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Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by johnpaschal(m): 11:57pm On Jan 18, 2020 |
your mom is just lonely just set up a date for her with anyone you might know fits the specs of what she needs she cares alot that's a fact and love is shared since you are a no go area your Assignment is to look for a widower she can take care of that's the best solution when your mum is out of your hair then sit your wife down and tell her this simple statement if she hates it resent your mum automatically without giving chance for love and resolution means you would have nothing to do with hers and you child would grow up with knowing their grand parents from both sides threaten her with that for peace to reign I hate when people harden their heart to forgive and please Mr Man your mum has no right anymore over you and your family don't ever take sides with her or anyone at alll be a pacifier don't listen to this person or this person's side of the story you fit die of confusion above all follow your heart 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by pakmoni(m): 12:12am On Jan 19, 2020 |
my neighbor dey try |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by darmochy1(m): 1:06am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Yustash001:The reason is because women naturally hate each other. 90% of ladies that call each other besties are hypocrites. That's why they leak each other's secret over a simple argument. |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by adetayoonas(m): 3:07am On Jan 19, 2020 |
I once corrected this issue before Truth : The wife is clearly at fault for not respecting the husband's mother. Let her know that She too will one day be a mother in law in future Also maybe vegenance is coming to play on his mom Op should ask his dad why both parents divorced. The mom might also be bad to your father's mom. Ask questions but sincerely you need to further appeal to your wife to respect your mom. Bible says honour your father and mom If op dad is still alive. Op should familiarize himself with his dad. The dad is in a better position to talk to ur wife 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Mouthgag: 4:50am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:You lack wisdom indeed. You need serious therapy. When you have a son and you become a motherinlaw, sense should fall in you. Nonsense! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by sodiamond: 5:35am On Jan 19, 2020 |
What's all these now. How can your wife disrespect your mum. Telling us she's a difficult and divorced does not mean anything. You are to love your mum unconditionally wether your wife likes it or not. Better warn that your wife o. She has seen you are neutral in the matter and that made her grow wings. I'm not telling her to love your mum, but she must respect her wether she likes it or not. Infact I also do not like my mother-in-law's character but you'll never notice it. You need to see what she did during our wedding. But I still respect her because she's my husband's mum. Someone who's old enough to be my mother. How can she not invite her to her dad's birthday and you followed her to the party. Allow mama to enjoy you pls. You're his first love. My son cannot love his wife more than me o. Do you know how I'm struggling to raise him? My brother's wife hates my mum too but she can't try nonsense because my bro won't allow it. Last December they had a big fight and my bro invited her people and told them the issue between him and the wife is his mum. That they should help him and ask her how his mum has offended her. She will soon shift the fight to you when mama is no longer in the picture. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by ABOVEDELAW: 5:53am On Jan 19, 2020 |
THIS IS THE MOST STUPID COMMENT I'VE READ HERE. WHERE DID IT SAY THAT A MAN MUST ABANDON HIS PARENTS AND CLING TO HIS WIFE OR IS THAT HOW YOUR PLASTIC AND WOODEN DUMB BRAIN WORKS? Mizwisdom: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Nobody: 6:18am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Don't loose your mother because of this woman you are not sure of. That is how they start. Once she's through with your mother, you are the next. Because she knows you are weak. Mama has issues just like all of us, there's nothing wrong with her wanting to be part of your family but not by visiting every week. Every end of term/ holiday is OK. Call your wife to order. If she's not accepting your mother, you're not accepting her. Let her choose. You OP, be man enough. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Ladycewhy(f): 7:32am On Jan 19, 2020 |
elektra:which made me even suspect this could be another social test thread. Even the write up is too organized and well thought out for a man in the middle of a storm. The op writes like an author. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by chuklesley02(m): 7:41am On Jan 19, 2020 |
viyon02:My brother God bless you, though I can't say who has the greater fault but I believe d dude is way too soft, how can his wife be insisting on never to have anything to do with her mother-in-law and he not been able to tell his mom his mind.(on where her boundaries end) |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by kunleweb: 7:41am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Toto tatse Don make many men lose their balls sha. A man can not take the reins and instill order in his home. Isn't it clear from all the epistle and events that the OP's wife want totalitarian control of the entire family and since the mother is outside her scope of control, it's an offense to her. May I never be as weak as this because of love. Never ever will I sacrifice my mother for any woman. What an unappreciative son. |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by kunleweb: 7:46am On Jan 19, 2020 |
And to think that the OP told his mother's history to make people feel bad about his mother shows his mother's value to him. If a mother doesn't show the care and love to a child, adulthood isn't guaranteed. This OP is a traitor to common sense. Very foolish man, your desire for peace has made you mad that you don't think being confrontational to issues against your believes is necessary. You're weak, and a betrayer. So you can't put your foot on the ground and tell your wife if she's not going to let go and turn a new page it won't be business as usual. What an unChristian woman with a very large ego and overtly large self-importance she has about her self. You're a big fool. Chase away your family you hear when you fall into troubled waters, you think just your wife's support would be sufficient to help you abi. I resent you for telling a long tale to make your mother look bad. Your wife is unrapturable and a very bad Christian. Go speak with a psychologist and marriage counselor cause you're a weakling who knows nothing about managing a marriage 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Mouthgag: 7:50am On Jan 19, 2020 |
[s] E685:[/s] No other word to describe you than VERY WEAK AND FOOLISH. Your wife on the other hand is very wicked and disrespectful. I know she can't condone half of what she's doing to your mother on her own mother before all hell will be let loose. You are not a grateful son at all. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by kunleweb: 8:00am On Jan 19, 2020 |
atctech: Pastor my foot. That doesn't grant you the right of higher ethics, knowledge or sense of right. Before you start being scriptural, canonical and spiritual when has it become a big deal to make the last days of a loving mother memorable. Are you aware wives take counsels from their own mothers. If her own mother wanted an inclusion in the wedding attendance list would the reaction from the wife be the same. It's amazing how you can condemn his mother from scriptural standards and can't condemn. The wife for malice using the same basis. Let me ask you of God came this moment who would go to hell between the two of them, the one with malice in the heart for years or the one even who can't find a single fault with. Please refrain from. Quoting your spiritual title next time. Please and please. I'm also sure you ignored the man being the head and the Lord expects his wove to be submissive I. E take to his instruction of living peaceably without conflicts with his mum for baseless reasons Come who ordain you people self. You need more time on self development. You're so unskilled to handle conflicts and give counsel. Please spend time and ask God to give you wisdom. He doesn't ciscriminates giving wisdom and the spirit of discernment to whomsoever asks 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by fashionale(m): 8:08am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Op you're too weak for my liking... For crying out loud this is your mother you're talking about here... How can your wife not give her just a little attention and respect. You've to make it an order for her to follow and man up that if she goes against, she will have to face you... Also talk to your mother about giving your family a space most times so that you can have peace... But your wife cannot exclude your own mother from your nuclear family... If she succeeds in doing that, its bad for you in this marriage... Know that you've lost the grip of your marriage.. i e, you're no longer the man of the house... Be wise and brave 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Amotekun777: 8:16am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Candiesramah: Perfectly said. God bless you, Sir! |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Amotekun777: 8:20am On Jan 19, 2020 |
LordKO: Common sense ain't too common afterall. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by samguru(m): 8:23am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Enemyofpeace: I am in my late 30s |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Amotekun777: 8:24am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Mizwisdom: Common sense ain't too common afterall 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by rflamz230(m): 8:26am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Alot has been said on this issue. But I strongly feel you lost it from the initial stage of this whole controversy. We are africans, when a woman marries a man, she's automatically married to his family. On your own part try to always make your mom understand there are things you are suppose to handle as man and wife, and for those cases where she's to be involved, don't deny her those preveledge. That's what gives her fulfilment as a mother. Your wife should be made to understand this too. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by LordKO(m): 9:37am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Amotekun777: Say hello to your lunatic parents and direct your further mention(s) to them too, because I don't associate with a nobody like you. Bumpkin. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by shugabasbn: 9:43am On Jan 19, 2020 |
Guy, u are the one at fault not your mother or wife. U need to be man not weaken bone. Tell your wife enough is enough and stand your foot. She has to accommodate your mother and accept her as her own. She has to mend her ways n accept that she married you n she has to marry your dogs as well. Concerning your mom, especially a mother that bn battered with failed relationship they normally derived joy n pleasure from their children n from the tone of your msg it seems that u are her only Son or child. Talk the true sense to her that u have feel up with undue n unnecessary interlocking issues with your wife. And let her know she is your wife n she needs to welcome her with open hands as daughter. Don't do smesme things, stand on your feet and tell both enough is enough 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Amotekun777: 9:55am On Jan 19, 2020 |
LordKO: Alrighty, Mr. Somebody. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by muffyt05: 10:58am On Jan 19, 2020 |
The only question I want to ask is, is your wife the breadwinner of the family? Because, she's gonna make you do or say things to your mother that she'll never ever be able to forgive you. Mothers are always that way, protective and you must never allow your woman strain the love between you 2. I'm 100% certain that your wife would want the same attention from her son when he's also married. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Horlufemi(m): 11:40am On Jan 19, 2020 |
That's your personal problem |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by E685(m): 12:22pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
muffyt05: Thanks for your input. I'm the primary breadwinner and have always been. Basically I earns double of what she make and I've always paid all the bills. She spend most of her wage on herself ( make -up, clothes, shoes, bags, etc) and only contributes to the food budget if I run out of money completely. |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Bigii(m): 12:24pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
Candiesramah: This is where I stopped reading comments. You know why?? Your comment is the full-stop. Every other thing I have read was rubbish. You got a functional brain.God bless you |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Dameland: 1:13pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
[quote author=E685 post=85924289] Thanks for your input. I'm the primary breadwinner and have always been. Basically I earns double of what she make and I've always paid all the bills. She spend most of her wage on herself ( make -up, clothes, shoes, bags, etc) and only contributes to the food budget if I run out of money completely.[/quote This your wife will kill you if you do not step up your game. You are really annoying me. Are u under influence of charm or What? I can't try this crap your wife is doing with my husband. I learnt my lesson a long time ago. As a woman, I am telling you that there is no love in your marriage. All I see is a manipulative woman who thinks she has discovered an asset and she wants to take full control of him and with your mum around she can not fully control you so she wants your mum out of the way. You are being manipulated young man...wake up. I am a woman and I am telling you. I know how this works Wake up now or you will be a puppet in 10 years time. You will become irrelevant once she is done...she will focus on her kids in future cos she has used you, removed you from all your support network and in your 50s you will have a fragmented family...no authority in the home, lonely and end up dying from heartbreak. Wake up young man, wake up. If your mum wants to come to see her grand child weekends and this is.making your wife uncomfortable. why don't you and your wife drop off the child with your mum on Fridays evening and pick him up Saturday evening. This will give you both time to spend with each other. Don't let a woman control you. We women are powerful and deep beings...we are not as weak as men think. Wake up. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by spiralwedge(m): 1:16pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
You need to work on yourself. You are not matured yet to marry. You are still a mummy's boy. I stopped reading at the point you said you disclosed to your mother where you were both going on Saturday. She was to come on Sunday anyways. You shouldn't have. You are such a chicken. Your wife will get tired of the marriage very soon, unless your mum passes away. Marriage requires wisdom and decisiveness. You lack both. Your mother is apparently the trouble here, and you alone is the solution. If you don't, your marriage will crash. I'm sure this problem is already causing disaffection between all family members who don't really know the true story. |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Gcool2(m): 2:57pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
It's this your wife that will kill you. It's like once some of you men get married, you trade your sense of reasoning along the way. Just imagine the nonsense you defended. What was wrong in your mum requesting an addition in your wedding guest list? Would that your wife have rejected it if it had come from her mother? She should be happy she got a good mother-in-law willing to make things work out, else, she would have been shown what's like to have issues with mothers-in-law. I don't blame her sha, it's you I blame.the lady took the situation too far... |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Gcool2(m): 3:06pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
@OP,the title should be my wife hates my mother ...not what you put up there....I am currently pissed !it is like u lack the intelligence to decipher how emotionally down ur mum is right now...Not wanted by her son's wife and you are here spewing rubbish... Solution,Tell your wife to come to her senses,if she fails to...Avoid her and make her see reasons for her actions,she can't pretend to love n and disregard your mum....who does that....she treats your mum like trash and u do not act like a man! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife And Mother Hate Each Other by Gcool2(m): 3:10pm On Jan 19, 2020 |
pakmoni:lol,ur neighbor dey experience this too? |
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