Prreeeeaach sir, you have a good head on your shoulders.

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Gwilym:


The average Nigerian boy gfrows up idolising men who sleep around and have kids all over the place, and women all over the place. After all, they are 'Men indeed'.

The average Nigerian boy is also unfaithful to his girlfriend...after all, men are 'supposed to be polygamous at heart' you know.

The average Nigerian boy scoffs at religious leaders who warn him or her against pre-marital sex, because 'they are all hypocrites'

The average Nigerian boy puts pressure on the average Nigerian girl, forces her to sleep with him 'because he has needs' then dumps her and moves on to the next girl 'because that babe was a slut'

OP...I am not insulting you. But your comment about Nigerian women , while partially true, is not complete without the contribution of the Nigerian male to the disaster.

Many of you men, sorry many of us men because I am a man myself, tempt young women into sex. When we get into a position of authority and money, we think it is high time we accquired a harem of young nubile girls. We help women in return for cash. And when we are young we force women to get it on with us, even when the woman is saying 'no sex till marriage'

And nationally, you people vote in corrupt leaders, who mess up the economy, and make it difficult for poor young women to provide for themselves and their familes....so we make them our prey.

Many of those women who sleep around, while some of them are obviously in it for the evil , do it because of pressure from the men in their lives. And after when they get pregnant or abort...we refer to them as sluts...and then we do it again with them.

You want women in Nigerian to change...without having the men and by extension the society to change. What you are experiencing is the result of that.

P.S Something tells me you are not telling us the full story. Also, when we tell you people not to have fun before marriage...you people laugh at us as holy holy.

PS2 Many Nigerian women keep their marital vows. You married a hoe because you went 'to that far country'

She mo pe oloshi ni e?

MrCork:


calm down Homebase woman...do u realize u talking to a Londoner?.. do u realize am from London?.. am not on your level u no? I have moiney..u don't have...and qiir lying..u don't have man!!

uruba23:


Well after studying the subject of after life.I noticed your kid has nothing to do with your DNA, it is the kid you love and raise that you are been registered as been the father.Life is far more mysterious than that DNA.

Then what's the point of getting your wife pregnant and make her go through hell
when there are thousands of forced orphans you can adopt and become their father?

What's even the point of getting married or even be in a relationship, we all know life
is much more than marriage.

What's the point of keeping to your promise in business or relationship, when you can
deceive people as you wish. We all know that life is far more mysterious than integrity.

What's even the point of living and being caged by different rules and laws, when you could become
totally free with many easy options.

Xisnin:

Then what's the point of getting your wife pregnant and make her go through hell
when there are thousands of forced orphans you can adopt and become their father?

What's even the point of getting married or even be in a relationship, we all know life
is much more than marriage.

What's the point of keeping to your promise in business or relationship, when you can
deceive people as you wish. We all know that life is far more mysterious than integrity.

What's even the point of living and being caged by different rules and laws, when you could become
totally free with many easy options.

Don't take things too far, I am only saying sometimes you have invested your time and emotions to this little lads and they have done same too.To now throw them on the street because of a DNA report is quite unfair. It is a different thing if you find out early. You know I found out my parent weren't my biological parent when I was 34 years. Tell me where do I start from with that information.

cococandy:
Any words for men who sleep around? Or your morals only apply to women?

Like I said, you’re not yet ready to not raise another man’s child. It’s coming

for the fact that some believe men are polygamous in nature, I still believe is an invalid assertion


men who marry more wives are still on the track because they follow right channel but those sleeping around STD, HIV await them but that doesn't exonerate the fact that dignity and stigma are things why a lady must respect her body


many parents are raising olosho in waiting these days they don't know because of the existed foundation


lemme quickly correct your notion that I might raise another person's child no I will not, I date a queen not biitch, you can tell that to men with low class who spent money on a loose lady

Only in Nigeria, only in Africa.

frenchtoast:
I thought humans aren't supposed to be monogamous, these females are just living in their natural essence

Let them use their money. Nobody is saying you shouldn't have numerous bfs; just spend ur money, OK?

MartinsD12:

Very true girls can never be trusted

Not only this they can give you AIDS. Trust those whores at your own peril..and you will realise why Muslims still practice the mosaic law of stoning ..smh

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Ori12:
Walahi,there are some idiots and insane people here who dont like d truth talk.Somebody is talking about his experience here,and u people are insulting him.Is he directing this post to any of u.
If u don't know what to say why not keep off from d post.Mind u this is a lesson to d wise people.

They are just too much, idiot people. Don't know why it is wrong to take DNA. Nigeria breeds so many stupid people

Korllami007:


A guy advised men to do paternity test to their children and the women are bashing him. It obvious that there are facts in the guy's post. I don't know what women here are scared of.

Even some men condemned his opinion, problem dey ooo

Gwilym:


The thing is, if men were really committed to following what religion and society has been prescribing for centuries...that good sex is best within marriage , and with your spouse...the idea of women sleeping around would not arise, because both sides would control themselves.

Also electing a corrupt free president means better economic polcies, which means more jobs, and less opportunity for rich men to prey on poor girls...and enough disposable incomes for young women not to be looking for rich sugar daddies.

Good night.

So olosho no dey America or London.? They even auction virginity as I dey here for there sef

DonJayrome:
Op are you the first child? Did you just find out that your mum actually had you for another man instead of your father? If that's the case please we are sorry your mum hurt your dad that way but hey listen, not all ladies are like your mum okay. Go and heal yourself, there are still good women out there.

But you don't have to be this stupid. Even if you insult me, I won't open this thread to see it and it doesn't change the fact that you are an irredeemable idiot.

PrimadonnaO:


Chai. Very very bitter.

Ñdo. May the Lord grant you succor.

I guess it's wrong doing DNA.

@0p..start by telling your father to run a paternity test on you.

Are you sure your mother didn't play away match?

Nonsense!

greggng:
Stop creating problem for married people. Children are gift from God...God will even bless u if u unknowingly trained another persons child. Everything on earth is vanity ...plan for heaven by doing good things....you won't be on earth forever

So... He should not confirm if the child is really his or what, cus I don't understand

greggng:



You are a wise man ....that is why i responded to you. Endomie children can't think smart like u. ....I have only one child but I 've trained many from others cos I believe only good things I did will count on the last day...it takes wisdom to get to my level

Is it wrong to confirm if a child is yours

Dande55:
Una never see, you guys will be the ones pressuring young girls for sex, and later start crying that there are no decent girls. When you guys are the chief demons.

A girl will start dating, the next thing a useless boy will want from her is sex, you men are the ones that bred this, so, let it consume you and don't complain while at it.

And btw, if a woman has a child that's not her husband's child, it means that another man is responsible for the pregnancy and thereby, breeding children outside wedlock on his own side. So, it's not entirely a woman's thing cos they aren't the ones getting themselves pregnant.

Hear yourself

frenchtoast:
I thought humans aren't supposed to be monogamous, these females are just living in their natural essence

your poor poor husband

gbami:
Am about doing a peternity test on my child... That's the real gist

When the time comes you won't remember you once wrote this.
It's sad but immediately the child is born, the love for your new joy will not allow you to think otherwise. Beside who plan to marry a cheating wife, nobody.
Let just hope and pray to God to choose and give to us the right woman.
That is why Istihara is important.

greggng:
Stop creating problem for married people. Children are gift from God...God will even bless u if u unknowingly trained another persons child. Everything on earth is vanity ...plan for heaven by doing good things....you won't be on earth forever

Be honest. Would you gladly raise another man's child?

gbami:
The average Nigerian girl has 3-4 boyfriends at the same time....

She sleeps with all of them at different occasions. You are probably training another man's child. Do you know why? Let me explain..

She gets pregnant for one of you? She may not know who impregnated her or she knows (Thank God)... But Amongst the 4 boyfriends...You are the most decent, maybe smartest (intelligent) or even richer than the others. She comes to your house with tears in her eyes, telling you that she is pregnant, and she can't have a child outside wedlock. You the foolish and decent guy feels sorry for her. Rush to see her parents, in 3months times before the pregnancy can be noticed by people. You are married.

Married to a cheater, that's probably carrying another man's child...Guys... don't be fooled... Don't wait till 18yrs or more to know that you are training another man's Child. Do it immediately after birth or in few months after birth, then make a decision to continue or not... Don't be deceived into training another man's child.

Paternity fraud is real. One In three children especially the first child are being trained by non-biological father...

Be wise

This is mostly for men who get their gfs/fiancé pregnant b4 marriage. It is a wrong order adopted by insecure and unsure men who want to test the oven to know if it can bake a cake. I understand the fear however cos of the way ladies have become reckless bt it’s a wrong order of things.

Now u hv the issue of paternity arising cos she was not under ur roof or completely urs when u scored the winning goal and that’s if ur own penalty didn’t enter throwing while another mans own enter goal. Lol

Pls men marry b4 having a baby or impregnating ur women. U will not be in much doubt. How can a woman I’m ure married to bring a child or pregnancy and u accept without tests u must be a fool.

frenchtoast:
I thought humans aren't supposed to be monogamous, these females are just living in their natural essence

Aunty i think it’s men not humans. Women are not naturally polygamous in nature

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

This sarcasm is deep! Where would the virgin come from, pluto?!

jusjuded:
There are good women out there, people are painting girls so black these days, there are good women but you don't get to hear about it or them.
Change your mindset

If she is a good woman the DNA test would shows that the children belongs to her husband. DNA test isn't done because all women are bad, but done because some women are bad. A good woman has nothing to fear.

Korllami007:


A guy advised men to do paternity test to their children and the women are bashing him. It obvious that there are facts in the guy's post. I don't know what women here are scared of.

I am so doing that test. Why are they scared.

Gwilym:


I was going to let this go...but no..

The problem here is that you think I am excusing bad behaviour by women. No, I am not. I am quite conservative, even to the point that I believe that sleeping before marriage for both men and women, and even after is a no no.

What I am inveighing against is the bad behavior by most Nigerian men. Here you are, criticising women for misbehaving, and forgetting that men are also involved. It takes two to tango, you know.

The OP started his comment by saying that most Nigerian women sleep around. Now, I know that is an exaggeration...but I also know that women do sleep around as do men (it has been over the years a large part of my job to clean up after the mess they leave behind..including post abortal care...shudder.). I also know that a lot of women are often times pressurized into sleeping with men...for money, jobs, income, sometimes because the man in their life cannot control himself, and needs a real toy somehow. And when guys like the OP label women as sluts without talking about the role men play in the thing....it annoys me. I am a man, and I know from what I have seen that it isn't true.

If you want women to stop being sluts...you also have to call out the men who enable, and glorify the system that makes women be sluts. You ahve to call out men who actively seduce, force, encourage immorality. You just cannot call out the women only.

The sad thing is that women in this country are brought up to keep themselves for marriage, while it is the men who force them to break their resolve. We men need to man up and take responsibility...and stop forcing women against their will...just as women too should stop playing the temptation Jezebel game.

True, it takes two to tango. But when a man cheats and the cheating results in a child, his wife is 100% certain the child is not she's. So there is nothing like maternity fraud. But when a woman cheats and the cheating results to a child, the illegitimate child would be assumed to be her husband's. That is the difference.

Do you know that research shows that a woman is most likely to cheat when she is ovulating?

Who told u that like......she might not be pregnant that same time u disvirgin her...and anything can happen in two days my brother ..u can disvirgin a gal today and meet another guy tomao.....remember virginity is not when u see blood coming out from a gal pussy ..... Bewise ...DNA does not means that ur wife or partner is not trustworthy.... doctors and nurses dis days can be worse than anything...DNA IS SURE FOR ALL MY CHILDREN...NOT EVEN FIRST CHILD....I rather be a father not a guardian...

rosy1992:
A man who marries a virgin doesnt fall in this category.

bmdmixer:


and her name was mary

bro u are been used by holy spirit because ur answer is issued to u by holy spirit

bmdmixer:


and her name was mary

SHAKING BENCHI MATTER!