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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by OgbeniOja1: 12:20am On Jan 08, 2020

She was right all along you fiance is useless.
Even if u didnt have sense, he couldn't stop u. You two deserve each other. I hope now you have ruined your sister, your happy. I wonder who you would run to when ur useless b.f can't provide for you. Have a lovely deadbeat life

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Abcruz(m): 12:20am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
I’m not playing victim because if we were both arrested then it also play a role there but He did it for love

You have done wrong totally in all ramification. Regardless of the insult your sister gave to you, you ought to have ignored knowing fully well she is your elder and supporter of your child.

She truely wanted the best for you and could hardly control her emotions seeing that you were put in a family way at a very tender age by a young man of questionable character. This is the reason behind her constant outburst.

The evil has been done and if you choose to remain silent, you'll live a lifetime full of regrets, it will hunt you wherever you go and you'll consequently reap what you have sown years latter. but then, it will be too late to make amends.

The only solution is to humble yourself now, call your family members and those who carried out this mission, locate her fiance, deeply render your apology and beg for their forgiveness only then will you be free as a bird. They will be angry with you for awhile, but they'll eventually forgive you.

The ear that listens to the reproofs of life abides among the wise!!!

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Sweeetheart(m): 12:21am On Jan 08, 2020

your sister is wrong though she's pained a guy almost disturbed maybe her plan for you but you're wicked to have set her up, to make the matter worse you collided with outsider to treat your sister as shit

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by spayor(m): 12:21am On Jan 08, 2020

Meliian:

Because I'm female doesn't mean I'm your mum.

God forbid a lunatic to be my mum

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by micflo28(m): 12:21am On Jan 08, 2020

Peeps getting laid anyhow and a gentleman like me scarcely get even a loose canon to penetrate sad

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by UNBELIEVABLE: 12:21am On Jan 08, 2020

Speechless!

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 12:23am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

I can relate to your story because something similar happened to me. There was a time I was so broke and living with my sister, God I know what I suffered and the insults I had to bear because she was feeding me and paying the rent. There was a time we had a fight and her friend was the cause, I went to hussle as usual and came back and my sister locked the house. When I called her she told me where to find my clothes, that I should leave her house. I had an uncle around but no transport to go stay with him for a while. I had to trek to his house which is very far away, he was sad seeing me and when I told him what happened he called my parents and my sister but she refused to let it go. I begged and begged no way! She said she will make me suffer and truly she did, I will trek every morning to hussle without food sometimes, and during that period I wasn't getting any money. Everything added to my frustration and I hated my sister so much I thought of was to make her pay. She insults all my friends too who come to see me, she snubs the female ones. I was 21 at that time, I took a different approach and channelled my frustration to making money! I vowed never to remain broke again! Today things are totally different! I couldn't hurt her you know why? Because she's my blood, she's family, no matter what you do never let anyone come between you and your own blood, that is stupidity at it's peak! I knew this but you let your guy do this to your own blood, that is so wrong, he might be a good person but his heart is dark and such people can do unspeakable things. The both of you should go to your sisters guys how's and tell him everything. Please, ask him to forgive you and pray he does. You're worried your family will disown you? You should be more worried if your sister ends her life, her blood will be in your hands. Is that what you really want? She was wrong treating you that way, but she helped you when your guy is broke, because she knows you are her blood! Please change your circle of friends, your guy no be am at all.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by PerseDew(f): 12:23am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
I slapped her for disrespecting my guy in front of our innocent child , I didn’t like the way she wa raining insult at him calling him all bad names under the sun just because he is poor.

Your parents travelled and he took the opportunity to come to your house, you sis has been insulting him steady long before now, pls what was he expecting?? If your parents were at home, would they have welcomed him with open arms? He knew he was not welcomed in that house but went ahead to visit..if this is not looking for trouble then tell me what it is.

Like I said, she may be faulted but you and even him started it.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by queenitee(f): 12:24am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
Please he is not useless he does take care of me and our child something that a lot of husbands cannot do for their wives.

Madam, go and read where I quoted you. He’s useless if he has no plans and ambitions and if he doesn’t take step towards achieving them. If he only depend on when people give him money to take care of you and your child and does not plan on how to make his life and yours better, doesn’t have a short and long term goal, doesn’t take steps towards achieving his goal,
He’s useless. If he doesn’t encourage you to build yourself and become a woman of substance, doesn’t ask your what your goals and plans are and the steps you are taking towards achieving them, he’s useless

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 12:25am On Jan 08, 2020

Her money was for our parents , siblings and a little bit for my child but nothing for me because she never likes me and I never bother myself asking her for money because I knew she will be insulting me reminding me how I ruined my life and because I didn’t finish school , nothing will be well for me . I’m not angry because my guy take care of me and the child. My guy gave me money to buy the foods we ate on Christmas and new year and I know 2020 is breaking limit and he will have a great job and more money even myself , I will get better job

RonaldoVido:
Someone is bringing money into the family which is reaching you too.

But you decide to destroy her because of the dick you are enjoying.

Now the money is not reaching you again, hunger has set in and your brain is receiving a reset.

That is all I can deduce.

We all act from our Point of Gain.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by midnighter(f): 12:25am On Jan 08, 2020

PerseDew:

Your parents travelled and he took the opportunity to come to your house, you sis has been insulting him steady long before now, pls what was he expecting?? If your parents were at home, would they have welcomed him with open arms? He knew he was not welcomed in that house but went ahead to visit..if this is not looking for trouble then tell me what it is.

Like I said, she may be faulted but you and even him started it.

Exactly

Some girls would even be chased out with the baby in the first instance. Why trying to force the guy on her people when they clearly dont regard him?

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Meliian(f): 12:27am On Jan 08, 2020

queenitee:

She did sulk and that’s what led to this, got aloof(unsympathetic) exactly why she did what she did and felt it was the right thing, was very unsympathetic and sees no wrong in it till her sister started getting depressed.

Clearly your intelligence level is low. Check the meaning of 'sulk' and write me a report on your findings.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by queenitee(f): 12:27am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
Her money was for our parents , siblings and a little bit for my child but nothing for me because she never likes me and I never bother myself asking her for money because I knew she will be insulting me reminding me how I ruined my life and because I didn’t finish school , nothing will be well for me . I’m not angry because my guy take care of me and the child. My guy gave me money to buy the foods we ate on Christmas and new year and I know 2020 is breaking limit and he will have a great job and more money even myself , I will get better job

You have entitlement mentality problem. See her money is originally for her. That’s she’s giving the family is because you guys are family and she loves you guys. If she doesn’t love you, she wouldn’t even give your child.
You need to outgrow this your victim mentality and brace yourself up, develop yourself and turn your life around. She owe you nothing, not a dime, all she gives to you is due to the love she has for you

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by queenitee(f): 12:28am On Jan 08, 2020

Meliian:

Clearly your intelligence level is low. Check the meaning of 'sulk' and write me a report on your findings.

Please run along, you should be the one to check the meaning of ‘sulk’ and while at it, do well to check ‘Aloofness also.” You are the one with the low intelligence level, exactly why you couldn’t comprehend what I wrote when I quoted you earlier.
Sulk(display of sullen aloofness or withdrawal)
Aloofness(a disposition to be distant and unsympathetic in manner)
Now that I’ve helped a little, read what I wrote again. Have a nice night rest.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by deco26(m): 12:35am On Jan 08, 2020

Prettiedame:
You should turn this into a movie. Blood Sisters

Omotola and Genevieve

Director: Tchidi Chikere

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by 1Sharon(f): 12:36am On Jan 08, 2020

Meliian:

So because she got impregnated at a younger age now her life is completely useless? If the said bf had money, you all wouldn't be talking like this. Is the guy the first man to drink, smoke or impregnate outside of marriage? The fact that he's penniless doesn't mean he's entirely useless. What about the part where he acknowledges the child? Doesn't that count for something?

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 12:37am On Jan 08, 2020

She did not love me at all because if she did , she would have support me with love and advices telling me things like having a child at tender age it’s not the end of the world , you can do better things in life instead she made me loose my confidence and motivation. Well yes you are right , she doesn’t owe me anything at all and she should have mind her business and let my guy and I leave in peace

queenitee:

You have entitlement mentality problem. See her money is originally for her. That’s she’s giving the family is because you guys are family and she loves you guys. If she doesn’t love you, she wouldn’t even give your child.
You need to outgrow this your victim mentality and brace yourself up, develop yourself and turn your life around. She owe you nothing, not a dime, all she gives to you is due to the love she has for you

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by mayten(m): 12:38am On Jan 08, 2020

midnighter:

Thats just the funny thing. So who will now pay the school fees lol

Anyway the elder sister is not supposed to talk to the guy that way in the first place either.

The OP and her man should be a bit more ambitious so that they wont need to ask the sister for anything

The whole thing is too much

In all sincerity do you think the OP is ambitious at all? She believes in handouts from her well to do sister and Baby Daddy that she feels so entitled to it. IMO she's an NFA candidate with an hateful heart.... there is a difference between biting the hand that fed you and cutting off the arm entirely. ... if you bite the hand that fed you, the person can always feed you again when the hand heals and the pains have been forgotten but when you bite off the arm there is no remedy to it.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Hestywhyt(f): 12:38am On Jan 08, 2020

It is obvious OP isn't ready to do the right thing..her mind is made up already..i just hope it isn't too late before reality hits her

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by TOPCRUISE(m): 12:39am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
I wish I could do it but what if they all turned against me and kick me out with my child and where will I go ?

Then your sin remains with you. So why wasting our time. Nonsense

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Meliian(f): 12:39am On Jan 08, 2020

queenitee:

Madam, go and read where I quoted you. He’s useless if he has no plans and ambitions and if he doesn’t take step towards achieving them. If he only depend on when people give him money to take care of you and your child and does not plan on how to make his life and yours better, doesn’t have a short and long term goal, doesn’t take steps towards achieving his goal,
He’s useless. If he doesn’t encourage you to build yourself and become a woman of substance, doesn’t ask your what your goals and plans are and the steps you are taking towards achieving them, he’s useless

Lady keep quiet. You keep repeating the same balderdash. Ahn ahn. She doesn't need any bf to build, grow and become the best version of herself. She doesn't need the support of anyone but her parents. Whether or not her bf gives her pep talks is inconsequential as she doesn't need it! Seriously, if it's your bf that made you YOU, then you may have other problems.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by mayten(m): 12:41am On Jan 08, 2020

Ausrichie:

Romance books are fake. Let's face reality the elder sister has sense even a fifteen year old will spit on such evil and wickedness. The more I see humans the more I don't believe that the devil exists man this is almost like Hitler.

Aswear

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Meliian(f): 12:42am On Jan 08, 2020

queenitee:

Please run along, you should be the one to check the meaning of ‘sulk’ and while at it, do well to check ‘Aloofness also.” You are the one with the low intelligence level, exactly why you couldn’t comprehend what I wrote when I quoted you earlier.
Sulk(display of sullen aloofness or withdrawal)
Aloofness(a disposition to be distant and unsympathetic in manner)
Now that I’ve helped a little, read what I wrote again. Have a nice night rest.

Good. Now that you've helped yourself, you can go back to read my comment. To sulk at something is to be silent and not do anything! Olodo.

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Nobody: 12:42am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

Your sister loved you and was frustrated with the fact you are tied down with someone that she felt will drag you down. Him impregnating you alone seems like he has ruined your life(your education halted,and a possible hindrance to marry someone else since guys avoid single mums),so the grudge against him will be there. Before fathers arrest the men that impregnant their daughters.
She may have expected you move on from him after he "destroyed" you but the fact you were still around him hurt her the most.
To be honest,no one who loves his/her sister will love her to be associated with someone who drinks,smokes etc
Most people don't know how to show love(especially African elders). Loving younger ones to them is flogging them to perfection,scolding them and frowning at them.

That said,the damage is done. Forgive yourself,stand by her,do all to correct your wrong. Don't tell her ,at least not now. Assist her in anyway you can while you confess to her fiance. Tell him everything, I guess you have proof you and your cohorts were the ones behind the calls,show them to him. In fact narrate all you narrated here to him ,but tell him not to tell her

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Smilebukkieman: 12:43am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

If truly you are not lying here.......may Almighty God punish you and your generation.you will not know peace again in your life.basterd

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by OgbeniOja1: 12:45am On Jan 08, 2020

To live with the idiot that loves you now

Ifyjos:
I wish I could do it but what if they all turned against me and kick me out with my child and where will I go ?

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 12:45am On Jan 08, 2020

I’m ready but am scared about the outcome , am thinking how to get them back together without them knowing I and my guy are the culprits. I’m helpless and I can’t sleep

Hestywhyt:
It is obvious OP isn't ready to do the right thing..her mind is made up already..i just hope it isn't too late before reality hits her

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by PerseDew(f): 12:46am On Jan 08, 2020

Meliian:

Why the heck was she insulting the guy? That's so unfair. Because he doesn't have money, he's not human too? He doesn't have feelings? The guy got her pregnant, despite being broke he still tries to cater for his child. Isn't that good enough? They're still together after 5 years, doesn't that count for something? Some relationships don't even last up to 6 months. My point is, both op and her sister are mean people. And if her bf's influence on her is bad, so is her elder sister's fiance's influence on her sister. I say this because, the fiance can't say he didn't know his wife-to-be arranged for her sister to be locked up.

She is insulting him because he should have known better than chasing and getting her 15 yr old sis not even 18 yr old pregnant and then sharing responsibilities with her for years while he continues to have sex with her all these years without anything like a business or even personal abode. What if she if gets pregnant again without knowing untill it is too late?? Pls how will all these and more be going through her mind and she will be smiling anytime she sees him around her?

She might be a mean person but he visited knowing he was not welcomed, insults started, OP slapped and she called police. Pls my point is she was provoked.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by queenitee(f): 12:46am On Jan 08, 2020

Ifyjos:
She did not love me at all because if she did , she would have support me with love and advices telling me things like having a child at tender age it’s not the end of the world , you can do better things in life instead she made me loose my confidence and motivation. Well yes you are right , she doesn’t owe me anything at all and she should have mind her business and let my guy and I leave in peace

She doesn’t owe you anything in regard to money, but she owe you a lot in regard to advice. Which she did by being against you and you guy, but maybe she went about it the wrong way. Instead of shouting, she could have been calm about it.
But you owe yourself a lot, a lot more than your sister or guy can ever owe you. Now seat yourself down and ask yourself. Do my guy has plans for his life? Is he working towards achieving his goals? Do he have a realistic goal and set time limits? If the answer is ‘No,’ ask yourself again. Do my guy support my dreams and visions? Is he striving toward making me a woman of substance? Does he advice me on how to plan my life, encourage me and help me work towards achieving my goals? If the answer is equally ‘No,’ then I’m sorry. It’s either your guy is still with you because he has no money yet or he has no plans for his life so he doesn’t even care if you have any for yours.
Now ask yourself again, do I want to live a life without plans? Do I want my kids to grow up in a family without plans? Am I comfortable living this way for the rest of my life? If the answer is ‘No,’ then you know the step to take. Either talk to your guy and make him see reasons why he has to make plans and set goals for his life and work towards achieving them and equally encourage you to make plans for yours or you leave your guy and focus on setting goals for yourself and achieving it.
Forget about who will take care of your kids like you said, if truly he’s a responsible father who accept his kid, it wouldn’t matter that you left him, he would take care of his kid.

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Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Ifyjos(f): 12:47am On Jan 08, 2020

He is not a idiot please stop calling him that, for now he stays with friends by God grace we will be living together soon

OgbeniOja1:
To live with the idiot that loves you now

Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by midnighter(f): 12:48am On Jan 08, 2020

mayten:
In all sincerity do you think the OP is ambitious at all? She believes in handouts from her well to do sister and Baby Daddy that she feels so entitled to it. IMO she's an NFA candidate with an hateful heart.... there is a difference between biting the hand that fed you and cutting off the arm entirely. ... if you bite the hand that fed you, the person can always feed you again when the hand heals and the pains have been forgotten but when you bite off the arm there is no remedy to it.

Lol I am flabbergasted at the responses she is giving here that "nothing for me because she never likes me" wtf! Too bad

The woman cant give her money when she refuses to help herself but she's talking about "like"

Even if thats what she thinks, cant she read the temperature of the thread and see that its not the appropriate thing to say right now? Lol.

Anyway somebody already gave her a nice advice, hopefully she takes it. But shes very very very insensitive! Jeez!

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