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lefulefu:
sometimes woman na distraction.the time u should improve urself u will be chasing after woman how u go wan progress nau .i mean a guy living in such a place the least thing on his mind should be relationship but on how to improve himself.if he must get a girlfriend then he make do with a girl on his level and not a slayqueen.a lady like op fit make a guy go carry gun or enter yahoo yahoo cos he wants to impress her .

Beey:
I am no longer interested in the stories of supporting broke guys & am not arrogant.Was there & I got burned. Said to myself, I’ll never financially support a man that hasn’t paid my dowry.I rebuke that foolishness!

Eeya!

densiks:
You should be more worried about contacting Covid-19

Mummymahdi:
Hmm though am not that materialistic and my parent are doing so well then, but 16 yrs back I got married to some1 u just described here, till today am enjoying his good attitudes, trustworthiness and still take me out, shower all small small gifts and unconditional love to me and our 6kids, the peacefulness am enjoying no b here, if he had plans consider him a successful partner don't b enemy of itself cos of materialism

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

RisenPhoenix:
It never was about love; which is a recent hollywood fabrication. People, men and women have always been cautious about who they end up with. Men have always sought for the values of fulfillment of sexual satisfaction, respect, humility and paternal certainty (marked by chastity and virginity in times past) in women. Women have always tended towards being attracted to good material providers as their end objective. The play is as old as time. The difference is that men are honest about what they want; modern women tend to think that admitting to materialism is base and distasteful (which it is actually) so they pretend to be searching for 'love' in a 'god-fearing', 'intelligent' etc man and end up more often than not; dissatisfied in their marriage.



Actually human marital requirements have not changed at all. Even female animals always tend to choose for what they assess to be the best provider/protector; though in animals; this is usually the alpha male so there is no conflict there. What changed is that women are now unsuccessfully trying to deny their feminine nature and with this has come the undesirable external traits of aggressiveness, loudness, disrespect and denial of their depreciable sexual value while the internal desire for a good provider remains intact. The external behaviour in turn creates weaker men who believe that they must grovel for sexual favours and the beta thereby becomes the best provider while her ovaries yearn for an alpha. Conflicts conflicts conflicts. Like what the op is suffering from. As you can see, she is trying to deny her obvious materialism while her innate nature is not able to abandon it.

RisenPhoenix:
It never was about love; which is a recent hollywood fabrication. People, men and women have always been cautious about who they end up with. Men have always sought for the values of fulfillment of sexual satisfaction, respect, humility and paternal certainty (marked by chastity and virginity in times past) in women. Women have always tended towards being attracted to good material providers as their end objective. The play is as old as time. The difference is that men are honest about what they want; modern women tend to think that admitting to materialism is base and distasteful (which it is actually) so they pretend to be searching for 'love' in a 'god-fearing', 'intelligent' etc man and end up more often than not; dissatisfied in their marriage.



Actually human marital requirements have not changed at all. Even female animals always tend to choose for what they assess to be the best provider/protector; though in animals; this is usually the alpha male so there is no conflict there. What changed is that women are now unsuccessfully trying to deny their feminine nature and with this has come the undesirable external traits of aggressiveness, loudness, disrespect and denial of their depreciable sexual value while the internal desire for a good provider remains intact. The external behaviour in turn creates weaker men who believe that they must grovel for sexual favours and the beta thereby becomes the best provider while her ovaries yearn for an alpha. Conflicts conflicts conflicts. Like what the op is suffering from. As you can see, she is trying to deny her obvious materialism while her innate nature is not able to abandon it.

Beey:
I am no longer interested in the stories of supporting broke guys & am not arrogant.Was there & I got burned. Said to myself, I’ll never financially support a man that hasn’t paid my dowry.I rebuke that foolishness!

Ibechris2:
When I met my wife I was still squatting. In fact I had nothing to my name except the clothes I wear daily and some books.

My father was obviously poor...but what kept us going was honesty and she loved me.

After about 5years,the story changed and changed for the better. I live in a comfortable apartment and I am so proud of my wife who i cherished for believing in me. And many other things i may not like to mention here.


If u believe in that ur guy,u can change his life and make him to be more ambitious and yearn for growth and prosperity. U might be the power that he needs to become what God wants him to be.
Do not lose sleep.

baralatie:
don't get me started with the nonsense definition of love by Titanic.

this scenario is more incomparable with tatanic .this is about a guy with a lady and a room.so the guy should vacate the room for the girl now

zicoraads:
No bi only burned, na fried.

That's how some of you talk, if we check am now, you didn't even do a thing or only did an ignorable little.

LouisBERG:
I stopped reading at the part you wrote: "initially, when i found out, i said i was going to quit"
I want to know the rationale behind this statement??

At your first paragraph, you are the one that showered this same person with encomium due to his qualities and composure. Now you come up with this, Like seriously??

The height of double standard in your post is so glaring and disappointing..


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Johntitus:
Lol... Love sometimes is intertwined with infatuations and lust. Have you ever wondered why and how your undying love diminished after sex with the 'love of your life'?

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Paxie55:
If you are to support him or must support him, use the money to support his business if he's business wise, let him source out other sources of income. But my dear ladybeee, I strongly advise You, broke boys love are never to be trusted.

Use the money to develop yourself.
These foolish guys here advising you to spend the money on him would have called you a simp and all manner of names if you were to be a guy trying to help His babe.
These men aren't loyal, they are broke and their love can never ever be trusted.
I've said my own.

SweetCunt97:
ooooin! How much did he spend? So u wanna tell me he spent upto 100k on her? What kinda person does that?

emonis88:
Ah! U n I were not there o! But before a woman il agree that a mam is caring? That man must ve spent a considerable amount of cash.

crownedrookie:
Go to instamessage, register a profile and start hustling professionally. You're an natural olosho.
I know a woman like you who loved a man and married him because at church he always gives her 3k for offering. A grown ass working woman with a car being impressed with 3k every Sunday. Married him just to find out that was all he had to offer. He started leeching off her.
Women like you most often end up bad because a man's generosity should never be the criteria for being in love with him, but in your case its a huge one. Love is not for you until you learn the true meaning. Register on instamessage and start hustling with your pvssy officially

TheRedpillguy:
The real reason he is poor. "Whatever he gets, he spend on you and make you feel like a queen"
Now see what the queen is thinking? This is why you never put a woman above your goals. You don't ever do it.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Ybaby:
Imagine your kids playing in the corridor + You donot know his true character until he has money which he may never even have. Abort mission now.

Esthered:
Dearest OP, your concerns are valid as a woman that has a standard and know what she wants. I courted my husband for a year and have been married for about 4 months, I never visited him till this Friday as we live apart due to work. When I got to his place, it can't be compared to his parents place I stay in Lagos but I told myself that that's my matrimonial home and not where I live. We discussed plans to grow especially the cost-benefit analysis of getting a better apartment when we have no children yet. But when love supersedes everything, you'll be optimistic about your growth together as it's a step at a time.
Does he have a vision, dreams and you see his effort he takes in making them a reality? Never underestimate a man with dreams that gives you peace of mind and makes you a priority, with your emotional, moral and financial support he'll go places.
The choice is yours to make dear. Happy Sunday and endeavour to stay safe.

efosky1246:
I don't get why people give relationship advice based on their own romantic experience. its always a recipe for disaster, this lady is not your wife and you are not the man in question, people are very different, your wife would probably still be fine with you if you were still in that position financially but this lady clearly would not be. you might be hardworking and ambitious but the man in question might not be(I understand that context is missing). so give your advice based on the illustrated scenario. your lived experience is not the golden rule.

and sorry, you cannot make a man more ambitious. its either its in him or not.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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