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Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ossaisly(m): 5:36pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Hello Mr, please do not take every advice that you see here. Some of us here are not married while some of us here are even not better than you. But base on some advice here, if you know deep down you that you are clean, kindly involve her own relative(s) (a trusted one to the best of your knowledge) to report and warn her, only if you guys are genuinely married o. But if you have done the above mentioned before,then it is time for you to be a man! I am a man and this has happened to me before. Certainly, i think you are older than me but i am more brave here. In this present world, don't let it look so obvious that you are disturbed about your wife turning your children at you. The more she notices it, the more she finds pleasure punishing your heart, emotions and psychology. You must learn to counter it. For instance, tell her relatives( if possible all that you know) to warn your wife never to tell the kids to disrespect you again, or else she or the kids will not like it. Secondly, any of you kids that fails to run an errand for you, find a means to punish him or her, but try your best not to loose guards. Let the means of punishment be of correction and not otherwise. Lastly, you must learn how to use "carrot and stick approach". While you do all these mentioned above, there must be someone out there that she "worships" or respects a lot. Look out for the person to be you intermediary |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 5:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Things women do everyday. Some can be so angelic before marriage. Once you marry them and they have kids for you. Boom, they will bring out their hidden character. Some of them are on a mission. I think you should try and involve family members in this your case. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by coretechng1(m): 5:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Promotions:She would only get worse begging her. Except her mind gets opened to the fact that she is destroying the lives of her kids she wont stop.Not easy dealing with foolishness. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by hollywater: 5:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Double your efforts. When you make more money than her,your Children will definitely run after you. However, they are just behaving like a normal kids.By the time the first one is 17,her mum won't be able to to control her again. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Ghostmode2two(m): 5:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
You as a man has failed in your duty as a father and husband. Make up things with your wife. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by friendl: 5:37pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
My brother ,sorry to say you have failed as a man,this is the bitter truth ,there is somebody either advising or giving your wife the guts to do all the silly hell of rubbish,..could be a man. You have to leave that house ,go away for months ,by the time you are out ,both your wife and your kids will know your worth ,maybe your kids ,not your wife ,.. You need to gain your respect back ,.. don't even beg her please don't ,if it gonna cost violence for your kids to respect you again,then the voilence start ,....pardon any wrong spelling ,l am f.....king angry |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by mimimile93: 5:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:Sinceshe has turned your children against you, turn her children against her too. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by 1Sharon(f): 5:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Using kids as pawns. Pathetic..why do women do that crap 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by SweetCunt97(f): 5:38pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:Just know it's gonna get far worse when you get older and retired. She'll show you shege to d extent u may die off without seeing any of ur grandchildren. Way out? Try and stop d quarrels or simply divorce and start another family. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Thrones: 5:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
just imagine the extent of mischief.. That is how they will frustrate him out of his home now and later call him "deadbeat". Donno know where some people meet these kinds of rubbish women. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by SweetCunt97(f): 5:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
mimimile93:Men dont usually do that... It's sooooooo petty. |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by coretechng1(m): 5:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ladylite:How will the wife begs on phone when you said he shpuld change his phone? They wont beg anything except he is the breadwinner. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ENGINEERG(m): 5:39pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Its very easy for wife to turn the children against their Father, especially if you are not so rich and this has been the common case.. So you wonder, is this what u suffer for from wedding ceremony, footing house bills, doing naming ceremony and training your children in schools.. Marriage issue has no solutions, what work for u ,may not work for me... But if I will advice u, after u have tried for peace to reign, try to leave your house for peace and your health...just be taking care of your children with finances, find another lady that makes you Happy...And be happy ,before you die.. we only live once , so is just happiness is the main thing of this world, cos even if your children treated you well , your two generations to come will still forget about you..so choose happiness 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Amotekun777: 5:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Stinolexis: 5:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Just end the marriage now, that you still have time, before it will become too late... Your wife can never change to her normal self. Just divorce her and both of you should take care of the children. The same issue is happening with my dad and step mum, Such marriage cannot be the same, no matter how hard you try to make it work. She will keep on frustrating you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Mac2016(m): 5:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
This story is vivid enough to see that this man doesn't completely win the bread for his home coupled with having a bad woman as a wife. Maybe he even had cheated on the woman when it was the woman giving him food and winning bread for the home. Abeg man try to improve your financial capability and no dey bothered about anyone at home again if they don't bother about you. Stay out.. Get another babe.. Maybe you're destined not to marry or not to have a happy home. Take heart find joy elsewhere . |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Alexaonfleek: 5:40pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Ladylite:no this isn't the right way to go. If he travels and runs away,doesn't that make him more of a coward? You don't just run away when you have issues,you look for a solution to the problem. I totally agree with the solutions bukatyne listed. Op should also look for someone they both respect maybe pastor or priest and ask the person to talk to his wife. The wife's behavior is very bad,I must say but things like that don't just start one day. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Erickymania: 5:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
From ur story, it seems u are not a responsible husband/father. That is why u can't take charge of ur home. How on earth will my wife & children whom i feed & take care of disobey me? Thier mother dares not disobey me not to talk of instigating her children to do so. Am afraid it's too late for u to take charge. The only thing left to u is to start begging ur wife since that is what u are good at. Note: soon d youngest 2 kids u think they love will soon join there older ones in humiliating/disrespecting u. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 5:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
silifx:100% right sir.for any relationship to work fine one has to be depending on the other these equality of a thing is not helping marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by SweetCunt97(f): 5:41pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Thrones:Very very bad 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by kengeorge2013: 5:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Leave the house. Don't fight it. Get another house. You cant win. If you're children come to see you they will respect your house |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ednut1(m): 5:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
to marry dey fear me 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by Nobody: 5:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Your write up made me understand you don't know the essence of manhood, and consequently, this woman has overridden you and enthroned herself as the man of the home and even turned your children against you. I can tell you're a good man, but I really worry for your kids. See, children need a strong father figure who can help guide them through life. They need a man who instills that discipline in them to prevent them from constituting a nuisance to the society and themselves. The family unit needs a father the wife and kids understand they can't mess with, and you've failed in this regard. How the hell do you send your child to go get you water and your wife asks that child not to do so? You have to put your feet on the ground and act as the head of your home. Failure to do this, your kids will grow up to become humans lacking in that masculine discipline a father brings to the family. And we both know how those sort of kids act as adults. As for your wife, she doesn't respect you. A woman who lacks respect for you is a woman who doesn't love you. You can't force her to love you, so don't try. If she can't perform her duties as a wife (sex and the rest), then tell her there's no reason for the marriage. She needs to understand that you are ready to walk away from her,as you've done your best to make it up to her. In fact, the reason she treats you like trash is because she knows you won't do shiit. You need to make her understand that you are ready to walk away from her, before all hell breaks loose. More importantly, going forward you must ensure you move in the direction that ensures you play an active role in the lives of your kids. Children need a strong father figure to help them attain that level of discipline necessary to achieve excellence. I'm not saying you should go macho on your kids, but they must understand their dad won't stand for indiscipline. And whatever that prevents you from instilling that much needed discipline in your kids, must be taken out. Finally, if it so happens that the marriage is no more, find for yourself another woman, while playing an active role in the lives of your kids. All the best. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by bhest(m): 5:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Bola146:Uhm. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by DavidEsq(m): 5:42pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000:Let's not bother ourselves with rigmaroles here. It's time to go ur separate ways. If u agree, let's talk. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by favour32(m): 5:43pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Oga find your way or else na danger you dey as she and her kids don declare you enemy. Anywhere you dey,find a way to dey post money for dem. After some years, dem go know wetin dey. First rule for life na self preservation. Anything less than this na waste of time. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by addictiv(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Develop personal relationships with each of your kids.. Make out time to take each of them out, have an outing with the child and have a conversation with the Child. Make them open up to you, you can tell stories about your upbringing, how you respected and treated your parents well. Kids generally follow the examples we set so you have to treat them the way you want them to treat you. Tell your child how you love them always, play and find out what's going on their their lives. You have to work on having a relationship with your wife. Treat her how you want her to treat you. Make her see how much you love her, don't just tell her. Abandoning 5 kids with her for days will only sow hatred and lack of respect, learn to assert your position in the house without having to resort to arguments and let all of them see how hard you work to make them comfortable. Love your wife and don't insult her in front of the kids. Whenever you go out and buy stuff for everyone, even when u have an argument. Let your "daddy is back home" be filled with good and happy memories. Be active in your kids lives, become friends with them, so that they can tell u anything and they can form their individual opinion of you. Protect and stand up for your kids and they ll protect and standup for you.. They grow up too fast. Lastly, I don't know your religion but you have to get closer to God and bring God into your home. Have daily devotions and pray together as a family. Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by fk001(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Beb |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by miltonchux(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
DominusPrime:No matter how hurt she is, he has knelt down to apologise what else does she want. He should leave the house for her for 3 to 5months and her head will reset or rather send her to her family. If she refused. Trick her that you are visiting home together. Drop her with her family and tell them to train there daughter, her head will reset. Don't fall for those advise 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by ossaisly(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by djon78(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
Paul8000: You married a bad wife. You never enforced or asserted your position as the head of your home She has corrupted the first three Your only saving grace is your last two children. Focus your love, care on them. Lavish genuine love on them. Once they grow with that deep love for you, irrespective of whatever there mother tells them, they will still always love you. This exactly happened to a very wealthy man I know from the East. His wife was controlling all his children. These where kids that did from primary school to university overseas through the largeese and wealth of there father. A point came, the man couldn't take it anymore. He married another woman and presently, the woman has given him three children, he is even richer now, with so much assets. And he has willed everything to the new wife with her children. Women are very powerful If you marry good one She will ensure her children are loyal to you But if you marry the bad one She will turn your children against you It's happening in very many homes. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Turned My Children Against Me by emmanuelpopson(m): 5:44pm On Apr 20, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga: this advise is the key..get it done ASAP 3 Likes |
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