₦airaland Forum

nappy760:
You have a good heart.
But if we sit down to reason things, we will realise that our destinies are our own hands and nobody else...
She made a wrong choice and has to bear the consequences

She was just naive. I was ever willing to make her a better person but she blew it all. That guy took advantage of her innocence. She on her part failed to confide in me in that moment of commotion. She where she is now.

Respect55,
First, happy new year to you!

Indeed you are a good man and I pray that God will guide you in your future relationship.

I really feel pity for your ex; a 'player' took advantage of her innocence.

There is this guy here on NL, I consider some of his opinions as extreme, but his 'miseducations' to a large extent are hard and cold facts that are always starring at us in the face. I read one of his articles bordering on 'bad boys' and 'nice girls' relationship. The scenario he painted in that article is what transpired between your ex and the guy that impregnated her. But in your ex's case, the player refused to make any commitment to her.

I just hope she gets herself together and move on with life.

Samcent:
Respect55,
First, happy new year to you!

Indeed you are a good man and I pray that God will guide you in your future relationship.

I really feel pity for your ex; a 'player' took advantage of her innocence.

There is this guy here on NL, I consider some of his opinions as extreme, but his 'miseducations' to a large extent are hard and cold facts that are always starring at us in the face. I read one of his articles bordering on 'bad boys' and 'nice girls' relationship. The scenario he painted in that article is what transpired between your ex and the guy that impregnated her. But in your ex's case, the player refused to make any commitment to her.

I just hope she gets herself together and move on with life.

Happy new year to you too.
Thee mistake here of which I'm blaming her is that she didn't tell me when this boy was showing up. I don't know what he even told her because I'm not doing bad for myself. She will be fine. Her people should just give her the support she needs. We all make mistakes. Just that some of them live with us for the rest of our lives like this.
I wish her well

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

This is heartbreaking! A good girl just used like that. Guy, move on and better life is ahead of you. The only thing you owe her now is to forget completely for a couple of years. She will definitely bounce back afterwards, and everybody will be alright.

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

chai nawa o

Maturity is in the brain and that's what you have displayed here.
That's good for her.

Allsingles:
Maturity is in the brain and that's what you have displayed here.
That's good for her.

Every man must have to live with decisions he had made in life. She's living with hers

Respect55:
Every man must have to live with decisions he had made in life. She's living with hers

Exactly

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

Thank your star that you didn't take her back and have sex with her like some people had advised you. In the next 6 to 7 months, you would have been taking care of someone else child.

Congratulations once more for being a real man.

Respect55:
Every man must have to live with decisions he had made in life. She's living with hers

I respect your Wisdom
This is deep,thoughtful and optimum
This was the highest show of logic,no single way for sentiments
You'll find the happiness you deserve in Jesus Name

Moboj:
I respect your Wisdom
This is deep,thoughtful and optimum
This was the highest show of logic,no single way for sentiments
You'll find the happiness you deserve in Jesus Name

I appreciate. All the best

Korllami007:
Thank your star that you didn't take her back and have sex with her like some people had advised you. In the next 6 to 7 months, you would have been taking care of someone else child.

Congratulations once more for being a real man.

I didn't seek their advice. I just shared a story.

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow!


I'm speechless to be honest. I read your post the first day it was published but didn't take your story too serious as I thought that you weren't into her like that. Now, I'm going through the thread in retrospect and I can only imagine how difficult it was for you to stomach.

And this latest development makes me so sober, especially for her. She didn't feel like she did anything wrong with what she posted on the thread earlier but the scales have finally fallen, you really loved her and she knows, what a pity.

In everything, you did well, exactly what I would have done, quietly walk away even though it's painful.

In everything, I have come to realize that we (men and women) are all over grown babies. There is no guarantee that we will always do the right thing despite the way we grow in size, height, wealth and status.

Somewhere, there is that baby in us that tends to pop up. What we have to do is to ensure its buried and never rear it's ugly head.

Unfortunately, your ex was a victim of this "sickness" and it cost her a lovely person in you.

Life nawa o!

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

let her die with honour

Respect55:
I'm not a weakling. She knew there is no coming out of that. The breakup is cemented

you are a man

Goldiano:
you are a man

Everyone knows what he wants

CsRockefeller:
Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow! Wow!


I'm speechless to be honest. I read your post the first day it was published but didn't take your story too serious as I thought that you weren't into her like that. Now, I'm going through the thread in retrospect and I can only imagine how difficult it was for you to stomach.

And this latest development makes me so sober, especially for her. She didn't feel like she did anything wrong with what she posted on the thread earlier but the scales have finally fallen, you really loved her and she knows, what a pity.

In everything, you did well, exactly what I would have done, quietly walk away even though it's painful.

In everything, I have come to realize that we (men and women) are all over grown babies. There is no guarantee that we will always do the right thing despite the way we grow in size, height, wealth and status.

Somewhere, there is that baby in us that tends to pop up. What we have to do is to ensure its buried and never rear it's ugly head.

Unfortunately, your ex was a victim of this "sickness" and it cost her a lovely person in you.

Life nawa o!

Just pray she finds peace and forgive herself.
I was really shattered but still, we move on. I have nothing against her absolutely

nuelsam:
quite fascinating

Truly it's.

Respect55
We back here again!!

Wooo. This is a great victory.

I supported you against those ignorant females and males and now we've been proved right.

See ehn!

I am going to tag all those girls.

Chin up man!
You dodged a bullet.

This her pregnancy sweet me.

Good for her.

She don Learn lesson.

Nonsense.

nappy760:
Girls ehn.....I came to the conclusion after my experience with a female friend sometime ago that girls only choose to learn from their own experience.
[b]If a young girl has decided she wants to experience something , even her great grand father cannot stop her. [/b]No matter how she is persuaded that this thing isn't good for you.
Eventually she will find a way to experience it , what am I saying !!!some don't learn from it sef
it is well

na so Dia life be. Very confused people.

WackyJ1:
Respect55
We back here again!!

Wooo. This is a great victory.

I supported you against those ignorant females and males and now we've been proved right.

See ehn!

I am going to tag all those girls.

Chin up man!
You dodged a bullet.

This her pregnancy sweet me.

Good for her.

She don Learn lesson.

Nonsense.

Hi 5 buddy. E sweet me die.

Sleevia:

Hi 5 buddy. E sweet me die.

Na great victory be this my brother.!

Respect55:
She was just naive. I was ever willing to make her a better person but she blew it all. That guy took advantage of her innocence. She on her part failed to confide in me in that moment of commotion. She where she is now.

Don't feel pity. Majority of us have experienced this before.

I know friend who spent money with his father's connection send a girl from 100 level to 500 level..

She still cheated on him when he went out of the country for his MSc.

See women are just what they are.

Respect55:
Some people actually thought I was harsh with the way I ended my relationship with my ex in the past, maybe u will have to retract ur steps after reading this.

For few days now, I have been having some issues with mtly atm card pin. Whenever I want to make withdrawal, the response will be, "maximum pin trial exceeded" whereas I haven't used the card at all. I thought it was network ish so I kept my cool. Normally, I would walk into the bank to withdraw.
Fastfoward to today, I decided to meet with customer care agents inside the bank to reset my pin. I went in, laid my complaint and the lady asked me to join others siting down till it gets to my turn. A familiar voice called me name and it was her. My ex. We exchanged pleasantries like nothing happened.

I didn't notice anything till she got up to be attended to when her time came. She was pregnant. I felt drained. Someone I thought I left a virgin, pregnant? I couldn't believe my eyes.
After sorting her issue out, she came back and sat down. At the far back inside Zenith bank along Psychiatric road.(For those of you in portharcourt).
It later got to my turn after a while and my pin was reseted and everything was cool as I found out later. I wanted to leave and she followed me. When we stepped outside the bank premises, she pleaded if I would excuse her. I did.
She asked if I'm surprised with what I'm seeing, I didn't answer. I was dumbfounded.
She just told me that there was nothing to explain to me me.
She: "There is no need trying to explain anything to you. All I'm saying is that I'm sorry and you should forgive me." She gave in to tears. I managed to keep my cool. "Don't do that" I managed to say to stop her from crying. Then I asked her where she is living to which she said she is still with her parents. "What of the owner of this" I asked making reference to her pregnancy to which she said it's the same guy I saw her with .
I asked why she isn't living with him ans she replied that he absconded when they found out she was pregnant.

I comforted her and tried leaving and she help my hand. I turned and she knelt down at the full glare of passer-bys. I managed to lift her up forcefully when she refused to stand up. We went back to the bank premises, i made a 5k withdrawal with mmy ATM card and gave her to assure her that I bear no grudges and she thanked me.

I tool another route even though we were meant to take same.

I feel pains

Midnighter !! Come here!
Healthserve
MissCookie

Time proves a man's decision right.

Sleevia:
Don't feel pity. Majority of us have experienced this before.

I know friend who spent money with his father's connection send a girl from 100 level to 500 level..

She still cheated on him when he went out of the country for his MSc.

See women are just what they are.

It will be hard not to feel pity for her. I really pity her. Not that I regret anything

WackyJ1:
Respect55
We back here again!!

Wooo. This is a great victory.

I supported you against those ignorant females and males and now we've been proved right.

See ehn!

I am going to tag all those girls.

Chin up man!
You dodged a bullet.

This her pregnancy sweet me.

Good for her.

She don Learn lesson.

Nonsense.

I must have to pity her

Respect55:
It will be hard not to feel pity for her. I really pity her. Not that I regret anything

Let me tell you why you should not. If that guy she went with was richer and balling hard...

She would have been laughing at you by now and beat her chest that she made the right choice by dumping you.

All those talks about her begging is because she made a wrong bet and regret is always the consequences.

See, when a woman wants to deal with you, she does not care if you die from the aftermath of her deeds. She does not! They are that selfish.

Do you know why you caught her? do you know why it was possible to catch her red handed? It is because God knows your mind towards her is of good. He knows you have no evil plans towards her but you mean well and that is why it was possible to catch her red handed.

He did not want you to to cohabit with an evil woman that may have negative plans.

Without meeting you, I know all the dream land you have traveled with her in your mind and back... Cos I have been there before.

When God wants to bless us, he takes away negative energy from us

A girl I met on nairaland whom I had same good plans for and just because my business was having some problem, told me she can't date someone that is not financially stable. This is because I chose to be disciplined, prudent and frugal because I have been down before spending recklessly.

Since that was the 3 time we would quarrel, I let her off and God answered my prayers by granting me a multimillion deal. I kid you not.

Trust me, you have no idea what God has done for you.

Respect55:
I must have to pity her

Am sure you do,
But avoid her at all cost.

WackyJ1:
Midnighter !! Come here!
Healthserve
MissCookie

Time proves a man's decision right.

What can i say? I was never at any point gainst Respect55 infact i feel how he feels by all this, but i remain solid in my stan,e that the girl loved him but gave in to nonsense

healthserve:
What can i say? I was never at any point gainst Respect55 infact i feel how he feels by all this, but i remain solid in my stan,e that the girl loved him but gave in to nonsense

If you still stand by this She loved him nonsense then you are still grossly Naive.

How many "I still love you" will you fall for?

Evaluate love strictly on actions before not on the intensity of the tears when showing remorse.

You need Read Ubunja Miseducations at miseducations dot com

and the Rational Male posts at his website. (Google Rational Male)

pryme:
Am sure you do,
But avoid her at all cost.

Done that long ago

Sleevia:
Let me tell you why you should not. If that guy she went with was richer and balling hard...

She would have been laughing at you by now and beat her chest that she made the right choice by dumping you.

All those talks about her begging is because she made a wrong bet and regret is always the consequences.

See, when a woman wants to deal with you, she does not care if you die from the aftermath of her deeds. She does not! They are that selfish.

Do you know why you caught her? do you know why it was possible to catch her red handed? It is because God knows your mind towards her is of good. He knows you have no evil plans towards her but you mean well and that is why it was possible to catch her red handed.

He did not want you to to cohabit with an evil woman that may have negative plans.

Without meeting you, I know all the dream land you have traveled with her in your mind and back... Cos I have been there before.

When God wants to bless us, he takes away negative energy from us

A girl I met on nairaland whom I had same good plans for and just because my business was having some problem, told me she can't date someone that is not financially stable. This is because I chose to be disciplined, prudent and frugal because I have been down before spending recklessly.

Since that was the 3 time we would quarrel, I let her off and God answered my prayers by granting me a multimillion deal. I kid you not.

Trust me, you have no idea what God has done for you.

I understand where you are coming from. I still believe that fate played its role in me catching them red-handed.
That neigh said shit do happen and we must stand our grounds in cases like that to take strong decisions. She learnt the hard way. Mr as well because I can't go into any relationship again with trust