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|Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by whizqueen(f): 2:44pm On Apr 09, 2020|
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.
I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.
I visit Canada and the US from time to time, but on this my last trip I could not but observe just how extremely lonely Nigerian girls are there.Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.
Why did they immigrate in the first place? What did they expect what waiting for them on the other side? A man gift wrapped in iced sugar?Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.
They all have Youtube channels now, or Instagram channels and release video or vlogs every other day. I guess it is the easiest way to stop themselves from going crazy over the dreary loneliness.I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me
But the problem doesn't even stop there. Normally, I would have been interested sef. But many of them are actually not so good-looking or resourceful. Too bad!What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear
If you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada, make sure you consider it hard and deep. You could end up being just as lonely and dejected.If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.
Generally, it is not advisable for women to focus on money too much n neglect marriage thinking she can always find marriage later. Such ideology can work for men n not women. It is good for women to locate marriage and start pursuing money with her husband than doing it aloneWhilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.
Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.
White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department
In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.
Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.
All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.
Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.
There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.
A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.
I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today
Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by whizqueen(f): 2:46pm On Apr 09, 2020|
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways
I made a video on YouTube with my friend regarding this subject. You can also check it out
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by HarunaWest(m): 2:50pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Me am more Concerned about how you started the whole process and concluded..Was thinking to start this year Buh Corona brought it's own..The matter weak me
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Keketu(m): 2:50pm On Apr 09, 2020|
yea we are lonely here. thanks for your insite beautiful kiss kiss kiss ,
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Nobody: 2:52pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though
And it made front page. Let me use this opportunity to pass a message .Do you know that when you give you actually receive? People dey hungry for this lock down. Some you go see outside dey laugh but Owu Don blow dem. Please pick your phone, call that your family and friend. This is an opportunity to make people smile. Yes scammers dey...But even if you're scammed while doing good the blessing remains the same. Even if na 1k give. You just might save a life. Hunger bad
(Miss you Hungerbad. Rip)
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Keketu(m): 2:54pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Shibaraba:hi, Please stop
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by baralatie(m): 2:54pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Shibaraba:that is why I am suspicious of exactly what was the aim for opening this thread
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Realadey(m): 2:57pm On Apr 09, 2020|
She spoke well
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by whizqueen(f): 3:00pm On Apr 09, 2020|
HarunaWest:IRCC is still processing applications. If you have your documents ready, submit it. Go to travel section to learn the process or check my YouTube channel, like is on my post. Goodluck
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by CallMeDrino: 3:03pm On Apr 09, 2020|
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Nobody: 3:03pm On Apr 09, 2020|
nigerian girls in nigeria are not lonely ooo
anyone in naija tellin u she is lonely is not being honest with u
an average naija girl will get 850 misscalls from guys
470 unread messages from whatsap
700 unread messages from facebook
1800 likes on instagram
6000 likes on facebook
and u say dat one is lonely?
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by GraGra247(m): 3:11pm On Apr 09, 2020|
I was totally convinced that silly guy on the earlier thread was talking gibberish.
His line of reasoning wasn't carefully thought out.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Rickjordan(m): 3:11pm On Apr 09, 2020|
With evidence from many nlanders,I have no option than to declare my original op from the first threat as my convincer am now his Convincee... TORONTO here I come....
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Nobody: 3:14pm On Apr 09, 2020|
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Ayinke93(f): 3:19pm On Apr 09, 2020|
You should know Nigerian men to overestimate their importance in the lives of women. See them wanking over the thought of their absence being the reason for the loneliness of someone who just started a new life a in far away country.some of them on that thread are even advicing the women to drop their imigration plans so as to be someone's wives.
They all sound very threatened at the thought of not being able to control a fellow human being. I really do not blame y'all, I blame the society that made you so entitled in the fist place. For the gender that claims to be superior, they worry too much about women and there choices and the thought of not being the center of a woman's life give them headaches.
If there's any woman here nursing the thought of travelling abroad, if that is was you solely desire, face it squarely and build yourself. When you are complete on your own, you'll find love on the way.
@whizqueen, you are doing an amazing job and I admire you alot. Working on starting my immigration process already, sadly everything had to wait for know. All the best to you in Canada.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Nobody: 3:23pm On Apr 09, 2020|
lefulefu:Sister just dey console herself.
I didn't wanna comment on the other thread but I'll be very much active on this one.
In diaspora, naija men are after oyibo woman and naija women are after oyibo men. At the end, oyibo women na dem rush naija men but that's not the case for our naija sisters.
The truth is that they are the cause of their loneliness because average naija men will naturally go after our sisters but the rejection they face by our over ambitious sisters no be here.
By the time, oyibo men men ignore them and they retrace their steps, our brothers have moved on.
...and the reason they reject our brothers? They think our brothers need green card from them which is not always the case.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Mstick: 3:25pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.
Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.
Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.
The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Nobody: 3:26pm On Apr 09, 2020|
J111333:u no lie here
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by baralatie(m): 3:30pm On Apr 09, 2020|
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by whizqueen(f): 3:31pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Ayinke93:Thanks babe! I wish you all the best in your immigration journey. See you soon in Canada
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Ayinke93(f): 3:36pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Thanks alot sis. Looking forward to meeting you.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by tyup(m): 3:42pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe
mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh
Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by jawalis(m): 3:42pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Honestly you would have made lots of senses in your write up but you seems not to seen life beyond your nose. You believe the first thread was created probably out of envyness of babes outta Nigeria. If the person had not visited Canada or those countries he mentioned. He wouldn’t have created the early thread.
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Fidelismaria: 3:51pm On Apr 09, 2020|
I'm not impressed
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Roon9(m): 3:52pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Inside life.... OP no be fight o
A friend of mine was recently hooked up to one of these Nigerian ladies abroad. Omo they couldn't last up to 2 weeks. Two of my friends in the US came down to Nigeria to fetch their wives when they wanted to get married. We all know why they and by extension most Nigerian men do that
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by ILoveDemMANNA: 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by PureGoldh(m): 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Speechless....This one Loud Oooh...she is so on point Sha..The Government of dx country called Nigeria na pure scam.
Just incase you need Pure Original Honey.. Kindly call or Whatsapp 081 0166 6771 Now let's talk about it.Once sister Coro stops...Na to process my Canada documents asap...no time as experience is the best teacher...No hug/handshake dx period
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by afroniger: 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by madridguy(m): 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
Nigerians girls always looking for ways to compete with guys.
|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Avalancheman: 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
The truth is that responsible MEN (not pussies or sissies) are scarce...
And all ladies - good, bad, ugly - want responsible men...
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|Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by evansjeff(m): 3:53pm On Apr 09, 2020|
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