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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 11:46am On Jan 18, 2020
PapaAdanna:


Na wetin fit u

So after telling her severally and she declined and you thought after u must have put ur hands across her shoulder, she would oblige?

Onye ara

papa adanna aburom onye ara,
have a great weekend sir
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by MiddleDimension: 11:48am On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

my dear, that's how it happens! so when you hear stories of men getting sacked from their place of work, you should know better now than cricifying them!

and i think we me should begin to not be quiet on this otherwise it will keep happening!

when you said you were depressed not because you were sacked, but because you were accused of that which did not even come to your mind, i had to nod my head in agreement because it happened to me too!

the point is that if women are that body conscious, then it is their job to stay away from the society!

alot of people call me introvert too and i completely understand what you have said here.
i also guess that you are a gentle man like myself and that's why you tried to get her to eat something as part of ''treating het like a lady''. my dear, you are not alone.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Snapchat: 11:48am On Jan 18, 2020
AntiWailer:


Imagine things going that way and u send the kind of chat this guy sent in defence ?

We are not arguing that shiits don't happen, of course they do

In that chat, the guy must have been sorry about going close to her to the extent of touching her shoulder. Not necessarily because he has an intention to rape her.
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 11:49am On Jan 18, 2020
Openbusiness:
Too many dumb people live on this forum. You think his boss was stupid? No, she wasn't and being a lawyer too, you could see her legal wisdom in play. She gave him 2 options:
A) I invite the police (in other words, call for a police investigation)
B) I fire you
This guy chose B straight up. Because he knows he's not innocent, he knows a police investigation would find him guilty, so he jumps ship before things get too messy for him.

He then comes here so we can assuage his guilty feelings and make him feel better about his actions by pouring invectives on the housemaid for trying to frame him for rape.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 11:50am On Jan 18, 2020
dnawah:
u 4k up o! I remember one day my hand mistakenly touch a girl breast and I told her sorry but she was shouting.i gave her a dirty slap and case closed.

I doubt that happened. And if it did, thank your demons the girl wasn't related to a lawyer. You would have been someone's b1tch in kirikiri prison by now for attempted rape and assault.

Try it again and see.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by MiddleDimension: 11:52am On Jan 18, 2020
czarr:
Wetin carry your hand go her shoulder grin...i no trust you guy

will you stop it already! and how does that mean sexual conotation in anyway?

if women are too body conscious, then it is their job to stay out of the public for better people!

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by sammyscholar(m): 11:53am On Jan 18, 2020
sammyscholar:
Your message is not strong enough to acquit you. And, you didn't disappoint the woman in the first place, unless you had the intention of raping the maid truly.


See this:


"Ma, all my life, I have always worked to protect my integrity. This is important to me, for it is from it that I derive joy and pride. I did not and do not have evil, devilish intention (not even as grave as sexual assault) towards your maid; for that was never my way of life and I never pray it does!

The mistake I made, Ma, was that I tried to take a "good gesture' too far! I went too far out of my way to show hands of care! But I was only moved to care and assist a person I was meeting for the first time.

Although I don't know the lady's experience: she might have had a 'rape' or a 'near-rape' experience in the hand of somebody who first showed normal care as I did before, and that might have prompted her to act the way she did. I think that might have resulted in her feeling of insecurity and paranoia as I see it to be.

I know that in life, things happen. I have taken her reaction to my innocent gesture in good fate, and I have learnt to adjust in my relating and interacting with people. But, ma, I wanted to clarify: it is not in my thought, let alone my intention, to assault her, either sexually or in any other form. Despite all that occurred, I leave her with my best wishes. I wish her best in life.

I still remain my faithful self,
Your Name."


This is powerful than what you sent her. But, listen, if you truly had the intention fulfilling your bodily lust on the maid, just own up and let the matter sleep.
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 11:53am On Jan 18, 2020
MiddleDimension:


my dear, that's how it happens! so when you hear stories of men getting sacked from their place of work, you should know better now than cricifying them!

and i think we me should begin to not be quiet on this otherwise it will keep happening!

when you said you were depressed not because you were sacked, but because you were accused of that which did not even come to your mind, i had to nod my head in agreement because it happened to me too!

the point is that if women are that body conscious, then it is their job to stay away from the society!

alot of people call me introvert too and i completely understand what you have said here.
i also guess that you are a gentle man like myself and that's why you tried to get her to eat something as part of ''treating het like a lady''. my dear, you are not alone.

tanx for understanding,
i will stop being nice especially to women,
dis has really taught me a great lesson

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by signeddocuments: 11:53am On Jan 18, 2020
Just imagine this scenario, a girl who was purposefully dressed for a mission to seduce a man and she is naturally blessed with two big breasts and big yansh cleaning and mopping for a long period of time and you are there watching her and salivating to touch those big oranges. she is not your sister nor your mother or even your daughter, and you think you will not fall into the well arranged temptation.You are a man and not a wood. Tell us the truth and the truth shall set you free. It is a lesson, even the Bible say we should flee from every appearance of evil..... . You fell woefully into the temptation. It could happen to any man except you flee the scene. How do you know that she is maid?
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 11:54am On Jan 18, 2020
Barryp:

Did this happen in Abuja?
Is your boss from the south east?
Is she also a Pastor?
Answer these questions asap

it happened in lagos,
she is not a pastor, nd from southwest
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by MiddleDimension: 11:55am On Jan 18, 2020
awwfar:
if you're being truthful ehn ,it's not really easy to proove your innocence in that kind of mess ..so I don't blame your boss for not believing you ...just leave everything to God ,move on already, karma would surely deal with that evil maid.

the boss is a woman, and in cases like this female judges will bever understand it, and they always believe men are bad people.

it was also two women that sacked me too because they are in position of power

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Shafiiimran99: 11:55am On Jan 18, 2020
When islam say don't touch the opposite sex except your wife and children, you guys say islam is too backward.
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 11:56am On Jan 18, 2020
signeddocuments:
Just imagine this scenario, a girl who was purposefully dressed for a mission to seduce a man and she is naturally blessed with two big breasts and big yansh cleaning and mopping for a long period of time and you are there watching her and salivating to touch those big oranges. she is not your sister nor your mother or even your daughter, and you think you will not fall into the well arranged temptation.You are a man and not a wood. Tell us the truth and the truth shall set you free. It is a lesson, even the Bible say we should flee from every appearance of evil..... . You fell woefully into the temptation. It could happen to any man except you flee the scene. How do you know that she is maid?

d boss introduced her as such, nd by mere looking
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 11:57am On Jan 18, 2020
MiddleDimension:


the boss is a woman, and in cases like this female judges will bever understand it, and they always believe men are bad people.

it was also two women that sacked me too because they are in position of power

so sorry about dat

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by mrpaedo(m): 12:03pm On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


tanx my guy,
some hav started calling me rapist here
gosh
Like I said,ignore them.They are just projecting their mindset onto you.Many of them would have squeezed the maid's boobs if they were in a similar situation as you were.They are the sick ones NOT you.
All you were trying to do was put the maid at ease in terms of a superior/subordinate relationship.I have seen lots of nigerian males do the exact thing but the maid and her madam over reacted.The problem is from them NOT you.
So rest your mind

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by ambassadorgozie(m): 12:05pm On Jan 18, 2020
mrpaedo:

Like I said,ignore them.They are just projecting their mindset onto you.Many of them would have squeezed the maid's boobs if they were in a similar situation as you were.They are the sick ones NOT you.
All you were trying to do was put the maid at ease in terms of a superior/subordinate relationship.I have seen lots of nigerian males do the exact thing but the maid and her madam over reacted.The problem is from them NOT you.
So rest your mind

tanx alot,
remain blessed

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by MiddleDimension: 12:05pm On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


tanx for understanding,
i will stop being nice especially to women,
dis has really taught me a great lesson

when this whole thing happened to me, and i was being accused terribly, i still never mentioned the fact that the said lady was making passes at me, both in the lift, and also in the office.

my mentioning it now is not an after thought. i did not mention it then because all men have this thing deeply engrained in them by modern education to ''treat her like a lady'' even when she is wrong, you try not to push very much. wasn't it Akon who sang ''you can put the blame on me...even though the blame's on you, i'll take the blame from you'' even when it wasn't his fault the lady is underaged and it is upon her to stay away from the night club when she is not old enough and she looks older than her age.

i completely understand it with you when you said you will not be nice to ladies anymore. it is exactly how i felt too!

ladies are shooting themselves in the foot already with this sexual harrassement thing. more guys will only begin to drop that ''treat her like a lady'' thing that has been built up in them over time. but i must conceed it will.take a long while to remove that from us.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Shafiiimran99: 12:06pm On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:


d boss is a lawyer nd influential, i don't want to go dat way
I hope by now, you would known one of the reason islam disallowed touching the opposite sex except your wife and children?
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by UcheforGod(f): 12:10pm On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:

it might be true at d bolded, cos she screamed immediately my hand touch her shoulder
It might be that the maid has been raped before, hence such outbursts from her. Just saying anyway
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 18, 2020
Lamanii22:
That lady was sent from the pit of hell... Damn... No evidence, no nothing... Sometimes it's good to be mean sef... Too much kindness isn't good... I'm really sorry you were accused wrongly and sacked all at once.. The lord would provide a better job for you Hun..
In my opinion, I think he shouldn't have begged, but stand cool and calm and see what happens, in my case, that's what I will do. Knowing fully well, I'm not at fault.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by openmine(m): 12:11pm On Jan 18, 2020
I may be wrong but i am guessing the maid may have been raped before now and any slight touch from a 'male' was miscontrued or misinterpreted as a ploy to rape her...hence,she wanted to call on everyone's attention before it gets out of hand!

Based on what you said,after attempting to convince her to rest or eat something and she refused,the best you would have done is to mind your business and do what you are supposed to do for the day and go back home in peace!


Sorry about your job loss..its terrible esp considering its the start of a new year but don't worry,a better job awaits you!

Thank me later!

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by zoezoelogistics(m): 12:12pm On Jan 18, 2020
HarunaWest:
This OP is a blaady liar..He wanted to handle breast. Awon Press Club

Meanwhile, who else noticed the abbreviations and bad Grammar that OP text to his boss. You work for a lawyer and you send this kinda sh*** to her..I think this is the reason you were fired.

Where did you see the Whatsapp message he sent. I can’t find that in the write up.
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Nobody: 12:14pm On Jan 18, 2020
Op... If you are truly innocent, go naked under the full glare of the moon at night, stretch your hand toward the moon and lay a curse on her...

I cursed one lady who was hired to be my late mother's caregiver who accused me of rape after I didn't give in to her sexual demands and just 2 weeks later, he first child died in a motorcycle accident and her 3 year old daughter was sexually assaulted by a paedophile and struggled with VVF in a hospital where she spent a fortune.

That thing works!

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by cookiejar99(f): 12:16pm On Jan 18, 2020
Why would you be begging a grown ass woman to eat and rest...if she is hungry,she knws what to do and who to call..na ur bodyshe declined twice and you still went close to her to touch her..something must b really wrong with you

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by esthervera(f): 12:16pm On Jan 18, 2020
Action speak louder than voice,u intend to convince someone that av told u she don't want to eat like 2times.only 2 of u in d office,u moved towards her,i guess she's already afraid at DAT moment den u lay ur hand on her shoulder,offend number 2,i guess eye to eye conversation b4 she scream.....hmmmm,mr man good heart will not kill u ooo,did u know maybe she has experience rape b4?that's y she was afraid.so sorry u got to lose ur job but thank God u are not in prison,may God give another job better than d previous one.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Zharliemagn(m): 12:19pm On Jan 18, 2020
Mypeople2:
That is very bad .OP you will need a lawyer if you want to succeed in this case.When the lawyer threatens the maid, she will confess


There is no point getting a lawyer now! Bro just let go, if You are innocent, God will vindicate and give u a better job!
Bro such is life! Am sure one day u will look back and thank God for everything. So don't give up on urself

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by DeLaRue: 12:20pm On Jan 18, 2020
Question to OP...

in that same scenario, if it was a man, and not a lady, would you have behaved in exactly the same way?

I bet you wouldn't have.

Yet you did it to a person of the opposite sex and are surprised that some people believe there is a sexual connotation to your behavior.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by kushme: 12:24pm On Jan 18, 2020
ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her.
Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

I once said it. SOCIETY SEES EVERY MAN AS A POTENTIAL RAPIST.

Guy, you went to far with your good Samaritan behavior, she no wan rest, she no wan eat, you still dey push the matter..

I bet if na guy like you, you won't stress the matter after your first offer..

Its a pity, if your intentions were pure...
Women know the level of damage the weapon of rape could cause a man.

Next time, be careful when dealing with some ladies

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Levi218(m): 12:31pm On Jan 18, 2020
Guy if u be my brother me i no go forgive you, na wetin dey worry you sef? Why? 1st she no gree e pain you, you come carry your head again after one hour oh! She no gree as Sis. Mary your brain no advice. You come go again the 3rd time as 2nd Jesus Christ and touch am 4 shoulder guy your own miracle na appetite e dey give person wey no wan eat? Ok now how u want make she trust you then eat food with you? eh guy hm nawa oh, wailers over to you.

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Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by livebyday(m): 12:34pm On Jan 18, 2020
AwkaetitiBabe:
What's d injustice here? Him getting fired or d maid who got harassed?

The fact he is coming online to paint a conspiracy theory against his bosses maid

That right there is injustice
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by Aladdin1(m): 12:38pm On Jan 18, 2020
if you were really an introvert you would not attempt to put your hands on the shoulders of a girl you barely know and just met for the first time.no introvert does that!.secondly you shut yourselve on the foot by persistently asking her to come and rest and come and eat(probably she interpreted it that you want her to come rest with you and that was why she declined) no introvert does that.more also some girls interpret it that a stranger guy who is extraordinarily kind to them must want something from their bodies.so you did this to yourself.tell yourself you f.up and were foolish and that you would never be foolish again.let that be your consolation
Re: How I Was Wrongly Accused Of Rape And Got Sacked by UnknownQueen(f): 12:39pm On Jan 18, 2020
AMI3:


i believe the guy may b innocent.

the guy must have sympathised with these reason:
she is a maid,
she did eat when she suppose to eat ,
relax when she suppose to relax
looking at her and her age being a maid is worrisome .

and the guy being a compassionate guy was just trying to extend the hand of kindness to her but she took it wrongly.

I hate working for people. even when rhe guy was begging hee


I really do feel for him.... It is well.

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