UyaiIncomparabl:


I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less.

Thread wisely and carefully.

Thank you ma.

HelloHolla:



He tried helping but they usually end up squandering the money on irrelevances, mostly virtual games.

He needs to be living seperately from them.
Siblings who play bet9ja with the money they are supposed to use to better their lives will only remain burdens forever.
He needs a place of his own, so that the others can figure their lives out.
Also, if the burden is too much for you, it is better to walk away than stay and end up treating his family badly.

HelloHolla:


He moved out once, but they came visiting and saw there were vacant rooms, before we knew what was happening, they'd moved IN with him fully cause the former house rent expired, now, he thinks I'm trying to separate him from his family.

The biggest mistake you'll make is marrying someone so attached to his family. Someone who his siblings are completely dependent on. Even if he moves to a one bedroom apartment, they will still come to him. The women that married such men are counting their regrets and wishes they never married such person. Don't add yourself to the numbers.

No rule.

HelloHolla:



He tried helping but they usually end up squandering the money on irrelevances, mostly virtual games.

Your guy in question is not even ready to mentally disengage from such living setup as he still gets his "high" from his siblings' parasitical ways. He seems addicted to being their enabler and he sees anybody trying to make him rethink it as an enemy, it is like being separated from an addict's drug of choice.

Walking away is best option rather than wasting your entire lifetime fighting a family set in their ways.

Leave him
He doesn't seem to av plans 4 marriage since dats wat u want

You don min it

Osheeyyyyy

Disengage yourself so that you can be re-engaged for marriage

Watch the movie: "Fingers Needs a Ring"

24 and you're fussed about marriage like this? 24!

You no get goals or ambitions?
You act too desperate for a 24 year old.

Only last year? Some have worn theirs for 3 years

only last year? some people wear it for 5yrs

Na usual format be dis na
Find a ring.
Give her
She keeps the pussy for only me

The Truth ,He might have discovered some Attitudes he does not like and feel discouraged now .

NextD18:
Give him money to rent another apartment if you can't cope with him and his family in the same building.

Or better still, give him money for wedding expenses if you can't wait or exercise some patients till he's ready for wedding!

You are 24!
-Do you work?
-Are you a student?
-Are you learning any skill?
-Do you have any meaningful thing to boast of?

Who and what are you exactly to the society and what exactly are you impacting in his life to warrant such thoughts of pressurizing him into sending his families out and marrying you as soon as possible!!

Smh! Keep fvckin him with reckless abandon, until you get pregnant, then will you understand the gravity of your fvckery!!

Kapata kpata you'll turn to a single mother and a feminist wannabe, nothing go still change! Ask single mothers and feminist wannabe how they ended up!

Straight up.

With what I read here, you have taken a position. Pls go your way, God will be with you, lead you and show you a direction.

What makes you think a 31 year old man is ready for marriage? HM..if you're so much in a hurry, start entertaining other men so you can settle down. Though you're not too old at 24. Don't know why the rush.

Let him know you can't keep waiting then hear what he has to say. If nothing tangible comes up, give other men a chance. Men are not to be trusted these days.

Good luck!

Even if he set a date now nobody go show up. The whole town is practising social distancing.

Wait after corona...

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

24!

You lucky.

You still a fresh and updated newspaper.

Let me tell you the blunt truth.

First make sure you not pregnant. You are a woman, you know what to do.

Lastly, run from that type of man and family. You will never be happy if you marry him.

Case closed.

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.

Hes obviously the breadwinner and he has to put these family members in his plans...

Talk to him...

Can he afford to rent a new apartment and still keep paying rent for this apartment where he houses his family members ?

Are u able to assist him with the new apartment for you both?

See ehn, getting married takes more than loving a woman... the financial aspect, the stability and many other things have to be considered...

If corona catch u.. U go forget about the nonsense u dey think.. No b who dey alive dey do wedding ni

HelloHolla:



He tried helping but they usually end up squandering the money on irrelevances, mostly virtual games.

Visual game means Bet9ja ?

You're just 24!

Read. Travel. Build a career. Start a company.

Girl, live first, really live, before thinking marriage.

OP, so if your period wasn't two days late, you wouldn't have been alarmed, is that what you're saying?

Use your tongue to count your teeth and simply move on. Whether you are pregnant or not will not fast track any marriage process from him.

It's not today you knew of his living condition with his family. Simply move on; it's a bitter fact.

God will rescue you...

UyaiIncomparabl:


No surprises here. Just like he is, is the way you are. I wonder who dates you people.

Bunch of walking, imbecilic narcissists.

Are d points d other gentleman made not valid?

I'm really bifurcated as to what your grouse is. is it his crammed crib or his complacency to the whole marriage thing, cos you seem to waffle.

crackkhaus:

Women 100x better than you obviously.

Kill yourself...

When women lack the permeability to manipulate you they start hating

i would advice you to run, the signs are there but just that you are in love with the wrong person. if his into you or serious he would carry you along and giving you the right information that you need.just go to him ask him the way forward if you didn't get any response please drop the ring and move on you aren't Lord of the Rings.