Guys,this is actually a response I gave in another thread but I think it is worth creating a new thread for.

Many guys have bitterly complained of girls snubbing their chats on phone/social media or replying with mono-lexicons such as 'k', no, nothing, aiit, duh, hmm, thumbs up emojis, or no response at all. Chatting on phone or social media with a girl you have not met before is a simple art that can be learnt. When you do not master this art well, all you get are parrot mode responses.

She is a new girl on your friendlist and you find her attractive, so you decided to dm. This is normal. But the problem starts when you start chatting and you discover she is only corresponding with mono-lexicons. this pisses you off and you conclude that all girls are proud and prove too tough to get. However, there are other guys out there who meet pretty girls (Not Oloshos) on social media, start a chat with them and end up being their boyfriends. Some even get marry to them in the long run and have a blissful marriage. This is no magic. Such guys only do a simple thing like having the right skills to engage a girl in a conversation.

The major skill you need to start and sustain a conversion with a lady is not by knowing WHAT TO SAY but knowing HOW TO SAY IT. How you say something to her shows your mood and your motive. When a lady discovers your mood and motives, she decides if to roll with you or not. How you converse with her should not show you are desperate, creepy and clingy. When you chat in a desperate, unrelaxed manner, you send the girl into a panic and tensile mode. This limits her response to a parrot reply like: k, no, nothing, aiit etc. Some guys could be so creepy and clingy. For example, you don't just start chatting with a girl for the first time and the next thing is to start asking for her number, pictures and social media details. The only crop of girls who drop their number at such first clingy request are oloshos or 'inmessage' girls.

NOTE: When you engage a new girl in a chat, her number should be the last thing on your mind to get. Before you request for her number, get to know her well, her location and what her interests are.

Your conversation with a girl should not be premised only on direct clingy questions like: What is your name? Can I know you more? Can I have your number? Can we go out together. Where are you going tomorrow? Will you be less busy this evening? Can we hang out today? etc All these and similar questions are desperate and would not make her feel relaxed. Hundreds of guys are in her dm asking her the same thing and she is tired and bored of them. The moment you come up with similar mode of questions, she banishes you into the same zone with those desperate guys. That is a zone she has created for guys stalking and disturbing her. She will never give a rewarding response to such guys except something else happens.

While chatting, responses girls give can be categorized into three: Rewarding Response, Non-rewarding Response and Neutral Response. The number of rewarding responses you are able to get sometimes determine if you will ever get to meet her and date her eventually.

To get more rewarding responses from her, your conversation should reflect you are relaxed, fun to be with and unique. Make your conversation precise and interesting enough for her to sustain. If you are to ask questions, make it open ended rather than close ended. Open ended questions fans her egos and propel her to answer you. But close ended questions tie her down to a corner and generate tension. Example of Open ended question: You look great. Where are you chatting from?, Note you have cooled her ego first by saying she[b] looks great[/b] before asking for her location, therefore she is naturally propelled to answer you with a rewarding response.
Example of close ended question: [b]Do you live in Lagos? [/b]This makes her become tensile and generate suspicions like: Who is he and why does he want to know where I live? Does he want to come hurt me? etc Her response may either be rewarding or non-rewarding, depending on how her mood dictates.

To keep the conversation lively, never ask close ended questions. Equally, structure your conversation in such a way to get her talking about herself without even knowing she is doing that already. The more a girl talks with you about herself, the more she gets interested in the conversation and the more she becomes attracted to you.

Look at the templates below and decide which one is most suitable:

FROM A DESPERATE GUY'S INBOX
Me: Hello sweet bae
Her: Hi
Me: Can I meet you?
Her: (typing....stops typing)
Me: (After several seconds...) Hii, are you there?
Her: Yes.
Me: Ok.
Her: kk
Me: Can you tell me about you?
Her: No
Me: Ok. Can I have your number, please?
Her: No
Me: Why?
Her: Nothing
Me: (Angry) Why are you here then if you are not ready to meet people online?
Her: (typing....stops typing... goes offline)

(From this conversation, the lady is pissed off by the guy's desperation and may never respond to his chat for a long time)

FROM A RELAXED GUY'S INBOX
Me: Good evening
Her: Good evening
Me: Thanks
Her: k
Me: Good to meet you.
Her: Same
Me: You look great. Are you chatting from Ikoyi here?
Her: Yes.
Me: Oh cool.
Her: What about you?
Me: I live and work at Victorial Island
Her: Okay
Me: You can call me Akin by name. What about you?
Her: My name is Linda.
Me: Oh wow. I hope you mean Linda Ikeji? Smiles...
Her: Smiles...
Me: I saw you smile at that. I hope you are a big fan of her blog?
Her: Yes. I have been following her blog since 2014.
Me: Wow. You must be full of gossips like she is...
Her: Not really. I just like reading and browsing the internet generally...

(The lady is already talking about herself and her interests. If this conversation continues in that mood, she will be willing to give the guy her number at request and if the guy decides to meet her in person she will certainly drop a rewarding response)

I hope this helps some guys out.

In 2020...you should be asking how to sustain chat with cash. Girls are minor.

Send a picture of you in any car
The conversation go flow
Send another with wads of cash
Her:"whats your house address"

wow.. nice write up bro, more grace

Leeeeemaooooo.... Your relaxed Guy's inbox shhiii doesn't work on all girls..
look everything depends on their nature, some are naturally open minded, while some are naturally seclusive.
The Open minded ones are normally free with everyone because they see stuffs in different ways, the open minded ones, don't necessarily see you sliding in their DM as looking for pucci or date, some see it that way but they're free enough to let you express yourself and see how you fare while doing that....
Well the seclusive ones? Regardless, straightforward questions or calm questions, those ones are witches

girls are smart. Their response rate depends on your dp. If you`re cute and u snap inside nice ride, they`ll respond even if you say you want knack them mama. Na ugly guys dey hear am 4 their hand

Oya o, all the guys should come and learn o

mzhorlah:
Oya o, all the guys should come and learn o

Nothing to learn here..

Key is to be yourself!! She likes that? ok... She hates it? Fine...life goes on

cerpvad:
Guys,this is actually a response I gave in another thread but I think it is worth creating a new thread for.

Many guys have bitterly complained of girls snubbing their chats on phone/social media or replying with mono-lexicons such as 'k', no, nothing, aiit, duh, hmm, thumbs up emojis, or no response at all. Chatting on phone or social media with a girl you have not met before is a simple art that can be learnt. When you do not master this art well, all you get are parrot mode responses.

She is a new girl on your friendlist and you find her attractive, so you decided to dm. This is normal. But the problem starts when you start chatting and you discover she is only corresponding with mono-lexicons. this pisses you off and you conclude that all girls are proud and prove too tough to get. However, there are other guys out there who meet pretty girls (Not Oloshos) on social media, start a chat with them and end up being their boyfriends. Some even get marry to them in the long run and have a blissful marriage. This is no magic. Such guys only do a simple thing like having the right skills to engage a girl in a conversation.

The major skill you need to start and sustain a conversion with a lady is not by knowing WHAT TO SAY but knowing HOW TO SAY IT. How you say something to her shows your mood and your motive. When a lady discovers your mood and motives, she decides if to roll with you or not. How you converse with her should not show you are desperate, creepy and clingy. When you chat in a desperate, unrelaxed manner, you send the girl into a panic and tensile mode. This limits her response to a parrot reply like: k, no, nothing, aiit etc. Some guys could be so creepy and clingy. For example, you don't just start chatting with a girl for the first time and the next thing is to start asking for her number, pictures and social media details. The only crop of girls who drop their number at such first clingy request are oloshos or 'inmessage' girls.

NOTE: When you engage a new girl in a chat, her number should be the last thing on your mind to get. Before you request for her number, get to know her well, her location and what her interests are.

Your conversation with a girl should not be premised only on direct clingy questions like: What is your name? Can I know you more? Can I have your number? Can we go out together. Where are you going tomorrow? Will you be less busy this evening? Can we hang out today? etc All these and similar questions are desperate and would not make her feel relaxed. Hundreds of guys are in her dm asking her the same thing and she is tired and bored of them. The moment you come up with similar mode of questions, she banishes you into the same zone with those desperate guys. That is a zone she has created for guys stalking and disturbing her. She will never give a rewarding response to such guys except something else happens.

While chatting, responses girls give can be categorized into three: Rewarding Response, Non-rewarding Response and Neutral Response. The number of rewarding responses you are able to get sometimes determine if you will ever get to meet her and date her eventually.

To get more rewarding responses from her, your conversation should reflect you are relaxed, fun to be with and unique. Make your conversation precise and interesting enough for her to sustain. If you are to ask questions, make it open ended rather than close ended. Open ended questions fans her egos and propel her to answer you. But close ended questions tie her down to a corner and generate tension. Example of Open ended question: You look great. Where are you chatting from?, Note you have cooled her ego first by saying she[b] looks great[/b] before asking for her location, therefore she is naturally propelled to answer you with a rewarding response.
Example of close ended question: [b]Do you live in Lagos? [/b]This makes her become tensile and generate suspicions like: Who is he and why does he want to know where I live? Does he want to come hurt me? etc Her response may either be rewarding or non-rewarding, depending on how her mood dictates.

To keep the conversation lively, never ask close ended questions. Equally, structure your conversation in such a way to get her talking about herself without even knowing she is doing that already. The more a girl talks with you about herself, the more she gets interested in the conversation and the more she becomes attracted to you.

Look at the templates below and decide which one is most suitable:

FROM A DESPERATE GUY'S INBOX
Me: Hello sweet bae
Her: Hi
Me: Can I meet you?
Her: (typing....stops typing)
Me: (After several seconds...) Hii, are you there?
Her: Yes.
Me: Ok.
Her: kk
Me: Can you tell me about you?
Her: No
Me: Ok. Can I have your number, please?
Her: No
Me: Why?
Her: Nothing
Me: (Angry) Why are you here then if you are not ready to meet people online?
Her: (typing....stops typing... goes offline)

(From this conversation, the lady is pissed off by the guy's desperation and may never respond to his chat for a long time)

FROM A RELAXED GUY'S INBOX
Me: Good evening
Her: Good evening
Me: Thanks
Her: k
Me: Good to meet you.
Her: Same
Me: You look great. Are you chatting from Ikoyi here?
Her: Yes.
Me: Oh cool.
Her: What about you?
Me: I live and work at Victorial Island
Her: Okay
Me: You can call me Akin by name. What about you?
Her: My name is Linda.
Me: Oh wow. I hope you mean Linda Ikeji? Smiles...
Her: Smiles...
Me: I saw you smile at that. I hope you are a big fan of her blog?
Her: Yes. I have been following her blog since 2014.
Me: Wow. You must be full of gossips like she is...
Her: Not really. I just like reading and browsing the internet generally...

(The lady is already talking about herself and her interests. If this conversation continues in that mood, she will be willing to give the guy her number at request and if the guy decides to meet her in person she will certainly drop a rewarding response)

I hope this helps some guys out.

. Which one is Can I have your number, which number is she using to chart with you before

The first thing I do is to ask for her number and if she says no, i sharpely delete her.

It could be on apps such as Telegram, inmessage, mitchat, etc where you don't have access to her number but only her username

Tboy1419:
. Which one is Can I have your number, which number is she using to chart with you before

I know many guys that have money but are very poor when it comes to getting correct girls, not all these oloshos and hoes that are littered every where on the street. When you have money, it reaches a point you get tired of runs girls and need some serious ladies

Shibaraba:
In 2020...you should be asking how to sustain chat with cash. Girls are minor.

Send a picture of you in any car
The conversation go flow
Send another with wads of cash
Her:"whats your house address"

As far as I am concerned, some seclusive ladies can be dragged out of their cocoons when they are chatted up in a manner that appeals to their points of interest

kiddoiLL:
Leeeeemaooooo.... Your relaxed Guy's inbox shhiii doesn't work on all girls..
look everything depends on their nature, some are naturally open minded, while some are naturally seclusive.
The Open minded ones are normally free with everyone because they see stuffs in different ways, the open minded ones, don't necessarily see you sliding in their DM as looking for pucci or date, some see it that way but they're free enough to let you express yourself and see how you fare while doing that....
Well the seclusive ones? Regardless, straightforward questions or calm questions, those ones are witches

I don't think that applies to all girls. Some girls still have their integrity and values intact

psalmsmiles:
girls are smart. Their response rate depends on your dp. If you`re cute and u snap inside nice ride, they`ll respond even if you say you want knack them mama. Na ugly guys dey hear am 4 their hand

Being yourself is being in default mode or what is called 'factory setting' and it is the worst advice anyone can ever give you. When it comes to meeting girls, being yourself does not take you far. You will have to learn skills required to bypass her insecurities and have smooth conversations with her

luminouz:

Nothing to learn here..

Key is to be yourself!! She likes that? ok... She hates it? Fine...life goes on

Which lady that will not chat with a guy who live in Ikoyi?

If she is the one who first dashes you a non-rewarding response, what do you think you gain by deleting her?

Randy100:
The first thing I do is to ask for her number and if she says no, i sharpely delete her.

So What's the big deal about ikoyi?

kunkelhanspeter:
Which lady that will not chat with a guy who live in Ikoyi?

cerpvad:
Being yourself is being in default mode or what is called 'factory setting' and it is the worst advice anyone can ever give you. When it comes to meeting girls, being yourself does not take you far. You will have to learn skills required to bypass her insecurities and have smooth conversations with her

Lmaoooo...
It has worked for me so far bro.

OK. Can Share your experience with your 'Just Be Yourself (JBY) model. We can all learn from you.

luminouz:

Lmaoooo...
It has worked for me so far bro.

cerpvad:
OK. Can Share your experience with your 'Just Be Yourself (JBY) model. We can all learn from you.

Sorry bro.
I'm not growing your thread farther than I have already.
Have a nice day.

Who does growing of threads help? Me or Nairaland owners? Just say you have nothing much substantial to say. Anyway thank you.

luminouz:


Sorry bro.
I'm not growing your thread farther than I have already.
Have a nice day.

cerpvad:
Who does growing of threads help? Me or Nairaland owners? Just say you have nothing much substantial to say. Anyway thank you.

K

cerpvad:
So What's the big deal about ikoyi?

Can you compare it to oshadi?

Nice one op. At least this we help some guys
Try to funny and let the conversation flow when chatting with a guy don't be desperate please it's a turn off through some girls are naturally snubs

And please stop asking girls to come and visit you within minutes of conversations it's pretty annoying. Imagine telling a guy in anambra to come and visit in Lagos with thirty minutes of chatting that's a big turn off
Although some girls are naturally snubs they are still good ones too

cerpvad:
Being yourself is being in default mode or what is called 'factory setting' and it is the worst advice anyone can ever give you. When it comes to meeting girls, being yourself does not take you far. You will have to learn skills required to bypass her insecurities and have smooth conversations with her

Oga what bullshît should any guy be trying to bypass?
As far as this country is concerned, bypassing any babe has to do with finance, and that's only advisable if you just want to smash and run.
You can fake your life, do anything to bypass... but stop saying Being yourself doesn't take people far..
In all ramifications of life, the best advice you'll get is “Be yourself, be original ” ... Now being yourself might not get a hundred girls swooning all around you, but why are you not telling guys that being themselves will get them the woman they need, the woman who'll warm up to them without high expectations....
Na wah for you type of counseling oo

cerpvad:
If she is the one who first dashes you a non-rewarding response, what do you think you gain by deleting her?

I gain by creating space for my net to catch other fish.

Don't you think that your net will not catch another fish when you don't change the same method that made you missed the last fish?

Randy100:
I gain by creating space for my net to catch other fish.

Truly ikoyi is a high browl area but does this mean that all guys that live in Ikoyi are rich? There are poor guys in Ikoyi just as there are in Oshodi.

kunkelhanspeter:

Can you compare it to oshadi?

cerpvad:
Don't you think that your net will not catch another fish when you don't change the same method that made you missed the last fish?

Lol. Sometimes, the method is not the problem and since there are many fishes in the water be rest assured that the net will always catch one for you. You can try it. Add five girls and ask the five of them their numbers, 3 will say no and two will give you their number and you can delete the other 3.

cerpvad:
Truly ikoyi is a high browl area but does this mean that all guys that live in Ikoyi are rich? There are poor guys in Ikoyi just as there are in Oshodi.

Lady will pay more attention to a guy living there than a guy living in oshadi bro

You appear not have proper understanding of the subject matter here.

kiddoiLL:
Oga what bullshît should any guy be trying to bypass?
As far as this country is concerned, bypassing any babe has to do not with finance, and that's only advisable if you just want to smash and run.
You can fake your life, do anything to bypass... but stop saying Being yourself doesn't take people far..
In all ramifications of life, the best advice you'll get is “Be yourself, be original ” ... Now being yourself might not get a hundred girls swooning all around you, but why are you not telling guys that being themselves will get them the woman they need, the woman who'll warm up to them without high expectations....
Na wah for you type of counseling oo