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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Triniti(m): 5:58pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
Oga husband, I know say you dey read this. This lady is now your wife since you already paid her bride price, there’s no need running away from your shadows or you might end up regretting your attitude towards her in the long run. You need to learn to love and respect her, the deed is already done, reignite the passion that made you mount and impregnated her in the first place. She has a feelings too, and you are better off treating her right and loving your daughter too. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by STARGREEN(m): 8:20pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
Belafonte:Every man has his soft spot...she has to find it to fix the issue |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Eroms4life17(m): 9:34pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
Even in proper marriage with this kind of situation, both can take a break from each other talk less of ordinary introduction. Take your baby without his notice and run away (would have said to your family but they too have sort of abandon you) to a place where nobody can reach you. Start afresh. Get a job, look beautiful, love again and who knows you can get lucky. That guy has no plan for you. Don't waste your time with him. And don't feel guilty about the child. You are doing what's best for the child by taking her away from such a loveless relationship. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by extremelygolden: 9:42pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
since you just did introduction alone, I think the best thing to do now is to separate, because I don't see any sense of responsibility of him to you and his own daughter. Read again. She said he did introduction and also paid her bride price. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by extremelygolden: 9:46pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
Thegeneralqueen: They are already married, since she said he did introduction and paid her bride price. The earlier her husband comes to term with reality, the better for both of them. But he's there forming absentee husband. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by lyndaway(f): 10:10pm On Jan 20, 2020 |
You expect him to love you when your family forced him to marry you my dear you are in that marriage alone if you like yourself just walk out of that marriage maybe he will come around when he reason you well but for now dear he dey reason something else 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by frozen70(f): 1:29am On Jan 21, 2020 |
Mrzfavour: I think you are the one that need advice You know why ❓, he is complacent with the way he us handling you but your the recipient of his stupid attitude The truth is, that he was dating you, never made you his intending wife Your family, lost it forcing you in, yes you are in but your happiness is outside My advice for you us to be strong, stronger than him, emotionally, spiritually, stop looking at his face expecting love, he is not really satisfied having you as a wife Get something doing, focus on your children and find solace in them Stop breading kids it's not a criteria to pin a man down Be busy so that you can start earning income and you will realise that you no longer feel anything about him Generate your happiness, no one should determine what makes you happy and when you should be happy, but you Leave him to with his ways on his siblings, na him go tire Stop reporting him to his family, they are laughing at you for Loosing your legs too early to trap him with pregnancy Be strong and face your self with your children 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Mrzfavour(f): 9:39am On Jan 21, 2020 |
Thank you everyone for your advice |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by ednut1(m): 9:52am On Jan 21, 2020 |
This story cant be real jo |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Mobree: 1:50pm On Jan 21, 2020 |
24kmagic: What does this even mean? "Trap him"? Both were parties to it. There's no trapping anywhere. Or why did he not buy condoms? Why did he not ensure she took morning after pills? Why was he that irresponsible? Oga, make you sef use wisdom... If you don't have sex, no lady will get pregnant by you.. So don't blame any woman for getting pregnant. Heaven and earth know that when sex happens, there's a chance for pregnancy, no matter how slim it is. If you don't want it, then don't do it. Chikena! 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Mariangeles(f): 10:56pm On Jan 21, 2020 |
Mrzfavour: Stop seeking his or anyone's attention even though it hurts so bad. Focus on rebuilding yourself for yourself and your child. Take charge of your happiness. Don't depend on anyone to make you happy, unless your baby. See your pretty baby, look into her pretty little eyes and say to her "you're mine and I'm going to make you the happiest baby girl" Sing to her and dance with her. Shower her with all the love that you have on the inside, don't waste it on someone who does not care. Love your baby with all of your might, and she'll love you back. Never make her feel unloved. Never leave her crying. Never let depression make you resent her, she's not the problem. Do things together, talk to her ( she understands) If you feel like crying and you need a hug, hold your daughter tight and feel her unconditional love for you. See Kylie Jenner, she's about your age and has a beautiful daughter too, who's her best friend ( she even found strength in her daughter when her childhood friend betrayed their friendship) When she got pregnant, so many people said she wasn't going be a good mother, but she's proved them all wrong. She and her daughter even have a business together. Be inspired by her and make something out of yourself, and watch your daughter's father make a turnaround and respect you. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by cococandy(f): 11:26pm On Jan 21, 2020 |
Better zip up or keep a pack of condoms handy. Some of you guys are ridiculous. honestly. you just say things without thought or any kind of in-depth analysis. Stay celibate? no. You want to have sex. Use protection?. No .you want to make it the woman’s responsibility alone. Hence she’s expected to pump her body full with synthetic hormones that often have nasty side effects so that you won’t be “trapped”. If pregnancy does happen , you don’t want anything to do with it. Yet... you are the most opinionated against abortions. You’d think with these kinds of opinions some of you have on women’s sexual health and it’s consequences, you would be doing your part to not contribute to it. But No. Dump all sense when it’s needed and be the loudest when it’s not required. Check up on the kid and then collect her like a toy when it’s time. right? 24kmagic: 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Kenoxman(m): 6:07pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Just get a job or start a small biz so u can take care of urself and ur baby. Once he notices dat u no longer depend on him for survival, he will start giving u ur respect as the wife. It may not make him to change and start loving u, but at least u will have ur respect in the house and dat's what u need right now. Stop folding ur hands and sitting at home complaining, get up and do something. Even if u hav no money or where to work, talk to ur people. There is no how u will explain ur predicament to at least 3 persons and u will not find help. God will surely use somebody to help u. The worst thing dat can happen to u is keeping silent. Open up! 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Mrzfavour(f): 9:04pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Thank you sir Kenoxman: |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by dominique(f): 9:35pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
24kmagic: Loads of bullocks. Pregnancy you don't approve of? So she should keep risking her life and committing murder till you approve? You're even sicker than the 24 year old you're advising. The moment you have unprotected sex, you've indirectly approved of pregnancy. You have no rights to put the blame on anybody other than yourself if you're saddled with an unwanted pregnancy. If you're too daft to protect yourself, then abstain from premarital sex completely. The moment you consciously have unprotected sex, you've trapped yourself with pregnancy. Birth control is NOT a female's responsibility alone 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Mrzfavour(f): 10:09pm On Jan 22, 2020 |
Thank you dominique: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Norland4life(f): 1:37am On Jan 23, 2020 |
I don't know where to begin to give this advice Your husband knows the right thing to do, it is just for him to man up Things will fall in line in due time, hopefully For the young women,abeggi mek una shine una eyes wella My father continued to warn me against boys until I got married,emphasis on father because he is equally a man I have been married for over 13 years but still remember his words He told me to be mindful of boys with sugar coated tongue. That is the woman that bears the brunt in any relationship when the shit hits the fan If you carelessly get pregnant he will start with making you to swallow harmful pills for abortion and proceed to a quack for D&C. It is the young woman that might still die or live with a damaged womb unable to conceive again and have children for the rest of her. It is still the woman that will drop out of school due to unwanted pregnancy, not to mention the shame We read on this forum how a boy of 19 stabbed his pregnant girlfriend,according to him he didn't want to disappoint his parents. She only survived because a police officer,their neighbor came to pick what he forgot, heard her scream,rushed and caught the boy on his way out after stabbing and leaving the girl to bleed out . Just this week we read about the one that beat the pregnant girl to death like a dog and threw her body from five storey building into another compound And so on......... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Omar09(m): 8:47pm On Jan 23, 2020 |
Mrzfavour: To the man (your husband): How would you feel if your dad neglected your mom like you are doing to your wife? If you knew you was not ready to get married, why have sex without protection? You are the very definition of a simp. You let pussy rule and now where has it got you? You've got a pussy to pound every time you want, why go outside? And to think you out advice to people on this forum. You are the very reason women on this forum misread us the red pillers for a weak asshole you are. To the woman: did you know all these could have been avoided if you stood your ground and used protection eg condom, contraceptive? Why do people put themselves in a spot and tend to blame others? I am asking the ladies here, why can't you stand by your words of no protection no sex and of the man insist walk out? Finally verdict: divorce and sue his ass out. These kind of men I do not have pity for. Tueh! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Ginomel(m): 9:12pm On Jan 23, 2020 |
Doubleoh7: You just said it all. Exactly what I wanted to say. No need of beating about the bush. He doesn't love you and it is always difficult to love a woman one was forced to marry. Maybe you are still in that house because you are helpless and don't know where to move to If not, abandon that thing you called marriage and go and pick the pieces of your life and make it in life. You are still very young and have a beautiful life ahead of you with enough time to find who God made for you. to marry. Things might not be better, the more you are there, the more it worsens. No need of deceiving you and giving you hope. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by DedeNkem: 9:00pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Red flag everywhere. Follow your instinct! |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Nobody: 9:18pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
Why should he? When you can find an answer to this question, you will find your solution. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by bukatyne(f): 5:36pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
dominique: @bold: What happens if a man wants the pregnancy and the lady doesn't? Can she abort it? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by bukatyne(f): 5:38pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Teleprompter(f): 1:51pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
Two months of dating is quite little. Love can not be forced. Make sure that you do not have another baby. Try to continue your education which ever way that you can. You have made this big mistake but you must correct it. Do not clamour for love that you may never receive. Focus on getting your own money. Do not spend too much time going to church or praying away the problem. Be focused on improving yourself. Make sure that the house is tidy and you cook delicious meals and keep yourself near. Watch educative programs on television and don't get carried away watching soap operas or Nigerian films. The only way out of this news is to empower yourself. Be courteous to your neighbours and be a hands on mom to your daughter. Do not feel entitled to your husband's money. Manage whatever he gives you and do not complain. You must get a degree and learn a skillful trade at the same time. Do not think having another child would alleviate your problems. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Ohizman73(m): 7:29pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
Stop deceiving yourself and still calling him your husband.Is marriage with an irresponsible man an investment.So sad that time in time your girls fall into the same quamiry situation. Mind you with all advice you would still open ur legs and get pregnant a second time with ur present situation. the truth is that he manipulated you knowing ur vulnerable situation. he has dumped you with his family and moved on with another lady in abuja whether you like it or not. And as you stated HE INDEED DOESNT LUV YOU AND CAN NEVER. What i would advice you move back to ur country and pick up ur life pieces together.I can refer you to my cousin in Cameroun(my aunt a Nigerian has a daughter for a camerounian man).The issue is that she is a staunch christian and would not tolerate a wayward and immoral life.She can harbor you till you find ur feet. best wishes... |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Acme45: 7:47pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
Mrzfavour:you still have age by your side, use your brain. Don't destroy your destiny |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Love Me by Acme45: 8:00pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
Mrzfavour:Run for your life before he will infect you you with an incurable disease since you said he has other girls outside |
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