Doesn't it take two to tango?? Is it a bad thing if the girl also make effort to speak with him everyday. It's tit for tat. Relationship isn't supposed to be one sided. I wonder wetin 9ja girls dey think say relationship be sef.

Lamanii22:


But I think you should speak with your girl often... Maybe it's just me.. I like it when we speak everyday... It makes me feel like we are connected ...

massalati:
i just love nairaland, exactly what i'm passing through right now am fade up i dont know what to do any longer, i have talk and talk and complain but it all fell on deaf ears as she dont feel disturb not calling/chatting with me the whole day. i love her and i still find it difficult to call it quit. am tired

Different strokes for different folks, my own Bae would cherish chatting 24/7 or calls for hours, if there is break in chatting for four hours like ds, issue would come up.. Inside Real life!

ajericho:



lol not old enough?


I came across an article like that and I discovered that it's nature not whatever you think

don't attribute it to nature. Nature supports change and improvement. The world does not revolve around our individual sentiment. Introverts, with much effort, become social. You can do better unless you end up dating evening newspapers.

My guy, real men are flexible

Innobee99:
But do u know u can miss the two while desperately pushing one?

You can't focus on 2 things at a time.
You either chase ur Dreams or chase Vanity.

uncleck:
don't attribute it to nature. Nature supports change and improvement. The world does not revolve around our individual sentiment. Introverts, with much effort, become social. You can do better unless you end up dating evening newspapers.

My guy, real men are flexible

I changed actually,

I used to be that clingy,

am social but don't find kinda connection with ladies

massalati:
i just love nairaland, exactly what i'm passing through right now am fade up i dont know what to do any longer, i have talk and talk and complain but it all fell on deaf ears as she dont feel disturb not calling/chatting with me the whole day. i love her and i still find it difficult to call it quit. am tired

Abeg

no

fade o

ojotobiloba1:

Different strokes for different folks, my own Bae would cherish chatting 24/7 or calls for hours, if there is break in chatting for four hours like ds, issue would come up.. Inside Real life!

My bae always complain that am too serious and too emotional am just tired, sometimes i believe the people u love dont give a Bleep about you.

Swargu:


You again... you sha like relationship.

Lol... I really do.. Maybe It should be my second degree hehehehe

My bf of 3yrs of suddenly changed...till now i dont kwn where i wronged him ..he is always busy.. had to move on .

If they can find time to eat, then they can atleast call u or send a text.
No one is busy round the clock

ojotobiloba1:

Different strokes for different folks, my own Bae would cherish chatting 24/7 or calls for hours, if there is break in chatting for four hours like ds, issue would come up.. Inside Real life!

Both of you need a job, or something doing.

Going through same. But most times I wonder why girls won't check on their boo if he fails to at the end of the day, the crown it up with blames on you for not checking up. My thoughts was it's supposed to be both ways I either check on you or you check on me

chase your dreams and forget bulshit, all this girls aint loyal, dont waste your time and little resource trying to please a girl... she will dump your ass as soon as she jam someone who have made it...be wise. They no dey ever get airtime lol

Nnemuka:
If they can find time to eat, then they can atleast call u or send a text.
No one is busy round the clock

And what is stopping you from calling if he doesnt call...?

Lamanii22:


But I think you should speak with your girl often... Maybe it's just me.. I like it when we speak everyday... It makes me feel like we are connected ...

everyday...haba

oksmart:
Doesn't it take two to tango?? Is it a bad thing if the girl also make effort to speak with him everyday. It's tit for tat. Relationship isn't supposed to be one sided. I wonder wetin 9ja girls dey think say relationship be sef.

I never mentioned one person doing the calling... It should be vice versa...

dangotesmummy:


Awon Yoruba sope eyan tieyanife,Ile e okin jin

all these Lagos dude with the way they spoil Yoruba hehee.. Eni ti a ko fe ni ile e jin..

xtun:

And what is stopping you from calling if he doesnt call...?

And who said I don't call?

Forget about love make money first then u can talk about love.

binarymachine:
You have been dating for some time now, everything was going fine, you had all the love, care, affection and attention of your bae/boo and life seems good. Suddenly it seems they are just too busy these days and no longer have time for you. You have complained and brought this sudden change to thier notice but they keep brushing it off with the, “I am busy” excuse. You are crushing on someone, you admire them so much and want a chance to prove it. You have expressed your feelings to them and all you need now is their time, to show them you are not just talking the talk but walking it. However, they seem to be always busy and hardly ever have time for you.

The truth is, they may actually be very busy. Work may be hectic, life may be hard and they are struggling to keep up. There could actually be a lot going on in thier life currently and everything is taking a toll on them. However, no one is ever too busy for what they want or desire. No one is ever busy for twenty four hours in a day. There may be a day or two where things choke up too much that they may not even have time for themselves, but not every day and everytime. Even at that, they can always have a minute or two to get in touch with you and let you know, keep you updated on things so you don’t expect much.

Where one’s treasure is, lies one’s heart. If you are the treasure or they like you and see you as a possible treasure, they will always make time for you no matter how busy they are. Except you are not a priority in thier life or they do not see you as someone who can be. They should always find time to call you, text you and spend time with you, even if it is for a short while. People are busy, but they find time to eat, because it is a priority. People are busy but they find time to bath, brush, wear cloth and make up. Why? Because it is a priority. If you where important to them, they would have found time to “do” you.

If you have found yourself struggling for someone’s attention and affection, then you are probably not as important as you think. If you used to have it, find out why things suddenly changed and try fixing it. If you are trying to get it for the first time, you should try more if you love them. If you have done all you can but they would still not look your way, then you need to swallow the bitter truth and look elsewhere. There is always enough love in the world to go round. What you are struggling to get a little of here, you could have plenty of it elsewhere. Get busy too!

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2019/11/03/they-have-time-they-dont-just-have-time-for-you/

True but sometimes you need to change the narrative, truth is, every relationship has got its issues, he doesn't have your time, the next might be a womanizer, the third might be a drug addict, the fourth might be a gold digger, the fifth might be a lazy ass, the sixth might be a weird nerd with psycophatic tendencies, the seventh might have sexual issues or disorders....the list goes on and on.

In summary, try to lay the issues of your relationship on the table and do all within your power to make it work. Every relationship has its own issues, the shape it takes might be different but if you are looking for a perfect one, then Angel Gabriel or Michael is a good recommendation.

Ibfpleasant:
all these Lagos dude with the way they spoil Yoruba hehee.. Eni ti a ko fe ni ile e jin..

same thing lajonso

The way tafinso lokan yatoo
As
5+4=9
So also
3+6 gives the same result

Osha ye e

So Bolenmbe

Nnemuka:
If they can find time to eat, then they can atleast call u or send a text.
No one is busy round the clock


Both of you need a job, or something doing.

Lol, u sent a message as if u knw me wella, well, reverse is the case of what u wrote

Better

Lamanii22:



I never mentioned one person doing the calling... It should be vice versa...

cybriz82:
Forget about love make money first then u can talk about love.

is not always abt money. . Money can get u alot of pul**y. Not love. Find love now.

Hmmm

Nice @Op. The busy thing is for the fearful. A tactic not to invest much in the relationship. So if things go south, they feel not much pain. But nature is lovely, you can't enjoy true love in fear.

Moral: Relationships is not for cowards.

ojotobiloba1:

Different strokes for different folks, my own Bae would cherish chatting 24/7 or calls for hours, if there is break in chatting for four hours like ds, issue would come up.. Inside Real life!

Wetin una dey discuss abeg?? This one I'm currently with craves chatting for long but I don't have such time and sometimes the chat gets boring.

When your woman is ambitious, chasing her dreams, and you're also ambitious, all these nonsense talk won't crop up. It's when one of the partners is idle and has a lot of time on his/her hands that you start complaining of attention.

Get a life, a career, a job, business and add value to yourself instead of whining for attention.

Phenomenal16:
.....am currently experiencing it.....though am no longer bothered.... Anytime he calls I will pick ....I was really heart broken initially but then I av moved on........I was actually a good gal......being too nice is bad...........

Are you sure you're a nice girl?
Are you sure you're not doing something that pushes them away?
Are you argumentative?

Remember in your other thread, you called men the weaker vessel. Hope it's not your mistaken idea of feminism that is starving you of love?

Phenomenal16:
.....am currently experiencing it.....though am no longer bothered.... Anytime he calls I will pick ....I was really heart broken initially but then I av moved on........I was actually a good gal......being too nice is bad...........

pls dnt stop being too nice..

I just bookmarked this page.. i will always read it to never get stupid in life again.. tnks OP