rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

Very much on point. My first child, a female is my carbon copy. Even if I go to the place where the test will be carried out, I'm 100% sure that they will ask me if I'm okay at all.

tellwisdom:


Mugu, be looking for likes from women. Don’t go and do a DNA check on yourself and pikin

@Gwilym, comparing male infidelity with paternity fraud is a false equivalence. The worst that can happen if a man cheats on his wife is to have a child with the mistress, it is a world apart from, and relatively milder than being deceived into believing the child you’re raising is yours.

When the man has children from extramarital activities does he bring them home and try to pass them off as his wife’s?

Lordswazz:
All the people shouting "men that met their wives a virgin nko?" "This problem doesn't concern virgins that got married," abeg, make we dey honest with ourselves, how many men dey marry virgins these days?
The guy is 100% right. His method of passing the message might be crude, but he's right. The only girl you can vouch for to a large extent that the baby is yours when married, is a virgin. Even that one sef, assurance no be 100% but it comes dangerously close.
Always do DNA. It is a must in this dispensation of free sex.

You can vouch for no one, not even a virgin. I know a man who swears with his life he married his wife a virgin, and he has caught on three different occasions frolicking with strange men in hotels after he got intel. Alaye, leave matter. Virginity is not holiness. Trust, but verify is the motto.

Korllami007:
Who noticed that all the women on this thread are against paternity test? This is a strong message to guys. I think they are guilty or they are planning to indulge in paternity fraud in future.

I seriously can't begin to understand what the fuss is all about...

Some have even turned the thread to a spitting contest!!! Lolzzzz.

Our mothers back in the day would not flinch, complain or be bothered at the suggestion of paternity test, they would have gladly escorted the men to run them, knowing proudly, smugly, and assuredly how the results would pan out as a waste of money, and equally chilling for the man to come apologizing after...

That was how a side chick wanted to pin a pregnancy on my wayward uncle... Nigga maintained he was never that drunk to go "skin dipping" without his "raincoat". At the mention of paternity test and lawsuit if the result went in his favor, the bimbo beat a hasty retreat with her unborn child. Smh.

crafteck:


Recently a victim. Can't talk yet

If you don’t mind, can you furnish us with your experience? Thanks

drskyfly007:
chai am looking for a virgin to marry this year ....

Virgin girls are meant for virgin boys only, they are not for playboys who have scattered their seeds everywhere.

Why do I feel most of the ladies against the post are guilty of infidelity or carry another mans child for their husband... Cos I don't see reason why you should insult d OP for airing his opinion about paternal fraud..

Why take it personal? Did he shake your table? Are you a LovePeddler?


Learn to tackle constructive critisicim without insulting ..

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

are you sure? cuz Joseph wasn't the father of Jesus

greggng:
....you won't be on earth forever

People tend to forget about this fact and tend to get carried away with the present - just be happy and live your life as no one is leaving here alive even if you tay reach 120 years. So what if you raise another man's child? That child sees and calls you Dad and might even be there for you more than your own biological children. This territorial mentality is the reason why our people tend to maltreat children other than theirs

Gwilym:


The average Nigerian boy gfrows up idolising men who sleep around and have kids all over the place, and women all over the place. After all, they are 'Men indeed'.

The average Nigerian boy is also unfaithful to his girlfriend...after all, men are 'supposed to be polygamous at heart' you know.

The average Nigerian boy scoffs at religious leaders who warn him or her against pre-marital sex, because 'they are all hypocrites'

The average Nigerian boy puts pressure on the average Nigerian girl, forces her to sleep with him 'because he has needs' then dumps her and moves on to the next girl 'because that babe was a slut'

OP...I am not insulting you. But your comment about Nigerian women , while partially true, is not complete without the contribution of the Nigerian male to the disaster.

Many of you men, sorry many of us men because I am a man myself, tempt young women into sex. When we get into a position of authority and money, we think it is high time we accquired a harem of young nubile girls. We help women in return for cash. And when we are young we force women to get it on with us, even when the woman is saying 'no sex till marriage'

And nationally, you people vote in corrupt leaders, who mess up the economy, and make it difficult for poor young women to provide for themselves and their familes....so we make them our prey.

Many of those women who sleep around, while some of them are obviously in it for the evil , do it because of pressure from the men in their lives. And after when they get pregnant or abort...we refer to them as sluts...and then we do it again with them.

You want women in Nigerian to change...without having the men and by extension the society to change. What you are experiencing is the result of that.

P.S Something tells me you are not telling us the full story. Also, when we tell you people not to have fun before marriage...you people laugh at us as holy holy.

PS2 Many Nigerian women keep their marital vows. You married a hoe because you went 'to that far country'

Well said.

Men are all guilty, except very few religious ones.

Wow

quirus:


Virgin girls are meant for virgin boys only, they are not for playboys who have scattered their seeds everywhere.

You are wrong.

Broke girls are looking for rich guy to marry and no one sees nothing wrong in it. A non Virgin boy that has fvcked 500 girls still has right to look for a virgin girl to marry if it is what he desires.

As long as broke girls are looking to marry a rich dude, there's nothing wrong for a non virgin guy search for a virgin to marry.

Somethings are better left as it is. So you find out, what next?

Such ignorance is bliss. No need. Trust is the key.

He who is not afraid of Nigerian girls is really a strong person.

gbami:
Am about doing a peternity test on my child... That's the real gist

I laughed here! The poor child and the woman you are suspecting, so this is what marriages have turned to? Suspicion upandan.

It's funny how ur post makes the men the victims. Like you don conduct research, censors and survey to come to this conclusion. But I guess you have seen things we haven't.

So lemme ask you based on this ya theory, is there a possibility someone is also raising your child as theirs in their house?

People should live decent lives but no, this is what we have to deal with in return. People raising other people's children.

What a pity. Be morally upright people. Let's have a sane society.

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

Na lie ooo, there is this cream that turns women back to virgin even after receiving 12inches mamba

Hisduchess:


Then go and do it and stop disturbing us

He didn't disturb you. You are the one commenting on a thread he opened. You can avoid this thread if you wanted.

Amalekki:

People tend to forget about this fact and tend to get carried away with the present - just be happy and live your life as no one is leaving here alive even if you tay reach 120 years. So what if you raise another man's child? That child sees and calls you Dad and might even be there for you more than your own biological children. This territorial mentality is the reason why our people tend to maltreat children other than theirs

You are a wise man ....that is why i responded to you. Endomie children can't think smart like u. ....I have only one child but I 've trained many from others cos I believe only good things I did will count on the last day...it takes wisdom to get to my level

You dey do me longer throat.

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

Wickedtruths:
Guys, see the way ladies are commenting nonsense on this thread, trying to discourage guys from undergoing paternity tests. Many of them have given other men's children to their foolish husbands to train. They don't want their secrets to leak.

Don't spend your life sweat on another man's child, carry out a secret paternity test on that child.

Never let your wife know. She would prefer to kill you and become a widow than for the secret to leak out. Even her family would support her killing you to protect their image. Immediately you discover, call a family meeting and give them the result there.

This is the start of a new decade, don't use the entire decade to labour on another man's child.

40% of firstborns belong to other men. Don't be a fool.
https://newsdayonline.com.ng/4-out-of-every-10-nigerian-men-are-not-the-fathers-of-their-first-children-dna-expert-reveals/

You made a lot of sense Bro

Serial cheater spotted.

Winneygirl:
All these internet warriors claiming that most women are unfaithful...95% women bla bla bla
Yet every Saturday, weddings, weddings, weddings.
Are the unfaithful women busy marrying themselves?
.
If you doubt the paternity of your child, it is up to you. Don't be unfortunate thinking that everyone is unfortunate like you.

Not necessary when your first born is your carbon copy

MUGU

goshen26:
1. I was the one opened the door, and I did not open it until I was given the key at the church. Only a thief would get into a room without key

2. We did not lick hot soup while it was on the fire

3. Our church compelled us to do preg test



This is why we tell u to stay away from premarital dike_ing

czarina:
Yaaaas! something prompted the thread creation. Op never talk the koko

. What has whatever the Koko is got to do with a General Advise ,Only females with hidden skeleton in there cupboard gives Funny and unrelated comments . Men Carry go do this Paternity Test ooo but never disclose this move to your Female Partner ,Don't even try picking calls relating to this ... Daughters of Eve are Trickish ...

Can somebody tell me how much it cost to do a paternity test.
Is it every hospital that are capable of doing the test?

gbami:
Am about doing a peternity test on my child... That's the real gist

i'll wager 5,000 naira that paternity test will confirm it's your child !

gbami:
The average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends at the same time....

She sleeps with all of them at different occasions. You are probably training another man's child. Do you know why? Let me explain..

She gets pregnant for one of you? She may not know who impregnated her or she knows (Thank God)... But Amongst the 4 boyfriends...You are the most decent, maybe smartest (intelligent) or even richer than the others. She comes to your house with tears in her eyes, telling you that she is pregnant, and she can't have a child outside wedlock. You the foolish and decent guy feels sorry for her. Rush to see her parents, in 3months times before the pregnancy can be noticed by people. You are married.

Married to a cheater, that's probably carrying another man's child...Guys... don't be fooled... Don't wait till 18yrs or more to know that you are training another man's Child. Do it immediately after birth or in few months after birth, then make a decision to continue or not... Don't be deceived into training another man's child.

Paternity fraud is real. One In three children especially the first child are being trained by non-biological father...

Be wise

nice,dats ow my ex take carry my baby give her husband til nw,

franklingud:

But where man go see Virgin to marry?
Even a girl in primary 6 is no longer a Virgin, so where dem dey?

This is a lie

Jewessgratitude:
LINTUNE
AstroG
Come and see what will befall you two since you have decided to continue wallowing in your ignorance.

Lintun onye 21st century, them go use you train another man children under your nose. Mumu

If u really hate them so much you should not have called them here. Now you've alerted them to this and they now know how to prevent training another man's child

A girl started a thread the other day to complain about her boyfriend that was pressuring her for sex when she was not interested in premarital sex.
Nairaland idiot men came to insult and bash her and tell her to sleep with him because he has needs and she must fulfill the needs while dating him.

Now the same clowns have come here to cry about first children not belonging to husbands. Una go cry tire. Women will continue to cheat on you and go Scot free because they are good at hiding it. Even though they don't have kids outside wedlock, many of them will still cheat, deal with it.
After pressuring women to sleep with you, your selfish hypocrite arses will turn around and insult them and call them names. Even the married ones that have multiple girlfriends and patronize whores are busy looking for faithful wives up and down.

Every Men/ Father / Husband must do this Paternity Test . You are still a Mugun/Ode/ Mumu , if you are still carried away with " I love ,I trust my wife ,Am the only one she sleeps with .How Painfull,wasteful it is working so Hard to feed,Father ,Train a Child which is not yours ,strange enough deep down in the heart of the woman she knows the real father ...Shine your eyes MEN . Be careful when you are about to this ,Don't ever disclose the plan with anyone ,don't tell the child ,Don't make or pick calls relating to this in the presence of your wife Be caring ,Matured when doing this .If you do Woman will turn your home to Hell with Nonsense words like " Don't you trust me again bla bla bla .Abeg rush go do Paternity test oooo.

That's the reality these days. That's how 'majority' of these girlfriends are, they say they don't want to put their eggs in one basket. But, that doesn't also mean f**king all your side niggas.
That's their excuse for having multiple sexual partners simultaneously. Get DNA money before getting married and let her know of your intentions about the DNA, if she won't accept it, thank God, we're about 200million people in this country alone.
NB: There are some actions you take in a relationship/marriage, and majority of women are speaking against it, like we have with this thread. You're on the right track. Their kicking against it is an hint.