rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

Not always true

She can still get pregnant for someone AFTER marriage
This happens often

It's just for man to b prayerful so as to dodge KARISHIKA
If not

OYO

Onyi22:
Thank God am still a vVIRGIN oooo, I don't need to worry about anything once I finally get married

singing ; " aaah , onyi eh onyi , i love my onyi eh onyi , so make we do the goody gaga . . . . . . " ( abi no be so 2baba sing am ?

Its no one's fault you built your relationship/marriage on lies/deceit.

Like every other negroe that agrees to your pathetic opinion, you have laid your bed, so lay on it alone.

Leave others who dated their kind in trust and honesty to enjoy their marital bliss.

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

Are you one??

djgreenland:
Oga, you just posted rubbish, and you are also telling us you are not alright.


So the amount of broken homes we have is not enough ba?

While sharing your opinion, just don't break your own home.

Home on what foundation?

Sooner DNA will be the bases of giving Birth certificate. Watch out!

This happened to me ,i found out my son wasnt mine, the mum is AA am AA but our supposed child is AS.

frenchtoast:
I thought humans aren't supposed to be monogamous, these females are just living in their natural essence

Then she should know who impregnated her and take the baby to the correct daddy. Even animals can do this why can't the female of our species with high intelligence do same?

Tajbol4splend:
Infidelity is a bastard, some people can't swear their wives won't sleep with another man if they get gone for ordinary a week, that's sad.

The thing tire me o

I was in a vehicle just yesterday, and the Driver asked one passenger about the welfare of her husband (in Igbo dialect)
And she replied in same dialect, saying that the husband still didn't return this past Christmas, and that she's not even sure if he'll be coming in the next three months.

Inside me, right there, I just asked myself...
How is she coping?
Is she being faithful to the husband at all?

I pray she is though.

Madlov3:
not everyone is as broke as you

No mind the guy..besides I heard it's 60k..not 100k in Lagos.

Una never see, you guys will be the ones pressuring young girls for sex, and later start crying that there are no decent girls. When you guys are the chief demons.

A girl will start dating, the next thing a useless boy will want from her is sex, you men are the ones that bred this, so, let it consume you and don't complain while at it.

And btw, if a woman has a child that's not her husband's child, it means that another man is responsible for the pregnancy and thereby, breeding children outside wedlock on his own side. So, it's not entirely a woman's thing cos they aren't the ones getting themselves pregnant.

Myhusband:
men that met their wives as a virgin shouldn't bother


any lady that open her legs for a man/guy that has not even know your parent, not to talk of proposing marriage to you are all olosho

God bless you. And the men inclusive, the Bible says " he that is joined to a prostitute is one flesh with her". If only young men and women will maintain sexual purity in their relationship.
Oooohhh! What a lost generation where imorality is celebrated and used as yard stick to measure love.

Sniper101:


The thing tire me o

I was in a vehicle just yesterday, and the Driver asked one passenger about the welfare of her husband (in Igbo dialect)
And she replied in same dialect, saying that the husband still didn't return this past Christmas, and that she's not even sure if he'll be coming in the next three months.

Inside me, right there, I just asked myself...
How is she coping?
Is she being faithful to the husband at all?

I pray she is though.

And you didn't wonder on how the husband is coping, if he's being faithful to his wife while away? Some of you on this forum are simply stupid. Seems your mothers did a poor job at upbringing if you think women are cheats. Shebi, they're cheating with themselves abi?

See, loyalty is a two way thing. You can't have what you can't give. As you are, how many girlfriends are you keeping? How many of you would stick by your wives 'till death do you path without running after younger girls to destroy their lives? You see, you men are the problem of this world, not women.

What is the cost range for paternity tests?

Gwilym:
Just some random thoughts.

The sad thing is that, yes, many Nigerian ladies do sleep around , so also do Nigerian boys.

Nigerian boys are growing up with role models who sleep around with women, and have veritable harems of young women around. Right now, the main role models are musicians like Wizkid, 9ice 2 baba and company who sleep around, have kids all over the place, and are hailed as heroes.

With such role models, it isn't surprising that most young men in this country end up pressuring young women into premature s'xul relations. The big man on top pressurizes the women under him into s'x, the rich man uses money and promises of help in return for 'a little favour' and the young impatient man forces his fiancee to 'do it , please, we will get married now!' even when the 'No s'x relationships' law has been established.

At the end of the day, why should we not be surprised when young women have kids out of wedlock. We have normalized it to the point that anyone preaching against premarital sex and adultery is regarded as a 'hypocrite'.

Of course, many young women too use s'x as a tool...to feed their vanity. I would be remiss if we don't mention that.

But my main problem with the OP is that he is putting the whole blame on women for the promiscuity problem. I strongly suspect that he and his wife were not honest with each other when they were dating. They also were having fun, not only with each other, but with other people....and when the kasala burst.....they had to get married. Now, the blame game has started.

We cannot be blaming women for being loose when men themselves are behaving like animals in heat. And I say this as a very conservative, born again Christian male, and a Nigerian.

God bless you.
If all shape tape sexual desire, there will be nothing as such.
What pains me the most, is the way and manner in which sexual imorality is celebrated in our society and the Church turning it's voice and face the other way. I weep for this generation

Could that be the reason some churches conduct pregnancy test on the woman a night before the wedding?

gbami:
The average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends at the same time....

She sleeps with all of them at different occasions. You are probably training another man's child. Do you know why? Let me explain..

She gets pregnant for one of you? She may not know who impregnated her or she knows (Thank God)... But Amongst the 4 boyfriends...You are the most decent, maybe smartest (intelligent) or even richer than the others. She comes to your house with tears in her eyes, telling you that she is pregnant, and she can't have a child outside wedlock. You the foolish and decent guy feels sorry for her. Rush to see her parents, in 3months times before the pregnancy can be noticed by people. You are married.

Married to a cheater, that's probably carrying another man's child...Guys... don't be fooled... Don't wait till 18yrs or more to know that you are training another man's Child. Do it immediately after birth or in few months after birth, then make a decision to continue or not... Don't be deceived into training another man's child.

Paternity fraud is real. One In three children especially the first child are being trained by non-biological father...

Be wise

Nice one bro

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

The virgins that are doing anal sex upandan ? Iffa hear am!!!

gbami:
The average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends at the same time....

She sleeps with all of them at different occasions. You are probably training another man's child. Do you know why? Let me explain..

She gets pregnant for one of you? She may not know who impregnated her or she knows (Thank God)... But Amongst the 4 boyfriends...You are the most decent, maybe smartest (intelligent) or even richer than the others. She comes to your house with tears in her eyes, telling you that she is pregnant, and she can't have a child outside wedlock. You the foolish and decent guy feels sorry for her. Rush to see her parents, in 3months times before the pregnancy can be noticed by people. You are married.

Married to a cheater, that's probably carrying another man's child...Guys... don't be fooled... Don't wait till 18yrs or more to know that you are training another man's Child. Do it immediately after birth or in few months after birth, then make a decision to continue or not... Don't be deceived into training another man's child.

Paternity fraud is real. One In three children especially the first child are being trained by non-biological father...

Be wise

You might have some evidence of truth in your write up, you're assertion is still highly flawed.

And, by extended logic, another man is quite possibly training your own child, if the op is correct.

If you want to avoid being a daddy, to your own or to others' children, use a condom. That also avoids sharing STDs around between you and your other girlfriends, talk less of sharing babies around with her other boyfriends.

Meanwhile, to anyone finding himself training a kid that isn't his...for the innocent child's sake, take it as a compliment that you were chosen as the fittest role model. Under your guidance, that child could turn out to be a winner, and do you proud. Own that.

125diCalcitriol:
Give us d real gist behind this post.

Davido tins........

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

A fake virginity can be fixed.
Read online.

Naija gals are terrible humans. God save us; because we have so many innocent guys out there. We pray they wake up and be man enough to choose with wisdom.

Gwilym:


The average Nigerian boy gfrows up idolising men who sleep around and have kids all over the place, and women all over the place. After all, they are 'Men indeed'.

The average Nigerian boy is also unfaithful to his girlfriend...after all, men are 'supposed to be polygamous at heart' you know.

The average Nigerian boy scoffs at religious leaders who warn him or her against pre-marital sex, because 'they are all hypocrites'

The average Nigerian boy puts pressure on the average Nigerian girl, forces her to sleep with him 'because he has needs' then dumps her and moves on to the next girl 'because that babe was a slut'

OP...I am not insulting you. But your comment about Nigerian women , while partially true, is not complete without the contribution of the Nigerian male to the disaster.

Many of you men, sorry many of us men because I am a man myself, tempt young women into sex. When we get into a position of authority and money, we think it is high time we accquired a harem of young nubile girls. We help women in return for cash. And when we are young we force women to get it on with us, even when the woman is saying 'no sex till marriage'

And nationally, you people vote in corrupt leaders, who mess up the economy, and make it difficult for poor young women to provide for themselves and their familes....so we make them our prey.

Many of those women who sleep around, while some of them are obviously in it for the evil , do it because of pressure from the men in their lives. And after when they get pregnant or abort...we refer to them as sluts...and then we do it again with them.

You want women in Nigerian to change...without having the men and by extension the society to change. What you are experiencing is the result of that.

Thank you, sir. You are one of the few people willing to examine the larger picture, and find the reciprocal role of men, in the situation.

bezimo:


You can't be more correct...bunch of hoes..the average 9ja girl is a hoe..from male bestie..to another guy that is just a friend..yet shifting her pant regularly...then her main boyfriend that is deceiving himself that he has a gf Thats why I laugh at a guy that takes 9ja girl serious or carries her matter on his head like gala.Lol

True talk tho. Years back in University, gf male bestie was always on my case, useless gf would take his side against me. For my sanity I quit the relationship. A week later, pictures were being flaunted on IG and FB that they were dating. Me just codedly lock up looking for more holes to smash. Relationship gbakwu okwu. Get a surrogate mom and raise my one kid by myself.

SocialJustice:
Then she should know who impregnated her and take the baby to the correct daddy. Even animals can do this why can't the female of our species with high intelligence do same?

Because sense is far from them.

Na busuru and akwaiya na be their chairman. If you be gentleman, them go use your head play Kalo Kalo.

Winneygirl:
All these internet warriors claiming that most women are unfaithful...95% women bla bla bla
Yet every Saturday, weddings, weddings, weddings.
Are the unfaithful women busy marrying themselves?
.
If you doubt the paternity of your child, it is up to you. Don't be unfortunate thinking that everyone is unfortunate like you.

Try receive sense na. There is paternity fraud everywhere. The statistics are their. If you have nothing to fear why are you allergic to paternity test. Receive sense.

DonJayrome:
Op are you the first child? Did you just find out that your mum actually had you for another man instead of your father? If that's the case please we are sorry your mum hurt your dad that way but hey listen, not all ladies are like your mum okay. Go and heal yourself, there are still good women out there.

Excellent points. @Gbami or OP, you didn’t respond to this. Please respond, also trace it back to your great grand parents, then your grand, Also give us details of the other three men in your mums life before your dad accepted your pregnancy, do you know those men? Do you look like any of them? Research bro, research..... then extend it to your sisters and aunts.
Like @donjayrome said, the fact that you’re a product of that... doesn’t make girls, ladies, women that way. Case in point, you were asking for hookup for anal, on another thread, for me that is an abomination. You see how we all are different?

uruba23:

so you plan to unfather them if they are not you kid. So the they can also un-son or un-daughter you....

What's strong with that?

You know how many of the so called married sisters in your parishes that engage in adultery ? You'll loose count abeg just gbe agbelebu e and stop banking on marrying a virgin, most of the so called wayward girls are better off after marriage

goshen26:
1. I was the one opened the door, and I did not open it until I was given the key at the church. Only a thief would get into a room without key

2. We did not lick hot soup while it was on the fire

3. Our church compelled us to do preg test



This is why we tell u to stay away from premarital dike_ing

Xisnin:

What's strong with that?

Well after studying the subject of after life.I noticed your kid has nothing to do with your DNA, it is the kid you love and raise that you are been registered as been the father.Life is far more mysterious than that DNA.