Coolcalmcollect:

you probably have your husband on groundnut bottle, I'll be cooking wife will be watching TV, lol weak of this generation. later he will be washing your clothes and washing your bumbum

Citizenshelm:
Is it right for a husband to carry his plate to the kitchen after eating?

MissGodOwn:
Very wise comment.

biddostandard:
hello

MissGodOwn:
Hello

Oluneutral:
The kind of questions asked on this forum are quite baffling!
So, it's now a crime or taboo for an abled man to carry his plate to the kitchen after finishing his meal. Na wa o! That one too is the wife duty abi? Infact, do some men even lived before getting married sha?

Very soon now, we'll be seeing the question.... Is it right for a man to clean up himself after defecating?

SMH....

CrazyMan:

What then is the purpose of being married when you still live like a bachelor?

The ideal thing is for him to do after eating is to abandon it there in the dining and his wife will either call the maid to clear up or do it herself.

*Modified *

A good wife is supposed to even sit with her husband and keep him company while he eats (If possible bring another spoon and join him) that way he'll gladly accompany you to the kitchen with the dishes and you two will continue your gisting there and do the washing together.

MissGodOwn:
Exactly my point, u have said it all, they just keep posting very useless questions here, and the worst part is that jobless people will still come and argue over it. Very useless thread.

olabrinks:
As men of the house, you’re supposed to provide for all the family without any excuses. The needs and the wants plus extra. If your wife needs a car, u must get it. If your wife needs money for maintenance you’re supposed to give plus excesss. But most men are struggling to perform their manly duties and are even relying on their wives salary to survive. Does this mean that wives are entitled to side men? Boyfriends on the side?
The truth is that most of you place unrealistic expectations on your other half, and when things are not done your way, you complain bitterly. It’s emotional immaturity. And people like you should seriously not get married, because you’ll be highly disappointed. Nobody is going to kneel down and serve your food to you, especially when you’re not transferring millions to their account monthly. Get a grip.

Oluneutral:
The kind of questions asked on this forum are quite baffling!
So, it's now a crime or taboo for an abled man to carry his plate to the kitchen after finishing his meal. Na wa o! That one too is the wife duty abi? Infact, do some men even lived before getting married sha?

Very soon now, we'll be seeing the question.... Is it right for a man to clean up himself after defecating?

SMH....

ahnie:
Some men Sha....
My husband doesn't have that time...I can't vividly remember when last i served him food.

He goes into the kitchen served himself,packs and washes his plate...even cook sef whilst I seat gidigba to eat.

See in between my husband and I we no send..........it's a free world.
Southerners no just send anybody.

CrazyMan:

I don't reply frustrated empty heads who can't even maintain a monthly subscription for their device without begging for assistance from a man. That your frustrated boyfriend earns 80k shouldn't make you believe that everyone is within that league.

Get a life and stay away from my mentions.

ahnie:

I just cooked food for the family yesterday since the beginning of this year ...my husband has been the one cooking and washing our clothes.

ImaIma1:


This guys think marriage is licence to be useless or to be a god.

Sometimes my husband will say he will come and wash his hands in the kitchen instead of me bringing a wash hand bowl. He Carrie's his plate to the kitchen a lot of times. When he doesn't, I don't hesitate to carry it.

His attitude is just to make sure I am not too stressed. If he gets home before me, he will make dinner. No airs. If he's tired and doesn't make, I do it sharply.

We understand each other and don't take each other for granted. These guys on this forum are so miniature and funny.

MissGodOwn:
Exactly my point, u have said it all, they just keep posting very useless questions here, and the worst part is that jobless people will still come and argue over it. Very useless thread.

sassysure:

This actually happens.
I have seen wives clear tables after the husband finishes eating. Even bring washing hand water. Meanwhile he can easily get up and go and wash his hand.

It was done when I was growing up, it still happen now.
The question is why is it still happening now.

MissGodOwn:

The topic is very useless, that's just my point n I won't be commenting.

sassysure:


U already did, twice.
As useless as it is, it is happening.
Instead of being emotional about it by dismissing it, we should ask ourselves why its still happening and what will be done so this will stop.

I probably shouldn't be commenting on this too cos it doesn't happen in my family but it happens in some families and most men have the mentality to continue with it.

As a woman, when u find the why, u look for the way it can be stopped. Some will learn from it and stop tjinking towards that angle or stop if they are doing it.
But being emotional over issues like this doesn't solve anything or do u love the high rate of divorce and adultery we experience everyday?
Somebody somewhere may be taking note.

sassysure:

The problem we have in various Nigerian marriages is that we all marry for the wrong reasons.
When a babe is solely after money, a man will see her as an object. We have shown countless times that money rules. Anything u bought is an object to u to be used as u wish.
From dating, to the exorbitant marriage rites including wedding just to please the girls( believe me, majority of the guys want very simple wedding).
How then do u want to be treated?
We want oyibo treatment of equality but we wouldn't do what their girls do. Can we forgo the material things attached?
Can we stop demanding(as our rights because they are dating us or married to us)?

The truth is this, until we stop demanding and accepting, they will continue to see our ladies as commodity.

I have never seen women as materialistic as Nigerian women in this world. Non.
We chop and close mouth. The politicians destroying this country, who are the wives and side chicks or girlfriends?
U and I.
What do we do with what they give us?
Throw party around and live extravagant lifestyles.
We hardly ask what they do to make money, we simply collect and when it stops coming, we nag or look elsewhere.

See, the foundation is very flawed. So if we are busy blaming the men, it's equally vital to take part of the blame.

We want to eat our cake and have it.

I remembered just few months into marriage and a supposed good friend was advising me to ask my husband for a car. Few months!
Do I really need a car at that moment, no but her reasoning was that I deserved that as a wife to ....
Men work with these pointers. U can never have it all.

My point is that ladies should stop projecting themselves as commodity, cos when u do and u got served, stop complaining.

MissGodOwn:

Taking note of what exactly, what's there if a wife or husband decides to/not to dishes after eating.
Why's it that we attach too much importance to very unimportant issues.

MissGodOwn:
What kinda very silly n frustrated topic is this one Bikonu , is it every question u people will bring on nairaland n ask. Can't ur common sense teach u certain things.
It is useless questions like this that makes both sexes bitter n start getting funny ideas, all these rubbish topics u people post here just build up unnecessary anger inside n leads to very stupid gender wars.
Don't worry someone will soon come and ask whether it's the husband or wife that should put salt n Maggi when the food is on the fire n u people will still argue over it.
RUBBISH. SPITS ON THREAD.

ImaIma1:


How many countries have you lived in?

How many women, of how many countries have you dated or related with to reach this conclusion?

Facts, rather than assumptions.

cRobo:



Most of your comment i have read so far, tells me and prove me right, and you are truly a blessing and truly rare, I did PM you already

Will be so fascinated you replying
Maybe WhatsApp won't be a bad idea

sassysure:


U already did, twice.
As useless as it is, it is happening.
Instead of being emotional about it by dismissing it, we should ask ourselves why its still happening and what will be done so this will stop.

I probably shouldn't be commenting on this too cos it doesn't happen in my family but it happens in some families and most men have the mentality to continue with it.

As a woman, when u find the why, u look for the way it can be stopped. Some will learn from it and stop tjinking towards that angle or stop if they are doing it.
But being emotional over issues like this doesn't solve anything or do u love the high rate of divorce and adultery we experience everyday?
Somebody somewhere may be taking note.

MissGodOwn:
I have replied ur pm

sassysure:


Abuja just recorded 4000 divorce application since January.

Some are not up to one yr marriage.

This, should worry u, my dear.

I am a woman, thought u knee that. But I don't usually follow the bandwagon hence my posts on relationships are mostly opposite of what is expected.
I am a firm.believer of marriage and all it stands for but with solid foundation. Once u start on the wrong footing, the mind absorbs it and it's very hard to change an already established mindset.


As per how many people I know and countries, u wouldn't want to know, honestly. I don't assume. My personality hardly uses assumptions to arrive to conclusions.

sassysure:

The problem we have in various Nigerian marriages is that we all marry for the wrong reasons.
When a babe is solely after money, a man will see her as an object. We have shown countless times that money rules. Anything u bought is an object to u to be used as u wish.
From dating, to the exorbitant marriage rites including wedding just to please the girls( believe me, majority of the guys want very simple wedding).
How then do u want to be treated?
We want oyibo treatment of equality but we wouldn't do what their girls do. Can we forgo the material things attached?
Can we stop demanding(as our rights because they are dating us or married to us)?

The truth is this, until we stop demanding and accepting, they will continue to see our ladies as commodity.

I have never seen women as materialistic as Nigerian women in this world. Non.
We chop and close mouth. The politicians destroying this country, who are the wives and side chicks or girlfriends?
U and I.
What do we do with what they give us?
Throw party around and live extravagant lifestyles.
We hardly ask what they do to make money, we simply collect and when it stops coming, we nag or look elsewhere.

See, the foundation is very flawed. So if we are busy blaming the men, it's equally vital to take part of the blame.

We want to eat our cake and have it.

I remembered just few months into marriage and a supposed good friend was advising me to ask my husband for a car. Few months!
Do I really need a car at that moment, no but her reasoning was that I deserved that as a wife to ....
Men work with these pointers. U can never have it all.

My point is that ladies should stop projecting themselves as commodity, cos when u do and u got served, stop complaining.

WorWorBoy:
You don wash put give your husband make him chop.