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4ckz:
For people that don't want to read all that, let me give you a summary.

It's the same story with all gold diggers.
They marry for money
Then start craving for their past more attractive or better in bed ex.

You can now advice her.

Thank you.

RisenPhoenix:
It is normal. That is how all women who marry as non virgins behave. Nothing you can do.


Aww I can't leave you with this problem without proferring a solution. Look, just go with the flow and don't get caught. If you start sleeping raw with your ex, make sure your husband doesn't think of DNA testing by connecting DNA test to mistrust and lack of love on his part and telling him that a real man would never do such. Make sure you delete all your whatsapp messages with your ex, but keep the rest. Don't ever forget to go to the whatsapp folder on your device to delete the media (to get rid of the nudes) and the archives/backup afterwards. Start coming home later with genuine confirmable excuses from now, so that he will believe you when you use those excuses for your rendevouz with your ex later. Above all, avoid doing anything together within your locality or in public, if you're going to meet, for heaven's sake don't go shopping together in shoprite.

That is a brief summary of the married woman's guide to still be in love with her ex.

SweetCunt97:
The ex probably did Remember Me Jazz on you

Easybela:
shits happens in life. I was in a distant relationship for 5years,I remember there was a time we broke up and anytime I hang out with another guy,while the guy is sitting, drinking and trying to engage me in a discussion, my mind will be somewhere imagining that's its my ex that sat before me,so we just had to adjust and come together.
You mistook money for love,you can also choose to 4get your ex and move on,everything is in your hands. Tell that little mind of yours that your are married already, just move on.

Brooke60:
Are you still in communication with your EX? If yes, you need to stop.

Also, think of your man, list what you love about him and use that list to your own advantage.

This one has been calling regularly and I have stopped picking his calls.

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

Bj5all:
There is actually nothing serious wrong with you, it's basically human psychology.

It's not just possible to just forget someone you had memories with, you have had sex with your ex on several occasions with different styles and this pictures are still in your head. And I'm sure you had exciting memories with your ex and don't expect to forget all this in a hurry.

You just met your husband and memories fade with time and you also replace old memories with new memories. So concentrate your mind on creating memories with your husband.

The fact that you think of your ex doesn't mean you love him or he was a perfect partner for you, it's just human psychology playing out.

That's why it's advisable for ladies or men to try their best to have fewer partner before marriage because the more partners you have, the more memories you will have that will interfere with your love and acceptance of your husband.


Don't worry, time will heal you but don't make the mistake of going back to your ex for anything.

I pray God save your marriage

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

4ckz:
For people that don't want to read all that, let me give you a summary.

It's the same story with all gold diggers.
They marry for money
Then start craving for their past more attractive or better in bed ex.

You can now advice her.

Thank you.

RisenPhoenix:
It is normal. That is how all women who marry as non virgins behave. Nothing you can do.


Aww I can't leave you with this problem without proferring a solution. Look, just go with the flow and don't get caught. If you start sleeping raw with your ex, make sure your husband doesn't think of DNA testing by connecting DNA test to mistrust and lack of love on his part and telling him that a real man would never do such. Make sure you delete all your whatsapp messages with your ex, but keep the rest. Don't ever forget to go to the whatsapp folder on your device to delete the media (to get rid of the nudes) and the archives/backup afterwards. Start coming home later with genuine confirmable excuses from now, so that he will believe you when you use those excuses for your rendezvous with your ex later. Above all, avoid doing anything together within your locality or in public, if you're going to meet, for heaven's sake don't go shopping together in shoprite.

That is a brief summary of the married woman's guide to still be in love with her ex.

Nairaboi:
These kind of stories still make me pray that God never gives me a wife that will carry another mans child in my name.

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

lewis512:
Try and sleepover at your Ex place once , you have missed what you are craving for ni, You will be fine


Women sha!!

Deoboss:
You have huge experience with such matters obviously.

My own advice to her is she should never go to her ex, her husband will find out eventually & the marriage will go sour then you will realize that your ex can’t marry you & you won’t find him interesting or attractive any more.

You will always remember him as a man that broke your marriage. Your husband may not possess all the qualities you want in a man but trust me, he is good for you as it ain’t better on the other side of the fence

4ckz:
For people that don't want to read all that, let me give you a summary.

It's the same story with all gold diggers.
They marry for money
Then start craving for their past more attractive or better in bed ex.

You can now advice her.

Thank you.

fabiano09:
I love myself so much I can’t even love another person that much so go figure I’m safe lmao

Blakewilli:
Sorry sis.
I tell people, sex is more spiritual than physical besides, your ex must have had contact with you to trigger these memories.
Your ex is ya soulmate

JERRY1925:
Pls enlighten me.. I have same issue with my fiance, and it really makes me sad when she say she wish a guy she went out with was me all through their outing.. I told her she has feelings for the guy reasons she thought that way.
Now i really want to get ur perspective, is it a good thing to feel that way as a lady? Or she's actually having some form of feelings for the guy but holding back.

RisenPhoenix:
@bolded. That would be the logical and proper thing to do of course.

But she's a woman. They are not exactly famous for doing the logical or proper thing. So I only facilitated that which I know she's going to do anyway.

Do you really believe she was looking for advice? Obviously she already knew the right thing to do before asking the question; nobody is dumb enough not to know that. She was only trying to shift her guilt for what she wants to go ahead and do.

You need to know that women don't reason the way men do.

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?