
The innocent girl in question have not offended you in any way.

What will be your reason for not marrying her? Oh, just because someone said she's not the one? That's a very terrible mistake!
And you will live the rest of your life in regrets, sorrow and pains.

When it comes to marriage, there is only one advice to follow -- Marry who someone that have the fear of God.

If is only when you fail to follow the above advice that you will land yourself in some big trouble.

If your girl have the fear of God, then you are in the right direction. Don't be afraid. Wife her she will do you good forever.

If she doesn't have the fear of God, don't marry her. She will hurt you later.

This is the Biblical principles for marriage.

Forget anything else.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by bezimo(m): 2:21pm On Jan 02, 2020
Yes....There is what is called permissible will of God (You are a Christian and she is a christian) as God would have his children ONLY marry fellow believers...but that's not enough.

There is what is called absolute will of God..that is among the believers..the one God will have you marry...so your destiny will not be a misfit...nothing frustrate a man's destiny like been married to the wrong woman...Even A pastor can lose his dIvine calling sef when aligned to the wrong woman....it's that bad.I have seen and heard plenty such cases.I have seen a man called out by prophesy who abandoned the girl he was dating who was God's will for him to marry a finer girl who was not God's will for him..his frustration and suffer in that marriage..no be here..so there is God's will in marriage...

A popular man of God in Abuja asked God why is it that there are so many challenges in marriage these days even worse in the church and God said..did they ask me before they married? so he kept quiet....the answer got me seriously thinking...that if you marry outside God's will. ..you are totally on your own..anything you see..is your portion.Lol




I was listening to someone who crossed from the other side into the light..and exposing some of the hidden mysteries about marriage and women..and he said there are 2 categories of women.
Dry leaf women and the favoured woman...if you marry dry leaf woman. .you own is finished for life. .your life will keep going down with nothing to show..but if you marry favoured woman. .you don blow..small effort from you will produce big as long as you keep her happy.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by IAMTHEHERO: 2:22pm On Jan 02, 2020
aoshea18:


Have you considered that perhaps you marrying him would have changed his destiny and he'd still be alive today? He probably rushed into that marriage and who knows what signs he ignored because he wanted someone like you.
God bless you for this comment. You took the exact words from my mouth.Partner(s) can change your destiny for good or bad. She would have delivered this man from untimely death, since her mum was strong spiritually.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by yusman14(m): 2:23pm On Jan 02, 2020
missidy:
You won't get any revelation if you are sexually active. The Holy spirit is a clean spirit and he won't show you anything if you are having sex. That said, please run away from prophets. They specialize in scaterring homes with their vision. My family is a clear example. Everytime someone wants to marry, there must always be that family member that will be against it.
You know the person you are dating, nobody else will live with her except you so make the decision yourself.

so sex don't allow the holy spirit to reign
That means married couples can't have holy spirit
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Tywo2018: 2:24pm On Jan 02, 2020
As inscribed...

Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by joyandfaith: 2:26pm On Jan 02, 2020
DidiLove1:
Religion - messing up Nigerians since 1600

it is not religion but ignorance
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by lovchalice(f): 2:27pm On Jan 02, 2020
Now I believe in destined partner. I dated a man for 4years and he kept postponing marriage. Prophets kept telling me he was my husband, although I'm not the type that consults them deliberately. At times a man of God can see me and start prophesying.
Later I met another that proposed instantly. Along the line, I became pregnant, come and hear stories. I wanted to commit suicide. At the end of it all, it's my ex that I abandoned that's taking care of me and has decided to adopt the baby and still marry me. All along he was my destined husband. One morning a neighbor ran to my room and said her roommate is prophesying about me that I should come and listen. When I got to her room, the first question she asked was, why did you leave the husband I prepared for you and choose another for yourself. It was scary

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by paul100(m): 2:28pm On Jan 02, 2020
yusman14:
so sex don't allow the holy spirit to reign
That means married couples can't have holy spirit
He is referring to fornication(sex between people that are not married)

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by joyandfaith: 2:28pm On Jan 02, 2020
bezimo:
Yes....There is what is called permissible will of God (You are a Christian and she is a christian) as God would have his children ONLY marry fellow believers...but that's not enough.

There is what is called absolute will of God..that is among the believers..the one God will have you marry...so your destiny will not be a misfit...nothing frustrate a man's destiny like been married to the wrong woman...Even A pastor can lose his dIvine calling sef when aligned to the wrong woman....it's that bad.I have seen and heard plenty such cases.I have seen a man called out by prophesy who abandoned the girl he was dating who was God's will for him to marry a finer girl who was not God's will for him..his frustration and suffer in that marriage..no be here..so there is God's will in marriage...

A popular man of God in Abuja asked God why is it that there are so many challenges in marriage these days even worse in the church and God said..did they ask me before they married? so he kept quiet....the answer got me seriously thinking...that if you marry outside God's will. ..you are totally on your own..anything you see..is your portion.Lol




I was listening to someone who crossed from the other side into the light..and exposing some of the hidden mysteries about marriage and women..and he said there are 2 categories of women.
Dry leaf women and the favoured woman...if you marry dry leaf woman. .you own is finished for life. .your life will keep going down with nothing to show..but if you marry favoured woman. .you don blow..small effort from you will produce big as long as you keep her happy.

so how many categories of men?
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Nickymichy(m): 2:29pm On Jan 02, 2020
My mom told my brother not to marry any lady DAT is fair in complexion... My brother rubbish what he was told and went ahead to marry ds fine beautiful lady...guess what..right now he is living a miserable life...dou he has four kid wit d same woman...but my guy u won't like d kind of life dey are living.... My point.. Sometimes der warning can actually save u from impending doom ahead...I could b wrong dou...50:50 chance
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by degamemaster(m): 2:34pm On Jan 02, 2020
TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks




OP I can bet that you've seen another "sweeter" girl somewhere and you're looking a confirmation from Nairalanders to dump the girl you suffered together with, your mind is not there again so forget this spirituality you want to hold on to.


Then my answer to your question is NO, there is nothing like destined wife or husband anywhere. God no longer give men wives. The only man He gave a wife was Adam and the same Adam blamed God on the woman. That's is why God decided and asked us to find our wives by ourselves and He didn't emphasize on any tribe or quality or colour or whatsoever, He only asked is to find our wives by ourselves and qualify for that special grace and favour attached to MARRIAGE.
So in my opinion, marriage is to a very greater percentage, more canal than spiritual. If it weren't so, there won't have been cases of adultery and cheating because that same holy spirit that showed you your partner would likely to stop you from committing adultery.


And this brings me to the question many people have been asking in different ways and different language; WHY DO MARRIED PEOPLE STILL CHEAT?
We can talk about it if anyone is interested.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by MedicH: 2:39pm On Jan 02, 2020
They never born the prophet or prophetess that will tell me that the woman I intend to marry is not my destined woman. Its my mind first.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by missidy: 2:40pm On Jan 02, 2020
Yes, God said sex is for only marriage and he has his reason. Sex outside marriage is fornication, immediately you indulge in it the Holy Spirit will leave you. Married couples have the Holy Spirit because they are not committing any sin.
I have experienced it myself, i can't even pray when it happens. That's why a lot of young people make mistakes of life partner because they start having sex immediately a relationship starts and it blinds them.

yusman14:
so sex don't allow the holy spirit to reign
That means married couples can't have holy spirit

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by AljaanIVQ007(m): 2:46pm On Jan 02, 2020
You can break up with her,go your separate ways,and if you guys meet again,then she's yours,if not move on then....her impact in your life also matters,and you know that any spouse can change suddenly after marriage. So whether prophet or not calm down.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by victorian(f): 2:47pm On Jan 02, 2020
aoshea18:


Have you considered that perhaps you marrying him would have changed his destiny and he'd still be alive today? He probably rushed into that marriage and who knows what signs he ignored because he wanted someone like you.






If it were so, my mum would have allowed us marry.

But she must have forseen the hell, his family would have placed me through and also knows his death cannot be avoided. That's why she firmly said no!
Some people are destined to have short life.
And moreover I wasn't into Christ back then.
So how would marrying me have saved him?

If my mum and only brother could not be saved when we all lived together, upon everything I tried to bring her and him back to good health And life , is it another man whose history or family history I know nothing about, my aura will now save?
My mom saved me from living a haunted painful life, if I had married him.

I would even ban marriage from my life, if I had gone through what his wife went through.
Mehn I don't need such experience in my life at all.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Nobody: 2:48pm On Jan 02, 2020
Marriage is beyond you and your wife bro.. It involves families, in-law, your church elders and it may seems like they have little effect.. ah! Don't be tricked ooo.. When things ain't really the way they should be financial wise and what a view, they are who you can fall on..

If you ever receive a prophecy.. just succumb to it because even if your conscious mind don't think it should be, your subconscious mind will not and the stupid mind is the master... you just won't be able to explain your state of existence whenever you are with her..lol

If your pastor tell you no.. it should be no because he is your pastor you know right from time... Please don't ever say you want to go ahead!

Peace! grin
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jan 02, 2020
missidy:
Yes, God said sex is for only marriage and he has his reason. Sex outside marriage is fornication, immediately you indulge in it the Holy Spirit will leave you. Married couples have the Holy Spirit because they are not committing any sin.
I have experienced it myself, i can't even pray when it happens. That's why a lot of young people make mistakes of life partner because they start having sex immediately a relationship starts and it blinds them.


I have always wonder why Genital are available for use before we marry.. why isn't it programmed to grow after Marriage? God want us to go to Hell

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by crepuscule: 2:54pm On Jan 02, 2020
I had same experience few years ago. He broke up with me because his mum, prophets and prophetesses prophesized that I wasn't the destined one for him, after many years of dating. They even said many things, like he would die if he goes ahead to marry me. Some said God will make him so poor, that he would have to beg to feed his family. Few claimed I was a witch... that I was going to kill him in the future and take all his wealth,... according to them, he would be super rich. Some told his mum or maybe she lied about it,...that I will make the guy forget her!. She dealt with me. So he ended it. I almost died...but today, he is in his second marriage!, Not wealthy, depressed, not even in my class anymore....his mum couldn't even look at me, the last time we met. Life has humbled every one who took part in that scam. And today I'm thanking God for all the unanswered prayers concerning that matter.
This epistle is for you to learn from my own experience. God didn't speak to you after many years of dating, it's now that you want to settle down with her that he now remembers to speak, to warn you as per his beloved son. God will never tell you anything concerning this matter if that is what you are expecting. The Bible is there for you. You and your family will be the bigger losers at end.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Filosofa: 2:55pm On Jan 02, 2020
Not all that glitters is gold.
There is something as such.
But it is your responsibility to find that out yourself from God and not some prophetess.

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by nobone(f): 2:55pm On Jan 02, 2020
I wish I can talk to you personally.
Be careful. Ask God to show you a sign. Stay away from premarital sex. Be sincere you'll accept God's will. If you marry outside the will of God, you'll regret forever. No matter the storm, if you are married to your destined partner, you'll pull through. I know what I'm saying.
TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by yusman14(m): 2:56pm On Jan 02, 2020
missidy:
Yes, God said sex is for only marriage and he has his reason. Sex outside marriage is fornication, immediately you indulge in it the Holy Spirit will leave you. Married couples have the Holy Spirit because they are not committing any sin.
I have experienced it myself, i can't even pray when it happens. That's why a lot of young people make mistakes of life partner because they start having sex immediately a relationship starts and it blinds them.

Not only sex....
infact sin disturbs the holy Spirit

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by yusman14(m): 2:57pm On Jan 02, 2020
paul100:

He is referring to fornication(sex between people that are not married)
ok now I get it

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Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Slate80(m): 3:10pm On Jan 02, 2020
[quote author=TheLaughter post=85391434]I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks.

Op the Bible said "he who finds a wife ......" Not he who was given or shown a wife. I believe God wants us to find our own wifes' that is his will so, if you feel you have found one in your girlfriend please go ahead and marry her whatever anyone says (prophet or prophetess) is irrelevant.
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Teegelop(f): 3:13pm On Jan 02, 2020
I'm experiencing the same thing right now
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by CorperKola: 3:25pm On Jan 02, 2020
There is nothing like chosen husband or wife
Jst pple that are compatible or not
You shoukd find out from other spiritualists, and you are not a child, by now you should have a spiritualist you trust or a few sef
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by Evebeautyworld2: 3:28pm On Jan 02, 2020
aoshea18:


Please pray for him. You're having those dreams so you can intercede for him. You don't have to tell him about them. Just stand in the Gap
I tried calling to tell him he refuse and even told me to get out and get lost,mehn i tried my best
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by sterlingD(m): 3:28pm On Jan 02, 2020
Teegelop:
I'm experiencing the same thing right now
What are you experiencing?
Re: Is There Anything As A Destined Wife/husband. by baby124: 3:38pm On Jan 02, 2020
Prophetess will ruin your life. If all is going smooth with your girlfriend, stick with her.

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