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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by chatinent: 9:04pm On Mar 09, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:
Op, I'll give you the talk a Corp member gave us a long time ago when we were crushing on him. It doesn't mean they'll listen to you and take it to heart, but at least, your conscience will be clear.

"Love at this stage in your life is misleading. Yes, you know what you feel, and I don't doubt they are genuine. But you are too inexperienced to know exactly how to handle or channel that love. You think I'm the most handsome guy you've ever met, but I kid you not, that's because you haven't met a lot of guys. When you do, I won't even surface in your mind again. Life has more to offer you if you'd dream of being a woman of substance like Chiamanda or Okonjo-Iweala who knew right from time to set aside their feelings when they were like you. Be patient. Don't rush into it. Love will find you when you're ready."



In my defence, it was a long time ago and these were not his exact words, but I hope you get the drift.

Lower your quality in their eyes. Make them feel they can do better for themselves than being with someone like you. It might not work, but should put a doubt in their mind.

Good luck.
If I could give you a hug, I really will. Thanks.

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Mar 09, 2020
chatinent:
All right. Let me give you a picture of me. I'm quite fair, tall, and handsome, approachable and independent.


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I teach in a secondary school (internship) and live with my kid sis who's a teacher too, and, well, I live a stone throw from where I work.
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There is this particular girl in my class who's showed/and still showing the green lights that she's interested in me. It's clear her motives are a mixture of being needy of an intimate (maybe) relationship and being a friend.
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I'm not really the kind who'll date his own students, and possibly can never have carnal knowledge with her. She visits on unannounced basis using 'my sister' as the rationale behind such visits.

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PS: I haven't wooed or done anything indicating I am interested in such.
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She called last Saturday, and I could not receive the calls due to the place I was. She redailed yesterday, sounding wearily why I had refused her call, and how she's happy to hear my voice.

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Did I forget? She's always jealous seeing me with any other student (esp. female students); she enjoys staying with me all day which I am becoming uncomfortable with (as it may send the wrong message).
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She buys things and keeps in my office without me ever requesting. Funnily enough, her close friend (also my student) is also showing same affection towards me.
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Her friend will always (well seriously)say (should I say jokingly?) how she'd want to visit me which I will (also jokingly) not oblige to.



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How do I politely show them the nearest exit with tact, and at the same time counsel them and assure them I am their teacher (which I will always be) and can be just a friend without sounding rude?
Op once you remember underage sex can be termed as rape and it carries severe punishment, then you will know what to do

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by chatinent: 9:21pm On Mar 09, 2020
Please push to frontpage: Rocktation, farano, Lalasticlala, Seun
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Meedon: 9:22pm On Mar 09, 2020
Perverts will not like this

Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by B0rn2winxxx: 9:33pm On Mar 09, 2020
NextD18:
To be bluntly honest and at the risk of being tagged a peadophile; I'll gladly date and fvck my student[Ss3] if we have feelings for each other.

Quote me and I'll authoritatively tell you that you didn't write your Waec as a virgin.

U carry your craze come here

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by B0rn2winxxx: 9:35pm On Mar 09, 2020
chatinent:
All right. Let me give you a picture of me. I'm quite fair, tall, and handsome, approachable and independent.


.
I teach in a secondary school (internship) and live with my kid sis who's a teacher too, and, well, I live a stone throw from where I work.
.
There is this particular girl in my class who's showed/and still showing the green lights that she's interested in me. It's clear her motives are a mixture of being needy of an intimate (maybe) relationship and being a friend.
.
I'm not really the kind who'll date his own students, and possibly can never have carnal knowledge with her. She visits on unannounced basis using 'my sister' as the rationale behind such visits.

.
PS: I haven't wooed or done anything indicating I am interested in such.
.

She called last Saturday, and I could not receive the calls due to the place I was. She redailed yesterday, sounding wearily why I had refused her call, and how she's happy to hear my voice.

.
Did I forget? She's always jealous seeing me with any other student (esp. female students); she enjoys staying with me all day which I am becoming uncomfortable with (as it may send the wrong message).
.
She buys things and keeps in my office without me ever requesting. Funnily enough, her close friend (also my student) is also showing same affection towards me.
.
Her friend will always (well seriously)say (should I say jokingly?) how she'd want to visit me which I will (also jokingly) not oblige to.



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How do I politely show them the nearest exit with tact, and at the same time counsel them and assure them I am their teacher (which I will always be) and can be just a friend without sounding rude?



They go tie you flog..


You won fûck people children for school eh.



Nor worry your cup go full
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Sixfeetbelle: 9:41pm On Mar 09, 2020
chatinent:

If I could give you a hig, I really will. Thanks.

Please, don't.

1) Hugs are weird.
2) Have you heard of corona virus?


Disclaimer: If this advice backfires, the fault is yours and yours alone. What I mean is that, believe me at your own peril.

Cc: crackhaus
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by crackkhaus: 3:56pm On Mar 10, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Please, don't.

1) Hugs are weird.
2) Have you heard of corona virus?


Disclaimer: If this advice backfires, the fault is yours and yours alone. What I mean is that, believe me at your own peril.

Cc: crackhaus
Lol.. why did you tag me to this?

The hug, the corona virus, or the paedophilic theme of the thread?
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Sixfeetbelle: 3:58pm On Mar 10, 2020
crackkhaus:

Lol.. why did you tag me to this?

The hug, the corona virus, or the paedophilic theme of the thread?

To give advice to the confused Op. My apologies, I was supposed to tag you in my first comment
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by crackkhaus: 4:15pm On Mar 10, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


To give advice to the confused Op. My apologies, I was supposed to tag you in my first comment
That guy is not confused, he's just sex-starved and has no other person around him to give it that easy to him...which is why he's even contemplating what to do.

I know his type, sex with teenagers is the easiest & cheapest way they can get puccy.

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 4:24pm On Mar 10, 2020
topmost1102:
Hope not underage??
he said he teaches in a secondary sch and u asking of the girl is underage cheesy.anyway i just hope op aint teaching a jss class.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Sixfeetbelle: 4:27pm On Mar 10, 2020
crackkhaus:

That guy is not confused, he's just sex-starved and has no other person around him to give it that easy to him...which is why he's even contemplating what to do.

I know his type, sex with teenagers is the easiest & cheapest way they can get puccy.

Now that you said it, it makes much sense. If he really wanted to turn them down, he'd have found a way without bringing it online for help.

Smh. He should sha be careful
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 10, 2020
czarr:
Enjoy while it lasts grin

You know you like the attention grin
2 or 3years from now she fit no send you again o.

If she is up to the age of consent, just press her breast small wink

Tell her after she don graduate secondary school you will make her your gf officially....and if she is still a virgin she should keep it for you.

Thats my advice for you o,but if na me i for done bust am since for school toilet sef.
this is one reason many male corpers dey repeat their service year cheesy.u go nack or give a secondary school girl belle when teaching as a corper then u forced to repeat the service year by the federal govt for unprofesional conduct.God helps u if the girl"s parents are influential cheesy.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by crackkhaus: 4:42pm On Mar 10, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Now that you said it, it makes much sense. If he really wanted to turn them down, he'd have found a way without bringing it online for help.

Smh. He should sha be careful
Be careful of what? Will the girl rape him or will he mistakingly slip and fall into her punanì? cheesy

The guy knows what to do if he really wanted to do it, he's their teacher.

I wouldn't even create that kind of closeness with my teenage students if I were him, wetin dey bring that kind play...
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by chatinent: 4:44pm On Mar 10, 2020
crackkhaus:

That guy is not confused, he's just sex-starved and has no other person around him to give it that easy to him...which is why he's even contemplating what to do.

I know his type, sex with teenagers is the easiest & cheapest way they can get puccy.
You are stupider than she who quoted you.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by crackkhaus: 4:52pm On Mar 10, 2020
chatinent:

You are stupider than she who quoted you.
Says the paedophile...
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by chatinent: 5:02pm On Mar 10, 2020
crackkhaus:
Says the paedophile...
That's because you reason negatively always.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by PrincessJr(f): 6:40pm On Mar 10, 2020
chatinent:

These ones are within 18 to 20.
This can’t be true! Students in senior secondary schools are usually between age 14-17 . I know this because my primary place of assignment(NYSC) was in a government school. So don’t try and encourage yourself to be a paedophile by assuming these teens to be adults in your head!

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by chatinent: 6:47pm On Mar 10, 2020
PrincessJr:
This can’t be true! Students in senior secondary schools are usually between age 14-17 . I know this because my primary place of assignment(NYSC) was in a government school. So don’t try and encourage yourself to be a paedophile by assuming these teens to be adults in your head!
Offpoint.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by faithfull18(f): 6:59pm On Mar 10, 2020
czarr:
Enjoy while it lasts grin

You know you like the attention grin
2 or 3years from now she fit no send you again o.

If she is up to the age of consent, just press her breast small wink

Tell her after she don graduate secondary school you will make her your gf officially....and if she is still a virgin she should keep it for you.

Thats my advice for you o,but if na me i for done bust am since for school toilet sef.
What
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Offpoint: 7:31pm On Mar 10, 2020
chatinent:
Offpoint.
chatinent

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by czarr(m): 8:11pm On Mar 10, 2020
faithfull18:

What
lol e shock you?
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by topmost1102(m): 8:31pm On Mar 10, 2020
lefulefu:
he said he teaches in a secondary sch and u asking of the girl is underage cheesy.anyway i just hope op aint teaching a jss class.
am a teacher also and i have 16 years old in Ss3.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Mar 10, 2020
topmost1102:
am a teacher also and i have 16 years old in Ss3.
u both dating? cheesy
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 8:37pm On Mar 10, 2020
PrincessJr:
This can’t be true! Students in senior secondary schools are usually between age 14-17 . I know this because my primary place of assignment(NYSC) was in a government school. So don’t try and encourage yourself to be a paedophile by assuming these teens to be adults in your head!
one of my guy who served in osun some few yrs back told me that over there u can see a secondary student who is around 23-24 yrs(SS level).he taught in a public secondary sch dere when he was serving .

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Brunicekid(m): 10:30pm On Mar 10, 2020
GuestLog:
It's a shame that no one is talking about professionalism.

Why would you want to date your student in the first place, let alone a secondary school girl?

Have you no shame to even bring this topic to public forum?

I pray her father gets a hold of you! Pervert!!
I believe we should do more of speaking THOUGHT-PROVOKING WORDS into him, than ABUSIVE WORDS.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Homeboiy: 12:05am On Mar 11, 2020
Get angry and tell them ,no more visits and no more gifts
Na u even de cause am
U de follow them play
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 1:56am On Mar 11, 2020
chatinent:

As form teacher of their class (SS3), it is required you share your number on the board to the class as a whole to the school functionaries (prefects) in class; they all have my number. Secondly, I'm in charge of monitoring these prefects and ensuring good work done.
Look Mr Man,there's no need fraternizing with a flirting underage girl,go straight to the point of discipline and rebuke her like a child she is. What you are doing is leading her on and you hope to keep her on a leash till opportunity to sleep with her comes. Wayo man....

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Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 1:57am On Mar 11, 2020
Homeboiy:
Get angry and tell them ,no more visits and no more gifts

Na u even de cause am

U de follow them play
he has interest in d girl.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Brunicekid(m): 6:34am On Mar 11, 2020
B0rn2winxxx:


U carry your craze come here
Craze indeed.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Brunicekid(m): 6:35am On Mar 11, 2020
PrincessJr:
This can’t be true! Students in senior secondary schools are usually between age 14-17 . I know this because my primary place of assignment(NYSC) was in a government school. So don’t try and encourage yourself to be a paedophile by assuming these teens to be adults in your head!
True.
Re: How Can I Use Tact To Follow My Student(s) Who Is Into Me? by Nobody: 6:44am On Mar 11, 2020
Boy I can tell you want it....get layed

I would have want it too dehm school girls

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