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LOL maybe she is petty like me...we enjoy keeping and settling scores.
I believe in the Bible. I try to practise both the old and new testaments.
'An Eye for an Eye'. I don't cherry pick on the Bible.

Ehen! If I were in your shoes, I won't feel comfortable in the relationship. In short, Quit!

Get busy, use your time wisely, learn how to drive,add value to your life,any who keeps grudges is at his/her own risk,cardiovascular disease is still active(for unbelievers)
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Even if she eventually forgives, she won't forget.

If eventually you decide to breakup, work on your anger management issues before you date someone again.

If you don't it'll just be a long list of unforgiving exes.

rikithor:
Get busy, use your time wisely, learn how to drive,add value to your life,any who keeps grudges is at his/her own risk,cardiovascular disease is still active(for unbelievers)
Call or WhatsApp us with contacts below

LOL 'learn how to drive'. Pls are you looking for a driver?

She don dey find reason to offload you before, you come Bleep up.

Kenplay:
What do you do when your lover refuse to forgive you and swear never to forgive you.
We have both wrong eachother but my mistake is that always over react over anger, out anger I can act mean or say the meanest of things. But when am calm I began to regret my actions.

We had misunderstaing early this month which made me out of anger to over react, since then she hold grudge towards me. I have done soul searching and have purge myself of that bad behaviour, I have apologise and try to let her know the change in me but all seem not to be working. She has offended me in the past which I easily forgive. Am the type that dont hold grudge and easily forgive people.

She told me she can never forgive me for hurting her. If you were in my shoes what should you do next?

huh! you are withholding facts that govern this your case

what do you mean by you both wrong each other?

the worst statement is when you said you don't hold grudges! eeeeeeeehhhn

after giving the person the meanest words or actions maximum anger missile drop off

See, the thing here… is forgiveness doesn't come by request. You need to be truly sorry for what you've done. Not sorry that you got caught. Not sorry that she's upset with you. But sorry for your action… Meaning, you are remorseful and carry zero intention of repeating said mistake. This was a lesson hard learned, and you've learned it. If she isn't seeing this…. She isn't forgiving you.

For instance: you cheated. (Just an example) … if you apologize (doesn't matter how or how many times), if you still have a wandering eye and expect instant trust…. Well, you lost. You will not regain her trust… and forgiveness, is something that she's doing for herself. … not for you. It's time to let ger go.

If it's something like: you got angry and maybe pushed her a little. (Again, just an example) …. Again, your actions and attitude are going to matter a very lot! You can apologize… but, it's likely that if you continue to show her aggression of any kind. Like, yell at her, lose your temper around her, act in passive aggressive ways with her, so on .. she isn't going to trust you much and you're apology seems thin, at best.

I mean, there's a theme. …

Your Actions need to be sorry. .. not your words.

If you can't follow up… let her go. Find your lesson and do better next time

Best wishes!

my advice is to the lady.the earlier she let's you go the better for her mental health.I don't see a remorse problem on your side .on your side is are serious issues that are fuelling your highly developed anger defense system.
and the best person I can call is @adexpa.
the lady Berra run

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baralatie:
my advice is to the lady.the earlier she let's you go the better for her mental health.I don't see a remorse problem on your side .on your side is are serious issues that are fuelling your highly developed anger defense system.
and the best person I can call is @adexpa.
the lady Berra run

Lol. Did you call me out base on my previous post on self esteem?

He has anger problem which is a product of low self esteem which probably originated from his upbringing or environment.
The anger problem is a weakness he needs to sit down and deal with cus that will still generate another issue in the nearest future.

My advice for him is to allow the lady heal from the harsh words he said to her by letting her be for now instead of disturbing her with unnecessary plead, letting her be will give her room to think and decide if she will carry on with the relationship rather than forcing her with plead . He will also do himself good by taking it off his mind and face some other things since he has apologize and free his mind.

One of our biggest responsibilities is to take time to identify our weaknesses in order to manage them to a bearable level. There can never be harmonious relationship with terrible behaviours.

@baralatie, we can not continue advising people to leave at every provocation, because the next person he/she will meet is not going to be jesus, so the person will have his/her weakness too. We only have to be sensitive of unbearable situations.

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Please I want to create I thread for someyhing important that I need an advise but I don't know how to do it , can someone help me with that

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Kenplay:
Update: I just told her this evening to Bleep off and take her hatred and bitternessness to hell.I have done enough, I did not steal or murder someone, I wrong her and have apologise but if she chose to still hold grudge she can go to hell.

I humiliate myself enough to show my apology, Enough is Enough. She can go to HELL. My life exist before I met her and will exist after she is gone.

and you said you worked on yourself!
the advice was let her be to heal rather it was about all you want to hear and do

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Kenplay:
What do you do when your lover refuse to forgive you and swear never to forgive you.
We have both wrong eachother but my mistake is that always over react over anger, out anger I can act mean or say the meanest of things. But when am calm I began to regrete my actions.

We had misunderstaing early this month which made me out of anger over react, since then she hold grudge towards me. I have done soul searching and have purge myself of that bad behaviour, I have apologise and try to let her know the change in me but all seem not to be working. She has offended me in the past which I easily forgive. Am the type that dont hold grudge and easily forgive people.

She told me she can never forgive me for hurting her. If you were in my shoes what should you do next?

Even God forgives us for every wrong we do , who's she acting like a god, please avoid her , it's probably the heavens showing u a good sign

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Kenplay:

I told her last night to GO TO HELL, I have done wat a normal person is suppose to do. Is that the kind of woman you want me to marry? Someone with bitternessness. Let her go to hell. I have humilated myself enough in the name of pleading for forgiveness. I have my own self respect too. Why should I beg someone to be in my life

you don't need to be abusive , i know how you feeling , after all pleadings falls on deaf ears , Just let her go her own way , there's something better for u ahead, that am sure of

Kenplay:
Update: I just told her this evening to Bleep off and take her hatred and bitternessness to hell. I have done enough, I did not steal or murder someone, I wrong her and have apologise but if she chose to still hold grudge she can go to hell.

I humiliate myself enough to show my apology, Enough is Enough. She can go to HELL. My life exist before I met her and will exist after she is gone.

Good decision, now the ball is in her court to choose.

Bigdre31:

you don't need to be abusive , i know how you feeling , after all pleadings falls on deaf ears , Just let her go her own way , there's something better for u ahead, that am sure of

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Kenplay:

You can shove your advice down your anus.Is that the kind of girl I should even marry? Someone who holds on to bitternessness even when someone has completely and sincerely say sorry. I think the mistake I made was making her feel I cant do without her. I can do without her because I exist before we met and will continue to exist after she is gone.

I can smell the rage and anger issues.likewise the effect it plays on your decision making in this relationship of yours.
action and reaction are equal
you brought anger issues to the relationship the reaction she ends up bitter( you still don't get it

energy is not destroyed but it is transformed from state to another
you put defense mechanism for your inability to deal with the effects of anger issues with this relationship by putting all kinds of tags(she is not the type of girl I should marry,Oooo I exist before she existed,is she the only one,she can bleep off etc)

like I said you only wanted to hear what you wanted to hear

If you're sure you're sorry for your wrongs, pleaded for her forgiveness and she still not letting go, forget about her and move on cos such people are toxic and if you get back together again, you won't be able to operate freely in the relationship as she'll now give you a pyramid of conditions which you might not be able to meet. A little mistake and its back to square one. So, just let it go.

Jewessgratitudd:
If you're sure you're sorry for your wrongs, pleaded for her forgiveness and she still not letting go, forget about her and move on cos such people are toxic and if you get back together again, you won't be able to operate freely in the relationship as she'll now give you a pyramid of conditions which you might not be able to meet. A little mistake and its back to square one. So, just let it go.

Thanks…

Kenplay:

Thanks…

You're welcome.