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Asquare84:
why are women are like this, in my own case i am a graduate and working comfortable and i married secondary school leaver, as i am typing this she nag a lot over unnecessary things, she told me her money is only meant for her personal use and not for me. my neighbor frequently report her to me of gossip, i strongly believe her level of education is affecting her. my people i am too young to face any high B.P because of wife

Asquare84:
why are women are like this, in my own case i am a graduate and working comfortable and i married secondary school leaver, as i am typing this she nag a lot over unnecessary things, she told me her money is only meant for her personal use and not for me. my neighbor frequently report her to me of gossip, i strongly believe her level of education is affecting her. my people i am too young to face any high B.P because of wife

GHoJes:
OP you lied about the reason you hid your plans from your wife unfortunately she knows you and the real reason better, now you are paying for it.

You can decide to still lie to strangers for sympathy but just tell yourself the truth for once, pick the lessons from your issue and mend your ways.

Seun:
Why did you choose to marry her, out of all the women in the world? This is a honest question and your answer will be very helpful.

Seun:
Why did you choose to marry her, out of all the women in the world? This is a honest question and your answer will be very helpful.

Seun:
Why did you choose to marry her, out of all the women in the world? This is a honest question and your answer will be very helpful.

Asquare84:
why are women are like this, in my own case i am a graduate and working comfortable and i married secondary school leaver, as i am typing this she nag a lot over unnecessary things, she told me her money is only meant for her personal use and not for me. my neighbor frequently report her to me of gossip, i strongly believe her level of education is affecting her. my people i am too young to face any high B.P because of wife

Belafonte:
Lol. Nairaland

simplepee:
Her level of education have nothing to do with her character unless she's not exposed or intelligent.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Thanks for all your advice. I really appreciated it, , I did not want to bore you with a long story but let me just add this important information. This how my sister duped me , after waiting for about a month and 5 days , I still did not heard from her about the goods , so I called her asking how is everything there , she told me she bought everything and gave it to her friend who was coming to Nigeria with it , she gave me his contacts , i messaged him on WhatsApp introducing myself and asking him when I will be expecting the goods from him, he has seen my messages but did not responded yet , so I called back my sister telling her that the man wasn’t responding to me, she told me , he is a busy man and reassured me that he will respond back soon which he did after five days saying he will be in Nigeria in a week and he will contact me with the address where will be meeting , so I waited patiently for him but he didn’t contact me after almost three weeks , I started messaging him day and night asking about my goods , he wasn’t responding even my sister stopped picking my calls, I was frustrated and worrying sick , stressed out that I could no longer pretend to be working and depression hit my hard , my wife noticed that something was wrong with me , she asked me why I wasn’t going to work anymore , I lied to her that my boss and family traveled so I was on the break till they are back, in the meanwhile I messaged the guy again cursing him badly and that was when he confessed to me , that my sister did not give her anything to give to me , she just use him to lies to me , I asked him if we could meet up in person so we can call my sister together for him to say everything that he has told me to my sister , he has agreed to meet up , but blocked me, I then called my sister telling her what the guy has told me , she said he was lying And cried that she can never do something to harm me , She said I should give her two days for her to gather all the proofs that will confirm that she did give the guy my goods so I agreed then that evening she blocked me too

Asquare84:
She got pregnant for me and because I don't want to treat her bad I decide to marry her

donstan18:
If an average Nigerian non-virgin lady can comfortably choose a rich Chimpanzee over her father because of money, who are you not to get insulted because of your broke state?

You fvcked up by not letting your wife know that you've stopped working. It made no sense, but still, that shouldn't warrant such behavior from someone who you call a "WIFE".

-Your sister duped you.
-Your kids don't respect you[Possibly, their minds have been poisoned by their mother]
-Your wife insults you and doesn't respect you.

Nwanne, if you don't take time, you'll wake one day and see yourself chilling with your ancestors, as a result of being dead.

I'll advise you to travel. Travel from that hell of a house straight to your mum, explain everything and stay with her a bit to sketch out your plans. He's the only woman on earth right now who can accept you the way you are.

You aren't traveling because you are a coward or because you don't love your family, but because you need PEACE. All you need now is peace, not unnecessarily pressure, before thinking straight on how and what to do to salvage this your horrible state of financial quagmire.

emmydiamon:
You messed up by not letting your wife know that you lost your job, that alone can bridge the love and trust she ave for you.

Seun:
Create a new thread for your case so that we can discuss it properly.

Nairaland30:
You and the mods should at least move this thread to Fp, for him to know what to do. Let him not commit sucide o

Coolcalmcollect:
op try and understand dat your wife isnt angry with you cos your broke or you lost your job, shes mad at you cos you didnt trust her enuf to let her know you lost a job and worst you were foolish enuf to be duped out of the money the two of you would have joined heads to plan with. women hate broke men, but the hate foolish men more.

Michellekabod2:
Am scared of marriage o...the stories I read daily scares me

Arthur21:
I have lost all respect for ladies on this thread.
At all cases they must hold on to the narrative of a man being the perpetrator and a woman being the victim.
When a woman opens a wailing thread they crawl out of their rabbit holes to call the man toxic but when a man opens a wailing thread they always require her own side of the story and claim that is because women may have being oppressed in the past. They must gaslight you into believing that you warranted such abuse.
Majority of girls on this forum are pathetic,damn! Beasts in human form.

Did the skreps not see where the Op stated he avoided telling his wife because she had high blood pressure and didn't want to bother her ?

A man is always wrong ,a lady is always right(if at all she is wrong they claim it was his actions that pushed her),.

No one should be verbally abused,no matter what,especially with his intentions. He didn't use the money to chase women or drink,he wanted to impress his own wife.
He is on the ground now,the evening newspapers are using this an opportunity to gloat . why kick someone that has falling?

Nigerian ladies hold dearly the narrative that men are polygamous in nature but refuse to accept that when women get in power they misuse it. A man can feed a lady for ten years but the one week she feeds him he is sure to get more insults than the plate of food she serves him.

I don't blame ubunja and other redpillers for holding females with low esteem.

Michellekabod2:
the wrongest place to get advice is NL. Have you noticed the response male and female are given on this forum differs?
People use threads like this as battleground for gender wars. A lot of people use predicaments of nlanders to gloat over the opposite gender. There is a battle amongst nlanders to place the member of their gender the victim.

Scrolling down the comments of the threads makes me feel hopeless concerning Nigerian youths

Shame though, shame

Graxie:
Why did you marry a secondary school leaver? You wanted a woman you can control or you are like Tobi the virgin harvester, my brother it is well.

Asquare84:
It may be her inability to align herself with my level of exposure and she mingling with people with low I.Q in our neighborhood, your can imagine my wife will embarrass me to the extent of fighting with my neighbor and the the will naked her (as in stalk naked without pant)