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bamangar:
Story shared on Twitter by @the_onismate

I was talking with a friend few days back and he said anytime I'm ready to get married, I shouldn't marry any woman from a very rich family with so much attachment to her family. I asked why, he began narrating his wedding journey ordeal.
He's about to wed his woman. He only has N4m but intends spending N150 (court wedding and then feeding the 50 guests they are inviting. Then use N2m for honeymoon in Dubai. But bride no gree. She wants a big wedding.

Upcoming wife said either a big wedding or nothing. And her estimate for the big wedding is N5m.
Upcoming wife said if my guy can't bring out money for the big wedding, she would meet her dad for support. Well, she came from a rich family, her dad will be willing to roll out the cash. But my guy has refused. It would be a crash and dent on his image for upcomingwife to request money from her dad for their wedding.
Few closed family & friends had asked him to yield to up-coming wife's demands for her dad to sponsor the wedding. But my guy said from inception of the relationship, any slightest challenges, she always runs to her dad for solutions and he doesn't like it. He wants to start limiting her going to her parents to seek for solutions to every problems they have.

The girls parents are willing to foot wedding bills just to give their daughter her dream wedding. My guy has refused. Wedding preparations is on hold. My guy no gree, upcoming wife and her rich family no gree.

https://mobile.twitter.com/The_Onismate/status/1222036512394620928

mezarddinny:
that man must be a fool. you wife's father wants to sponsor your wedding and you are angry? instead of you to pocket your money and let him spend his, invest your money well and when the gain comes, you will have your own respect and probably refund his money if you care to.


while some men are looking for a wife whose family can help their success you are forming strong head, don't you know that marrying into a rich family has more advantages than disadvantages? oh i think i get the kind of man he is, the one that wants his woman to worship the ground he walks on because of his money, since the wife is also from a rich family, he won't get that and he is insecure.


my brothers use your heads o, the rich are getting richer because they make smarter decisions, every decision they make is about how they can multiply their money, they don't let emotions or anything becloud their judgement, they must make money even if it is by letting their wife's family think lowly of them, once they make the money they are looking for, they challenge their in-laws and take back their respect. osinbajo married into an influential family but now he is the vice president and his in-laws cant say shit to him

ProtectMyMoney:
Lets imagine bride's father is Otedola, definitely he will want to invite his friends Dangote, Tony Elumelu etc to grace the wedding...he will not want to be seen below standard.

Are you going to say Otedola should not sponsor his daughter's wedding?

OP, find a middle ground if bride's father wants to sponsor, let him go ahead.

It is the marriage that is the most important, not wedding day.

mezarddinny:
that man must be a fool. you wife's father wants to sponsor your wedding and you are angry? instead of you to pocket your money and let him spend his, invest your money well and when the gain comes, you will have your own respect and probably refund his money if you care to.


while some men are looking for a wife whose family can help their success you are forming strong head, don't you know that marrying into a rich family has more advantages than disadvantages? oh i think i get the kind of man he is, the one that wants his woman to worship the ground he walks on because of his money, since the wife is also from a rich family, he won't get that and he is insecure.


my brothers use your heads o, the rich are getting richer because they make smarter decisions, every decision they make is about how they can multiply their money, they don't let emotions or anything becloud their judgement, they must make money even if it is by letting their wife's family think lowly of them, once they make the money they are looking for, they challenge their in-laws and take back their respect. osinbajo married into an influential family but now he is the vice president and his in-laws cant say shit to him

Neddyogu:
Some big men do not drop ooo. Being rich is different from being generous oo. Nobody announces cash donations at weddings o abi u don see where dem announce Moni for wedding reception?

wonuks:
There's nothing wrong in receiving help from would-be father in-law.

I think the guy has self esteem issues. The gal's Dad have been her provider since childhood So why would she stop when her daddy is richer than you and your father combined.

What if her dad na Dangote? Would you not receive financial help? Abi you wan fall the rich man hand when his friends attend the wedding?

My guy submit to free cash or free the girl and look out for someone else.
Best response..

Vortex369:
4m is poor by global standard.

apiski:
Something tells me I know you from somewhere. Did you do your Youth service in Rivers State?

Kobicove:
If you agree for your father-in-law to sponsor your wedding just know you have surrendered your independence!

rawfact:
You have no idea of how uncultured and arrogant some ladies from a very rich family can be - as in, overly spoilt brat, who reasons only in currency, with no head to "su", let alone "submit" to the husband. The worst is that their dad don't see the need to do anything about it before giving them out in marriage. After all, there is enough money to cover up whatever lapses. As a matter of fact, their dad is their real husband, except in the area of sexual intimacy.

See, not every man is a gold-digger o. What is the essence of getting the business connections and additional money that the wife will use to nag your head off? Reminding you that her family did not only foot the wedding but also made you financially strong, hence you ought to do their bidding (technically, their slave). Even threaten you in places where you exert your authority as a husband. Where, every major decision in the family would be subjected to her family's conclusion and preference. And there is little or nothing you can say or do about it because her family is rich - heavily connected and could deal with you ruthlessly, the very same way they lifted you out of poverty.

Please don't get me wrong, this does not apply to all rich families. There are rich families that have allowed the word of God or their good culture to adequately regulate them from the "excesses of wealth", and they turn out awesome. So I think any man venturing such marriage should create lots of time with the lady and her family to really get to know them deeply. With this, he can foresee the blessings or troubles they would bring to him if he conclude to marry her. But I think the best is to marry a lady within your jurisdiction (grade) in respect to finance, age, and other important aspects. Marriage should not be a misery, by trying to use it to get more money.

bamangar:
Story shared on Twitter by @the_onismate

I was talking with a friend few days back and he said anytime I'm ready to get married, I shouldn't marry any woman from a very rich family with so much attachment to her family. I asked why, he began narrating his wedding journey ordeal.
He's about to wed his woman. He only has N4m but intends spending N150 (court wedding and then feeding the 50 guests they are inviting. Then use N2m for honeymoon in Dubai. But bride no gree. She wants a big wedding.

Upcoming wife said either a big wedding or nothing. And her estimate for the big wedding is N5m.
Upcoming wife said if my guy can't bring out money for the big wedding, she would meet her dad for support. Well, she came from a rich family, her dad will be willing to roll out the cash. But my guy has refused. It would be a crash and dent on his image for upcomingwife to request money from her dad for their wedding.
Few closed family & friends had asked him to yield to up-coming wife's demands for her dad to sponsor the wedding. But my guy said from inception of the relationship, any slightest challenges, she always runs to her dad for solutions and he doesn't like it. He wants to start limiting her going to her parents to seek for solutions to every problems they have.

The girls parents are willing to foot wedding bills just to give their daughter her dream wedding. My guy has refused. Wedding preparations is on hold. My guy no gree, upcoming wife and her rich family no gree.

https://mobile.twitter.com/The_Onismate/status/1222036512394620928

mezarddinny:
that man must be a fool. you wife's father wants to sponsor your wedding and you are angry? instead of you to pocket your money and let him spend his, invest your money well and when the gain comes, you will have your own respect and probably refund his money if you care to.


while some men are looking for a wife whose family can help their success you are forming strong head, don't you know that marrying into a rich family has more advantages than disadvantages? oh i think i get the kind of man he is, the one that wants his woman to worship the ground he walks on because of his money, since the wife is also from a rich family, he won't get that and he is insecure.


my brothers use your heads o, the rich are getting richer because they make smarter decisions, every decision they make is about how they can multiply their money, they don't let emotions or anything becloud their judgement, they must make money even if it is by letting their wife's family think lowly of them, once they make the money they are looking for, they challenge their in-laws and take back their respect. osinbajo married into an influential family but now he is the vice president and his in-laws cant say shit to him

YorubaPrince:
The dude should stand his grounds, dump the b!tch and get a better chic with similar socio-economic status/background.

rawfact:
You have no idea of how uncultured and arrogant some ladies from a very rich family can be - as in, overly spoilt brat, who reasons only in currency, with no head to "su", let alone "submit" to the husband. The worst is that their dad don't see the need to do anything about it before giving them out in marriage. After all, there is enough money to cover up whatever lapses. As a matter of fact, their dad is their real husband, except in the area of sexual intimacy.

See, not every man is a gold-digger o. What is the essence of getting the business connections and additional money that the wife will use to nag your head off? Reminding you that her family did not only foot the wedding but also made you financially strong, hence you ought to do their bidding (technically, their slave). Even threaten you in places where you exert your authority as a husband. Where, every major decision in the family would be subjected to her family's conclusion and preference. And there is little or nothing you can say or do about it because her family is rich - heavily connected and could deal with you ruthlessly, the very same way they lifted you out of poverty.

Please don't get me wrong, this does not apply to all rich families. There are rich families that have allowed the word of God or their good culture to adequately regulate them from the "excesses of wealth", and they turn out awesome. So I think any man venturing such marriage should create lots of time with the lady and her family to really get to know them deeply. With this, he can foresee the blessings or troubles they would bring to him if he conclude to marry her. But I think the best is to marry a lady within your jurisdiction (grade) in respect to finance, age, and other important aspects. Marriage should not be a misery, by trying to use it to get more money.

stobery:
I support the guy 100%

I rather do spend all 4m on d wedding than allow him sponsor my wedding

I will then make him chairman of the occasion so he can donate big for honey moon


Sense will not kill me

Davash222:
Upcoming husband is a mumu man!
You have 4M and you want to use 2M for honeymoon
Upcoming wife fit no be virgin and you want to spend 2M for honeymoon.
You want low key wedding but high class honeymoon. Didirin!

mezarddinny:
that man must be a fool. you wife's father wants to sponsor your wedding and you are angry? instead of you to pocket your money and let him spend his, invest your money well and when the gain comes, you will have your own respect and probably refund his money if you care to.


while some men are looking for a wife whose family can help their success you are forming strong head, don't you know that marrying into a rich family has more advantages than disadvantages? oh i think i get the kind of man he is, the one that wants his woman to worship the ground he walks on because of his money, since the wife is also from a rich family, he won't get that and he is insecure.


my brothers use your heads o, the rich are getting richer because they make smarter decisions, every decision they make is about how they can multiply their money, they don't let emotions or anything becloud their judgement, they must make money even if it is by letting their wife's family think lowly of them, once they make the money they are looking for, they challenge their in-laws and take back their respect. osinbajo married into an influential family but now he is the vice president and his in-laws cant say shit to him

BiggyB242:
And you think the girl won't get a better man. The woman is the one doing the favour there. How many rich ladies go below their class?

Stanfeelings:
its like u have complex issue

Gforce2015:
Aalaye double your Hussle. If like talk about it from morning till midnight nothing go enter your pocket.
Make your own money and save your face from future shame.

gforce5:
Bros, I understand rich girls more than you. I grew up with some of them. Most of them are entitled that is a fact. A lot of them are rude. Like I said, the above scenario is a case of new money trying to marry old money. The guy thought that he had arrived by marrying into money only to find out that there are levels. I am in no support of the girl's behavior but the guy ought to have seen the signs from the way she relates to her parents.

While I agree that marriage should not be about materialistic things, what did you think was going to happen when you get involved with those caliber of people? These lots are snobbish by nature. Only their fellow rich kids understand them. That is why you see Politicians linking up their kids with their colleagues kids. The problem with you lots is that you don't know what you want. When you see the wedding of the elites, you complain that they are being discriminatory by not marrying outside their class. Now, they decide to marry outside their circle and you are complaining that they are too proud and rude? Choose a battle.

Do you honestly think that a girl who is used to being flown 1st class will agree to fly economy with you because of love? I know a few guys who are dominated by their rich father-in-laws because they were blinded by the glitzy lifestyle. Have you ever wondered why you would rarely read news of rich girls being victims of domestic violence? It's because if the man tries to exert his authority, he will be arrested or beaten up by thugs courtesy of "daddy dearest". Think about that. The above story is a lesson to guys who dump the girls that struggled with them in order to "marry up".