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If you take her back she would do it again, accepting her back shows you are real man. But women see it as a sign of weakness and she woul do it again. I just had this conversation with a 50 year old man last week, wife of 27 years with 5 kids cheated, he forgave and she did it again .

When she starts another relationship she wouldn't try cheating again cause it ended her last one, now that's remorse.

Jaqenhghar:
You will be surprused what she told the mother. Something similar happened to me with an ex. She didnt confess but the signs were there.

What could she have possibly said to her mother? I find it a little inappropriate lol.

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Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

Weak men everywhere! I can forgive cheating if the person confessed without me catching her but if I catch you, it is game over. Even at that it will be very hard for me to forget.

XhosaNostra:
What could she have possibly said to her mother? I find it a little inappropriate lol.

Anything really. She could make it look like it was a minor agreement and he is over reacting and wants the mother to intervene as an elder.... she could lie and even say he cheated on her instead. Sadly there are some real trashy mothers too who are knowledgeable on their children's shenanigans. When the daughter (or son) brings a partner they entertain the person knowing well that that partenr is not the only person their child is dating

Jaqenhghar:
Anything really. She could make it look like it was a minor agreement and he is over reacting and wants the mother to intervene as an elder.... she could lie and even say he cheated on her instead. Sadly there are some real trashy mothers too who are knowledgeable on their children's shenanigans. When the daughter (or son) brings a partner they entertain the person knowing well that that partenr is not the only person their child is dating

Very strange lol. How do people get parents involved in this sort of thing, it's mind boggling to me. Anyway, to each their own.

Investmentfreak:
Forgive if you can , we all make mistakes .
This sex thing is overhyped.
Now that she cheated , does it mean the pussy have expired?
And a wise man once said “no one is faithful” , if you find a beautiful cheat with better traits then keep her.

Sex cannot happen by mistake.
It may be overhyped, but what comes as a result of it can last a lifetime.
It may not have expired, but it could be diseased, filled up with someone else's seed or slackened. And if it isn't any of these things now, the road has been opened for it to be in future.
That was not a wise man. That was a cuckold of a fool.

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

Give her another chance....

I love men like u DT breaks up ,go away nd don't look back.

But give her another chance..I believe sh would b very careful nd faithful this time; to b honest,its not easy for ladies over a hundred disturbances from guys who are as rich,handsome ,sophisticated nd sometimes even more exposed nd intelligent than their guys...

Its only human to eer, but if it repeats you can cross ur mind nd leave her

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

She'll cheat on you again!

Jaqenhghar:
Anything really. She could make it look like it was a minor agreement and he is over reacting and wants the mother to intervene as an elder.... she could lie and even say he cheated on her instead. Sadly there are some real trashy mothers too who are knowledgeable on their children's shenanigans. When the daughter (or son) brings a partner they entertain the person knowing well that that partenr is not the only person their child is dating

Supposed the mom is quite close to her nd sees her depressed nd inquired till sh got an answer...not all mom don't follow up their kids

My ex mum calls me atimez to ask whether av heard from her( when sh is not reachable for 2days) in skl....

Thereafter sh asked me abt my welfare. Nd remembered me in her prayers... I couldn't hurt DT gal cuz if these

dinachi:
Weak men everywhere! I can forgive cheating if the person confessed without me catching her but if I catch you, it is game over. Even at that it will be very hard for me to forget.

Bro. Don't forgive, ever. A woman who cheats will forever remain a cheat even though she will cover up her tracks better as she continues. If she cheated, it's only because she thought you were trash and the other guy is better at the time. No woman cheats on the man of her dreams. If she comes back and confesses, it's only because she found out it wasn't so. If she sees yet another possibly better 'option'; or fifty; she will still cheat with them until she is no longer attractive and literally cannot cheat. Then you get stuck with an unattractive woman and the bills of her children; who may or may not also be yours.

There is no shortage of cheap fertile females. If your woman cheats, change her.

Illuminated993:
If I advise you, I do so as an OG whose girlfriend cheated on him in the past, so my take on this issue is priceless. Do not leave her! Life abhors a vacuum, and you will be lonely and unhappy if you can't find a good replacement in time. Be with her, but understand that you will never be that human she cheated on (she cheated on you because you were too nice to a fault). You will change many things about you. Lets get to it: Be with her, fucckk her, do not be concerned with what she does or who she talks to. Whether she fucckks some guy again should be none of your concern, do not be bothered with whatever she does, or wherever she goes to. Also, do not help her solve her problems, do not give her cash. But it's important you have happy moments with her, like taking you both out for drinks and socializing, you both could get high together and end it with sex. Live a carefree life with her. But while with her, talk to other girls(if you can, date them, fucckk as many as you can). All these things I recommended, gives you that bad boy feel that women crave. When it's time for marriage, you will know the person amongst the women in your life to settle down with. The point of my writing is that you don't take women so seriously to the extent of attaching emotions on any one of them. If you become emotional with a woman, she plays you like a fiddle, and it will break you mentally.

That was too harsh of u.....ur creating a bad relationship. Can't someone get carried away again...?

Are u very sure the guy himself HV never cheated or habour serious thought ant someone else while the going was good..?

KaideeGee:
Okay dude since you brought the topic to this forum, i'll assume you still love your babe. Try having an open discussion with her about why she cheated, if there was something you were not doing right? That should open up the conversation to a lot of grey areas in your relationship.

Just my thought though...

So, your partner cheated and you want her to justify her actions abi... You try! Why didn't she tell you before she cheated? We'll, experience they say is the best teacher! You haven't been through it. Bro, a cheat is always a cheat. Once you forgive and continue with her, you're already in for a big time emotional trauma because she'll use your good heart against you as a weakness!

Ok

bigpicture001:
That was too harsh of u.....ur creating a bad relationship. Can't someone get carried away again...?

Are u very sure the guy himself HV never cheated or habour serious thought ant someone else while the going was good..?

Its a fantastic feeling. I mean its the best feeling someone can get because cheating is more easy and getting cheated is even more easier than we think.

Actually speaking its very difficult, getting cheated is one of the most painful feel that a human being can under go. When we keep so much trust on our pal, and if she breaks and cheats you its hard to digest. That moment changes the entire love to hat-redness.

Its easy because our blind faith or trusts is so misused and that we go so down that we will not trust anyone because of that our life becomes even more difficult. It takes a huge heart actually to forgive or to move on. Not an easy thing and trusting anyone in that matter also becomes very difficult.

I will share my own experience, i was in a long relationship and usually in this trust is the most important thing to keep. I was so badly cheated by him that I became so dumb. After few years when I was in second relationship I was forced to ask few questions to my man, and I got so nice beatings from him that I can never forget.

This is what a person can get from being cheated. To keep that trust again becomes so difficult.

Never ever stay with a cheater. I assure you that it's always pain, pain and more pain. They can't live with themselves, so why should you live with them? These kind of women ruin men's brain, because they can't live with the guilt, and they feel worse as time goes by. But I know one thing for sure: No mercy to the cheaters. I would leave them in a desert to rotten and die if I could. They are pure evil and shouldn't be part of society.

This is my opinion.

How can you say your girlfriend cheated ? Are you legally married. Don't deceive your self. Una no legit to have sex so no cheat.

enuk80:
She thought the other dude was better than you. She realise you are far better than the dude she cheated with. Now, she feels remorse for her action.

Op, listen carefully, if she could cheat behind your back several times, she will do it again over and over different dudes. Once a cheat will always be a cheat.

My advise is that you leave her alone. Tell her you have forgiven her but you can't be together again. Then move on with your life

was about typing this and saw this


2 crates of osan wewe for you

I wish i could give you a billion likes for this . Anyway Nagol95, please dont emotion cloud your judgement/sanity... let her go, dont rub anything to her face, never go back to your ' vomit'

RisenPhoenix:
Which other info do you want to provide and what is left to think or do? There are no second chances in a woman's cheating. Once she opens up to someone else, she's out. Disease, paternity fraud and murder of husbands to marry lovers is the order of the day in this era.

Stop doing like the biblical Lot's wife. Face front please. There is no need to hang around. Not even to 'rub things on her face'.

The only reason i can consider second chance is, If i'm married to her with kids ni o.

Leezah:
Its a fantastic feeling. I mean its the best feeling someone can get because cheating is more easy and getting cheated is even more easier than we think.

Actually speaking its very difficult, getting cheated is one of the most painful feel that a human being can under go. When we keep so much trust on our pal, and if she breaks and cheats you its hard to digest. That moment changes the entire love to hat-redness.

Its easy because our blind faith or trusts is so misused and that we go so down that we will not trust anyone because of that our life becomes even more difficult. It takes a huge heart actually to forgive or to move on. Not an easy thing and trusting anyone in that matter also becomes very difficult.

I will share my own experience, i was in a long relationship and usually in this trust is the most important thing to keep. I was so badly cheated by him that I became so dumb. After few years when I was in second relationship I was forced to ask few questions to my man, and I got so nice beatings from him that I can never forget.

This is what a person can get from being cheated. To keep that trust again becomes so difficult.

Never ever stay with a cheater. I assure you that it's always pain, pain and more pain. They can't live with themselves, so why should you live with them? These kind of women ruin men's brain, because they can't live with the guilt, and they feel worse as time goes by. But I know one thing for sure: No mercy to the cheaters. I would leave them in a desert to rotten and die if I could. They are pure evil and shouldn't be part of society.

This is my opinion.

OP, I hope you learn from this...

If you still love her and on the basis that she won't cheat again, then you can forgive her.

SweetCunt97:
If Jesus can forgive Judas who betrayed him, I don't see reasons why you can't.

Judas wey dey VIP for hellfire as we speak, Show us where Jesus said to Judas “Your sins are forgiven”.

Lostz:
you read your Bible upside down

Lool aswear this is the only way she would have come up with that

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

This is a good girl, a rare one for that matter. She would have chose not to tell u about her cheating. But she did not just tell u the plain truth, she also did it when the relationship was already tensed. Respect her man.
She regret her actions, and you still consider taking her back and that's the reason why u brought it up here. Guy, forgive that girl and work on your relationship. Obviously she loves you but she bleeped up. And yet own up!

XhosaNostra:
Maybe he'll call her on her mom's number, but continue

I find it weird that the mom is so super involved & actually rang you up like you guys are married.

Experienced women know a pliable guy when they see one. Marry the maga and cuck him. It’s a very good strategy.

XhosaNostra:
What could she have possibly said to her mother?

The truth.

I find it a little inappropriate

Many Nigerian women coach their daughters on how to hook and manipulate men.

Belafonte:
The truth.



Many Nigerian women coach their daughters on how to hook and manipulate men.

I find it bizarre.

Fleeeeeee!!!! No matter how sweet you think she is or how much she rides, flee.

So long as she has been laced by another gbola, she is now aware that there are other options she can explore. She will not respect you again because you are dumb enough to take her back (giving her the impression that you can't do without her). When you are bonking her, she'd remember how the guy hung her leg in the air or turned her upside down and came in from the top, scissors-style.

Next time you have a small crisis, she'd test this option again and again and again. The question is would you forgive a cheater again and again and again until you lose yourself in the process? Decide what is best for your mental health.

Certain behaviours are emblematic and are difficult to change. A person who cheats does not understand the scale of damage he/she causes. If you think you can ever forget this act, think again.

That babe na scammer, pressing your mumu buttons until you prove yourself to be mumu too. Don't fall for her tricks.
She asked for a break because she wanted to consider another prospect, another dude. She's coming back to you after realizing you're indeed a better prospect compared with the unknown dicker. She will stay in relationship with you until a better prospect comes along. Don't be a used.

Instead convert her into a fucckbody, friends with benefit and all. That way everybody wins.

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

My kind of guy!

Illuminated993:
If I advise you, I do so as an OG whose girlfriend cheated on him in the past, so my take on this issue is priceless. Do not leave her! Life abhors a vacuum, and you will be lonely and unhappy if you can't find a good replacement in time. Be with her, but understand that you will never be that human she cheated on (she cheated on you because you were too nice to a fault). You will change many things about you. Lets get to it: Be with her, fucckk her, do not be concerned with what she does or who she talks to. Whether she fucckks some guy again should be none of your concern, do not be bothered with whatever she does, or wherever she goes to. Also, do not help her solve her problems, do not give her cash. But it's important you have happy moments with her, like taking you both out for drinks and socializing, you both could get high together and end it with sex. Live a carefree life with her. But while with her, talk to other girls(if you can, date them, fucckk as many as you can). All these things I recommended, gives you that bad boy feel that women crave. When it's time for marriage, you will know the person amongst the women in your life to settle down with. The point of my writing is that you don't take women so seriously to the extent of attaching emotions on any one of them. If you become emotional with a woman, she plays you like a fiddle, and it will break you mentally.

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

Once your lady cheats, kick her out.
Once your lady cheats, kick her out.

I don't want to type much but use your head. Your prick might be telling you that you might not get another girl to fvck but use your sense. There are women everywhere

If you decide to follow your prick, fvck her without giving her much emotional crappy support, financial support alsl cut it off too.

My best advice, is to let her go. And get some girl to fvck.

Nagol95:
Good day house.

I bring this here as I always see here that it's not advisable to forgive a cheat. I and my girlfriend had a smooth relationship mid last year but by early this year we started having issues.

I was calm about the whole scenario to be brief, she cheated along the line. I saw hints but I had no evidence and we kept having issues till the end of February.

She felt the issue was too much and suggested a break up which I accepted immediately and stopped calling or texting her. We were not in contact for a week then she broke it and started calling profusely but I ignored it.

She used another number after three days and when I picked, it was her mum and she just enquired why I've been distant, I just told her I've been busy then we talked normal.

In a nutshell, she confessed all her doings with all the details and has been asking for a last chance begging everyday and feels extremely guilty. I don't want to accept because I've started rubbing it on her face but she is willing to continue.

She has made efforts by changing her number and saying that she is not in contact with the guy.

This is just a brief, I'll need advices and I could provide more info on request.

As she Don beg.. Forgive her...
But jst dey kpayansh her....

XhosaNostra:
I find it bizarre.

Life is bizarre