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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Kobicove(m): 9:19pm On Apr 01, 2020
If you have not committed yourself to a lady it's unfair for you to prevent her from meeting other guys!

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:19pm On Apr 01, 2020
Marry her and God will punish you

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Joefat: 9:20pm On Apr 01, 2020
After marry mother of Jesus.. no woman alive is loyal..

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Chuknovski(m): 9:20pm On Apr 01, 2020
Bros u never get girlfriend talkless of wife, just ditch her and carry on

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by AfroKnight: 9:20pm On Apr 01, 2020
angry

This is what happens when you treat naija babe with too much decency and care plus being too faithful. Just look at yourself OP. Just look at.

Like your babe said, she’s not in a relationship with you. So, take the hint. Pack what’s left of your dignity and exit the relationship.

She wants a guy that will make her call all her friends and cry her heart out. She wants the drama of begging a guy to be faithful to her. She wants someone who slaps her regularly and apologises with acrobatic sex. She’s a twisted broken thing.

You deserve better.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by etrange: 9:21pm On Apr 01, 2020
She might really love you. She's just not putting all her eggs in one basket. If you both of you break up, you'd easily move to the next girl while she waits and hopes another man would reach out to her. So I think she may not be serious with that guy but doesn't want to strike him out at once as she doesn't know your stance yet...

Just saying o!

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by AntiWailer: 9:21pm On Apr 01, 2020
Why u start what u can not finish ?
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by yesloaded: 9:21pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

How old are you? How old is she?

Statistically most gals in their early twenties will not take relationship too serious and love to date as many guys as they want (Note: Most not all but MOST).

You don't need to stress yourself much anyway, develop yourself to become a better man and date a woman not a girl.

Goodluck

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by tomdon(m): 9:22pm On Apr 01, 2020
Send screenshots

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by scoundrel(f): 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
If you play stupid games you’ll win stupid prizes. I’ve seen this trick backfire in a lot of discussion forums, from Reddit to 4chan and Nairaland. This is also the nth time I’ve come across such a thread.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by MorataFC: 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
Op permit me to turn your story to nolywood film grin




The stoty sweet well well




.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
You said it urself you don't have cash,my brother park ur clothes leave that girl,simple.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by mangojuice(m): 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
OP don't be dull. She is certainly not a nice girl to be with. Invite her to your place, Collect ur last kpomo and allow her be

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Jaqenhghar: 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're of no relevance to her again, and there's nothing that you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own

All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro grin

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja
Where is your messiah Ubunja grin
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Graysons: 9:23pm On Apr 01, 2020
stevmatt15:
Marry her and God will punish you
Lol. grin grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by shogsman(m): 9:25pm On Apr 01, 2020
You dodged a north Korean nuke,you should be in a bar celebrating with your friends by now, I'll advice anybody suspecting thief girlfriends to adopt the op's technique,as for your ex girlfriend I called her Ex because I believe you're not stupid enough to continue the relationship, she's a hoe and you're too gentle, gentle guys always lose.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Jaqenhghar: 9:25pm On Apr 01, 2020

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Ogediluv(f): 9:26pm On Apr 01, 2020
You will pay me for reading this long post. Girlfriend and boyfriend matter everywhere, everyday. We wey no get, who we go dey talk about nah...

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by linearity: 9:26pm On Apr 01, 2020
You are the half a loaf of bread in her hands, while she is actively looking for the two she mostly preferred but in the bush.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Lastmankc(m): 9:26pm On Apr 01, 2020
This guy dey date himself.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Totalconcept(m): 9:26pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly



You lied because you are lier why you said she loved you but she didn’t love you you just thought that.....
2nd you thought you took her from dirty she is never out of pit toilet sleeping inside pit toilet...woman who hide her phone has something hidden
If you love yourself pretend to her till the time you will get someone to love and to love you back.....OJU TI YIO DALE KONI TI ARO SEPIN
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Ooye12: 9:27pm On Apr 01, 2020
Never set a test for a ladies 95% of dem will surly fail and you will keep hurting your feeling ...

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by pocohantas(f): 9:28pm On Apr 01, 2020
Sorry. Maybe she doesn’t want to turn evening newspaper. grin grin

I wonder who responds to chats from strange/random numbers though. Must be a rookie-cheat.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Seandisputed(m): 9:29pm On Apr 01, 2020
Emmizofficial:
Set a meeting as the stranger at a particular place and call it quit. She's not worth it
Op. follow this advise

What if she's a nairalander and have even advised you sef?

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by hilfinity(m): 9:29pm On Apr 01, 2020
CsRockefeller:
In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer

Deep!!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by efilefun(m): 9:29pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly


Bro don't tell her anything until you fix a date or a venue to hang out or so
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by stevups(m): 9:29pm On Apr 01, 2020
Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're of no relevance to her again, and there's nothing that you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own

All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro grin

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja
This is my advice too.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Solidkay(m): 9:30pm On Apr 01, 2020
Bro don't rush out of the relationship, make it a case of two can play the game. she should still be useful in some other aspects, get another lady take her to your parents, then dump her cheating a$$, it'll be a win win for you.
my 10cents

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Randal: 9:30pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Just tell her the relationship is over. Don't tell her why and don't sound angry. You should actually smile or just keep a straight face. When you say that, block her on on Channels and don't contact her again. You'll know the real woman you have and it will motivate you never to go back to her.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by eyinola: 9:30pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
You are very correct. Me trying to chat her more is just to get more evidence. She might spill more than she has done already. I don't think it's an act of weakness. I have the picture of the guy she said they're trying to work things out. I saved it immediately she sent it to me (the stranger) knowing fully well that she will do "Delete for All"

lol..u mean u r not even the other guy she claimed she's working out tinz with grin aiye manika ooooooo

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