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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by jaxxy(m): 10:40pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

What standards makes u call this so called hospital reputable should be one of ur questions huh

If u think it’s by how much they charge or the structure and facilities in the building u might be disappointed. It’s by the level of the consultants and experience of the medical staffs. Sm of these big hospitals employ ridiculous staffs I’m sorry to say.

How can a reputable hospital come up with contradictory information.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by noblealuu: 10:41pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
I sent you a mail, would have dropped my line but I will like to remain anonymous.

Quoted you before reading people's input. They all spoke well.

Well, wanted to ask if the "reputable hospital" did a Hemoglobin electrophoresis test(Hb electrophoresis) or a mere Genotype.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by urose93(f): 10:41pm On Feb 27, 2020

Where then is the confusion in your new marriage? Abi is it my eye that is not good?

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by saajus: 10:45pm On Feb 27, 2020

You have no problem na. They've confirmed that She's AA. Enjoy your marriage, please.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Invisible123(op): 10:46pm On Feb 27, 2020

manontree:
Funny people. The hospital is unbelievable. It's shocking. These errors can occur for a number of reasons but their explanation is so mind-boggling it's hilarious. Why we act this way in Nigeria is beyond explanation

Op. Accept my sympathy on the distress they caused you

Happy marriage

Many thanks.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Lugianostar(m): 10:48pm On Feb 27, 2020

Nawao for some learned persons o!!! Opting for hasty generalization due to miscalculated lab sycophants who don't know their jobs is outright outrageous.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Srallens(m): 10:49pm On Feb 27, 2020

You are the one creating the problem where non is existing.... You are the problem.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by fof1: 10:49pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

SO WHY D PANIC.REST UR MIND AND GO ON WITH HER PLS.LAB AND HUMAN ERRORS OCCURS ATIMES. KEEP UR FEARS AWAY FROM YOU. LOVE YR WIFE. GENOTYPE DOES NOT CHANGE,SO DO NOT BE AFRAID. CONGRATS .

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nobody: 10:52pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

Guy!
Get a good Lawyer and sue all those clinics and labs... what nonsense is this na?

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Invisible123(op): 10:53pm On Feb 27, 2020

noblealuu:
Quoted you before reading people's input. They all spoke well.

Well, wanted to ask if the "reputable hospital" did a Hemoglobin electrophoresis test(Hb electrophoresis) or a mere Genotype.

I really don't know. To the best of my knowledge only the Genotype was conducted. However, my HMO has instructed that I be referred to the best lab in Lagos. I will go there tomorrow and the result should be final.

I will update this thread tomorrow.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Arjun1Side: 10:53pm On Feb 27, 2020

912:
When problem no dey we go use our hand manufacture problem.

Oga na yeye dey worry you. Keep doing test upandan

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by janvier27(m): 10:55pm On Feb 27, 2020

I'd been told my group since childhood. At some point, I went to a reputable private hospital to check. Surprisingly I was given a different group & I started rejoicing. But something told me to go and redo it in a teaching hospital. While I got result from the private hospital within two days, that of teaching hospital took two weeks. Guess what, teaching hospital returned my group that I'd always known I belonged to. I think teaching hospital is more reliable here.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Invisible123(op): 10:56pm On Feb 27, 2020

fof1:
SO WHY D PANIC.REST UR MIND AND GO ON WITH HER PLS.LAB AND HUMAN ERRORS OCCURS ATIMES. KEEP UR FEARS AWAY FROM YOU. LOVE YR WIFE. GENOTYPE DOES NOT CHANGE,SO DO NOT BE AFRAID. CONGRATS .

Thank you.

My love for my wife hasn't changed a bit. I'm only scared and emotionally disturbed. Never felt this way since I came Into this earth.

No matter the outcome, the did is done. I will only pray for my unborn child.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Trailblazer8: 10:57pm On Feb 27, 2020

So you actually believe the report of one hospital more than that of 6 different laboratories?
My brother please relax, your wife is AA!

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by OkunrinMeta: 10:57pm On Feb 27, 2020

You are asking the wrong question. You don’t have a genotype problem.

The question you should be asking is why your wiife waited till after introduction to show you the “wrong” result and what that means in terms of trust levels, on both side

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by angelfallz(m): 11:01pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

What is it with asking faceless strangers for matured advice on such serious matters such as this? Go and meet with your family and the girl's family and trash out your issues for God's sake!!

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Invisible123(op): 11:04pm On Feb 27, 2020

OkunrinMeta:
You are asking the wrong question. You don’t have a genotype problem.

The question you should be asking is why your wiife waited till after introduction to show you the “wrong” result and what that means in terms of trust levels, on both side

I thought about it but I will rather dwell on a solution than bug her with such issues. She is in so much emotional stress, she's pregnant and I don't want anything that will make the situation worse.

I will confront her when the time is right and I will rather not waste my time on what is done.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by laclass(m): 11:07pm On Feb 27, 2020

Your not into the marriage yet n ur calling it a young one. Anyway ur fiancé is AA the hospital is just trying to cover up their mistake.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by zuto4u(m): 11:08pm On Feb 27, 2020

That your so called reputable hospital made a mistake and just trying to cover up. They are just afraid of reputation damage. My brother, your woman is AA, go ahead with the marriage and do not entertain any fear.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by janvier27(m): 11:14pm On Feb 27, 2020

I think the genotype of an unborn child can now be determined

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Invisible123(op): 11:15pm On Feb 27, 2020

angelfallz:
What is it with asking faceless strangers for matured advice on such serious matters such as this? Go and meet with your family and the girl's family and trash out your issues for God's sake!!

Bro, both families are aware and I have learnt a lot from the advices I have gotten.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nobody: 11:16pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

Sue them to court, at the end of the lawsuit you will be glad Yuu . Cos the truth is one and indivisible.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by petitejolie(f): 11:21pm On Feb 27, 2020

Ur village people re running that hospital. Better move ur wife to another hospital.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Stormywolf: 11:22pm On Feb 27, 2020

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Afamed:
If you can locate Union Diagnostic in Lagos, I will advise you to make the final confirmation. Just to be double sure.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nobody: 11:22pm On Feb 27, 2020

The best hospital in town may not be the best for you.

I almost lost my wife at delivery in the best hospital in my state if not for our sensitivity.

I even signed their DEMA to take my wife away. She later delivered safely in a not too known hospital but having good health practitioners.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by KcAngel(m): 11:27pm On Feb 27, 2020

Make cool cash... sue them to court....nd claim damages. Of which I believe they would like to settle out of court. Caus there license will be in danger.. NASO DEM GO DIAGONIZE HIV FOR A CLEAN MAN BODY

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by sassiemyk: 11:28pm On Feb 27, 2020

Sue their ass. They are very stupid. Instead of apologizing they be there talking trash

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by favour32(m): 11:29pm On Feb 27, 2020

Oboi comot for dat ya so-called reputable hospital.
Genetics say na either AA, AS and SS.
Nothing like both or in between.
Waka go do pre-natal for another hospital but remove the reputable make e nor resemble the one wey make mistake with lab test.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by GamalNasser: 11:52pm On Feb 27, 2020

Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

Go to Pathcare (synlab) or Mecure to get a proper test done

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by ozusteve: 11:54pm On Feb 27, 2020

My brother, my advise is to first all ask your fiance deep question concerning her status..some women are terrible... my uncle's wife deceived him in believing that his wife was AA not knowing that she was an AS but was bribing all the hospital they both went for test without my uncle who happens to be a professor in UniZik Awka,before my uncle realized it was too late because both of them have married and there first child came out to be SS. It became a serious issue.
The lady claimed that she did it because she feels she was getting old and became desperate.

My advice is to take your wife's blood and go to undisclosed lab to find out by yourself if she actually an AA. She might be bribing the hospital staffs for that result..good luck!

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nobody: 11:57pm On Feb 27, 2020

op! let me give you a good advice, thank God your wife is already pregnant, to ensure you do not release your AS hemoglobin in her , find another man with AA genotype to be sleeping with her.

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