₦airaland Forum

Sammyimpostor:
Any lonely Nigerian girl in Canada can send me DM let's get connected but only if you are ready to take me there because I still dey naija

oluwableskay:
Am an African,single with no babe mama,-graduate of computer science and seriously searching for Canadian or USA base female to start a relationship with that can lead to marriage ,here is my number,07032274761

adewumiopeyemi:
am about doing my IELTLS exam in April to meet my brothers and mum in Canada now exam suspended till further notice am so sad

JastSiryin:
"Mr feminist" that's not what we're saying. We're only pointing out that every society has its perks, ours included. All that glitters ain't gold

Minxie:
Okay, I hear you
In that case, I know the dating world in other places are tough. Maybe they are struggling to bridge the culture gap?

Many things that would be okay in Nigeria, for example, may not be okay in Canada. Dating is different everywhere and maybe these girls are just struggling to adapt. I have also seen the same thing here in SA. Nigerian ladies don't date much. So I've also theorized about it.

These are just my theories. I always think there's not just one answer when dealing with a large group of people over a large geographical or cultural area.

There can be many reasons why these girls are not finding relationships. I'm also just trying to find explanations for this phenomenon.

Alero3Arubi:
You know over here in Nigeria, we are taught to wait to be spoken to by the man. Do not throw yourself at a man. And so we are not overly into getting a man as opposed to been gotten by a man.
I notice too that Nigerian men are mostly raised to aspire to greatness and so when they travel, marrying an indigenous person is an improvement on their life as compared to marrying a fellow Nigerian.
I have come to understand that marriage is not just about love to most people but about what is being brought to the table by each party. We might deny this a lot but that's what is happening. Now what determines who a person chooses to marry is what is more important to that individual.
Nigerian women have not been exposed to making profitable choices and negotiations, so we cannot navigate the system when it shows up in marriage.
The mwn have been the one doing all that for us all our lives. So until we start teaching our children about negotiations and deals we will still keep running round in circles.
That's my take.

ednut1:
if your wife is not your best friend or if you also misbehave (cheat, beat, dont help with chores). It will end in tears. U go pay child support and alimony tire

Minxie:
I must say, that's a very interesting point. I didn't think of this.

You've taught me a lot about your society, thank you

I think it will start with the current population though. Society is not some abstract concept, society is us. I definitely think women need to be empowered socially to be able to make these choices.
Thank you for your point of view

OgaTheTop2:
Same thing happened to my professor friend here in US. His wife is living off his child support and government benefits. Now, you see her posting pictures of herself and the child on FB. On those pictures, I look deep in her eyes and realized she's living a very lonely life. Not so many people could see this, but that woman is lonely! America can make or mar a marriage. Most times I wonder if it worth bringing a wife to US.. Many stories about naija women and their behaviors in marital homes can make you shudder.

Alero3Arubi:
You are welcome.
Are you on a research or something?

madridsta007:
When bringing a lady to the US or any Western country it is important she passes a few tests in order to reduce the risk of what your professor friend is going through.
1. Ensure she is a practicising Christian- born-again, Spirit-filled.
2. She MUST be naturally humble and a listener.
3. Check her family background. If there is a history or a story of divorce and seperation in her family or relatives, STAY AWAY.
4. Get to know her and become a friend with her.
5. If she is a feminist- and you can know from her social media engagements- STAY AWAY from her.
6. If she comes from a background which means she lacks exposure, the risk rises when she is overwhelmed with the kind of exposure and "power" the West gives females.

Essentially her character and background must be spot-on. It reduces the risk of the kind of stories we hear these days.

RuudVanNisteroy:
There is no guarantee that if she passes all those tests she won't change. One of my Dad's friends wife got a restraining order, when they got moved to Canada. They were married for more than 13 years, when they moved to Canada his wife changed.
He has a court order on the number of times he can see his children and needs permission from his wife before he visits.

NCANCHAIR:
I want to apply for IELTS bro. How much did it cost you and how long did it take you to prepare for the exam? And is there an oral exam too?

gargoylern:
A couple of reasons. They don't know how to approach, since they have never approached a man all their life. Na una Naija guys dey rush them na, lol.
Two, the white guys don't really find them attractive. Some asian men do though. Some Nigerian men also do. But because most Nigerian Kenyan,Ethiopian,Ghanaian guys are not stable (i..e they are still working survival jobs), they are not ready to marry.
Trust me , these Nigerian Kenyan,Ethiopian,Ghanaian girls are in serious dilemma.

Again, if you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada. Think twice about it. Be sure that's what you really want.

pocohantas:
Humans are not loyal and I am very cynical. I don’t expect too much from people. I just do my bit and bounce.

The idea of relocating abroad is one that never appealed to me. When I was a morning newspaper, I had many of them on my neck and I didn’t go. Me sef dey fear, make person no kill me for my papa because I say I am tired to cook after collecting citizenship.

Raalsalghul:
I can't argue with this, true.

87 % of our females are after 22 % of our males: the rich and financially comfortable ones I mean.

Alero3Arubi:
I swear you no well.
I won die for laff here.

@ kill you for your papa.
This girl sef

But on a serious note you are right. Everyone wants to have their way, that's why this same Nigerian men will not see anything wrong with doing housework or running errands for a white woman even though they work and pay the bills at home, but complain if a Nigerian woman asks them to help out with some groceries on the way back from work. Its an elevation thing in the mind. You ass lick the whites or other nationals because you feel inferior to them.

Ryabcool:
so what happens when the men you hope to father your kids keep running to women of other races? It is a dilemma really.

Burruchaga71:
Same here in South Africa, they ended up selling Nigerian food. Population of South African women are more than a man. So no body has tym for them

EVILFOREST:
You are CORRECT.
that's why you see me advising GUYS on NAIRALAND to marry LADIES that are resourceful and have so many things to offer beyond sexxx.
I have sexxx with my wife as expected but that's not exactly what keeps the MARRIAGE going.

COMMITMENTS and LOVE keep it going.
Sexxx Is just a Bedmatic prize for a Romantic Fantasy.
After 24hrs of SEXXX, what Next..?
In the US, u pay Bills Every Day.
Most LADIES in diaspora here are hardworking
AVOID mentally LAZY GIRLS.
If you get a GOOD ONE, message me I will support your marriage, financially.

safarigirl:
I don't want a sex relationship.

This is the issue with most Nigerian men. A lot of you are wired to think relationships are about money and sex, the same applies to the women, and that probably contributes to why they can't find decent partners anywhere else

A lot of Nigerians have messed up ideas of a relationship

Hi. I sent you a mail. Is that you in your profile pic? Pls Reply let us talk

I don't want relationship for sex. I am open minded to anyone who has sense.

MadeMan01:
Do you know that it was their mum Kris who convinced Kim to sell her sex tape with Ray Jay to tap into the fame of Ray Jay and scandal

egopersonified:
ok, I am thinking, can't they become lesbians?

thesmallgod:
Make I connect you with someone in new zealand but if you break her heart I swell na Ogun go kill you oo

AutoshalomUSA:
WHAT WE NEED IS A NIGERIAN DATING/ MARRAIGE PLATFORM -

Developers in the house , get at me , we can pull it off together .