Ifyjos:
I’m ready but am scared about the outcome , am thinking how to get them back together without them knowing I and my guy are the culprits. I’m helpless and I can’t sleep

Op...the cat would soon be let out of the bag and you would regret not making amends when you can......you still think you and you baby Daddy would be absolved of your evil deeds?.......naaaaaa it doesn't work that way. .........and like i said earlier if anything happens to your sister, her blood would be on your hands.. make amends before it's too late......

Meliian:


Good. Now that you've helped yourself, you can go back to read my comment. To sulk at something is to be silent and not do anything! Olodo.

check the meaning again, now check the connection with aloofness and read again. Super Olodo. I didn’t say she sulked alone, I said she became aloof. Check the connection and read again.
By the way, you are the worst adviser ever. You are not waiting for a boyfriend to build your own life for you but you were advising her to wait for one to build hers.

Meliian:


Why the heck was she insulting the guy? That's so unfair. Because he doesn't have money, he's not human too? He doesn't have feelings? The guy got her pregnant, despite being broke he still tries to cater for his child. Isn't that good enough? They're still together after 5 years, doesn't that count for something? Some relationships don't even last up to 6 months. My point is, both op and her sister are mean people. And if her bf's influence on her is bad, so is her elder sister's fiance's influence on her sister. I say this because, the fiance can't say he didn't know his wife-to-be arranged for her sister to be locked up.

You're just an idiot
Trying to form diplomatic...but no, you making yourself sound so dumb

spayor:
have you taken your medicine today?

Don't mind the idiot

midnighter:


Lol I am flabbergasted at the responses she is giving here that "nothing for me because she never likes me" wtf! Too bad

The woman cant give her money when she refuses to help herself but she's talking about "like"

Even if thats what she thinks, cant she read the temperature of the thread and see that its not the appropriate thing to say right now? Lol.

Anyway somebody already gave her a nice advice, hopefully she takes it. But shes very very very insensitive! Jeez!

Very very insensitive......someone with a cold heart....

Meliian:


Lady keep quiet. You keep repeating the same balderdash. Ahn ahn. She doesn't need any bf to build, grow and become the best version of herself. She doesn't need the support of anyone but her parents. Whether or not her bf gives her pep talks is inconsequential as she doesn't need it! Seriously, if it's your bf that made you YOU, then you may have other problems.

Now I agree you are olodo. Where did I tell her she needs her bf? Exactly what I’ve been telling her. She doesn’t need her boyfriend. You should be the one to keep quiet, olodo oshi. Misleading people up and down. For someone who types so well, it’s a pity it’s so difficult for you to comprehend the language. Supporting her doesn’t mean he had to give her money, encouragement doesn’t necessarily mean money. Olodo. And it’s necessary her boyfriend gives her pep talk and encourage her to become better. Because if he isn’t encouraging her to be better, he would definitely encourage her to be stagnant. They plan on building a future together, they should help one another grow, olodo

Ifyjos:
0. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

What makes you think your husband loves you and your daughter by always taking care of you. If he loves you he won't impregnate you and he won't persuade you to open your legs for him either. If he loves you he will respect your family and will not convince you to scatter it no matter the situation. You have a lot to learn about love because you are still very naive, gullible and easily deceived. Your Immaturity, senselessness, and dullness is what he saw in you that made him impregnate you. If he sees that you are smart, brilliant and intelligent he will never try it and will not conspire with you to destroy the life of your sister.
You failed to tell us the job of your thuggish uneducated father of your daughter.

Ifyjos:
I’m ready but am scared about the outcome , am thinking how to get them back together without them knowing I and my guy are the culprits. I’m helpless and I can’t sleep

I understand how feel...your sister loves but she got disappointed with the news of your baby at a tender age '15' please find an elderly person and go beg your sister.

Blood is thicker than water.

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

Sorry you are a witch.

Whether you know it or not

Ifyjos:
I slapped her for disrespecting my guy in front of our innocent child , I didn’t like the way she wa raining insult at him calling him all bad names under the sun just because he is poor.

EVIL DERANGED SLOWPOKE!!!
that's what you are
You deserve a place among pigs...not humans

I just wish your sister's fiancé is a Nairalander so he can read this for himself.

[quote author=1Sharon post=85600160][/quote]
A wealthy olamide who had the means to cater for a child told his babymama to commit abortion,till today she fends for the baby alone....

And a "broke" guy here still fends for his babymama and child,and he is hated for being "broke"....

NoSidonLook:


You're just an idiot
Trying to form diplomatic...but no, you making yourself sound so dumb

Honestly, so dumb

PerseDew:


Your parents travelled and he took the opportunity to come to your house, you sis has been insulting him steady long before now, pls what was he expecting?? If your parents were at home, would they have welcomed him with open arms? He knew he was not welcomed in that house but went ahead to visit..if this is not looking for trouble then tell me what it is.

Like I said, she may be faulted but you and even him started it.

They have a child together for goodness sake, why shouldn't he be allowed in to see his child?

This isnt just a boyfriend and girlfriend seeing each other, they are parents.

My dad was very strict and when he found out about my pregnancy that day he gave me the worst beating of my life even myself I taught I will miscarriage the baby because beating was too much oo, but after that he didn’t talk to me , I become his worst enemy but as soon as my baby was born , he forgive and forget . My parents didn’t hate him anymore for the sake of our daughter , they let him come and visit us in the house but he is shy and doesn’t come often and my dad told my sister to stop insulting him but she wouldn’t listen. So if my parents could forgive and forget and why can’t she ?quote author=PerseDew post=85600058]

Your parents travelled and he took the opportunity to come to your house, you sis has been insulting him steady long before now, pls what was he expecting?? If your parents were at home, would they have welcomed him with open arms? He knew he was not welcomed in that house but went ahead to visit..if this is not looking for trouble then tell me what it is.

Like I said, she may be faulted but you and even him started it.[/quote]

Bro if I'm d guy I won't do again. Who want to come into a family where siblings have such bitterness for each other

blujoi:
@ifyjos, I know how you feel.You made a mistake out of revenge. I know your sister pushed you to the wall before you took the action you took but you have to know that two wrongs don’t make anything right. This matter is quite heavy cos I see you love your guy so much. What you can do is to contact your sisters Ex, together with your guy and explain everything to him and beg him to forgive and see if he can have a change of heart. I believe if he comes back to your sister, everyone would have learnt their lessons.

I pray it works out because I know the kind of guilt you are living with. Take things easy and do not be hasty to make decisions in moments of anger.

If you cannot reach your sisters Ex,then you have to find someone who your sister respects and confide in the person.

And try to ignore all the hateful comments directed towards you here, most of them have pointing accusing fingers have their own baggage, nobody holy pass!!!

Ifyjos:
Yes I know that I’m not good in writing English,please forgive my errors .

How comes your sister is responsible and educated while you are NFA Marlian?

Back to the sender

Smilebukkieman:

If truly you are not lying here.......may Almighty God punish you and your generation.you will not know peace again in your life.basterd

PerseDew:


She is insulting him because he should have known better than chasing and getting her 15 yr old sis not even 18 yr old pregnant and then sharing responsibilities with her for years while he continues to have sex with her all these years without anything like a business or even personal abode. What if she if gets pregnant again without knowing untill it is too late?? Pls how will all these and more be going through her mind and she will be smiling anytime she sees him around her?

She might be a mean person but he visited knowing he was not welcomed, insults started, OP slapped and she called police. Pls my point is she was provoked.

But they're sisters now? You get? Ok let me ask you this, is there any provocation that can lead you to call the police on your sibling? Come to think of it. Didn't the elder sister think about their parents? Now I'm not saying op was right, just saying as much as we're calling out the op, her sister too should be blamed.

And trust me, if op's bf had absconded when he got her pregnant, it's this same sinister elder sister that would remind op everyday that "you see, you gave birth to a bastard". She would have reminded op everyday that her child is a bastard without a moment's hesitation.

The thing about most of us is that, we've not yet fully grasped the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love looks beyond past mistakes, forgives, and helps the other person grow. It guides them for as long as they need guidance and support. This is what I expect of the sister. If you must reprimand, do it once and move past it, not rip the other person of what's left of their self-confidence.

Acidosis:
You and your pedophilic boyfriend deserve to be re-arrested. Go and beg for forgiveness and get ready to face the consequence of your actions. You think your chimney drunken-master boyfriend will respect you for what you did to your own blood? Girl, you haven't seen anything.

Bro, this story is probably a tale jawe

Ifyjos:
He can never dump me because If he wanted to leave me , he would have done it long time ago when I was still pregnant. He never denied me and my pictures is everywhere on his Facebook and WhatsApp profile and our future will be greater. Not I’m not responsible for her loosing her job , she lost her job because at the time her fiancé dumped her , she was suicidal and missed work for almost a month and lost her job.

As someone rightly said, your sister underestimated your foolishnes.

blesskewe:
aunty
u bad ooooooo

She be tout just like her guy

Meliian:


But they're sisters now? You get? Ok let me ask you this, is there any provocation that can lead you to call the police on your sibling? Come to think of it. Didn't the elder sister think about their parents? Now I'm not saying op was right, just saying as much as we're calling out the op, her sister too should be blamed.

And trust me, if op's bf had absconded when he got her pregnant, it's this same sinister elder sister that would remind op everyday that "you see, you gave birth to a bastard". She would have reminded op everyday that her child is a bastard without a moment's hesitation.

The thing about most of us is that, we've not yet fully grasped the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love looks beyond past mistakes, forgives, and helps the other person grow. It guides them for as long as they need guidance and support. This is what I expect of the sister. If you must reprimand, do it once and move past it, not rip the other person of what's left of their self-confidence.

The only sensible comment you’ve made ever since. No no one was saying the sister was right, in fact, most have moved past that. Now everyone is talking about how the Op hasn’t seen reason why should be in charge of her life and stop revolving her life round her boyfriend. Yes he’s the father of her child but she’s a person of her own. What if anything happens tomorrow? Won’t she move on or she wants her sister to keep feeding her for life? This is all we have been telling her but you were hell bent on misleading her into thinking her life has to revolve round her boyfriend because she has a child for him.

Michellekabod2:

A wealthy olamide who had the means to cater for a child told his babymama to commit abortion,till today she fends for the baby alone....

And a "broke" guy here still fends for his babymama and child,and he is hated for being "broke"....

Thank you. That's the thing about this NL forum, they're ever ready to judge and dish out insults with no real answers or solution

OgbeniOja1:
Bro if I'm d guy I won't do again. Who want to come into a family where siblings have such bitterness for each other

My point exactly! I don't understand people's way of thinking. Quick to judge without taking an objective view of both sides. Op's foundation is clearly faulty. They both need counselling.

after Getting pregnant everybody treated me bad , nobody wanted to send me back to school
And my sister and other siblings are all graduated

fk001:


How comes your sister is responsible and educated while you are NFA Marlian?

I understand your point, it’s a lot to deal with for any guy. Unfortunately you are not the guy. She has made a mistake which she has accepted and she has shown remorse. There’s nothing impossible. It’s possible when the guy hears her story he will have a change of heart. Life is not black & white.

OgbeniOja1:
Bro if I'm d guy I won't do again. Who want to come into a family where siblings have such bitterness for each other

Ifyjos:
She did not love me at all because if she did , she would have support me with love and advices telling me things like having a child at tender age it’s not the end of the world , you can do better things in life instead she made me loose my confidence and motivation. Well yes you are right , she doesn’t owe me anything at all and she should have mind her business and let my guy and I leave in peace

So you destroyed her life...Your own blood
WITCH
and you think you'll prosper, after you've destroyed someone's life and you not even remorseful about it

Ifyjos:
after Getting pregnant everybody treated me bad , nobody wanted to send me back to school
And my sister and other siblings are all graduated

How old is ur BF?

queenitee:

The only sensible comment you’ve made ever since. No no one was saying the sister was right, in fact, most have moved past that. Now everyone is talking about how the Op hasn’t seen reason why should be in icharge of her life and stop revolving her life round her boyfriend. Yes he’s the father of her child but she’s a person of her own. What if anything happens tomorrow? Won’t she move on or she wants her sister to keep feeding her for life? This is all we have been telling her but you were hell bent on misleading her into thinking her life has to revolve round her boyfriend because she has a child for him.

It's the other way around actually. Clearly, something woke your dead brain up.

Meliian:


It's the other way around actually. Clearly, something woke your dead brain up.

No, your brain was deceiving you or you clearly do not comprehend the language you type so well. You are actually the one with a dead brain. And you would agree with me because everyone thinks you give dumb advice but by the way, it’s not you, it’s your lack of comprehension of the language. You meant something entirely different from all you’ve been typing.
Good night Lady.