Tell your intending Wife to be about all..that you had made a mistake and if she is truly the one she will accept you and the unborn baby...shikena.

Let her have the child and bear all the inconveniences now. You will be happy you did in a few year's time.

Vince77:
What is it with Nairaland and these kind of stories these days?

It's becoming too much.

At least there are few lessons to learn from them. They are better than Tonto decay brushed her teeth

The thing is, you have an unsettled case with LOLA. And I don't trust that babe and her family to want to spoil things.

Finally settle Lola matter fess. Because I dey fear that girl.

She signed an NDA.

Get it notarized and filed.

If she comes with any drama in future, sue her stinking ass.

Case closed.

Be a man, don’t tell your gf anything, if it’s any consolation; they can even do worse.

Shaiyz95:
it's too late to cry when the head is off...
u don bleep enta draw soup...
just japa from DAT compound and move in to another area...
change ur numbers and delete ur old social media accounts...she don sign d NDA so try moving on...no tell ur girl oo,na bad idea..u say u paint am a scenario n her response was scary..make ur case no go turn to Maryam own oo...

Sign fire
Which lawyer helped them draw up the agreement?
How does NDA stop a child belonging to the OP from needing formula when born?

You are so unlucky, both your girlfriend and Lola are time bomb waiting to explode.

You need to invite respected members of your family and, if possible, a clergy. Take them with you to her family members with full assurance that you will marry her and it wont affect your home.

Ensure you run away for such in the future.

Ensure also that you love her deeply.

IF she fails to marry you, then marry your baby mama. It is not her fault too, we often make women the victim. You both enjoyed the sex but you want her to bear the brunt and pain alone.

Every abortion is an invitation to death or bareness. Your new girl is right too.

I was thinking about a plot for this story before, in the course of reading this story, i even thought you were driving that your side chick to the hospital where your girlfriend whom is a nurse will be the one to attend to you... Then you will now start speaking in tongues...

healthserve:
Oya o. Frnachasng Pansophist daddytime make una tag me when una comment

I am more interested in the op's will because he is my brother, and I want him to write his will first, and then marry his girlfriend without telling her the secret and after the wedding, I will leak the secret to my good sister in-law so Maryam Sanders in her can come out asap

These hoes(men) ain't loyal

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

Guy you funny o!
You were actually ready to abort a foetus? Bad!
What is your problem? She want to have the baby without marrying you so what is ur problem?

What if the baby you want to abort is a boy and in future you and your prospective wife couldn't produce boy because God only signed one boy for you and he will be the president of Nigeria (if it will still be existing anyway) one day?

Guyyyyy!!!!!
Now you wasted unnecessary 100k

Ishilove:
I don't know what people think will happen when they have unprotected sex. Unless you're not biologically sound, if you have sex without precautions, pregnancy WILL occur.

Op, carry your cross. I have nothing to say to you. When a man allows his penis_ to lead the way, it will lead him to terrible places.

Pússy is sweeter without condom

Wat wld u do if u're in her shoe? how cn u allow urself to be tempted nd get carried away? Now d innocent blood is gonna pay for ur stupidity nd also ur faithful wife to be. Anyway go ahead nd tell her but believe me she's not gonna take it cos I won't too if I'm in her shoe bcoz once a cheater wld forever be a cheater, dat stupid Koji wey dey push u b4 don wear off now abi? u're comfortable having unprotected sex wit some else? I'm very sure u must hv infected her so many time but she tak care if it because she is a nurse. I just don't know what's wrong with our generation....too heartless

Bro I was in a Similar scenario with a girl in my neighborhood,She was bent on keeping the pregnancy eventually She removed it and is now a serious born again...If I tell u wetin I do and the secret u fit do am?

Can I have her number, please lemme beg her on your behalf.

Jokes apart

We agree you fvked up, it could happen to anyone... What we should work towards now is the way forward..

First off, please do not propose to your gf until she knows the truth. Do not build the bed rock of your marriage on lies. The fact is she'll feel pain much more than someone in a surgical theatre but was not administered anesthesia. At least she'll not have the privilege of staving you in your sleep because of the sore from the broken heart would take years to heal. Another outcome you should expect from telling her the truth is that you'll lose some respect from her family but it's fine, be determined to earn in back in years to come that is if she finally agree to marry you.
If she agree to forgive and genuinely agree to marry you, my brother your problem is half solved. And before I proceed on my ten kobo advise, for humanity and God sake never abort a child except it depend on the survival of another life. So please notify your girl before you put the ring on it that the child has come to stay.
Moving forward, if she says she can't stay please let her go however ensure she forgive you from her heart before leaving.

And as par the pregnant lola, please let her deliver the baby and render every necessary support throughout the delivery period.
However, after delivery please go for DNA test.
If the child is confirmed as not yours victory at last go and sin no more
But if its confirmed as yours, then your travail continues..for me first of all don't consider marrying her (my extra kobo advise). But if you don't marry her, with her relatives support expecially the so called one in Canada, they'll make you pay for child support and sometime fight you in court to lose custody...
In conclusion, if you'll lose your good gf try not to lose your glorious unborn child. The ball is in your court.

Peace be unto the world.

OP, tell your girlfriend all that transpired.
Hopefully she breaks up with you.
It's better you end the relationship with your girlfriend and look for another relationship to nurture from the scratch and not mess it up like this one.

Some humans are more Wicked than the Devil himself i swear, What do SOME men really want? See how this one just Lost a Precious Diamond while chasing Stones, Chaii..

You never fully settle financially you don dey Bleep up. First thing to do is pray to God for forgiveness and the power to overcome temptation, make baba no see you as "money miss road" go withold to your coming millions give somebody else. Second thing is go to your original girlfriend house and explain this transcripts you've fed us with words for words sympathetically like a man who's truly sorry and if they buy it, they will help you beg your bride to be and safe you from early death. Third thing is that, you no even truly deserve that nice bride to be anyway. Na that bad bitch that deserted her family, her friends and town just to have your baby na fit you. my friend, that girl fit do anything for you and her child if you're not foolish enough to realize this. Your girlfriend is awaiting 25 years in prison if care is not taken, pls don't do that to her. Choose wisely.

The truth is that, that lady isn't pregnant. It's a plan with her friends to scam you, and you have already fall to their scam.

My advice:
Tell her you want to follow her to the hospital for confirmation
Tell her you want a DNA
Tell her you want to see her mother.

Brother this is a serious deep shit.. better swallow the red pill and see if u survive

franchasng:
I am more interested in the op's will because he is my brother, and I want him to write his will first, and then marry his girlfriend without telling her the secret and after the wedding, I will leak the secret to my good sister in-law so Maryam Sanders in her can come out asap

The Op doesn't understand women. Allow me say what many people won't see here nor understand cause they'll overlook it. The girl knew the Op had a relationship and knew it was a beautiful relationship. She had the sex all along your brother was thinking was free and out of altruistic ideals to kill his relationship/and to reduce the quality of his lovelife with his woman. She was deliverate from the get go who wanted to destroy another person's relationship because she was miserable. Women are their own worst enemies. I feel sorry for the Op causes it seems the secret is desperately trying to jump out of the bag

May God sfae us men from casual sex. Hardly a week goes by without girls offering assumably harmless sex to us . Fog how long shall we keep running. Tell me


Franchasng


Pansophist

Daddytime

Kenneygirl:
These hoes(men) ain't loyal

You mean brohoes?

maga lola scammed you 100k chai weak dude.....dont worry when she has your time she will ask for 500k

Nawa that is what you get when you can't ZIP up, troubles upon troubles, carry your cross and stop disturbing us..This is why I hate cheating, the lies and headache that comes out of it ehn.

Being faithful to your partner gives you extra ordinary peace and drama free life.

The lady is never pregnant... And even if she is, that child is not yours...

Please when is the part 2 coming out!!! Movie is very interesting

Hmmn

mikezuruki:
The thing is, you have an unsettled case with LOLA. And I don't trust that babe and her family to want to spoil things.

Finally settle Lola matter fess. Because I dey fear that girl.

Na man talk be this. Hailings

samdavjustin:
You already getting good advice here open up and tell your GF she will surely be heart broken. You have made your mistake learn from it and don’t repeat it again. If she has the baby you have to step up and take care of your child, don’t allow another to take responsibility of your child ooo be wise pls

I don't support abortion, his gf might end up not having child(ren). If you gf say she no do again, marry the person carrying your baby. She could be the best thing to happen to you.

My friend, u are in deep shit...but nothing new under the sun...u arent the first and wont be the last

Hmmmmmm. That gal ain't pregnant.