Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .

I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.

My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.

I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .

I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.

I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .

Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.

Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.

I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.

Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .

please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

Hello ma'am. You are just an evil woman hiding under some fake moniker just to attract some fake sympathy on this forum. Unfortunately i'm going to say it the exact way without fear... How on earth does a mother deny her child? Not actually the man but a mother who carried her child of nine months. Save me the crap, you want to save your marriage! Did you not consider it before opening your stupid legs? Anyways i dont waste my advice on evil people... Check on next comments abeg.

If I was you, I will simply tell my husband the truth.. Its hard,don't let me lie to you, your husband will still find out....



Why is this post just reaching fp

I pray everyday not to meet a creature like you till I leave this earth.

If you are a man reading this.

May almighty God guide and protect you from marrying an inpatient woman who will be wayward and unfaithful enough to sleep around, getting pregnant for various men and deceiving you by making you raise a child that isn't yours unknowingly.

May you never marry a woman who will be busy thinking about sex and diiick while you are busy suffering hard on how to take care of her and make her and your kids happy.

eyaaa...its simple return the favour

Time registered: February 22, 2020

Nairaland is now a place where the admin hire writers to write different lies just to drag traffic

Things are happening in this world

All these new new monikers.

Seems like the mods or whoever they contract this to go to some sites, get their stories,make some modifications and post for people to start killing themselves over that.

madridguy:
Time registered: February 22, 2020

Nairaland is now a place where the admin hire some writer just to drag traffic

For the first time, I agree with u, Mr lawyer

Singing in Tuface's voice..... Life is simple but we make it complicated.....

sassysure:

For the first time, I agree with u, Mr lawyer

the thing tire us

What you did is very bad! Hummmm... I don't think your husband will ever forgive you... I'm just speechless... because I really pity the man doing wahala over there to make things better and easier for you, you are here thinking of sex and loneliness Let me read comments

My head dey swell up as you call me Mr Lawyer wish i be lawyer.

sassysure:

For the first time, I agree with u, Mr lawyer

All i have to say is you are a disgrace to womanhood!!! Your sister is even nice to have kept the secret with you all these years,if i was the one the moment i knew of your lies your husband would definitely be the first person to know!! Can't believe your mother could even support your lies!! On the other hand this might be a fake story so I'm out of here!!

madridguy:
My head dey swell up as you call me Mr Lawyer wish i be lawyer.

People like me don't forget things so easily especially if the person who said that interests me.
Have u forgotten u have mentioned severally in the past u were a lawyer?
So u were lying then?

All of una sha dey submit stories that appear to touch to your content supervisor... Well done.

I will advise that you suggest to him to get an editor for the stories so they could sound more real and appealing to read. Happy weekend

This is hard. I sincerely understand how you feel but you know that one day, this secret will come out. You have to be the one to let your husband know...and be ready for the consequences. I pray your husband forgives and this becomes your past

cassidy1996:
the thing tire us

People are now catching up.

They fire people up to start insulting and abusing themselves thereby generating traffic for them while they chill and enjoy the money they made through u

Hian! How can you be afraid of abortion, and you were not afraid of adultery .
What about her father?
Two things is involved
Either you tell your husband the truth or you keep lying.
If bringing your sisters child will calm her down, tell your husband to apply for her, but bear in mind she will keep manipulating you.
If I were you, I would save my health by confessing, since it has gotten to this stage.

My brother, maybe you're mistaken me for someone else. I've never for once introduce myself as a lawyer both online or offline. Check the moniker very well.

sassysure:

People like me don't forget things so easily especially if the person who said that interests me.
Have u forgotten u have mentioned severally in the past u were a lawyer?
So u were lying then?

If you haven't met the devil or someone worst than the devil...I call on you to check the OP out......
This is why guys can't afford to marry and travel all it takes is a week and another nigha will be servicing your naija "wife". travel n hustle when u come back then marry.
op you're not wicked....ur just a devilll with womb and more. tell the man joor and ensure its when he's on vacation from work before u get him sacked.

your mother and sister played along and his it from your father?!!? are you sure you guys are biological children of your pops?!?! fear women...any man wey no de fear woman na toddler.

Froshloaded:
If I was you, I will simply tell my husband the truth.. Its hard,don't let me lie to you, your husband will still find out....

If I slap you now you'd stop disgracing manhood.

What is done is done!

Face up to your husband and tell him. Worst case marriage will crash and you’d thereafter pick up the pieces and start over anyhow you can.

Even If a lie goes for hundred years one day the truth will catch up

ebujany:
This is hard. I sincerely understand how you feel but you know that one day, this secret will come out. You have to be the one to let your husband know...and be ready for the consequences. I pray your husband forgives and this becomes your past

Thank you sir

lilyheaven:
Hian! How can you be afraid of abortion, and you were not afraid of adultery .
What about her father?
Two things is involved
Either you tell your husband the truth or you keep lying.
If bringing your sisters child will calm her down, tell your husband to apply for her, but bear in mind she will keep manipulating you.
If I were you, I would save my health by confessing, since it has gotten to this stage.

Her father and his wife has relocated to Canada , When she was 2 , I had no contact with him since. Bringing her biological daughter won’t be possible because we had already done her a favour by bringing my daughter who’s my husband knows that it’s her child , I don’t think my husband would agreed to take another one because taking my daughter here has already caused a lot of problem in my husband family , they are not happy that he has bought my niece abroad while his sister children are still in Nigeria , my sister in law has stopped talking to me. I work and do everything for my sister child making sure she is getting the best education ever , still she is not satisfied and want her daughter to come abroad

The only option is to tell your husband and your dad who you truely are.
And pray he forgives you cus of the remaining of your kids.
In fact, you have destroyed your life already.

Jst feeling for the poor man with those kids

No comment.

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Pridestorm:




If I slap you now you'd stop disgracing manhood.

No Offence
Are you in any way behind the moniker far.fromaverage

Froshloaded:


No Offence
Are you in any way behind the moniker far.fromaverage

He's my cousin brother. You guys have taken him for me, raining insults up-and-down on my mentions.

Idk what to believe on Nairaland anymore.

let me add this : for those 11 years I waited for him , he has also had 2 children here , a girl born in 2006 and a boy 2010 but I didn’t know about those children until when I joined him in 2013. He has only told me about the boy born in 2010 buy he never told me about the girl born in 2006 , so I came to found out about the girl in 2018 via Facebook when the mother of the girl who is an African but not Nigerian messaged me on Facebook with the girl photo , she looks exactly like my husband in everything and she and my first daughter look alike too , I confronted my husband he did not denied he has told me if he had documents in this country , it was because of the girl because after having lots of rejection things were hard that’s why he decided to cheat on me and get the lady pregnant and after the daughter was born , he and the mother went to claiming that he now have a child born in this country so he was allow to get his documents through the child. After getting documents the mother started making his life miserable and he has to leave her and child and never looked back to her. I know him having children outside of our marriage is forgivable which I had also forgive him but I know when he found out about mine , he wouldn’t be the same , he will make it looks so bad forgetting that he has done the same which I forgive and forget about it.