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shineeye1:
Life can get complicated when you are not decisive when you should! The moment I get the info that the maga was heading my way at 1 am, I would lock up my place and immediately relocate temporarily to frustrate his hang on plan. I don't mind lodging in an inn or close friends place for a few days until I confirm the unreasonable marlian has given up on hanging in my house. Imagine the idiocy! You phone a girlfriend by 1am that you are coming over, meanwhile the guy you want to hang on has not even been notified let alone seeking his consent! Lunatics everywhere! The only language clear to any mad man is a corresponding lunatic communication, such as suddenly locking your place and cutting off communication with him until you confirm he has redirected himself elsewhere! Awán wéré

Exactly the plan,the OP isn't decisive,he could have saved himself the stress of all these,what kind of cousin will come to ur place without informing you but instead told a neighbor,which means he neglected him,I've done it before on a foolish cousin that looked for his gf from anoda town to my school, when the girl isnt available he came to my place ,i just tellam my gf is around,simple,he slept outside.

ThePreachersSon:
Neighbors fit go fu¢k this brilliant idea. And e be like say the cousin don get babe for the compound o. Remember say na girl come tell our guy say e cousin don show.

Yes. The babe go join the next plan now. If dem act am well, sister sef go confuse die.

Everything na brain, my brother.

tunize:
U suppose dey act wit nollywood oooh chai.

My brother, no be lie you talk. Na role I never get.

Lol simply stuffs. Tell him your babe is coming over and would spend two weeks and he can’t be around. If you don’t have a babe make arrangement with a friend

NevetsIbot:
How Best Do I Handle This Issue With My Cousins August visit?

Hello everyone. I hope I don't get to bore you all too much with this palava I've found myself in.

I understand how sensitive family can be and that's why this is giving me a little bit of headache.

I have this Cousin; My aunts son from my father's side. We're almost age mates. We got to meet last year April. We had seen each other last about 17yrs ago. So it was more or less like Personalities coming in contact. As expected, we differed a lot. He was more of a rough guy, impatient with needless bravado and a penchant for letting people know how though he thinks he is.

He schools in Ogun state and I in Ondo. We met last year when he came to my school to see me. I overlooked his stupid acts as per that was our first time of meeting and he was going to spend just three days.

He told me he wanted to come again this year and I told him it'd have to be after exams ending by march - knowing fully well that by then, I'd drop another excuse. The semester is crazy right now and I have to divide my time between academics, executive duties in school, art and interior decorations I do. I get home earliest 10pm almost every day.

Last night around 1am... I was seated outside my villa enjoying the night breeze and trying to write a few articles when my neighbor asked me if this my cousin had come... I was confused. My cousin had told this girl he was coming and truly he was on his way.. all the way from Ogun state. At 1am. It was when it got a bit crazy in the street that he called me to help him get to my villa. Which I did but didn't speak to him... Wouldn't trash my cousin before a girl.

The issue is this.

1. I need my privacy.. Being alone helps me focus on work and academics. I need nobody around me. My grades need to be revamped.

2. I don't smoke and I laid down rules that he should never try it around me... I got home today to pick an artwork and my charlet was full of smoke. He did that.

3. Talks with the rural rugged guys in my area. I don't want any mix whatsoever with those guys

4. His bravado is next to foolishness. Where's he's supposed to stay low, he'll act up. He sags extra lower than normal, wears earrings and talks like a thug.

5. He seems to attract cultists to himself even in his school. He's more or less like a baby I need to monitor

I'm not an S.U but I try to show myself as responsible in wherever I stay. Ion smoke. I'm fashionable but don't go extra mile like a juvenile.

Please, I need the best way to eject this guy out of my place ASAP. I'm too busy to have someone around. I do not need this. Talking to him in a brotherly manner makes him flare up. I wouldn't want to make this rough as I tend to lose control when I get really angry.

Please advise

Bro tell that cousin to leave ur house ASAP, don’t hide words, if he is a cultist , ur life is in danger

Don't listen to these kids on this forum,bro in life learn to adjust,ask him the reason he left,try to to understand people and have empathy,the guy might be your saviour tomorrow.

NevetsIbot:
How Best Do I Handle This Issue With My Cousins August visit?

Hello everyone. I hope I don't get to bore you all too much with this palava I've found myself in.

I understand how sensitive family can be and that's why this is giving me a little bit of headache.

I have this Cousin; My aunts son from my father's side. We're almost age mates. We got to meet last year April. We had seen each other last about 17yrs ago. So it was more or less like Personalities coming in contact. As expected, we differed a lot. He was more of a rough guy, impatient with needless bravado and a penchant for letting people know how though he thinks he is.

He schools in Ogun state and I in Ondo. We met last year when he came to my school to see me. I overlooked his stupid acts as per that was our first time of meeting and he was going to spend just three days.

He told me he wanted to come again this year and I told him it'd have to be after exams ending by march - knowing fully well that by then, I'd drop another excuse. The semester is crazy right now and I have to divide my time between academics, executive duties in school, art and interior decorations I do. I get home earliest 10pm almost every day.

Last night around 1am... I was seated outside my villa enjoying the night breeze and trying to write a few articles when my neighbor asked me if this my cousin had come... I was confused. My cousin had told this girl he was coming and truly he was on his way.. all the way from Ogun state. At 1am. It was when it got a bit crazy in the street that he called me to help him get to my villa. Which I did but didn't speak to him... Wouldn't trash my cousin before a girl.

The issue is this.

1. I need my privacy.. Being alone helps me focus on work and academics. I need nobody around me. My grades need to be revamped.

2. I don't smoke and I laid down rules that he should never try it around me... I got home today to pick an artwork and my charlet was full of smoke. He did that.

3. Talks with the rural rugged guys in my area. I don't want any mix whatsoever with those guys

4. His bravado is next to foolishness. Where's he's supposed to stay low, he'll act up. He sags extra lower than normal, wears earrings and talks like a thug.

5. He seems to attract cultists to himself even in his school. He's more or less like a baby I need to monitor

I'm not an S.U but I try to show myself as responsible in wherever I stay. Ion smoke. I'm fashionable but don't go extra mile like a juvenile.

Please, I need the best way to eject this guy out of my place ASAP. I'm too busy to have someone around. I do not need this. Talking to him in a brotherly manner makes him flare up. I wouldn't want to make this rough as I tend to lose control when I get really angry.

Please advise

Akukaliaa:




Without cousins, life would be boring and hard.

I have just one cousin named "Ezeofor".
He arranged the first woman I slept with in 2011.
He gave me my first bottle of beer in same year.
He taught how to woo a girl and how to masturbate with the image of the wooed lady when the wooing fails.
He taught me how to be generous with everything.
He taught me the benefits of sacrifice and the need to be self-less.
He even taught me how to get a woman pregnant.

Ezeofor taught me a whole lot about life - the real life.

Our relationship wasn't all rosy in the beginning. We had our differences. Big differences. But we soon got along. And we stayed together and built a very strong relationship.

I graduated with no job and a pregnant girlfriend. Life was hard till Ezeofor signed for a club in Europe and poverty became history.

Boi! Take it easy. You might not need him today, but tomorrow is a fool. Have a large heart!

If this is what cousins can offer, I better run for my life
God forbid bad thing

@ NevetsIbot

Pay a lady to act as your girlfriend, a clever girl with nuisance at her core, with just one mission - to inconvenience your cousin until he leaves. This girl needs to spend most of her waking days in your apartment and should not tolerate smoking, untidiness or stangers. Pose as if the lady is your fiancee and you are weak in the presence of the lady.

If possible, fucck her while the cousin is sleeping and let the moaning wake him up mercilessly daily.

If he complains, inform him that he needs to leave because the lady lent you the money to pay the rent and you have no moral grounds to quit a girl who helps pay your rents and help you financially.

Play like an ultimate woman wrapper and behave as if the lady is more important to you than anything in this world and let the girl bring in other girls sometimes that will be looking at him like a piece of shiitt.

He will leave and blame you for being a foolish woman wrapper, but after the show, it is your decision how you further your pirirki and pussssy business with the girl.

Works all the time.

In this Life, when diplomacy fails, we play the devil's advocate.

jojo1415:
Use Corona virus pursue him��

Where dem dey buy am? Thru Alibaba Express?

Kylekent59:
I had to quote you so as to ensure you read my comment before you skip.

The big question should be" how do I get rid of my cousin from my house without causing any harm,fight,disagreement or problem"


First and foremost, don't listen to all those people advising you to chase him out of your house or reporting him to aunt.

Remember this life turns around and the action you've done today will determine what the future would be.

Have you asked yourself this big question," what if I chased him and he left, in the next two years he became rich and I go to him for help. Would he help me?"

Don't let the action /advise of a nairalander ruin you in the nearest future. Anything you are doing just make sure it won't affect you in the future when you need his help.



The only way out for you now is to manage him. Allow him stay till your rent expires.

Get a new lodge/hostel, get a new sim and don't even tell your anyone that knows him your new address.

When the next secession begins, he would try to call you before coming, now your number is unreachable.

He would then call some friends he has made to check if you are around, then they might tell him you have relocated.

No means to get to you, it's now left for him to find another alternative.

I believe by this decision, in the future if he becomes rich and you show, he would still accept you, since you accepted him before, then went into oblivion without telling him your way.

You can now tell him how things went and why you ran.



Just make sure you are amicable to him or leave amicably without exchange of words or quarrelling.

So he should endanger his life now because of help that he might receive from a person that he had no contact with for 17 good years.

I made this mistake for 3 years tolerating bullshit from people who should know better. The more i tried to be concilatory, the worse they became until they crossed my Red line. And i took a decisive action and announced that i was ready for war till death. Then i discovered they were cowards who had no stomach for trouble.

I am gradually recovering from the psychological trauma of enduring nonsense because i was showing respect to people who did not deserve it. I should have stopped it as soon as it started.

All this kind of talk Dy make me very angry. If not that am in a good mood now, I would have told u to give me the stupid boy's number so I can tell him to get the phuck out of your house since u can't tell him urself you bloody coward. I hate it when nice guys act. Stop being nice. Be yourself. Express urself. I don't know it's like men are no longer men again. Men we have these days are now very weak cunts and liverless pussies.

extremelygolden:
You can do something.

Confide with your trusted and closest friends in school. Let them come and act up like, because they allowed you to put up with them, you're now forming owner of the house, abi? Just a little travel for few months and you're already feeling like Landlord, abi? And as if that's not enough, you went ahead to accommodate someone else.

They should ask you to pack your things and leave the room immediately before they get you arrested. You on the other hand should pretend to beg with tears in your eyes, that they should allow you to finish your exams and you'll go look for another accommodation.

Of course they're meant to say no. You no understand? You on the other hand will be grumbling as in, how are you going to cope now.
Just pick your few clothes and go stay in your friends apartment while they stay in yours. Like temporarily swapping apartment.

Make sure all this is played out when your cousin will notice at least part of the drama. I know he'll want to fight them, but just let him know that you can't pay good with evil. And that you leave them to God. And that those guys have been helpful to you for a long time now. Don't call them friends in your cousin's presence so he wouldn't know what's up.

I hate rubbish abeg.

You be guru guru i swear .....baddest idea!

@OP
Tell you cousin to his face that you got a code that he is on the run from confra guys and that you don't feel safe with him around you at least for now.
Tell him you will inform the family that he is on the run from cultists and using your place as refuge, thereby putting both of your lives on danger

You don't have to chase him out as recommended by many. Learn to manage people. Talk to him on the need to change his life style. Life is a mystery my brother.

NevetsIbot:
How Best Do I Handle This Issue With My Cousins August visit?

Hello everyone. I hope I don't get to bore you all too much with this palava I've found myself in.

I understand how sensitive family can be and that's why this is giving me a little bit of headache.

I have this Cousin; My aunts son from my father's side. We're almost age mates. We got to meet last year April. We had seen each other last about 17yrs ago. So it was more or less like Personalities coming in contact. As expected, we differed a lot. He was more of a rough guy, impatient with needless bravado and a penchant for letting people know how though he thinks he is.

He schools in Ogun state and I in Ondo. We met last year when he came to my school to see me. I overlooked his stupid acts as per that was our first time of meeting and he was going to spend just three days.

He told me he wanted to come again this year and I told him it'd have to be after exams ending by march - knowing fully well that by then, I'd drop another excuse. The semester is crazy right now and I have to divide my time between academics, executive duties in school, art and interior decorations I do. I get home earliest 10pm almost every day.

Last night around 1am... I was seated outside my villa enjoying the night breeze and trying to write a few articles when my neighbor asked me if this my cousin had come... I was confused. My cousin had told this girl he was coming and truly he was on his way.. all the way from Ogun state. At 1am. It was when it got a bit crazy in the street that he called me to help him get to my villa. Which I did but didn't speak to him... Wouldn't trash my cousin before a girl.

The issue is this.

1. I need my privacy.. Being alone helps me focus on work and academics. I need nobody around me. My grades need to be revamped.

2. I don't smoke and I laid down rules that he should never try it around me... I got home today to pick an artwork and my charlet was full of smoke. He did that.

3. Talks with the rural rugged guys in my area. I don't want any mix whatsoever with those guys

4. His bravado is next to foolishness. Where's he's supposed to stay low, he'll act up. He sags extra lower than normal, wears earrings and talks like a thug.

5. He seems to attract cultists to himself even in his school. He's more or less like a baby I need to monitor

I'm not an S.U but I try to show myself as responsible in wherever I stay. Ion smoke. I'm fashionable but don't go extra mile like a juvenile.

Please, I need the best way to eject this guy out of my place ASAP. I'm too busy to have someone around. I do not need this. Talking to him in a brotherly manner makes him flare up. I wouldn't want to make this rough as I tend to lose control when I get really angry.

Please advise

Tell him you want him to leave by next week or two, that you want to stay alone and focus! simple and short.
Don't give further explanation except you will fall into his 'query trap'.
Don't say it in an angry tone, and the only apologize you need to say "You didnt plan for it to happen like this, you hope he understands" whether he agree or not, don't speak or argue further. just leave him alone.
Also avoid your money and valuables at home, be careful of what you eat (prepare for the unknown).

Aside this direct approach, all other approach has dilemma or greater consequence than this, the only consequence with this is that he would feel angry or awkward for you to have said this.

otipoju:
So he should endanger his life now because of help that he might receive from a person that he had no contact with for 17 good years.

I made this mistake for 3 years tolerating bullshit from people who should know better. The more i tried to be concilatory, the worse they became until they crossed my Red line. And i took a decisive action and announced that i was ready for war till death. Then i discovered they were cowards who had no stomach for trouble.

I am gradually recovering from the psychological trauma of enduring nonsense because i was showing respect to people who did not deserve it. I should have stopped it as soon as it started.

wow, sorry you had to learn the hard way. The attitude of these kind of people are born out of trait of "Narcissism".

NevetsIbot:
I don't know about who'll win the fight but I wrestle and take other self defense classes.


We'll see how it goes

I suggest you dont take this path.
Stop providing him necessaries if you used to.
Subtly tell him you need privacy by bringing your girl friend and ask her to spend a couple of days while he looks for somewhere to stay.
If you dont have a gf go and get Olosho.
Tell him he should have told you before coming.
He will infere that you are not comfortable with his presence.
A sensible man will leave as soon as possible.
If he doesnt have transport, borrow and give him.
Tell him to refund part when he gets home knowing it wont be refunded.

spyapollos:
My dear friend well done, you re doing well ooin, your cases is small, my own is that, since my mum pass on, my dad is a 76yr old veteran, who currently residing with me, I'm planning of getting married this month ending and my girl insisted he has to leave I don't know what to do.

Get your father a new house na.

extremelygolden:
My brother, no be lie you talk. Na role I never get.

Hehhe nor b lie, las las e sure for you.

HIPROFILE:
You be guru guru i swear .....baddest idea!

Thank you bruv.

buttlover:
this space is strictly for sale.
your cousin is a marlian. visiting you without your notice means that he is on the run.

someone should show me love lala! 3060639074 fb

U r also a marlian.
Corporate begging is a characteristics of a marlian

NevetsIbot:
I suspected he probably was being hunted in Ogun state and had to lie low in another state.. I'd tell his mother as a last resort.

I'm going to talk to him soon as I get home again and let him know of his bullshit then if he makes it rough... We'll make it rough

Don’t do this biko. Please tell his mum as you suggested and if there is no changes , kindly relocate . Don’t let him destroy your future

Baba is a confirmed runs man. Contact your Family members asap.
This is nothing tọ joke with.

extremelygolden:
You can do something.

Confide with your trusted and closest friends in school. Let them come and act up like, because they allowed you to put up with them, you're now forming owner of the house, abi? Just a little travel for few months and you're already feeling like Landlord, abi? And as if that's not enough, you went ahead to accommodate someone else.

They should ask you to pack your things and leave the room immediately before they get you arrested. You on the other hand should pretend to beg with tears in your eyes, that they should allow you to finish your exams and you'll go look for another accommodation.

Of course they're meant to say no. You no understand? You on the other hand will be grumbling as in, how are you going to cope now.
Just pick your few clothes and go stay in your friends apartment while they stay in yours. Like temporarily swapping apartment.

Make sure all this is played out when your cousin will notice at least part of the drama. I know he'll want to fight them, but just let him know that you can't pay good with evil. And that you leave them to God. And that those guys have been helpful to you for a long time now. Don't call them friends in your cousin's presence so he wouldn't know what's up.

I hate rubbish abeg.

what if his arrogant cousin breaks one of their heads

InansBobo:
what if his arrogant cousin breaks one of their heads

He won't. He should keep portraying the guys (his friends) as very good people who assisted him when even his best friends abandoned him

Don't be too first tomorrow is pregnant

Tell your landlord he will help you . You and your landlord will use number 6 .

NevetsIbot:
I don't know about who'll win the fight but I wrestle and take other self defense classes.


We'll see how it goes

That guy might be a cultist and wrestles in this regard may not be about punching as you are taking it o, if he's a cultist, did you have the idea of what may be in his bag or what he's capable of doing?



Becareful , fighting cannot do this, simply tell him you want to travel and you won't be comfortable leaving only him alone , present it to him in a way that he won't pick any quarrel,then find somewhere to go or Lodge in a hotel till you ll confirm he's no more around because he can still hang around.


That kind of people can be so dangerous.

NevetsIbot:
I don't know about who'll win the fight but I wrestle and take other self defense classes.


We'll see how it goes

He can't fight you if you tell him to leave nah. You don't necessarily have to fight him physically.

extremelygolden:
You can do something.

Confide with your trusted and closest friends in school. Let them come and act up like, because they allowed you to put up with them, you're now forming owner of the house, abi? Just a little travel for few months and you're already feeling like Landlord, abi? And as if that's not enough, you went ahead to accommodate someone else.

They should ask you to pack your things and leave the room immediately before they get you arrested. You on the other hand should pretend to beg with tears in your eyes, that they should allow you to finish your exams and you'll go look for another accommodation.

Of course they're meant to say no. You no understand? You on the other hand will be grumbling as in, how are you going to cope now.
Just pick your few clothes and go stay in your friends apartment while they stay in yours. Like temporarily swapping apartment.

Make sure all this is played out when your cousin will notice at least part of the drama. I know he'll want to fight them, but just let him know that you can't pay good with evil. And that you leave them to God. And that those guys have been helpful to you for a long time now. Don't call them friends in your cousin's presence so he wouldn't know what's up.

I hate rubbish abeg.

Nice , this can also help op very well, I don't support you fighting that guy o pls.

Akukaliaa:




Without cousins, life would be boring and hard.

I have just one cousin named "Ezeofor".
He arranged the first woman I slept with in 2011.
He gave me my first bottle of beer in same year.
He taught how to woo a girl and how to masturbate with the image of the wooed lady when the wooing fails.
He taught me how to be generous with everything.
He taught me the benefits of sacrifice and the need to be self-less.
He even taught me how to get a woman pregnant.

Ezeofor taught me a whole lot about life - the real life.

Our relationship wasn't all rosy in the beginning. We had our differences. Big differences. But we soon got along. And we stayed together and built a very strong relationship.

I graduated with no job and a pregnant girlfriend. Life was hard till Ezeofor signed for a club in Europe and poverty became history.

Boi! Take it easy. You might not need him today, but tomorrow is a fool. Have a large heart!

Ezeofor has stolen your destiny and he's giving you peanuts in return, see your life?,you're now a chronic masturbator and a fornicator, a temple for demons to torment.