I strongly believe any young man who doesn't want sex from his wife every day must be getting it elsewhere.

I imagine you genuinely intend to help and that your advice was given with good intentions. However, maybe rereading it objectively could have highlighted some pointers to unhelpful suggestions with looming unintended consequences, especially if you are in a loving marriage relationship. The lockdown would naturally increase sex activities... Even Google indicates increase in pornographic surfing around the globe. Don't scatter someone's home with your keypad abeg.
@Iambell please be sure to find an appropriate time and way to communicate your concerns with your husband. You should know the best times as he is your husband 2. I am assuming it affects your health,so let him see that. Even if it's not affecting your health it certainly will begin to affect your emotions and feelings towards him. 3. Agree on a compromise 4. Also pray about it... You both should satisfy each other and not labor eachother. As you are complaining too much, he may also be complaining too little. Ideal number is relative and good news is... Sex drive drops with age, so the worst is gone. Don't quote me sha... [color=#550000][/color]

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Am a married man I av been there befor. Belive me it's a phase. It will fade off soon. Don't deny him of his supposed right. The moment u start giving excuse not to touch will be his excuse for going out. So use ur sense to introduce some other funs into the game.


Be wise

share him with your female friends...very simple

She's not a intimacy gadget. If after two years she's still complaining, it implies her system isn't structure for that stress. Discus it with him please, u are human too

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

I assume you are not married if you were you won’t talk like this.

Macphenson:
The solution is simple, just get a hot and sexy maid in the house, he won't bother you again.

I think so. I am 14 years married. No married woman ever gives her husband the sex he wants. Even the nymphomaniac lady. They work, they take care of kids, do housework, they are often tired, or not in the right emotional place.
So, if I get it right, the times you do allow him to sleep with you get on your nerves. You hate sex, and you didn't tell him.

You will push him to other women. If you only knew how many women give signals to him everyday, or how many he would successfully toast...

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

Lol

Frankcallys:


I'm not married yet but the truth is that your husband is my kind of person. We don't cheat and will never ever cheat. So please try and love your man real good cos hardly you find our kind. As for loving sex, yes we do cos we don't cheat. Any man that wants you like that and doesn't cheat, that man is for keep. He loves you and even the ground you stepped on.

Please hold him tight before some women who truly knows his value snatch him up fiaaam!!! Just like that

Your head correct joor, women will give you all kinds of condition before marriage and when married the same condition, if you dnt want to sleep with your husband everyday let him be, that secretary at the office will help her take good care of him, and she should pray he doesn’t meet all this runs girls. They will teach him a thing or two about sex he won’t remain the same again

hmn,na waoo

Mutual understanding should be the watchword here.... There are ways to discuss such issues with your husband without getting him angry,also get him to join you in some house chores

Just make use of KY jelly to relieve you of dryness and pain...at least that wld minimize pain small

This is zerious

The day he stops asking you for sex, ask questions ooo. U better let him enter many times as he wants in a day?


Most people with high sex drive didn't f**k much or didn't f**k at all before marriage. Trust me give him two years from now his demand for it will drop...
For now service him right, left and centre...
You know what use am tire am na him go they bed u sey e don do


I trust my wife... The best thing that ever happens to me

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

the only way is to return his bride price

thank you

I am exactly like your hubby and I been married for 6 years now. I don't joke with morning sex everyday except on Sundays. She has gotten use to it now. Initially it wasn't funny at all.

Lizboh:



Its not about low self esteem..my husband is my best friend and am also his. We get well together. We've been together for 25yrs now and our fist child is 20yrs now. So its not moimoi. Giving in to his demands is tactical for me, I've developed strategies I use in dealing.

that strategy/ies /are what julietsim needs. sex everyday when there is work can't even think or imagine it

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

as you wan spoil me now waiting you gain?

Wow.....The same way I dey service my wife......Guy my libido too high..

She gat no choice, Everytime I knock, she open it....

It's funny how many act and speak like they have the manual of the life of anyone. @Julietsim you don't have to change him by yourself and who knows you may be the one that needs change...take the matter to the person who has the manual of your life and that of your husband, the Most High God, Jesus Christ. The counsels I have seen so far on this post will destroy your marriage quicker than you expect...if your marriage was joined in the presence of God then take the marriage back to God. Stop tinkering with what you did not manufacture...adversity exists to bring the righteous to the place of fellowship with God!

James289:


gbam. some women ehh am disappointed, they think marriage is all about sex... Service oga my foot. Such men can even sleep with anything even if the wife gives him daily... He is so dangerous even to his children. I bet his jobless that's why it's always sex that is on his mind, Nonsense

who isn't jobless during this lockdown? remember this woman didn't bring this up prior to lockdown?

Kuns84:


Cococandy,
Why did you report that lady who exposed that you run the following accounts?
Seahawk
Ornicus
Heiterkeit
Brazenbabe
Davangel
Scarletmoon
While using fuzzywuzzy to bully bukatyne.
Can you please explain how that was an insult?

your interest in female monicker is why you have the shi.t around you

Wiseplus123:
I am exactly like your hubby and I been married for 6 years now. I don't joke with morning sex everyday except on Sundays. She has gotten use to it now. Initially it wasn't funny at all.

Na this kind of man I want in my life.

God, give me a good husband that won't cheat on me. I don't mind giving him sex every minutes cuz I love sex too . Not all these fuckboys with swag and no sense at all

You don't have to be afraid that if you don't give him everyday he might go outside, you can't statist a man, even if you give him you VJ to pocket he will still pocket it and search elsewhere for another VJ,everyday sex especially when you start having pain can cause infection or cancer, if you die he will mourn for something and still move on,God forbid, seat him down tell him about your pains,strategize a time for him may be twice a week or 3 times depending on your strength.God help you in your quest

You don't have to be afraid that if you don't give him everyday he might go outside, you can't statisfy a man, even if you give him you VJ to pocket he will still pocket it and search elsewhere for another VJ,everyday sex especially when you start having pain can cause infection or cancer, if you die he will mourn you for something and still move on,God forbid, seat him down tell him about your pains,strategize a time for him may be twice a week or 3 times depending on your strength.God help you in your quest

GreatChizzy:
Me, I have sex EVERYDAY!!! Sometimes twice a day. I showed my wife this post, and we both found it surprisingly that having sex EVERYDAY is considered tiring by others. Note, We been married for four years now.

Truly I am surprised of complaints of having sex everyday. May be there's no pre-intimacy and your vagina is not wet before your husband penetrate you. Though am not always around with my wife, sometimes I work for 3weeks and 1 week off sometimes I stay for 4weeks and 1 week off in my job. Anytime, am around, we have sex almost everyday sometimes 3times in a day. I must put her in a mood before sex and she always enjoy it without complaint. I showed her this thread and she said that she can do it with me everyday especially in the morning. We have been married for 8 years now. Please communicate with your husband and trick him into spending more time on pre-intimacy.

[quote author=CzarChris post=88928822] Some have food and cannot eat.
I know you are suffering in silence, but you married a man with a very high libido. Express your feelings to him, the main essence of marriage is communication. I believe he loves you, he will listen. He might even start avoiding you after that, if he feels he is hurting you. I just pray this doesn't pushing him into getting a side chick. Just go on your knees.


Another solution is this, do you have a child yet? If you do, and you get pregnant again, make sure he accompanies you to the labour room during child birth. Believe me he will need therapy, before deciding to have sex with you again. I know a married woman that complained to me to talk to her husband who is my friend to please stop over petting her even during sex, that since he watched her giving birth in the labour room. My guy has never been the same ever since.
Na expo bi this ooo.[/quote



You've spoken well but he could still come up with an argument that regularly having sex with her doesn't mean she has to get pregnant.
And how about when she's done bearing children won't the situation still be same? Kai! this woman is in a serious dilemma.

Jeferious:
Madam, I doff my hat for you. Your opinion is the wisest on this forum so far. You really married your best friend.

I just dey laugh these other ladies asking the op to report her husband to her mum. For what kwanu Seriously that is a very bad decision. Personally, I can endure my wife trying to talk to me about what she feels is sexual libido abnormality(though I would feel a little bit bad. Maybe I'm not getting things right in the other room, or we are just not sexually compatible)....but to invite your mum into that kind issue is what I won't take lightly. After she's done with her sermon and gone, I go change am for you. I won't beat you, neither will I scold you. But I will make sure you're celibate for the rest of your life. Henceforth, there will be no more "entertainment" for you in the other room. I will even "sister-zone" you sef. Like I'd replace the sweet names I reserved for you e.g honey, sweetheart etc. with "sister". You and that your mother will come to village meeting and beg me in front of the whole kindred before I can restart my conjugal duties again.

Meanwhile, how I take care of my needs while you remain my "celibate wife" is none of anyone's business

� walahi u got me rolling on the floor with serious laughter!

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

....why can't you suggest to her to allow the man get a second wife instead of unnecessarily subjecting the man to unwarranted hardship?.

isthatso:


You are the one who has been brainwashed by the white man. In the history of the African man, it is only in the last few decades where it is common for an African man to have only 1 wife. That alone tells you it is an alien concept and not the norm. furthermore, in the history of mankind in general. Having one wife is only a recent phenomenon considering man has been on earth for millions of years.

I am just saying this when you start talking about “norm”

And I assume a "white man's" genetic composition is different from an "African man"? Please let's stop justifying what's not. U say our forefathers married more than a wife, I wasn't born then but from all I've heard and read I was made to understand that for most it was mainly for farming as that was the major occupation for them.

Women are humans too my dear and it's grossly unfair to demand her to stick to a man all d days of her life while d man is allowed to marry as much as he wants and even philander about.

Get angry in peace

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat