Lovelyn451:
I'll buy dad original isiagu cloth and red cap, a fine stick, good shoe and bottle of quality whisky. Man is made, I can't give him money biko b4 he gives me that intimidating smile and call me chiomy chiomy, oya let's goan buy suya with this ur money...tchew

All monies goes to mom

freshvine:


There are gender roles no matter the excuses you make for the inequality. Women bond with their kids even right from the womb and fathers are just introduced. Without the toil of the father, the child has no future. It's the duty of a good wife to always make the children understand that their father is the bedrock of the family.

A dad gave his wife money to get clothes for the children, ask the children afterward who got them the clothes, its always mummy. A wise woman would create a balance for the children to acknowledge their dad.

or do you expect daddy to explain to his children he provided the clothes...oh no, he's out again looking for what they'll survive on next.

Miarose:
Why the generalization that dads bring money? how many households are run by men alone? our moms are everywhere.. selling fish, oil,vegetable,kerosene, firewood. frying akara,yam,etc,very often they drag their kids along with them to their shops and markets. Moms still provide and care for the kids..
I know there is a silent campaign to discredit women now..but not ur mothers please..

SergiErico:


How much oga?

Bbbwings:

One time I tried giving dad 50k during my first empolyment, he rejected it outright saying I should wait till I get a permanent appointment.
I got one last year
He was dead before then.

livinbygrace:
Can you imagine?So men came to this world to suffer after taking care of the responsibilities.
,paying school fees and training you to adulthood.
Well,this is why I always advise men to enjoy themselves at their prime.Most children prefer to take care of their mothers and don’t care about fathers ,so their rewards seems not to be on this wicked world

Architectben34:
120,000 for mum, collect 20,000 from dad

bukatyne:


What has equal rights got to do with appreciating your parents?

JONNYSPUTE:
. Is any of Ur parents more important than the other?

englishmart:
If you were to share 100k between your parents, how much will each get? And why?

Me, I will give mom 70k and 30k to dad. Reason is, Mom needs a little more love for her enormous sacrifices. Woman has starved and done a lot of strenuous jobs to keep us going

bukatyne:


100% yes.

Anyother response would be hypocrisy and lies.

vizkiz:
It is not difficult to identify a bastard nowadays.

Just take a look at these kids undermining the post of a father in their lives. The system has so much brought down the role of a father. Making him look like a figure head. Praising the mother alone.

Little wonder we have so many days assigned to praise women and just a day to notice the value of a man (Father’s day). Most times the Father’s Day come and go without anyone noticing it

Same father who worked all his life to take care of his family? Same father who will risk his life day and night just to put food on the table? Same father who paid your fees from the very first day you were born till you started earning your own money? Same father who put a roof over your head and even assigned your own room? (No wonder men die early)

Only for him to be cheated again when he is to reap the fruit of his Labour. Little wonder most of you are cursed. It is because you have offended God and man by being a fool.

Just take a look at the cheap gold-digging girls we have nowadays. All they do is look for a ready made man. So after having kids for that guy, those unfortunate kids will rather take care of her than their father who has worked for money all his life?

What happened to 50:50? To hell with you simpletons.

My mum has done a whole lot for me and I’ll do anything just to make her happy but my dad (bless his soul) deserves as much love and happiness.

Even the 50:50 sef, my dad will still buy gifts for mum from that money. I understand most of you are not from stable homes sha...Una dey use una family problem judge the matter.

friday2011:


Really on point... Common sense has disappeared since, children of today dont reason anymore... I dont blame them anyway... Because when the man was fit and able, and taking care of the home, the mother will rather complain to them that the money there father gave her for feeding is not enough, meanwhile she has diverted some of the money, and the mumu children will believe what she has told them... So on the long run, papa retired from service or business as a result of old age and the greedy mother steps in as the new bread winner of the home, so the children now grown up are quick to forget the fathers contributions towards there lifes then... Reason a lot of them are cursed indeed.

JONNYSPUTE:
. For me,both are special and very important. So I will share it equal. Do you ve a problem with that?


That you don't see both of your parents as special and very important in your life should not be a problem to me.

You ve every right to share the money the way you like.

bukatyne:


As a matter of fact, I should be the one telling you that.

People will share the gift based on how the parents are/were to them.

The rating of parents is a personal thing.

seunny4lif:
If don’t know something, ask? Don’t just quote people

JONNYSPUTE:
. So what's your problem if I share it 50/50?. Both of my parents were always there for me.

You can share yours how you like.

Why should you be the one telling me that? Were you not the one that asked why I should share it equal?.

bukatyne:


Is this Africa Magic where the wives sit pretty and only husbands hustle?

The problem is that we have reduced a father's role as a financial sperm donor which most of them are not even equipped to handle.

Let's talk gender roles:

I remember years back, I was opportuned to stumble on a beautiful sight.

A keke driver took his kids for a cruise on a Saturday morning. His wife (their mom) fried akara for them to eat on the trip.

How much does it cost to make akara?
How much fuel would the man use to drive his kids around the area?

You think those kids would forget that memory?

PotatoSalad:
50/50. I give them everything equally.
Mum is everything, dad is everything too, but I hardly ever notice cos he's a man like me and men hardly show emotions, but when I sit back and think about it, that man don try wella.

ArcToyin:

Same with my dad. Hardly does he breakdown when he is emotional wounded.

bukatyne:


I think you are quoting the wrong person.

I have not told anyone how to share the imaginary N100k, I have not questioned anyone's sharing formula either.

I did not state my own sharing formula.

I only engaged posters who tried to make excuses for men under the guise of gender roles or deride other posters for not sharing equally between both parents.

Unlike some other posters here, I am introspective enough to know that people would share based on their circumstances hence no right or wrong answers.

PotatoSalad:

Pops will always say he's fine even when he's not. Since I noticed that, I don't ask him if he needs anything anymore. I have his account details and will ship stuff to him without him asking. He's always forming strong man.

PotatoSalad:

Pops will always say he's fine even when he's not. Since I noticed that, I don't ask him if he needs anything anymore. I have his account details and will ship stuff to him without him asking. He's always forming strong man.

JONNYSPUTE:
. That's how most dad's behaves. They do understand what it takes to be a man and what you might be facing daily as a man because they have past through such stages,hence,they don't like disturbing us.

ArcToyin:


Recently, I had a reminisce of the loss my dad had then. I could remember when my brother gained admission, the money he wanted to use to pay his school fee was with a neighbor over 100k 12years ago. Few days, the neighbour died. He didn't break down or show any bad mood. Despite the ugly incident, he has to still put something down on the table for the family.
Am learning from him at the moment the man called "man"

Sexyliciousbri:
My sweet mom 100k and dad nothing

ahnie:
If my dad were to be alive...#60k for him
Reasons being he's a cool guy,very understanding and infact he's my favorite.

That man has done more than enough for me...he even almost lost his life...but he still continued.very hard working human being....it really brings back memories.

Even in his early 50s he was still paying me monthly salary...Kai that man made huge sacrifices for me.

Maa'le would get 30k...Kai that woman is too harsh...she likes money to a 4th....Asin eeh....I love her tho!...and she's my bae now since paa'le kpuff!

The rest #10k goes to me . As the provider of the money.

englishmart:
If you were to share 100k between your parents, how much will each get? And why?

Me, I will give mom 70k and 30k to dad. Reason is, Mom needs a little more love for her enormous sacrifices. Woman has starved and done a lot of strenuous jobs to keep us going

freshvine:


There are gender roles no matter the excuses you make for the inequality. Women bond with their kids even right from the womb and fathers are just introduced. Without the toil of the father, the child has no future. It's the duty of a good wife to always make the children understand that their father is the bedrock of the family.

A dad gave his wife money to get clothes for the children, ask the children afterward who got them the clothes, its always mummy. A wise woman would create a balance for the children to acknowledge their dad.

or do you expect daddy to explain to his children he provided the clothes...oh no, he's out again looking for what they'll survive on next.

Wow, this is a Frontpage material.
You are blessed among women Freshvine!
You are a woman of virtue.
It is sooo refreshing to know that we still have reasonable and sensible people like you on this forum sis.
This is a breathe of fresh air, Freshvine.
Hugs Hugs Hugs dearie...

(Viviaciousvivi girl or whatever, come and learn from Real and Respectable women in our society biko... not too late! )