orekelewa09:
I dey find husband oh. This year or next

Lol

Is dis ipolongo

Or ifilo??

I av decided not to Marry.. nobody is loyal.. 90% of d marriages dating back 2 2010 I know of has crashed.. y waste money on something that won't last... n I also get tired of relationships quickly.. I will just do baby mama we I am ready.. Naija women nowadays r not marriageable.. they r not even gf material.. they just wanna bend over n make money to buy make ups, shoes, clothes, bags, live fast life, slay n oppress themselves...
Except God appears 2 me or shows me himself live n in HD a particular woman 2 marry..

PrimadonnaO:


I get your drift. But finding love, and compatibility, isn't such a big ask. I've had both, and it was beautiful, can't imagine not having that again.

So I'll tarry.

Lol

Wish you the best is all I can say.

The heart is truly the foundation for the issues of life.

OlawaleBammie:

Well, each and everyone of us has our own priorities, wen i was in a relationship, i had her interest in my mind first even ahead of mine, maybe i was just too mumu den who knew, but am sure i would stil repeat it that way should we get back together, why?? I love her.

But i know i wont b doin myself any good if i prioritise it that my half should always put my need ahead of hers, no no no, we humans are different and we exhibit our loves in different pattern.


Lol, Absolutely No. I mean capital NO. But that doesnt mean u shouldn't help out wen need arises. Some women wil never want to help u do anything wen dey visit u on the account that u have not paid their bride price but these same women would want u to spend all ur life savings on them forgetting that you are yet to pay the said bride price oo. And if u refuse to give dem or dance to their tone, den u re everything bad they could tink of.


Lol, if my woman always go according to my pattern i wil know something is wrong somewhere, i wil just conclude she doesn't love me, in my mind i wil b like she wan kill me
Pls if i go wrong scold me biko, cus i wont hesitate to do same if it was you.

Me and my Ex would usually do something, if a month should pass and we didn't have anything to scold ourselves on, we wil b asking ourselves that "are u sayin i didn't do anything bad for the past 5 weeks? Are u sayin all wat i did was good and alright by you? Keep deceiving ursef oo" we usually said dis just cus we had no misunderstandings, no scolding and d likes.


Madam relationship is sweet wen u find ur half biko, forget money or no money, its sweet wen u find ur half.

Awesome. So you're not that kind of patriarchal man.
Let me clarify that I think love is selfless. It means for me that, when I love a person, I'll put their needs above mine. It only becomes a problem when the other person feels it is his right that I put his needs above mine.

As for the cooking part, cooking is something I enjoy doing. If I can cook for myself, it costs me nothing to add extra for whoever is available to eat. A thougutful person, someone with common sense should be able to help out with things within their capabilities, without being told to. Again, problem arises when the other person feels ENTITLED to being cooked for, or assisted with chores... and always demands it.

So yeah, we're on the same page. I agree with your post.

"This year, next year or never!"

vickydankal:
I’m married, if I knew what I know now I would have gotten married earlier. Maybe by 24 or 25. You see this thing called career mmmm don’t worry let me not shake this table

Sis I can relate with you cos am also on the same page with you . I wish I had married earlier too which means I would have given birth earlier and by the time I am 45 years my children are already 20 (undergraduate/graduate) . By 50 years I will just be resting without thinking about pampers money ,all the same God have the best plan for me

This very year 2020...when I will be 30 by God's grace ❗

ehix89:
Let's see if things could work between us. And yes i'm very serious.

I'm anticipating your respond, whichever way it'ld be fine.

Ehh okay, no problem.

All4good:

Whaaaaat 35!! Too LATE.
My Bible says 2 is better than 1
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we never achieve anything na marriage...
you see 30yrs old guy that does not have a good job ( teaching job ) is saying he his old enough to marry. Age alone is not the only factor to consider when getting married. the new family, the new father and mother, for me 35 is the age i will marry even if i get enough money at age 30.

vickydankal:
I’m married, if I knew what I know now I would have gotten married earlier. Maybe by 24 or 25. You see this thing called career mmmm don’t worry let me not shake this table

I’m 25yrs old but I don’t look my age . I look like 19-21 and it’s amusing when people ask me if I have written waec. The thing dey vex me eh

I’d like to get married 26 or 27. So age is still very much on my side, in fact too much sef. I have a voice of a 10yrs old child .

I used to be upset but God has blessed me too much with good genes cos people don’t ask me when I’m gonna get married, no talk of “you’re getting old o marry na?” . Except my dad of course.

dadarasak:


Yip. Friendship should help. Be patient

se1 told me I can find such in nollywood

Chi59:
If I get married, that is.

I sight you oo

Ginaz:
I’m 25yrs old but I don’t look my age . I look like 19-21 and it’s amusing when people ask me if I have written waec. The thing dey vex me eh

I’d like to get married 26 or 27. So age is still very much on my side, in fact too much sef. I have a voice of a 10yrs old child .

I used to be upset but God has blessed me too much with good genes cos people don’t ask me when I’m gonna get married, no talk of “you’re getting old o marry na?” . Except my dad of course.

it does not help,I am 30 now most guys 26 to 27 na dem the come toast you .......one told me I look 22 I carry hand draw e ear......

Depends. Right now, i don't really see the need, but that might change later on. if i am fortunate enough to have a kid beforehand, i don't think i will get married

PrimadonnaO:


Awesome. So you're not that kind of patriarchal man.

Lol, but i love oldies alot, like evergreen music, ancient ways and d likes but i try as much as posible to mix it with modern day protocols.

Let me clarify that I think love is selfless. It means for me that, when I love a person, I'll put their needs above mine. It only becomes a problem when the other person feels it is his right that I put his needs above mine.

Yea, absolutely yes, infact it wil later be a burden to you at the long run.
As a lady, u re not obligated to do so AS I TINK OO. Tho at times, compromise is inevitable and dis is to both parties, cus there are times in which one needs wil supersede the other's and d one with minor needs would hav to compromise. This is not mumurity but exhibition of ur professed love.

As for the cooking part, cooking is something I enjoy doing. If I can cook for myself, it costs me nothing to add extra for whoever is available to eat. A thougutful person, someone with common sense should be able to help out with things within their capabilities, without being told to. Again, problem arises when the other person feels ENTITLED to being cooked for, or assisted with chores... and always demands it.

The problem is Vague entitlement we have. Buti oo, me i dont like cooking oo, in fact i hate entering the kitchen, if i marry and u find me in ur kitchen just know that i went there to steal ur meats and friend plantain

Rsason why is said dis is cus relationship is always different from marriage, even in marriage i dont tink i need the entitlement cus i hate it, but dont expect me to go to kitchen oo cus a no sabi cook.

If u find me in ur kitchen, na ur meat a go thief chop o

funmercy1:
it does not help,I am 30 now most guys 26 to 27 na dem the come toast you .......one told me I look 22 I carry hand draw e ear......

vickydankal:
I’m married, if I knew what I know now I would have gotten married earlier. Maybe by 24 or 25. You see this thing called career mmmm don’t worry let me not shake this table

explain pls, you might help me.

Definitely this year by Gods grace and courage. I am 32 already btw.

I feel I am ready, maybe

best time is the coronavirus period,just indoor marriage with less than 10k.

ordovicianonly:

Sis I can relate with you cos am also on the same page with you . I wish I had married earlier too which means I would have given birth earlier and by the time I am 45 years my children are already 20 (undergraduate/graduate) . By 50 years I will just be resting without thinking about pampers money ,all the same God have the best plan for me

You are correct. I’d wanted to say my view on the reason why early marriage is important, but some people here had made themselves judges as though this is a political debate arena.

I had an experience and I am entitled to my own opinion.

Is delaying marriage always the best path, though? While getting married young isn’t for everyone, there are actually some distinct benefits to doing so.

I believe too much Un-arrange and unbalanced knowledge causes people to be very choosy about marriage.

I was raise by a single mum and she taught that a woman should be self dependent. As good as that is if you are not careful to balance that truth, you will become a low key feminist.

When you marry late you will understand that there are many things you could do and even get better preference when you are married.

We (Women) need a man in our lives. Let me make controversial statement but truthful.

A woman job and fulfillment is truely tied to her assistant to her man’s assignment (Vision)

This is not to say that without a man you are not fulfilled but to say that there’s a level of favor you release when you come into a man’s live and that feeling is fulfilling .


Had I married by 25 by now I would be done with child labor.

My advice , look for a place in your life and struck a balance. What do you want and what’s your motivation in life and about marriage.

But take it from me, if you wait till 30 and above you will want to get it right, and that feeling of getting it right will make you choosy and years are counting. That’s when you marry for necessity and not love. That’s when you hear all man na man.

With less criticism I could share some personal experiences I had for marrying late. In respect to child bearing, marital life, career issues and financial problems not to talk of comparisons that comes with it.

Please we are all self isolating. Don’t give me BP. If you curse me I will come to your house and beat you .

Beolly:


Very good but at 22 are you matured enough? Have you seen it all

You must be a funny being for asking that question, do you really think marriage all about age... marriage has to do with mind and mentality maturity

Beolly:


Very good but at 22 are you matured enough? Have you seen it all

You must be a funny being for asking that question, do you really think marriage is all about age... marriage has to do with mind and mentality maturity

Mine was 8 years ago, @ age of 28. Then some of my friends said i dnt have sense just because i was staying in a room (lol) but i and my fiancee had vision. Today we are bless with two beautiful girls and a boy, living happily together in a flat, i hang my booth @ 35. Just enjoying ourselves now. My point is, no matter your present situation, do not let that stop you from getting married as you do not know what God have in plan for you. Keep praying while working Hard. You will surely get there.

GermanMelania:



Do you actually? This requires the consent of at least 1 other human being. Also i think coro shows why we are religious. When society is unstable to keep one sane you need something to hang on to. Thats why that person invoke God sha.

Things dont always work out as we planned.

You're 50% right

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
Do you really think marriage is that wonderful(Especially to a Nigerian man)? The only reason I want to get married is to appease my family and also I want a kid, being a christian I cannot have one outside marriage. Why would I spend a huge portion of my life with someone I barely know and who might not be worth it? You people think you're so important that you believe that every female needs to clinch one of you by the time she's 22. God forbid[s]. In fact, no marriage till I am 35. I need to enjoy life before subjecting myself [/s]to eternal bondage.

See the reason you gave.
There are good Nigerian men out there even on nairaland but the economic conditions won't allow most of us settle down and to make it worst the type of demanding women we have this days worsens the whole deal.
I'm looking forward to settling down next year ending.
I can bet you if u HV this type of idea, ur marriage will be like Telemundo kind of marriage and will end up in divorce.
I would not like to get married either but I found out that with the right person you could enjoy life whether your both rich or poor.
How do u do these.
1) her playing the part of been submissive
2) both partners understand each other
3) apologizing on time and never sleeping till another day with a pain or anger in mind.
4) going on vacation with your spouse - yes I have seen couples do that even with less income.
5) knowing each others flaws
6) assisting each other financially, emotionally and mentality
7) never using the other persons weakness as a defense or against the person.

Yes we have issues with our partner but These are few things I and my partner talk and plan to do when we get married whether to her or someone else.
I guess your not a slay queen and Even at that your not getting married to a stranger except na arrangeee marriage and neither is it not worth it cos marriage to me is good with the right person that understands you, can protect you and defend you likewise same for you.

The truth is as a man if ur 30-35 n I'm 40 or 45 n want to get married I will never marry you cos I would be wondering what you were doing during your youthful age.

vickydankal:
I’m married, if I knew what I know now I would have gotten married earlier. Maybe by 24 or 25. You see this thing called career mmmm don’t worry let me not shake this table

We plenty here wey no too sabi anything, abeg shake am...

Maybe when am 23 or 24 which is in a year or two

funmercy1:
it does not help,I am 30 now most guys 26 to 27 na dem the come toast you .......one told me I look 22 I carry hand draw e ear......

Hahaha yes o sis, it can be really annoying I swear. Just last week someone I’ve been talking a lot with on phone told me he is 22. I was shocked to my bones, we never talked about age till that fateful day, I stopped picking his calls cos he’s too small for me . He looks 26-28 facially .

The struggle no be here especially when they treat you like a kid cos you have a young look .

saxxyb:


@vickdankal, You are very insane, a right thinking lady that is want to get married should have a source if income

Personally I don't support the idea of early marriage(20-25) for ladies because it comes with different problems such as , delay in achievement of one goals, marrying someone who isn't your mate, .not fully independent and finally not fully understanding the concept of marriage

As a lady you should also have a source of income to support you husband, don't be a liability, life is just unfair in this part of a country, very imbalance , a man will want to do everything, starting from paying exorbitant bride price

Ladies trust me men usually seek and respect women of value, if you are well to do as a lady men will come to you for marriage, no one wants to marry a liability, another reason for a lady to have a source if income is because at a time your family will need your financial help, just imagine a scenario where a girl from a family whose sibling are all girls and they all decide to be liabilities looking to all marry rich men and here is an urgent need (mama don fall sick), what will happen? Is that how you will calling your husband for every little thing, common to buy sanitary u no fit na your husband go provide, another is if a wife unfortunately lost one spouse and there is widowhood, Is that how your children will suffer?

Please girls equip yourself and add value to a man life and stop minding all those feminism movement valuable women are real women.
#my2cent

I wanted to throw the home training of my mum and give you the insult of your life, but nah I won’t come to your level.

Why call me insane when I’m entitled to my opinion. Can’t you intelligently air your view without throwing stones?

I believe you have understanding to know there are differences to working and pursuing career.

The first is a working class lady who earns her salary etc

The second is a working class who determined that no marriage until She is the director, PhD holder, regional manager etc this is what we call career .

I have been working years way before but starting pursuing career when I was already comfortable for marriage in every wise, and this I’m still paying for it some how.

Hon I won’t want to get married to a 40-45 year old man either because that tells me he is grossly irresponsible and trifling

evil1:


See the reason you gave.
There are good Nigerian men out there even on nairaland but the economic conditions won't allow most of us settle down and to make it worst the type of demanding women we have this days worsens the whole deal.
I'm looking forward to settling down next year ending.
I can bet you if u HV this type of idea, ur marriage will be like Telemundo kind of marriage and will end up in divorce.
I would not like to get married either but I found out that with the right person you could enjoy life whether your both rich or poor.
How do u do these.
1) her playing the part of been submissive
2) both partners understand each other
3) apologizing on time and never sleeping till another day with a pain or anger in mind.
4) going on vacation with your spouse - yes I have seen couples do that even with less income.
5) knowing each others flaws
6) assisting each other financially, emotionally and mentality
7) never using the other persons weakness as a defense or against the person.

Yes we have issues with our partner but These are few things I and my partner talk and plan to do when we get married whether to her or someone else.
I guess your not a slay queen and Even at that your not getting married to a stranger except na arrangeee marriage and neither is it not worth it cos marriage to me is good with the right person that understands you, can protect you and defend you likewise same for you.

The truth is as a man if ur 30-35 n I'm 40 or 45 n want to get married I will never marry you cos I would be wondering what you were doing during your youthful age.

smiliyB:
Ehh okay, no problem.

Good morning and hope you're observing the sit at home instruction. How do i reach you outside this platform by the way.