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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by SciLab: 6:24am On Feb 28, 2020
yvelchstores:
I have worked in a hospital before. Sometimes a dept in the hospital is not as efficient as the reputation of the hospital. The lab result was wrong. They were wrong. Their lab is inefficient! The hospital is wack because they probably buy cheap lab consumables or hire cheap lab scientist or they may just have it students they don't pay at all sef.

Most private hospitals don't even hire Scientists, they even find it difficult to pay lab technicians, they prefer hiring I.T students of SLT, and others who read zoology etc. Even the physician sometimes run the tests themselves without adequate training. Blame the physician who hire quacks mostly to run the labs and refuse to be regulated by the Medical Laboratory Science Council of Nigeria.

The only professional qualified to run Genotype tests and investigate hemoglobinopathies are Medical Laboratory Scientists specialized in Hematology.

If you go into any lab or hospital ask and be sure that the person in charge is a Licensed Medical Scientist. Meet him to explain the rudiments of the results to you.. It is your right.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by SciLab: 6:26am On Feb 28, 2020
Ejenavi18:
A person can not have both AS and AA genotype at the same time. It's either she's AS or AA. From your narrative, the results from that hospital is wrong since it's the only result that says she AS.
The lab scientist that told you she has both AS and AA genotype is only trying to cover up for his mistake.
So, just relax and don't bring problems into your marriage.

Are you sure the person is licensed Scientist or the quacks or I.T students hired to cut costs. He should go for Haemoglobin quantification assay test and ask to see the Medical Scientist in charge of the Hematology unit at the lab.

It is a confirmatory test, more expensive but worth it.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by peterinah: 6:26am On Feb 28, 2020
You have a clear way of making money, and you are looking for what to do mtchewww. My friend sue the hospital.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Afamed: 6:29am On Feb 28, 2020
linearity:


Bros, the guy don do like six tests already, which one be ‘final confirmation’?

Na the 7th test be final final, abi you sure say him no suppose do number 8th test to confirm the number 7 and number 9 to confirm number 8?

Where e go end, I beg make the guy go, nothing worry him wife, save that money for test for baby diapers instead or miliky for the baby.
I know why I said he should go to Union diagnostic for final confirmation. Whatever test you do at Union diagnostic, you can be rest 100% assured, in Medicine, there is room for repeated tests especially when you are getting a conflicting reports like these.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Alwaystruth: 6:32am On Feb 28, 2020
Friend, you don't have any single problem just that you are creating problems to yourself and no one else.
How reputable is that only one hospital that it beats other hospitals that tested her AA?. Let me tell you one thing some of you don't know because most Nigerians judge hospitals and schools based on building structures which has nothing to do with the end product which is quality services. That was how I took my first son who had Cataracts to a famous and reputable hospital in Isolo Lagos on advise of friends and family,only for the hospital to operate the little boy on two eyes at the same time and he died of severe pains. when I traveled abroad I discovered that even adults can not be operated on their two eyes at the same time. The normal expertise practice is to operate on one eye and when it heals,then they can operate on the other eye. Your wife is AA ,its just simple..

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by SciLab: 6:35am On Feb 28, 2020
aigbokiejohnson:
Obviously an error from an untrained lab personnel on methodology. Personnel likely a technician not supposed to handle same without a lab. scientist. I will still advise you have same repeated two reputable labs in Lagos. All the best

Technicians are not allowed to run tests on hemoglobinopathies like Genotype in any Lab or hospital worth it's salt without direct and close supervision by a Scientist. It is strictly a Medical Scientist's purview especially one who is a specislist in Hematology.

An I.T student, S.L.T or zoology graduate employed by physicians to cut cost probably ran that test. He should go to EL-Labs in surulere and run a confirmation.

It is owned and run by thorough Scientists and professionals.

Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by manmade(m): 6:37am On Feb 28, 2020
I don't know what you are still waiting for ? When the opportunity to make cool money by suing the so called reputable hospital is here with you , my 2kobo is get a good lawyer to.write them for compensation and apologies if they failed to respond sue them for their negligence and traumatic experience caused by their Actions
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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by jjmk(m): 6:57am On Feb 28, 2020
healthserve:
Deal with the reality in front of you.

If you continue to struggle and fight the truth that confronts you presently, you'll have a mental brealdown and it'll sap your energy.

Do the needful, which is live your life kiss " Live Your Life "

Sue that "reputable hospital" but that is after the confirmatory test as someone suggested. This is patently wrong!!!
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Stormywolf: 7:00am On Feb 28, 2020
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FrLukas:


Register your wife in another clinic for her antenatal.

That hospital is wack.

Don't let them make another mistake that will cost the life of the unborn child or her mother.
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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Stormywolf: 7:04am On Feb 28, 2020
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Afamed:

I know why I said he should go to Union diagnostic for final confirmation. Whatever test you do at Union diagnostic, you can be rest 100% assured, in Medicine, there is room for repeated tests especially when you are getting a conflicting reports like these.
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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by noblealuu: 7:17am On Feb 28, 2020
Invisible123:


I really don't know. To the best of my knowledge only the Genotype was conducted. However, my HMO has instructed that I be referred to the best lab in Lagos. I will go there tomorrow and the result should be final.

I will update this thread tomorrow.


Which lab? Tell them to do Hb electrophoresis. It can never go wrong.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by MarrisManah(m): 7:32am On Feb 28, 2020
Don't waste time.... Get a result from a public hospital, preferably Luth, and sue that hospital for the emotional and psychological trauma caused you and your wife. Also not forgetting the huge amounts spent on running other tests! No dulling.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by stormborn28(m): 7:34am On Feb 28, 2020
Afamed:

I know why I said he should go to Union diagnostic for final confirmation. Whatever test you do at Union diagnostic, you can be rest 100% assured, in Medicine, there is room for repeated tests especially when you are getting a conflicting reports like these.
d guy doesn't need another test jaree
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by amb962(m): 7:51am On Feb 28, 2020
Sue the bastards for emotional truama caused you by the release of that result. The made a mistake and instead of apologising, they are giving useless excuse
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by thundafire: 7:58am On Feb 28, 2020
What is AS haemoglobin but AA more pronounced wat sort of IT students are these
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nickshrapnel: 8:02am On Feb 28, 2020
If after all test done your fiancé is still AA, sue that hospital grin
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by IamHonourable1: 8:07am On Feb 28, 2020
I suggest you threaten the hospital with a legal suit if they don't tell you what went wrong with your fiancee's result.I believe with this,they might just come out with the truth.I have never heard about one being AA with traces of AS before.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by STENON(f): 8:25am On Feb 28, 2020
The hospital may be right though. The genotype of your children will solve this puzzle for you
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Vikky014(f): 8:31am On Feb 28, 2020
Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.
ill with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.
She is AA. the reputable whatever made mistake
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by AmuDimpka: 8:34am On Feb 28, 2020
Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.

Take her to another testing centre and confirm it and of both of you are AS. . You have two options ! Either not to marry and stop the marriage or the second option is
Get ready to have a sickle cell baby! You have the option now. You have to think with your head because your wife was thinking with her heart !

The ball is in your court ! In marriage, love isn't enough! It's the last thing to consider! The first thing is compatibility
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Nnamebuka: 9:13am On Feb 28, 2020
Spectaclesawe25:
I advice you go for a *CONFIRMATORY TEST* except it has been done and you don't really know.
The confirmatory test readily available to confirm genotype is *Hemoglobin quantification by HPLC* technique which you can get to do easily at the Sickle cell foundation building opposite LUTH Idi araba.
If both of you are AS from the result ,you will know and then seek expert opinion.
They(SCF) also provide services like In utero diagnosis of SCD which is the feared complication for your unborn child...The option however will be to do a TOP for a SCD fetus.
Bro pls can you give more understanding to me. Are you saying that the fetus can be managed to prevent the complications that comes with SS genotype? Pls can you explain these abbreviations SCF, TOP & SCD? Thanks
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by darlenese(f): 9:16am On Feb 28, 2020
so many incompetent people in our health sector ,vky friend almost died ,when one doctor declared her HIV +, after various test that showed she was negative , we went back to the hospital with the result and requested that they repeat the test , the result came out negative , instead of the stupid hospital to apologise for their error, the doctor was like ... which church do u attend ? bla bla bla, . when they change am for am , he started to apologise
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by themanderon: 9:32am On Feb 28, 2020
You have got no issues here. Don't create one for yourself through anxiety.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by toyinhope: 9:39am On Feb 28, 2020
U ve done almost 7 test already reading that your wife is AA. At what point do you wish to make up your mind and believe she is really AA? stop giving that woman hard time with your test up and down, she is pregnant for God's sake. let her rest and bring go and hide your fear because every thing is just alright.


i got almost the same experience as u too. i had known since i was young that i was AS. i turn down so many suitors on the ground of AS AS. until my husband came along. he said he is AA. i accepted him. as part of preparation for wedding, we went for the test. My result came AA. when i was pregnant, they first wrote AS and later cancelled the s to A. so abeg let the girl rest. preg is not easy.
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by lucky4west: 9:39am On Feb 28, 2020
remove the thought of AS from your mind and move on...do not dwell on error
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by SciLab: 9:41am On Feb 28, 2020
darlenese:
so many incompetent people in our health sector ,vky friend almost died ,when one doctor declared her HIV +, after various test that showed she was negative , we went back to the hospital with the result and requested that they repeat the test , the result came out negative , instead of the stupid hospital to apologise for their error, the doctor was like ... which church do u attend ? bla bla bla, . when they change am for am , he started to apologise

Lmao, he wanted to play the religious card in other to deflect attention from his incompetence because it helps his narrative.

The HIV kit he was probably expired.

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by AlphaT1(m): 9:50am On Feb 28, 2020
Invisible123:
Good evening all,

I have just found myself in a dilemma that's really disturbing me emotionally. I need matured and candid advice from anyone who cares.

Just recently, myself and my fiancee concluded our introduction ceremony. The wedding comes up middle of this year.

Now the problem :

My fiancee is pregnant, early last month I registered her for anti natal in a very reputable hospital in Lagos. It is standard practice that they run series of tests before commencement of the treatment. After the results came out, my wife didn't disclose the findings to me, she kept it to herself until a day after the introduction.

The results indicated that her genotype is AS of which I'm also AS. Note that we had gone for checks 4 times before committing to each other, on all four occasions the results came out as AA for her. Her mum also confirmed that she is AA, she claimed she got her tested when she was young. Immediately she told me, I got so confused, I started sweating profusely. I immediately took her to another Lab close to the general hospital in my area. We both ran the test, I came our as my usual AS while she came out as AA. Also, Today, just to be sure again, she ran another test in a separate hospital on the Island and she also came out as AA.

My fear:

The hospital I registered her in is a reputable hospital and that's the reason I'm scared. I informed the hospital of my findings, they took another sample and promised to get back to me. It took them two days to call me, they left me and my wife in emotional distress while devising a means to clear their name or confuse me with medical terms. They finally called today and told me she has the AS hemoglobin in her blood but the AA is more pronounced. This got me confused cos if the AA is more pronounced, why release the result as AS in the first place. This is why I find their story hard to believe.

I feel they came up with this excuse just to justify their claim and cover up their mistake. How can 6 clinics and hospitals test her as AA while only this hospital says AS.

Note, just this evening a new test from a separate hospital says she's AA.

Nairalanders, please what do I do? Is it possible for this anomaly to happen ? Is it possible for her to have AS and AA hemoglobin at the same time where one will be more pronounced than the other. And if it's possible, what her the chances of my baby coming out fine.

Thanks Nairalanders.
Most of those so called reputable (private) hospitals have many quacks in their workforce....they have the equipment and fine buildings but no qualified personnel....they are only after profit and how to cut corners to get the profit...At best they have a lab technician and lab assistants, pharmacy technician and pharmacy assistants, auxillary nurses, house officers/NYSC doctors etc.
Na so dem d write results for lab give ppl without doing any test....

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Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by hayool: 9:54am On Feb 28, 2020
Can AS and AC marry?
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Ejenavi18(f): 9:58am On Feb 28, 2020
hayool:
Can AS and AC marry?
No
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by Czartega(m): 10:15am On Feb 28, 2020
JewelDiamond:
Error from the lab scientists . IT students precisely

Remember that the professionals was once a learner
Re: Confusion In My Very Young Marriage by mechanics(m): 10:31am On Feb 28, 2020
Since six hospitals says she's AA and only one hospital says she's AS, the majority carries the vote, but am not in support of you getting her pregnant, maybe the AS result is a signal that you did wrong.

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