And after you call her a hoe? Lmao, only God knows what Nigerian men want.

BlackShit:
Must be there be friendship, relationship and commitment?

Haven't you heard of hook ups and flings?
Two mature adults just having their fun and pleasures with no strings attached. It's far less complicated.

It is the intention of everyone to start with friendship but what can you do when ur gf would come to pass night in ur hauz when the friendship is just 1 month old. And it is not just once or twice so that you would say you can avoid the temptation

For wia! For this generation?

Nothing as sweet as being friends with your partner first before anything else. Anyway, as a demisexual, i can't kuku start having sexual feelings or act on it for just anyone who I'm not friends with first.

I agree with this, I'm more open to my female friend with nothing attached than to my lover

Casemiro:

someone actually mentioned you

Good day, I'm in dire need. Please I will be glad if anybody can help me with anything, I presently have no cash neither do I have anything to eat at home. There is absolutely no where and no way I can get anything. I just need to feed. I'll drop my account details if asked for

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Op you are very correct. But these days guys rush into to sex because they are afraid of being friends with a girl. I feel more comfortable talking with a guy as a friend than as a boy friend. That's why you will see a girl that has a boyfriend but feels comfortable with another guy who happens to be just a friend.

you spend time to friends with girls, they'll friend zoned you

PETUK:
you spend time to friends with girls, they'll friend zoned you

Okay nah

emmabest2000:
Sex is overrated

Says a man with small pe nis

Chi59:
The best thing I ever did for myself emotionally wise was deciding to keep sex out of my - ships (friendship/relationship).
I believe sex is meant to be the final stage of an intimate relationship, to wrap it up. But the moment you put it at the beginning of the relationship, you've messed it all up.
I get it that a lot of young people want a quick rumble in the sheets, but I belong to the old school.
And it helps me remain grounded.

I am old school too. How far

The whole sex thing is over-rated. From a guy's perspective most non-sexual friendships are more rewarding than sexual. Even more over rated now that it's one way or another cash for sex.

A platonic friend will race with alacrity to assist you while a sexual gf will be forming madam and doing sme sme.

There is also more mutual respect when she does not see your unclothedness.

Once a girl becomes a close friend I never introduce sex into it. When sex comes in, it can sour. I prefer the normal friendship to endure instead.

So true! If your partner, is your friend before he/she becomes your lover, one tends to open up about a wrong/things more easily before their spouses/partner even finds out or ask what's up?

Chi59:
The best thing I ever did for myself emotionally wise was deciding to keep sex out of my - ships (friendship/relationship).
I believe sex is meant to be the final stage of an intimate relationship, to wrap it up. But the moment you put it at the beginning of the relationship, you've messed it all up.
I get it that a lot of young people want a quick rumble in the sheets, but I belong to the old school.
And it helps me remain grounded.

Then, what do you do or who do you go to when you feel like it? Masturbate or what? Common...... be real. The number of times I make love to my girlfriend means nothing to me if I truly love her. Sex isn't a big deal, I wonder why people even discuss it.

Parisian:
You just said absolutel rubbish and that ogun go kill you.

Your dirty toto there. Did I mention your name? Wish this forum wasn't faceless,make u tell me how ogun take kill you.. But,if you don't mind,let meet up somewhere,so that you will tell me how ogun take kill you..

Sex first is really powerful. It’s a covenant. The gals we have now are promiscuous so friendship first can’t work with them. And most of them can’t contribute to the friendship in any meaningful way. They always want things to be done for them and if they leave the guy will suffer most. The best way to see they contribute very actively is through sex. Else it’s your loss!

After all said and done, the point still remains that: Girls DATE who they LOVE but GET MARRIED to who is READY!!!!!

Wat I do is that I fùck my side chick or olosho or I jik, n try to build my relationship stronger without sex with my galfriend

iCauseTrouble:
SEX topics everywhere on nairaland. Girls dey try o

Because sex is one of the core values of this generation. If you don't ask for it, she will force it on you

Go and tell this to Norwegian youths and get gbas-gbos

I support friendship before sex.... Ask me why?

"Anyone committing adultery with a woman is lacking good sense; the one who does so brings ruins on himself. He will get only wounds and dishonour, and his disgrace will not be wiped away." Proverbs 6:32,33


For those who are sex first know this first.

DoubleEngine007:
Op you're correct.. I believe that guys who jump to sex without friendship sees those girls as oloshos,and that's what most of them truly are..

Our nowadays girls don't need the friendship at all.. 95% of them usually work with this saying "money for hand back for ground. No girl should ask me of how I got the statistics. Guys are aware of this fact, and that's why they rubbish our nowadays girls.. And most girls of this generation lacks wisdom,to know who truly love them and who doesn't... As long as d guy has ego and big preek,he is good to go.. Even if he is a beast,she will tell you,that she will change him..
Patiently waiting for those dumb ass,that calls themselves feminist here.. Quote me talk nonsense,make ogun kill you..

And you and your prostitute boys jumping from one girl to another are what? Don't go and get tested for STDs, be there waiting for ogun to kill you.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

But op
Sometimes ehnnn
When Sex comes first the friendship that follows even become stronger than what both of you can even imagine

Sex is not just for fun at times. It unites the both of you especially when it is done without condom.

Alot of soul binding occurs when you bang a woman without condom. The exchange of sexual fluids between the two of you alone during sex is enough to start a union or rather it initiate unionism without you knowing

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Your head dey Der... When a girl become so comfortable around you, the chance of dating her becomes slim

u11ae1013:
In the process of friendship, you become friendzoned.
By the way I don't need a female friend

DoubleEngine007:
Op you're correct.. I believe that guys who jump to sex without friendship sees those girls as oloshos,and that's what most of them truly are..

Our nowadays girls don't need the friendship at all.. 95% of them usually work with this saying "money for hand back for ground. No girl should ask me of how I got the statistics. Guys are aware of this fact, and that's why they rubbish our nowadays girls.. And most girls of this generation lacks wisdom,to know who truly love them and who doesn't... As long as d guy has ego and big preek,he is good to go.. Even if he is a beast,she will tell you,that she will change him..
Patiently waiting for those dumb ass,that calls themselves feminist here.. Quote me talk nonsense,make ogun kill you..

take meat, that's it,guys know who they are dealing with,is only the girls that don't know this ,they come when ur things are blinking and flashing.

deco22:
And you and your prostitute boys jumping from one girl to another are what? Don't go and get tested for STDs, be there waiting for ogun to kill you.

E dey pain you? No cry again o! Don't go and do something meaningful with your life.. Ogun can't kill me,rather e go smash your useless head, because I didn't call your name or your surname in my write up.. Mumu!

I agree

dancok:
take meat, that's it,guys know who they are dealing with,is only the girls that don't know this ,they come when ur things are blinking and flashing.

Right from d first day a guy meets a girl,he knows what he wants.. But girls on the other hand won't look beyond material things ,food,drinks and all that.. Those ones quoting me up there,lack wisdom.. God bless you man.. You're wise..

PETUK:
you spend time to friends with girls, they'll friend zoned you

1. Because you let them
2. Because you don't premium on your time and person
3. Because all you really want is to sleep with her.

Anybody who is friendzoned has himself/herself to blame.

Rapmoney:
Why Friendship Should Come Before Sex In A Relationship

We live in an era where sex is the first thing most young men think when they intend starting a relationship with a member of the opposite gender. The female folks are not left out. Most young women will 'size' an approaching man from a far. They will not fail to estimate, calculate and approximate the financial status of the man. And if their calculations seem accepted or okay by them, they will not hesitate to start up an affair with the man with utmost alacrity. This is often times disastrous. One mind think sex and the other thinks financial gains (and even sex sometimes too).

Friendship goes beyond sexual attractions. It has to do with having a personal relationship with someone and being aware of both positives and negatives in his/her life. Allowing sex to come before friendship may make both parties to hide vital things about themselves. Most people (especially the female folks) would hide things about themselves after series of sexual acts because they feel there is a bond that has been created which signifies 'commitment' and as such, they would not want the negatives in their lives to terminate the affair.

Have you noticed that you might find it easier to talk about negatives or embarrassing secrets in your life with a friend you have no sexual attachments with than one who you sleep with? It is because true friendship was not formed before you delved into sex. Early sex makes most people to hide things that could practically tear a marriage into shreds later on when they are discovered. Early sex brings with it, bags, bags and more bags of false commitment and attachment.

There are vital things that each partner is supposed to know before a committed relationship is formed. Sex may not allow us to ascertain these things. We have been engrossed in the sweetness of it that we cannot share the shortcomings in our lives in order not to lose the 'sweet flavour of sex'. There are people who see themselves as partners/lovers and have sex regularly yet they might not even know the health status of each other and other little vital things that are easily neglected. That is not a healthy relationship; it is just a long term hookup!!! There are even guys who do not know their girlfriend's surname and vice-versa. They only know him/her as Collins, Fehintola or Kesiena. Sex for these people could be 5 times a week too. If such common information is not known, then which information will you know that is less important than that?

If my post does not harshly condemn or drag sex before marriage on the ground, realize that I am just a social writer who grew up in the streets of Warri and not a moralist. I leave that for the moralists and religionists to flog.

Fantastic write up.

Kudos.

Eku lockdown

Friendship girls wet Don den bill you after second meeting.