Quality20:
she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day.

joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life

joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging

Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

PrimadonnaO:


That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job."

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

PrimadonnaO:


That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job."

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?

Forced17:
she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

jeff1607:


Exkiss me please , you have a what together?
can u feed her?
can you handle her emotional needs
can you protect her
can you cater for kids coming in

Do you have a roof over your head?
will you be able to sponsor her education?

Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

Tonyfx:
You've been dating her for 3years (since she was 14yrs) and she's the last, that means she must have been disobeying her father because of you and the man is fed up and wants her to marry since its man that is her problem. So you probably are the cause of her problem.

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

Quality20:
[s]in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others[/s]

Forced17:
Good morning nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days
Me and this girl has been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19. I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Forced17:

is that a reason for her to marry at that age?at 17!!!!

Forced17:

her father knows nothing about us
only her older siblings

Forced17:

the older ones talked to the man but. he insisted she must marry the man from Kaduna
she's the last born �

jeff1607:


is that the reason to date or sleep with a minor?

forcing an underage into marriage is bad but what is worse ,is if she gets preggy by you? which is worse?