I read: My Daughter Is In Marlians Cult And She Doesn't Wear Pant To School - Mother Cries Out https://www.nairaland.com/5627708/marlians-cult-daughter-doesnt-wear with dismay various comments and solidarity given to the fail mother, who failed in her parenting duty, ascribing the failure in her duty as a mother to the influence of Naira Marely. The same way our politicians ascribe the failure in the governance to past administration. We can all see where she picked up her bulk passing behaviour.

There are many ills in our society that are going on, and which the children can easily pick up from the social media, the various cable TV, the peer group and so forth, brimming with ills.

These teenagers have access to them and can influence them when making choices, but it's the duty of parents to teach their wards what norms and values expected of them.

In the western world that's even worse, we had kids that are well behave and are not influenced by the ill of the society. So for a mother to come out to ascribe her child's negative behaviour to a person or celebrity is exposing to the whole world her failure in her duty. I expected her to be reprimanded and not the icon.

The last time I checked, Nigeria is still a free society, and not a sharia governed society, and for those reprimanding the Marlians, may be we should call for a full blown sharia in all state in the country, so our kids can be well behaved so much for the moral police bunch of hypocrites.

Ur a Malian

Lazy fuqs!

They give up responsibility and say "na bubu"!

Musicians who give us good lyrics are they mad?

Training up a child requires collective effort of both the parents and the society, and in our new world the effect of the society on a child is larger than that of the parents.

Until it happens to your child that's when you will know that marlians are bunch of crazy fellows.

javaguru:
Ur a Marlin

Am not but, I stand for the truth.

neolboy:
Musicians who give us good lyrics are they mad?

Until it happens to your child that's when you will know that marlians are bunch of crazy fellows

One of the expected characteristics of a good parent, is to be able to inculcate good morals on their wards, no matter the circumstances.

Our children always look up to us parent as a role model first of all , copy our behaviour, before an outsider can influence them. If the children noticed any inconsistent in our behaviour ,they tend to lose their trust in us,and so they look outside for help.
There are so many parents that had no time for the children because of work demand ,in such cases they yielded to outside influence, in any way you might look at it ,the girl in questioned is a product of failed parenthood .

Marley is at fault

He's an entertainer and he knows majority of his fans are young ones so he should use his power over the minds of the youth to instill positive values instead of sex and drugs but unfortunately look what we have

After all the mother banned Marley songs in her house,she go ban am for her school or streets again?

dangotesmummy:
Marley is at fault

He's an entertainer and he knows majority of his fans are young ones so he should use his power over the minds of the youth to instill positive values instead of sex and drugs but unfortunately look what we have

After all the mother banned Marley songs in her house,she go ban am for her school or streets again?

Marley is an entertainer yes, he reels out what a moral police like yourseif, judges to be non conformity with the the norm of your so righteous society" which is very perfect" .The last time I checked, the control button is still on the dstv remote and ,as a parent you have the right to buy Internet enable phone for your wards or not to buy at all. May be you don't know parenting goes beyond providing for the needs of your children alone, but to whip them in line ,and to behave according to your set standards . America is a worst society where we have hundreds of naira marely , but we still have millions of teenagers that are not swayed by the so call bad influencers in the society, mainly thanks to good parenting jobs. Am not arguing about Wether marely is a saint or not ,that's not our cocern as a parent, but our main concern is to make sure that our wards are not sway by this so called wolf's out there ,since they would always be there.
If the mother does her duty well as a parent in the first instance, there are tendecies that her child can never, I repeat be swayed by the negatives out there, you can see now that the fault squarely rest with the bulk passing mum.

kiyosaki1:


Marley is an entertainer yes, he reels out what a moral police like yourseif, judges to be non conformity with the the norm of your so righteous society" which is very perfect" .The last time I checked, the control button is still on the dstv remote and ,as a parent you have the right to buy Internet enable phone for your wards or not to buy at all. May be you don't know parenting goes beyond providing for the needs of your children alone, but to whip them in line ,and to behave according to your set standards . America is a worst society where we have hundreds of naira marely , but we still have millions of teenagers that are not swayed by the so call bad influencers in the society, mainly thanks to good parenting jobs. Am not arguing about Wether marely is a saint or not ,that's not our cocern as a parent, but our main concern is to make sure that our wards are not sway by this so called wolf's out there ,since they would always be there.
If the mother does her duty well as a parent in the first instance, there are tendecies that her child can never, I repeat be swayed by the negatives out there, you can see now that the fault squarely rest with the bulk passing mum.

oga I am not a moral police.lets clear that first and even if the parent puts parental control for TV? Shey she go put parental control for parties in school or she go put parental control for music wey dey blast for streets.be realistic, musicians have a lot of influence over the youth than even pastors,imama or parents and one of the reasons the society has Lost it is because of musicians that ram ass,poosy,sex, drugs alcohol in our ears everyday not minding polluting the minds of kids.their songs penetrate everywhere even if you lock your kids at home all the time

For example how will broda no manners be singing "Omo naija fefidi pami" and you know 5year olds WIll hear stuffs like that

What is bad is bad,stop sugar coating it.NIGERIANS SHOULD ACCEPT AND ADMIT THEIR FAULT FOR JUST ONCE

it's because of abosi there's so much societal menace and decadence in Nigeria and all over the world

TheRealProphet:
Imes, the end of days and beginning of new ones, is coming and he can emerge at any blessed time. he who has ears, let him hear
Imes,we await your coming.

Who wey him dey fuq wey him no want come since?

dangotesmummy:
oga I am not a moral police.lets clear that first and even if the parent puts parental control for TV? Shey she go put parental control for parties in school or she go put parental control for music wey dey blast for streets.be realistic, musicians have a lot of influence over the youth than even pastors,imama or parents and one of the reasons the society has Lost it is because of musicians that ram ass,poosy,sex, drugs alcohol in our ears everyday not minding polluting the minds of kids.their songs penetrate everywhere even if you lock your kids at home all the time

For example how will broda no manners be singing "Omo naija fefidi pami" and you know 5year olds WIll hear stuffs like that

What is bad is bad,stop sugar coating it.NIGERIANS SHOULD ACCEPT AND ADMIT THEIR FAULT FOR JUST ONCE

it's because of abosi there's so much societal menace and decadence in Nigeria and all over the world

As said earlier even US has cardi b singing pussy pussy thousand of naira Marley singing drug and fraud and yet there are kids there who are in the good system and others in the street way !!i believe if anyone really wants something beyond that for their wards they can still have it

I don't like naira marley. but he has no blame whatsoever in whatever evil your kids engage in , musicians are not moralists , some would give you good lyrics , some would give you the other lyrics , at the end of the day it all boils down to the child not marley and not even the parents....
I listened to all kinds of music growing up , i rolled with weed smokers in the school , but I never joined them in thier shenanigans , not even once . my mom can't take the trophy for training me well , cos my friends who were even trained in more disciplined homes did all kind of sh*t , and i cant come out to condemn kids doing such things cos i was only lucky not to be one of them , musicians would sing parents would advise it all depends on the child you have , if he is decisive or easily follows the crowd !
I hate the marlians movement , buy they are a whole lot of kids who call themselves marlians, and still wear payint to school !

Pikin wey won spoil go spoil,a mother is not only the parent responsible in catering for her child,there is a father too.

Zhanmek5000:

As said earlier even US has cardi b singing pussy pussy thousand of naira Marley singing drug and fraud and yet there are kids there who are in the good system and others in the street way !!i believe if anyone really wants something beyond that for their wards they can still have it

then make it easier for the parents.now speaking for myself I don't want any of my children to see nuisances like Marley,lilwayne,cardi b as models.if at all they want to have musicians as models I'll prefer them having the likes of sunny ade,onyeka onwenu,Bob Marley, asa and other positive influences.i don't even want my children to be like Naira Marley.God forbid.tuehhhh.. orimiko

dangotesmummy:
then make it easier for the parents.now speaking for myself I don't want any of my children to see nuisances like Marley,lilwayne,cardi b as models.if at all they want to have musicians as models I'll prefer them having the likes of sunny ade,onyeka onwenu,Bob Marley, asa and other positive influences.i don't even want my children to be like Naira Marley.God forbid.tuehhhh.. orimiko

sadly , you have no control over who your kids see as role model .....you keep playing sunny ade inside the house , and they listen to naira outside ...

A lot of parents are just there for their children financialy while they are not there for their children moraly if you are a parent telling your children not to steal and they see you stealing, the children will definitely steal, at a time I noticed my children were using a particular word while talking to me and I was wondering where they learnt it from ,
all for me to discovered that I was responsible for that word unconsciously, our children are watching what will are doing practically than our verbal teachings
my personal believe is that if parents train their children very well, financially( within their capabilities) and moraly, it is difficult for that children to be easly influenced.
While growing up, I set standards for myself and there are some things my friends don't bother to tell me cause they know I will never be a party to it, the Bible says" train up your child in the way of the Lord that when he grows old he will not depart from it"

Don't worry, when you have kids you will understand better.

Joshmodest:

sadly , you have no control over who your kids see as role model .....you keep playing sunny ade inside the house , and they listen to naira outside ...

well true that.we can only try it's God that shapes the lives of children

kiyosaki1:


Am not but, I stand for the truth.

so a 15yr old kid don't know what cultism is.. so every single mistake u make, u push d result to someone. D mother sent her kid to school to learn like other kids, d school should be held responsible.. a kid spend only Saturdays n Sundays with d parents n barely see them on week days, soon you'll be a father.

Like BRIANWARNER of marilyn manson abi? LOOL

kiyosaki1:


Marley is an entertainer yes, he reels out what a moral police like yourseif, judges to be non conformity with the the norm of your so righteous society" which is very perfect" .The last time I checked, the control button is still on the dstv remote and ,as a parent you have the right to buy Internet enable phone for your wards or not to buy at all. May be you don't know parenting goes beyond providing for the needs of your children alone, but to whip them in line ,and to behave according to your set standards . America is a worst society where we have hundreds of naira marely , but we still have millions of teenagers that are not swayed by the so call bad influencers in the society, mainly thanks to good parenting jobs. Am not arguing about Wether marely is a saint or not ,that's not our cocern as a parent, but our main concern is to make sure that our wards are not sway by this so called wolf's out there ,since they would always be there.
If the mother does her duty well as a parent in the first instance, there are tendecies that her child can never, I repeat be swayed by the negatives out there, you can see now that the fault squarely rest with the bulk passing mum.

Even Saturday and Sunday sef, I no get. I was a boarder

javaguru:
so a 15yr old kid don't know what cultism is.. so every single mistake u make, u push d result to someone. D mother sent her kid to school to learn like other kids, d school should be held responsible.. a kid spend only Saturdays n Sundays with d parents n barely see them on week days, soon you'll be a father.

dangotesmummy:
oga I am not a moral police.lets clear that first and even if the parent puts parental control for TV? Shey she go put parental control for parties in school or she go put parental control for music wey dey blast for streets.be realistic, musicians have a lot of influence over the youth than even pastors,imama or parents and one of the reasons the society has Lost it is because of musicians that ram ass,poosy,sex, drugs alcohol in our ears everyday not minding polluting the minds of kids.their songs penetrate everywhere even if you lock your kids at home all the time

For example how will broda no manners be singing "Omo naija fefidi pami" and you know 5year olds WIll hear stuffs like that

What is bad is bad,stop sugar coating it.NIGERIANS SHOULD ACCEPT AND ADMIT THEIR FAULT FOR JUST ONCE

it's because of abosi there's so much societal menace and decadence in Nigeria and all over the world

The good upbringing of our wards as parents depend solely on us,the society out there is evil ,and it's our responsibility as a parent to ensure that our children are well trained .We are to let them know of what is expected out there , and what is expected of them. Ounce they atevaware of whatbiscexpected of them, they will not be easily swayed by the evil ways in the evil world. The society comprises of various evil influences and when we do our duty as a parent no matter the influence out there they will not be easily swayed.

dangotesmummy:
Marley is at fault

He's an entertainer and he knows majority of his fans are young ones so he should use his power over the minds of the youth to instill positive values instead of sex and drugs but unfortunately look what we have

After all the mother banned Marley songs in her house,she go ban am for her school or streets again?

Are worse influence not in the western world ? Yet millions of children out there turn out good. This is due to the effort of the parents, part of ones duty as parents is to teach and imbibed in our children, what is expected of them in the society, so as not to be swayed by negative influence. Parents are not to expect the society to help train their wards

javaguru:
so a 15yr old kid don't know what cultism is.. so every single mistake u make, u push d result to someone. D mother sent her kid to school to learn like other kids, d school should be held responsible.. a kid spend only Saturdays n Sundays with d parents n barely see them on week days, soon you'll be a father.

Good , the mother in this case holds naira Marley responsible.

True..

There was no immorality in Nigeria until Naira Marley came from UK. Nigerian girls were not going to school pataless until Naira Marley. They were not opening their legs for mechanics until Naira returned to Nigeria. Naira Marley is the source of all immorality in Nigeria.

Lets keep fooling ourselves. After all that is what we are very good at doing in this part of the world.

Who is this one

Criminal Marley and the government are to blame.
For any society to thrive, the deviants must be kept in check to save impressionable minds from negative influence.

Parents aren't some spirit with godlike powers, they can only do as much as humans and kids
aren't robots either, they learn fast from what they see.

Even children of people who belong to strict puritanical cults do deviate due to external pressures.

You are trying the emotional route by bringing in Sharia.
A nation doesn't need Sharia law to enforce basic decency.

Even in the so-called free countries, there is a limit of public indecency you can
get away with especially with the wrong audience before being hauled into jail.

Aki you are right

I don't have to read ur post to let u know that parents are not d problem of their children misbehavior. The society is in control of every youth and children habit. As a parent just pray for ur child/children not to go astray but still do ur path.