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Ladylite:
Your left over brain didn't tell you that child bearing affects the woman's hormones...

Monkey... Your selfishness is note worthy... So you should just have sex even if she is in the mood or not.

Pls sit in a grave

Where will he now see a grave to sit in na? U did not even say he should sit in his toilet or bare ground sef. Chai!

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

You just started beating about the bush like a lost kid then u made it all worse by calling the man stupid. I think you are the one without brains here because you are inconsiderate, inexperienced in issues of life, you are crude, unrefined, archaic, and mundane. You claimed here that an 8 year old needs to sleep in same bed with the mother because the mother is trying to bond with the child but I have to tell you this I'd the most stupid statement I've ever heard this year. What happened to the period of lactation when the whole emotional and psychological bonds between mother and child are test run. And the periods after. So the stupid bond you're talking of is created only in the night? When I was 8 I was already in primary two and a full grown man I have my own room as the first child. Then we had a crib that stays in the living room which is next to the master bedroom so any sound from our baby can be heard due to the proximity. I guess it takes a lot of education to figure this out which you even lack.

Cussing and dissing the man when he just made his issues known here is very uncalled for and very stupid. I bet you if he posts same in quora where there are sane people you won't see a person mention stupid. If the man is randy, he can go get a side chick, they are everywhere and this same manipulative uncaring wife will go fight the side chick forgetting she lit the flames. And come to think of it you're even one of the people I follow here but this statement shows insensitivity and stupidity. I retrace.

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

This gotta be d stupidest advise ever. Are u even married? Marriage is not supposed to be dat hard? Did you even read d part where he said his 8years old daughter still sleeps on their bed? Thats absurd giving that she has her bed and her own room. Wat dis means is dat since she gave birth, he and his wife have not slept alone on their own bed, cuddling and doing all dos plays dat makes marriage interesting. If this is wat happens at night, i wonder what is happening during the day. Dear OP, dont mind dos unmarried people giving stupid advise. U are right to be worried, na u knw where he dey pain u. But u are a man, ur wife and kids will always cum first. I believe ur wife is a reasonable woman, take her to a nice dinner, den d next morning, sit her down, tell her how much u appreciate everytin she is doing for u and d kids. Then softly and calmly tell her y ur daughter need to go to her room. Ur 7 months old baby can stay in ur rum, he will be in his crib, apart 4rm his midnight cry i dont tink he will disturb u dat much, and u and ur wife can continue ur romance. Sex nd cuddling is extremely important in marriage. If she still no gree, go see a marriage counsellor, not parents or relatives. Gudluck

Las lass marriage na scam.

bukatyne:
Hahahahahahaha!

This problem actually doesn't exist in polygamy.

Exactly
Who has time

bukatyne:
You have no inkling about what marriage is.

By the time the husband grows cold and gets used to surviving the marriage emotionally without her, I hope she marries those kids.

If she not behaving like Alpha & Omega over those kids, she would actually get her husband to be more participatory if it is an issue.

Anty read the op naration again and again,if he wanted to participate in the parenting he would have done that.he his more concern about his third leg.and if he was participating in the parenting there would have been room for sex.a lot of guys really need to tone down on their selfishness in marriage ,cause the institution comes with a lot of sacrifice.

I TELL YOU FOR FREE, TAKING CARE OF KIDS IS DRAINING HER.
I AM TELLING YOU BECAUSE I JUST HAD A BABY AND I KNOW HOW IT FEELS.

YOU HAVE TO GET IT SOMEWHERE ELSE BUT BE CAREFUL IT SHOULDN'T AFFECT YOUR FAMILY.

you have a 7 month old baby and u are already complaining of being sex starved? all the nanking for that 9 months period never do u? u complain too much...ur wife is going thru a phase let her be or are u envious of ur kids? must sex happen the way u are used to it or have programmed in ur warped brain? grow up be a man this phase will change when these kids are done with u and ur wife u can nank untill ur waist break weak man...

Davash222:
After the day's toil, a married man needs the wife's cuddle and touches at night. It's essential in every young marriage. Coming back home at night to behold your sexy wife alone with lingerie at your wide bed gives joy and also elongates life's span. Wives should stop depriving their husbands this privilege.
One of the reasons for having children bedrooms is to create provisions for these things.


OP, I understand how you feel. Imagine a 7 month old baby dragging your breast with you.. Breast that you paid for. I know you dont have access to that breast again. Nawao

If that's your point, he shouldn't had had children then, his wife isn't starving him, she is taking care of her children, and since there is another alternative, why don't he make do with that, till the children are mature.
My advice, he should go and drop the children at an orphanage, for him to enjoy his wife. mtcheew.

wany:
Anty read the op naration again and again,if he wanted to participate in the parenting he would have done that.he his more concern about his third leg.and if he was participating in the parenting there would have been room for sex.a lot of guys really need to tone down on their selfishness in marriage ,cause the institution comes with a lot of sacrifice.

The ultimate guide to parenting is when a mom and dad allows an 8 year old to sleep in same bed with them listen to yourself. Even it's very risky for the 7 months child because either of them can turn and compress a limb or arm and it's an accident that can deform that child. What happens to keeping the older in a separate room and the baby in a crib in the same room. A lot of women today are stupid and selfish but even u saying this nonsense if you dare tow this woman's path and frustrate your husband to go find side chick, you will start a war with the side chick in public without shame and u will lose that war a thousand times over then your life would be made desolate.

lahizak:
This gotta be d stupidest advise ever. Are u even married? Marriage is not supposed to be dat hard? Did you even read d part where he said his 8years old daughter still sleeps on their bed? Thats absurd giving that she has her bed and her own room. Wat dis means is dat since she gave birth, he and his wife have not slept alone on their own bed, cuddling and doing all dos plays dat makes marriage interesting. If this is wat happens at night, i wonder what is happening during the day. Dear OP, dont mind dos unmarried people giving stupid advise. U are right to be worried, na u knw where he dey pain u. But u are a man, ur wife and kids will always cum first. I believe ur wife is a reasonable woman, take her to a nice dinner, den d next morning, sit her down, tell her how much u appreciate everytin she is doing for u and d kids. Then softly and calmly tell her y ur daughter need to go to her room. Ur 7 months old baby can stay in ur rum, he will be in his crib, apart 4rm his midnight cry i dont tink he will disturb u dat much, and u and ur wife can continue ur romance. Sex nd cuddling is extremely important in marriage. If she still no gree, go see a marriage counsellor, not parents or relatives. Gudluck

I think this is the most stupid comment ever.
Encouraging stupidity and foolishnes

My baby boy sucking mummy's right breast while I'm sucking the left breast and having sex with my wife at the same time. It was fun to my wife and I,so sweet. I did this several times and I repeat, fun and enjoyable to both of us. Baby boy is now 12 years old in JS2.

Ladylite:
This is a real question that many singles have not begun to consider or discuss before marriage.

I hope you know that your wife loves you, but the sacrifice you have to make is beyond sleep, it also involves sex... Now that there is a 7month old blessed baby with you, simply DATE your wife.....

By date I mean, treat her well, do things for her and be very nice to her as expected, buy her gifts, pamper her... She will give you sex.. I assure you.

Your wife is going through a major phase and you need to understand it and be there for her.

I hope this is clear

You're always empty and unfortunately very loud. You need a reality check, a sober reflection.

bukatyne:
Tani bro e?

Chill bro

It is time for you to start viewing sex at this stage as not being instinctive. Just like a lot of other things before marriage and kid, it will now have to involve planning. Abi you wan sell the children off because them dey disturb sex . think instead of how you can be more supportive in helping your wife with caring for the kids. After all, was sex the primary driver behind your decision to get married. In good time you will have your wife all to yourself again.

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

Renerd:
If that's your point, he shouldn't had had children then, his wife isn't starving him, she is taking care of her children, and since there is another alternative, why don't he make do with that, till the children are mature.
My advice, he should go and drop the children at an orphanage, for him to enjoy his wife. mtcheew.

Which school did you even attend to start with? Did they tell you that it's risky for a mom to sleep on same bed with a child less than a year old because the m could turn and compress an arm or limb? Did they tell u the baby can be put on a crib in the same room ?

Renerd:
I think this is the most stupid comment ever.
Encouraging stupidity and foolishnes

How exactly?

Some of the people that responded to op questions are not married, some are experiencing mental disorder that need to visit psychiatric hospital regularly because of the evil spirits and ancestral powers of their mother and father house that determined to destroy their marriage and their searching for co friends.
Bible says what God has joined together let no man nor children or families put asunder,children are the additional blessings to the marriage not an obstacles or hindrances to your marriage.
Please don't mind those frustrated people that joy and happiness has departed from.
Please love your spouses and have sex regularly you will leave longer and you will think right

MedicH:
Which school did you even attend to start with? Did they tell you that it's risky for a mom to sleep on same bed with a child less than a year old because the m could turn and compress an arm or limb? Did they tell u the baby can be put on a crib in the same room ?

According to the op, there is already a provision for those, it is therefore expected of him as a man to do the right thing, and stop making a mountain of a molehill.

MedicH:
You're always empty and unfortunately very loud. You need a reality check, a sober reflection.

Since you are normal. Come and check me nah. Pls grow up

Ladylite:
Since you are normal. Come and check me nah. Pls grow up

Why are you like this

MedicH:
How exactly?

From what the op wrote, there is s no cause for alarm at all, it's a normal thing that all married men had to deal with at a crlertain stage of their life, therefore, he should act like a man, and stop coming online to complain.

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

I love you ma.....the best advise ma. Good morning to you.

Ladylite:
This is a real question that many singles have not begun to consider or discuss before marriage.

I hope you know that your wife loves you, but the sacrifice you have to make is beyond sleep, it also involves sex... Now that there is a 7month old blessed baby with you, simply DATE your wife.....

By date I mean, treat her well, do things for her and be very nice to her as expected, buy her gifts, pamper her... She will give you sex.. I assure you.

Your wife is going through a major phase and you need to understand it and be there for her.

I hope this is clear

What's this? This is too extreme.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH DEAR.
After reading his nonsense post I became infuriated, but big THANKS to almighty God your answer makes me to still have hope in availability of sensible humans.

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

Op, this is not enough reason for your marriage to fall apart. Communication in marriage is key, hence you need to let your wife see reason why the children should learn to sleep in their room apart from your need for sex. I am married with two kids, my children share a room while my husband and i have ours. I made conscious effort to make my children stay in their bed the moment they are weaned off breast, because children naturally will want to cuddle if you allow them. Let your wife know you are willing to work with her in getting the children used to their bed, also assist her in attending to the children once in while so the burden of tending the children does not fall on her alone. For your 8 year old daughter, let her know she should sleep in her, she is not too young to talk to. For the 7 months old, let him eat well before going to bed, so you and your wife can have time for each other before he wakes. My 8 yr old and 6 yr old still come to our bed occasionally but once i notice them, i move them back to their bed and the following morning i talk to them about it. You will be fine but you also must be willing to put in the extra work. We mothers are always attached to our children, but moderation is key in everything. Hope this helps.

Sex isn’t Everything
Treat Her with love
Spoil her with Gifts
Pamper her with Care and Affection

Come and thank me later

Davash222:
After the day's toil, a married man needs the wife's cuddle and touches at night. It's essential in every young marriage. Coming back home at night to behold your sexy wife alone with lingerie at your wide bed gives joy and also elongates life's span. Wives should stop depriving their husbands this privilege.
One of the reasons for having children bedrooms is to create provisions for these things.


OP, I understand how you feel. Imagine a 7 month old baby dragging your breast with you.. Breast that you paid for. I know you dont have access to that breast again. Nawao

You are not married yet and all these like for you is from Singles like you.
Theory is not same as practical

MedicH:
The ultimate guide to parenting is when a mom and dad allows an 8 year old to sleep in same bed with them listen to yourself. Even it's very risky for the 7 months child because either of them can turn and compress a limb or arm and it's an accident that can deform that child. What happens to keeping the older in a separate room and the baby in a crib in the same room. A lot of women today are stupid and selfish but even u saying this nonsense if you dare tow this woman's path and frustrate your husband to go find side chick, you will start a war with the side chick in public without shame and u will lose that war a thousand times over then your life would be made desolate.

Hmmmm dude you are really low IQ wise I must say,so the end point of every marital issues in a home is the man getting a side chic,I laugh,and fighting a side chic without shame,hmmmm ,you are nuts,come forth with something more reasonable and leave side chic matter cause if we want to go there,marriage go crash,even as( an after 3) if you know,I get over 10hits a day from men like you.so who will a man play down with a side chic.I repeat let men tone down on their selfishness so that they can enjoy their marriage.

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

You should be telling this to your wife not us... Learn to dialogue with your partner

You will get over it. The easiest way to solve the problem is to employ a nanny.